Earn Your Happy

In this episode we talk about: Navigating the success of Rachel’s book, Girl, Wash Your Face How Rachel confronts her insecurity with knowledge Self-sabotaging when you’ve surpassed your dream Anxiety Why Rachel is grateful to be overwhelmed at times with her book’s success The stories and lies we tell ourselves (that aren’t true) Achieving in order to receive attention and love Playing small Showing up as yourself Women stereotypes   Resources: Instagram: @msrachelhollis @theholliscompany Book: Girl, Wash Your Face | Get it on Amazon!   Show Notes Oh my goodness, I am geeking-out excited to share my conversation with today’s guest, Rachel Hollis. Author, CCO of The Hollis Company, motivational speaker, podcast host and let’s not forget, a mother of FOUR, she is so incredibly amazing and authentic to her core. And if you don’t already know and love her, you will after our conversation. After watching Rachel speak at events and reading her most recent book, Girl, Wash Your Face, I knew this interview was going to be off the charts. She is just so authentically real and I love that she remains the same no matter where she shows up. Rachel just wants to give and has share her servant heart with as many people as possible. We talk all about what’s going on for her in terms of her book’s unexpected success and also the occasional feelings of overwhelm creep in and how it relates to every woman out there and the stories and lies that we tell ourselves day in and day out. But let me assure you, no matter what lie you’re telling yourself, Rachel shares the tools that can help us all rethink and change them.  I cannot wait for you to join us in our conversation because yes, this one will really make you feel like you’re sitting in a room with both us. Enjoy!   Question Highlights: If what is happening right now happened even three years ago, would you have been ready for it? What’s the voice in your head saying when you don’t want to confront something? What were some of the stories you told yourself growing up?   Quotes "The only way to get past suffering is to confront it.” “In order to teach people, you have to interact with people.” “I would rather try to live life as myself than live a life to please someone else and drown myself in anxiety.” “Live life for yourself. Don’t let other peoples’ opinions dictate who you’ll become.” “The closer you get to who you are in your heart is the closer you get to happiness.” --  Rachel Hollis is a #1 New York Times best-selling author of Girl, Wash Your Face, a TV personality, top motivational speaker, top podcast host, CCO of The Hollis Company and mother of four. Rachel was named by Inc. Magazine as one of the “Top 30 Entrepreneurs under 30” and she is deeply passionate about empowering women in business. Known as "the Tony Robbins for women" because of her motivational, high-energy style, Rachel has a unique ability to empower and embolden a female audience. Motivational, inspirational, and always approachable, Rachel’s tell-it-like-it-is attitude is a refreshing approach that allows her to authentically connect with audiences everywhere. Her company, The Hollis Company exists to arm people with the tools to make positive and lasting change. They do this by creating media, products, inspiration and community that challenges their audience to reach for a better version of themselves every day. They believe that everyone can benefit from a personal growth mindset-- most especially people who’ve never encountered it before.   Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook

In This Episode We Talk about: Releasing expectations Being yourself Lori’s newest spoken word poem   Resources: Round 2 of the book tour is taking place in November! Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest stops on Lori’s book tour! Go here for details: https://www.hollandamerica.com/en_US/cruise-ships/ms-nieuw-statendam/oprah-caribbean-adventure-of-your-life.html A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder - Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Show Notes I have been on a major rollercoaster this year (an awesome, but scary one), and I think it is so vital that I share with all of you why stepping into and becoming the your highest self is the hardest thing you’ll ever do.  I’ve been tackling some really big things lately – lots of speaking gigs, book tour events etc., and not gonna lie, they’re all freaking me out. But here’s my trick to getting through them all – I’m letting go of any expectations I have around the outcomes. “In order for me to work through fear, I have to fully accept anything and everything can happen.” There is no ONE thing that is going to make or break my life. And as I navigate each any every new thing, I gain more and more clarity around being truly me. Full honesty, I feel the most alive and “myself” that I’ve ever felt. You see, there is zero room for being something that you’re not, because eventually you’re going to get caught being yourself. For me, that’s showing the side of me that loves to perform spoken word, sing (future podcast performance?), and swear. Parents, this may mean putting “earmuffs” on the kiddos now and again. Keep in mind, I’m not trying to purposely offend anyone – it’s just how I express myself on occasion. For example, in this episode I’m sharing a 30-second excerpt of a new spoken word piece I’m working on…I drop the F-bomb once, but it’s because that was the word that moved me in the moment. It’s about being yourself with a bit of discernment for your audience, right?  So here’s to stepping into a new version of yourself! Who’s with me and how soon do you want to do it? Whenever that moment takes place, please let me know so I can cheer you on!   Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook  

