Earn Your Happy

I’m so excited, as always, to have my husband, Chris Harder, back on the show and today we’re sharing some of our most impactful stories that have helped lead us to the full-circle rich lives we’re leading now. We’re far from perfect and that’s exactly why we love sharing our ups and downs with as many people possible – even if they’re super embarrassing.   Tune in to hear four+ stories and lessons we’ve learned along the way and let us know if you can relate. Wanna hear more? Be sure to check out our Free Video Training at BecomeAligned.com. --      In This Episode We Talk about: “The Great Chicken Nugget Battle of 2006” Taking ownership of your life, stories, happiness and dreams The gap between good and great Why Chris decided to read 30 books in 30 days Why giving is the secret to getting everything you want Having an attitude of abundance Giving with no contingencies or expectations Building intentional tribes Waffles’ dog training and how it applies to your habits and beliefs Why anxiety is a result of no boundaries Reinforcing habits and beliefs you want to keep in your life Moving away from relationships that are holding you back Why ego is your greatest overhead Acknowledging and working around your ego And so much more…   Quotes “I believe we were put here to live a really full-circle, rich life.” – Chris Harder   “Action creates clarity.” – Lori Harder   “You are 100% responsible for the outcome of every moment in your life.” – Chris Harder   “Giving is the secret to getting everything you want.” – Chris Harder   “Build tribes for where you are going and not for where you’re at.” – Lori Harder  -- Resources: Aligned Registration Opens soon. Sign up to be the first to know when and to receive a free training at BecomeAligned.com     Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

With a lot of speaking engagements going on for me right now and in the near future, I’ve had to really stop and observe my anxious tendencies and the thoughts that often go along with them. It’s amazing how powerful our thoughts and inner dialogue can be. Today’s episode is all about freeing yourself from the labels that hold you back and knowing that you’re the only one who has that power to do so.   How often have you heard, “I have such anxiety when it comes to speaking in front of people”? Hand raised over here because I’ve definitely said it to myself before. But here’s where we change it. We don’t “have” anxiety. We “do” anxiety. We don’t “have” no energy. We “do” no energy. And it’s in this doing that we have the choice as to what we do or don’t do. See where I’m going with this?   I’d like you to do a quick exercise to take back your power. First, write what you “have.”               Example: I have anxiety.   Now cross that out and write DO instead.               I have anxiety. I DO anxiety.   Now describe how you “do” anxiety right now? What actions are supporting this feeling? What thoughts?                         I’m drinking coffee. I’m checking messages right when I wake up. I’m eating crappy food and isolating myself. I keep telling myself how nervous I am and that            I’m going to forget what I’m saying on stage.   Take notice of the conversation in your mind and watch how you’re talking to yourself. If you’re anxious, reframe and tell yourself how excited you are and why. Replace your thoughts with better thoughts and take your control back!   No lie, it doesn’t always go fast. But keep trying on different feelings until it does feel good.   “Choose how you feel.”   Tell yourself, “I can undo any feeling I don’t want to be in.”   And remember, once you start putting out these better feelings, you’ll notice that you’re attracting more too.   -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Freeing yourself from labels that hold you back Taking ownership of your thoughts Why you don’t “have” anxiety, you “do” anxiety     Resources:   Aligned Registration Opens soon. Sign up to be the first to know when and to receive a free training at BecomeAligned.com   Join Lori, Oprah Magazine’s staff and other thought leaders on the Oprah Magazine Cruise to the Bahamas | Oct. 28-Nov. 4!   Go here for details: https://www.hollandamerica.com/en_US/cruise-ships/ms-nieuw-statendam/oprah-caribbean-adventure-of-your-life.html Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/ Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Just a head’s up that today’s topic may be a touch overwhelming for some, but I don’t want anyone to get too worried, because when it comes to shifting and changing a person’s beliefs – it’s actually never-ending.   I’ve discovered recently just how important it is to take inventory of one’s tribe, aka the people who we’re spending the most time with. Keep in mind that this can be actual people, television, podcasts etc. I like to also call them reinforcers.   I want you to do a quick exercise and write down the following:   List five people who you’re around the most. What is the main belief, habit or limiting belief or thing that they are reinforcing in your life?   When completed, review and determine if these habits and beliefs are reflecting back at you. Are they holding you back? Don’t panic if it’s not what you thought. I’m certainly not here to tell you who to hang out with and I certainly won’t tell you to ditch friends who aren’t “positive” enough. But I am telling you that you may want to load the other portions of your “plate” with more positive or up-leveling people. Crowd out your plate in a positive direction.   Maybe that means joining a new group or mastermind? Maybe it’s adding more podcasts, books or self-development events to your life. Whatever it is, just make sure to, “set up a life and tribe that reflects where you’re going and not where you’re at.”   -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Taking a tribe inventory Shifting and changing belief systems Why we need more positive reinforcers in our lives     Resources:   Aligned Registration Opens soon. Sign up to be the first to know when and to receive a free training at BecomeAligned.com   Join Lori, Oprah Magazine’s staff and other thought leaders on the Oprah Magazine Cruise to the Bahamas | Oct. 28-Nov. 4!   Go here for details: https://www.hollandamerica.com/en_US/cruise-ships/ms-nieuw-statendam/oprah-caribbean-adventure-of-your-life.html   Thrive Event | Sept. 14-16, 2018, Las Vegas AttendThrive.com Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

“You have everything you need inside of you.”   You may have read or heard this quote from me before, but if I’m being honest, the first time I heard this quote I called BS on it. I mean sure, it’s an empowering concept, but if you don’t know how to look at it from all sides (which I didn’t when I first heard it), it’s disempowering.   But here’s where it does hold true. You do have everything you need right now to start asking questions and to be resourceful. How empowering is that?   “You have all you need to in order to create whatever you’re desiring in your life.”   For example, when I first started my podcast, I knew nothing…I mean nothing about starting a podcast. So I started researching (Google) and finding others who could help me get it off the ground. I was not meant to create all the things by myself. For this particular endeavor, I had the idea and it was up to me to move it forward. It was literally a matter of asking the right questions.   All that’s left to do is start! After all, “pure bliss is becoming the person that you knew you were meant to be.” But it’s up to you to create the experiences in order to bring that person into reality.    Now to all my over-thinkers out there (you know who you are), you may be coming up with a list a mile long of all the reasons you just can’t do it. But here’s my advice: start now! If you don’t take action, you won’t fulfill your purpose. It sounds harsh, but it’s true.   Don’t worry if things don’t go as planned. Know that it’s all a part of the process and that the universe will provide a soft landing. And even if you feel that sometimes your actions are selfish, know that you’re making progress and it’s somehow affecting someone in a beautiful way.     Are you with me? Let’s start taking action – big and small steps – now! -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Why everything you need isn’t inside of you Being resourceful Creating experiences to help you step into your highest purpose   Resources:   Join Lori, Oprah Magazine’s staff and other thought leaders on the Oprah Magazine Cruise to the Bahamas | Oct. 28-Nov. 4!   Go here for details: https://www.hollandamerica.com/en_US/cruise-ships/ms-nieuw-statendam/oprah-caribbean-adventure-of-your-life.html   Thrive Event | Sept. 14-16, 2018, Las Vegas AttendThrive.com   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/ Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I want to start off by saying a huge thank you to all who listen and follow this podcast. As we fly into 8 million downloads, I have to keep pinching myself to ensure it’s all real. I couldn’t do this without you all and I am so, so grateful that you choose to spend part of your day listening.   A couple months back, I heard the phrase “I am blissfully dissatisfied with my life,” from the amazing Ed Mylett. And I love the balance of the two words because it means being blissfully happy with where you’re at while being equally dissatisfied with wanting more or knowing you have more to give.   “In order to be a happy human, we have to make progress.”   Whether it’s in terms of your health, family, relationships or your business, progress keeps us alive! The other day the idea of being blissfully dissatisfied was brought back into my life when I received a message from a follower. Upon first glance this woman looked like someone I could be friends with – she was a yogi, into wellness etc. – but upon reading the first sentence (I’m going to have to unfollow you because you seem to have a ‘deep dissatisfaction’ with your life), I don’t think we’ll be friends anytime soon. I close the message before I could read the whole thing because honestly, I was breathing fire! Then I took a moment, went back, blocked her and deleted the message. Sure, I could have responded, but people with energy like that are not for me.   So anyway, this message got me thinking back to what Ed Mylett had said and I honestly thought… I am equal parts satisfied and dissatisfied – and I’m totally OK with that. You see, as humans, we’re not wired to be happy. We have a need to be better – for ourselves and others. But in order to find this balance, we can’t be focused on satisfaction in ALL areas at ALL times. We must give ourselves grace in the areas that aren’t the priority and pour ourselves into the other areas despite potential side effects.   So yes, I will never be satisfied, but I will ALWAYS be blissful. And I will always strive to show as much love, grace and compassion to all those who think I feel otherwise.     -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Why progressing is crucial for our happiness How she dealt with an unkind message Giving yourself grace  Resources:   Join Lori, Oprah Magazine’s staff and other thought leaders on the Oprah Magazine Cruise to the Bahamas | Oct. 28-Nov. 4!   Go here for details: https://www.hollandamerica.com/en_US/cruise-ships/ms-nieuw-statendam/oprah-caribbean-adventure-of-your-life.html   Thrive Event | Sept. 14-16, 2018, Las Vegas AttendThrive.com   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/ Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Today’s episode is a super special quickie and it involves something I’ve been manifesting for years. While I was wrapping up my three-week European vacation I received notice that I was selected to be a speaker on one of the Oprah Magazine Cruises – yes, THE Oprah! My mind is still whirling from this news.   I firmly believe that this opportunity came up after I finally cleared enough stuff to make room for it while I allowed myself to recharge and get away on my trip. And honestly, as odd as it sounds, once I was able to actually “let go” of my dream to meet Oprah (there was literally a dream where it happened – listen to hear about it) and know that either way, I’m OK – it happened. It’s all about living into your gifts.   Here’s a little Manifestation 101 on how I was able to live into my Oprah manifestation: You have to put the work in, believe in a little bit of magic and have faith. Allow that dream to look different and probably the most important – be patient. Focus on why you’re awesome and what you love about yourself. Who or what brings out that part of you? Be the energy you want to attract. Raise your vibration to get there. Get clear and declare it. If you’ve been following me for a while, you’ve likely heard my Oprah dream quite a few times. ;) Release it. You are significant and loved regardless of whether or not this dream happens.   I would love to see you on the Oprah Cruise (to the Bahamas) with me! Check out the link in the resources and let’s fill that ship up with the highest-vibing people ever! It will be like a boat version of Bliss Project! Be sure to message or tag me on Instagram if you’re in – I cannot wait!     -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Lori’s keynote speaker opportunity on an Oprah Magazine Cruise Letting go of dreams to allow them to happen Lori’s five tips to help you manifest what you desire    Resources:   Join Lori, Oprah Magazine’s staff and other thought leaders on the Oprah Magazine Cruise to the Bahamas | Oct. 28-Nov. 4! Go here for details: https://www.hollandamerica.com/en_US/cruise-ships/ms-nieuw-statendam/oprah-caribbean-adventure-of-your-life.html   Thrive Event | Sept. 14-16, 2018, Las Vegas AttendThrive.com   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