Questions answered in this episode: @sarahitfit "If you only had 4 months to live, would you continue on your journey or stop?" @chefdarkcocoa "When walking away from situations that no longer serve you, why does it feel so effinecrappy?" @llindseyschwartz "What has been the most influential thing you've done to elevate your financial mindset"   Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook

I’m so excited for you all to hear my conversation with the magical trifecta that is Betches Media – Samantha Fishbein, Jordana Abraham and Aleen Kuperman. With a following of more than 6 million followers on Instagram, their presence has taken social media by storm with their funny and light-hearted approach to wellness, dating, careers, pop culture, politics and more. If you haven’t heard of them, I highly recommend traveling down their entertaining Instagram rabbit hole (I did and it was incredible). In an effort to offer the missing female counterpart to the “bro” culture, these three college friends decided to share their voice and opinions with the masses. With an obvious need fulfilled, their website at the time took off and has since morphed into podcasts, an eCommerce store, books and so much more. With two books already under their belts, a third book, “When’s Happy Hour,” which focuses on careers is set to release Oct. 23. Whether you’re in college, unfulfilled by your job or fulfilled but driven for more, this book will teach you how to succeed in a career and make yourself better – with lots of laughs along the way. These women are redefining what it means to love what you do, and I’m so happy they’re taking us all along for the ride.   In This Episode You Will Learn About: What Betches Media is all about and how it was founded Taking action and creating content Taking an honest look what you’re good at – and what you’re not so good at Importance of planning Self-awareness Monetizing what you’re good at The ups and downs of eCommerce How Betches found their voices through speaking the thoughts that other people were thinking How Betches deal with criticism How Betches manage their friendships Who Betches wrote “When’s Happy Hour” for Redefining what it means to love what you do     Resources: Instagram: @betches, @shopbetches https://betches.com/ Book: When’s Happy HourFound wherever books are sold or preorder at https://betches.com/Whens-Happy-Hour-Betches-Book/ Podcasts: https://betches.com/podcasts/     Question Highlights: Could you explain and break down what you’re doing in your business? How did you all get started and what was your intention in the beginning – and how has it changed since then? Why did you pick the topic for your new book? In the beginning of your business, what were the parts you loved to do and what parts were challenging? What do you do to protect and nurture your relationships with each other? What are your favorite parts of what you’re doing now? What is a question you wish more people would ask you? What are some new challenges coming up for your business right now? Who is your new book, “When’s Happy Hour,” for?     Quotes "It’s better that people are saying something, even if it’s not good, than not saying anything at all. At least criticism shows that people care.” “Even the most amazing job that allows you to follow your passion is work.” “Follow what makes you happy, what you’re good and what moves you, and live in a way that aligns with that.”   Betches is a multi-platform media company for millennial women to experience comedy and empowerment in an honest environment. Founded in 2011 by Cornell University alumni Aleen Kuperman, Samantha Fishbein, and Jordana Abraham, the company was launched as a blog with the core column “Betches Love This.” Betches has since expanded to become a robust, digital destination that boasts a strong social media presence through their cult Instagram with more than 6.2 million followers, @Betches, two New York Times bestselling books, I Had a Nice Time And Other Lies… and Nice Is Just a Place in France, e-commerce platform, Shop Betches, and vast editorial content including multiple pop-culture, political, and new-centric podcasts and video. Visit www.betches.com to learn more.   Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook  