You’re going to love today’s guest, Angie Lee, as she’s a wise old soul at the core but not even 30 years old! She and I go back 10 years to a fitness camp we attended together. Since that time she’s become this powerhouse business woman who loves sharing her light and knowledge with others.   Today, we’re dialing into the present and talking about Angie’s upcoming book, Raise Your Hand as well as her Pays to Be Brave event in October – and all the fears and doubts that come up as a result. She believes that being bold is key and that “no’s” are imperative to anyone’s journey.   I hope you enjoy a good mixture of silliness and seriousness because you’ll get a big dose of both in this episode! Don’t be surprised if you’re ready to write your own book or host an event after listening!    --   Question Highlights: What is the most exciting thing in your life right now? What is the journey your event is taking you on and reflecting back at you right now? What is your new book about? Why aren’t women “raising their hands?” How can we deal with getting no’s? What is something right now that’s pushing on your solar plexus that you have to ask for? Can you share one of your “what was I thinking” moments that’s also helped you grow? How do we tell the difference between a gut check and fear? In This Episode We Talk about: How Angie’s upcoming event, “Pays to Be Brave,” blends both woo-woo and business together Intuitive organic marketing Battling and pushing through fear Why being bold is one of the most important qualities a woman can have Putting a value on what you have to offer and how that correlates with your worth Money as an energy exchange Handing off (or hiring out) things that aren’t in your zone of genius Dealing with negative feedback Why polarity is necessary The difference between the skillsets of an entrepreneur vs. a leader The importance of gut checks and not just what’s on paper And so much more…   Quotes “I treat the marketing and numbers like they’re real people.”   “It’s OK to hear no because it also may be a yes down the road.”   “It’s never as bad as we make it out to be.”   “The business doesn’t grow unless the team grows.”   -- Angie Lee is the hilarious + wicked smart business bestie you've always wanted. A serial entrepreneur, vibrant speaker, life coach & business mentor, Angie's genius is helping women embrace fear, take messy action and monetize their passion.    Corporate + College dropout, $100k in debt to 7-figure entrepreneur under 30, Angie's passion runs deep for helping women unlock their full potential to finally create the income and life they desire. Angie is the host of the top-rated The Angie Lee Show, the Founder of Pays to Be Brave Summit and the upcoming self-published author of Raise Your Hand.   Her Wellpreneur Mastermind teaches wellness professionals how to grow their social brand and close sales with ease. Angie's cracked the code for organic marketing by successfully producing multiple 6- and 7-figure product launches, with no paid advertising or complicated funnels. She now teaches her loyal community how to grow and scale their online business with standout branding, authentic messaging and intuitive marketing.  Resources: AngieLee.com IG: @AngieLeeShow   Book: Raise Your Hand by Angie Lee (Coming later in 2018)   Pays to Be Brave Summit Oct. 20-21, 2018  •  San Diego, CA   The Angie Lee Show on iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/angie-lee-show-entrepreneurship-marketing-social-media/id1178232410?mt=2   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.    