In This Episode You Will Learn About: The power of cleaning up your thoughts What it means to be in your “light body” How different fears hold us back Creating your own dream landscapes Using dreams to connect The importance of a morning ritual The Choice Point How to pull yourself out of a “neutral” state How being more you unlocks new levels Why we’re all one Drew’s new book, “You Be You” and the book-writing journey Why we need to invest in ourselves   Resources: Instagram: @drewcanole YouBeYouBook.com Grab a copy of Drew’s new book (plus bonuses), You Be You at YouBeYouBook.com or on Amazon at: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1401955762/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=1401955762&linkCode=as2&tag=youbeyoubook-20&linkId=b5929580a6eb60db55ddb717ce6e4415 Previous EYH episode with Drew Canole: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/149-how-to-slow-down-time-with-drew-canole/id1087926635?i=1000389969205&mt=2   Show Notes My friend, founder of Organifi and now author, Drew Canole is back on the show and I couldn’t be more happy as I feel a bit like I need to redeem myself after my last interview with him – I can’t believe how nervous I was last time! Since that time, not only have we hung out multiple times, but we’ve participated in a week-long retreat in Costa Rica together as well. I never knew it was possible to laugh so much! Drew has definitely helped me see that fun is a requirement of up-leveling our lives! Drew has a unique ability to help others tap into different parts of their lives and uncover who they truly are. And one of the primary ways Drew is doing that today is through his new book, You Be You, where he guides readers to “detox their lives, crush their limitations and own their awesome.” Why achieve your goals or present the world with a counterfeit version of yourself when it will never feel completely true to who you are? Be prepared to have a lot of laughs and hear a lot of wisdom in our candid conversation. And if you’re looking for a way to unlock that next level of being YOU, definitely pick up his book!   Question Highlights: Why did you pick the title of your book? When you’re in your “light body,” what does that feel like? In the past, who did you think you needed to be in order to navigate through life in a successful way? Do you ever go through “seasons” – a winter or a dry spell? Once you achieve a goal, what do you do next? How do you unlock the next level? In your life right now, is there any area where you’re not fully showing up as yourself? What are the conversations coming out of your Organifi book club? Why is this book making such huge shifts? Why should people grab your book?     Quotes "When you choose to do something in the moment, you have to be present.” “When you’re present is the only time you can manifest or materialize your goals, desires and dreams.” “The world doesn’t need a counterfeit you. The planet needs a re-remembering of who you truly are.” “When you start to give more love to yourself, you open up a world of possibilities.”   Drew Canole is an author, transformation coach, and founder of Organifi. Drew has helped thousands of women and men revitalize their health, ignite their vision, and shift the course of their life forever. After reaching a dead end in his own health, Drew discovered the chasm of difference between going through the motions and living with radical intention. He now helps people tap into the "Big You" to create the change they never thought possible.   Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook  

Fair warning to you before you start listening to today’s episode – I am en fuego! Having just attended Lewis Howes’ Summit of Greatness and being surrounded by 1,500+ big thinkers, there’s no way I couldn’t be. It’s events like these that force me to take chances and go for the things that scare the living crap out of me!   “Fear is your invite for growth.”   The purpose of life is growth and progress. We are all meant to find what makes us fulfilled and happy, but sometimes that’s the thing we fear the most.   As an exercise, I want you to write down the 10 things you’re most afraid of – they can be big or small. These are your next steps. From here, circle the least scary step – or perhaps the scariest step. Whichever you choose, act on it, no matter how uncomfortable or scared you are. Rejection or failure is inevitable, but the biggest gifts are on the other side.   No, I’m not super human, but I will say after receiving 21 rejections on my books, I am grateful for them because they helped me land the publishing company that liked it! Plus, consistently doing the things that I have fear around helps me grow and throughout that process I’m also showing thousands of others that they too can do it.   Most recently one of my fears is about sharing a spoken word poem I wrote for my friend, Danette May’s event this weekend. I love doing this, but I’m terrified of what others think! (Be sure to tune in because I’m sharing a small portion of it with you.) But here’s the thing, I want to grow and I don’t want to leave this world living up to anything less than my highest potential. I do mess up while reading it, but I’ve left it in because I want you to see that sometimes we have to mess up and let others see it in order to free them as well. I hope it gives you some of that freedom, too.   So today, stop playing small. Do something messy, unplanned or share something that doesn’t feel good. And be sure to share it with me over on IG…I love hearing from you!   -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Why the purpose of life is growth and progress Why the biggest gifts are on the other side of fear Her upcoming spoken word performance     Resources:   Round 2 of the book tour is taking place in November! Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest stops on Lori’s book tour!   Go here for details: https://www.hollandamerica.com/en_US/cruise-ships/ms-nieuw-statendam/oprah-caribbean-adventure-of-your-life.html   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Today I’m talking about the vital topic of taking action and curing those moments where you’re just sitting in pain thinking. The last week (typically in the mornings is when I struggle the most), I’ve been overthinking – everything. Have you ever caught yourself in a downward spiral like this? And it’s during moments like these that I’m really trying to work on shortening the amount of time they last.   “Pain is inevitable, but suffering is a choice.”   Here’s my hack – even though I drag my feet sometimes. TAKE ACTION!   “Action cures anxiety.”   Here’s the thing, even something infinitesimally small and new leads to new results. Plus, when your mood is more neutral, and less in a place of suffering, you’re in a better place to welcome new ideas and opportunities. I’m not saying you need to take action all the time…far from it. After all, we need time to relax and connect with other people, but please do not choose suffering! Take the action that will make you feel better. (Trust me, I wouldn’t tell you anything that I wouldn’t tell myself!)   I want you to know that I see you taking uncertain actions despite those doubts in your head, and I’m cheering you on. Thank goodness for tribe because even though I’m scared too, I know I have a group of people that have my back regardless of what’s going on. And I’m here to tell you that no matter what you’re going through right now, I just want you to know that I think you’re magic. We are all magic and we’re not meant to suffer and play small! You need to keep pushing forward and sharing your uniqueness with the world!   Thank you so much for listening and supporting my podcast. If this message resonated with you, please share with a friend and be sure to shoot me a note on IG – I would love to hear how it resonated with you!    -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Taking new action for new results Limiting the time between taking action and suffering, and designating a time to rest Why suffering is a choice   Resources:   Round 2 of the book tour is taking place in November! Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest stops on Lori’s book tour! Join me on the OPRAH Cruise!! Go here for details: https://www.hollandamerica.com/en_US/cruise-ships/ms-nieuw-statendam/oprah-caribbean-adventure-of-your-life.html   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com  Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I’m fresh off a mastermind call with my closest sister friends and I’ve come to the realization that it’s OK to be a walking, breathing contradiction. Typically, when it comes to being in alignment, we’ve always talked about lining it up with our true purpose or highest potential. While I still believe this is a part of it, I also think a bigger part of it is being aligned with your truth in the present moment.   In order to feel this “truth” though you have to sometimes be out of alignment and feel those feelings, too. Sometimes this means feelings of darkness and ugliness or worry and insecurity. It’s super important though that we not stay in these feelings too long. Acknowledge them and that you feel out of alignment, and make the conscious choice to leave that dark place (or whatever emotion you’re feeling) when the time is right. Remember that this is all a part of the human experience and determine if there is something you could do to make yourself feel better.   Admittedly, I’m in a bit of a dark season right now. I have a ton of amazing things happening in my life now, but there’s this nagging voice in the back of my head that tells me I need to set some more goals and accomplish more. I’m in a season where I need to find self-worthiness without having a ton of goals to prove that I am. Can anyone relate?   Have I navigated my way through this particular season yet? No – I’m still working through it. So, right now I’m giving myself grace and allowing myself to feel all the feels. I’m choosing healthy outlets such as walks, nourishing foods and yes, sometimes crying it out, because choosing a downward spiral isn’t going to serve me in the long run. I’m committing to move forward…period.   I hope this helps you if you’re also going through a similar season. Continue to nurture yourself and one day, when things clear, you’ll realize that it was all meant to help you keep in alignment with your true purpose.   -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Redefining what alignment means Why your value shouldn’t be tied to your accomplishments The seasons of life     Resources:   Enrollment for Chris and I’s life eCourse Aligned closes today (Sept. 27, 2018)! Join us today at BecomeAligned.com   Join Lori, Oprah Magazine’s staff and other thought leaders on the Oprah Magazine Cruise to the Bahamas | Oct. 28-Nov. 4!   Go here for details: https://www.hollandamerica.com/en_US/cruise-ships/ms-nieuw-statendam/oprah-caribbean-adventure-of-your-life.html   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I love a good story and today’s guest, author Alex Banayan has a great one – so much so that parts of it have become part of my husband Chris and I’s daily walks. Thank goodness I met him in person when Chris interviewed him so I knew whose stories he was actually talking about. ;) Another fun coincidence, we’ve both been on the Price Is Right, but Alex actually WON and used those winnings to fund his new book, The Third Door.   Alex shares with us his seven-year book journey that lead him to interview some of the world’s most successful people to show how they broke through and launched their careers. But let’s not downplay the fears and obstacles that Alex had to navigate through as well. From disappointing his family and losing his father to insecurity and being turned down by potential interviewees, Alex was persistent and now helps others conquer obstacles of all kinds – internal and external.   Alex truly is a gifted storyteller and I know you’ll be able to relate to some many facets of his journey. You don’t want to miss it!   --   Question Highlights: Now that your book is out in the world, what has been a response that you weren’t expecting? What was the whole point of writing your book? What does pain with awareness look like for you right now? Do you think there’s always a way for anything you choose or just for the moments when your gut pulls you that way? Have you ever had to let go of helping someone in your life because they’re not ready to help themselves? What was a story that freed you up the most? What is something that shook you before your book came out? What are you most excited about right now? Who is the ultimate person you want to read your book?   In This Episode We Talk about: Alex’s seven-year book journey Using pain as a motivator Evolving motivation Alex’s insecurity while writing The Third Door How Alex’s pain evolved into curiosity How Alex’s Price Is Right winnings funded his book Why being naïve can be an advantage The difference between fear and courage Why Alex’s family didn’t initially support his book Welcoming fear to get more comfortable How fear was a universal element in achieving a dream in all the people Alex interviewed Sharing in order to connect with others How to conquer internal and external obstacles And so much more…   Quotes   “Pain with awareness is our teacher.”   “You can give someone all the best tools and knowledge in the world and their life can still be stuck, but if you change what someone believes is possible, they’ll never be the same.”   “Courage is acknowledging fears, analyzing the consequences and then deciding you care so much about it you’re going to take one thoughtful step forward anyway.”   -- ALEX BANAYAN is the author of the national bestseller The Third Door, which chronicles his five-year quest to track down Bill Gates, Lady Gaga, Warren Buffett, Maya Angelou, Steven Spielberg, and dozens more of the world’s most successful people to uncover how they broke through and launched their careers.   Banayan has been named to Forbes’ 30 Under 30 list, Business Insider’s Most Powerful People Under 30, and been featured in major media including Fortune, Forbes, Businessweek, Billboard, Bloomberg TV, CNBC, Fox News, MSNBC, and CBS News. An acclaimed keynote speaker, Banayan has presented the Third Door framework to business conferences and corporate leadership teams around the world, including Apple, Google, Nike, IBM, Snapchat, Salesforce, Disney, Harvard, and countless others.   Resources:   Instagram: @alexbanayan  Book: The Third Door ThirdDoorBook.com Find it on Amazon   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.  

This past weekend I spoke at the Thrive event in Las Vegas (which was amazing), and I also came to the realization that my life is one big classroom. You see, I got sick the morning of the day I was supposed to speak. I’m not sure if it was food poisoning or the flu, but needless to say I wasn’t going anywhere for a while. It was like life was flashing a big neon sign with a message that was impossible for me to ignore. In fact, there were multiple nudges, messages and signs that day, but I’ll leave those for another episode as I’m still marinating in a few of them. One thing I’ve come to realize though is that:   “Every single thing that happens can be a breakthrough lesson and everyone can be a teacher.”   Now this doesn’t mean that nothing bothers us, but it does mean that we get to choose how we view a particular situation and move through it. Yes, you may struggle and it may be annoying or painful, but the sooner we can accept it, the more quickly we’re able to advance to the next level.   “The sooner we accept the obstacle as a lesson or the person as a teacher, we get to move through it faster.”   As Tom Bilyeu shared with me just the other day, “Struggle is guaranteed, success is not.” In order to get to the next level, we have to experience it all. And if we’re going to struggle, we may as well get something useful out of it, yes?   Compare it to a rookie’s journey to becoming a pro. There’s always that point where the rookie is thrown in the game and the team may win or they might lose. The rookie will learn the do’s and don’ts – most likely the hard way. Whatever they experience though, it’s necessary because the coaches make the decision to move up that particular player if they don’t see them in action.   Once you realize that obstacles and people (yes, even those rude people in traffic) are here to teach us, you will experience a whole new level of freedom. It will be uncomfortable and you might shout expletives now and again, but practice and sharpening the skills of love, compassion, boundaries and saying no will help you step into that next level of your life.   -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Why life is our classroom Why struggle is inevitable Viewing obstacles as lessons and people as teachers     Resources:   Aligned Registration Opens soon. Sign up to be the first to know when and to receive a free training at BecomeAligned.com   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.