It never gets old seeing and hearing what readers are resonating within A Tribe Called Bliss. I love hearing what people are taking away and what makes that light bulb turn on for them. Recently, I’ve seen a lot of people calling out the following quote:   “He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away.” – Raymond Hull   We’ve all been guilty of this at one time or another, and I think it’s been such an a-ha moment for people in the book because it’s giving others permission to step even more into themselves and be who they truly are – regardless of what other people will think.   So what part of yourself have you been whittling away in order to make someone else happy? Are you hiding a part of yourself because you’re afraid to show that part? Or is it because you’re surrounding yourself with people who aren’t the right fit for where you’re at?   It’s time to get real with yourself – dig deep. What do YOU need right now? Look from all angles, and STOP turning the volume down on who you are. Is it easy? Um, not quite, but I will tell you this:   “The highest good doesn’t always feel good.”   This is where you must confront any resistance you have head on and grow from it. Find out who you truly are. If you’ve whittled yourself so far down that you don’t even know who you are, it’s time to get to work.   First, figure out what emotion is the most important for you to live in. Then, choose one thing a day that helps you live it out. It could be reading or listening to podcasts, but what I’m really looking for are tangible actions. DO something! And don’t worry if you try something and it’s not the right fit. Trust me, you’ll know immediately, just has you’ll instantly know if it’s the “right” thing.   So who’s with me? It’s time to put that inspiration into action.   -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Importance of following your bliss, joy, pleasure and where you’re being guided Constantly seeking resistance in order to grow Taking inspired action     Resources:   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/  Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

My guest today, yogi and wellness coach, Koya Webb, personifies the word love. We were fortunate enough to chat in person, but I know you’ll feel her warm energy through the recording as well. And with a platform that encourages people to “love yourself, love others, and love the planet,” it’s no wonder.   Raised in small-town Tennessee, Koya was counting on athletics to get her out into the world. Unfortunately, right at the time of a life-changing conference meet, she suffered a stress fracture in her back. Devastated, she heeded the advice of her counselor and took up yoga and breath work to help her rehab. Even though her first yoga class was anything but easy, Koya was in love at first breath. In fact, she found herself completely rehabbed in 6 months and went on to win a conference event the following year.   Also during that time, Koya learned to slow down and listen to her body. Today, she credits this practice along with yoga, meditation and maintaining a plant-based diet for the high-vibing life she lives every day.   Koya offers so much valuable insight into living a vegan lifestyle (or just dabbling in it), and if you get one thing out of our conversation it would be to stop and truly tune into what your body is saying. You never know what it will tell you if you pay attention.   --   Question Highlights: What is most exciting for you in your world right now? What is your upcoming book about? What was your life’s big pivot point? How old were you when you first started listening to your body? What would you tell people if they’ve never let their feelings lead them? Where should people start? Does being vegan ever bring up challenges for you? Are there practical ways to start dabbling in a more plant-based diet? What is the most impactful thing that’s shifted for you since becoming plant-based?   In This Episode We Talk about: Koya’s yoga teacher training course Koya’s upcoming book Changing your frequency from fear to love Why yoga and meditation help connect you to your soul How a stress fracture in her back led Koya to discover yoga and breath work The importance of listening to your body and slowing down when it feels called to How Koya practices what she teaches in her teacher training The benefits of plant-based diet Why online-bought food carries a higher vibration How Koya navigates eating when out vs. at home And so much more…   Quotes “Yoga is the perfect tool.”   “You can’t love others to the detriment of yourself.”   “You can thrive and have a lot of energy, gain weight or lose weight on a plant-based diet.”   “Wherever you are on your journey, you are loved.”   -- Koya Webb is an internationally recognized yoga teacher, personal trainer, holistic health and wellness coach, author, motivational speaker, and professional fitness model revolutionizing the holistic living landscape. She is the creator of Get Loved Up, a platform that encourages people to “love yourself, love others, and love the planet” by practicing environmental sustainability, plant-based nutrition, and mindful movement. Resources: KoyaWebb.com IG: @koyawebb       @GetLovedUp FB: https://facebook.com/koyawebbonline YouTube: Fitness, Food and Fun or Koya Webb   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

The other night I went to a Soul Cycle class despite the voice inside my head that told me I didn’t want to go and didn’t have the energy to move my legs that fast (can you relate?). But after coming off of my three-week vacation, I was struggling. My re-entry back into “reality” has been tough.   Thankfully my Soul Cycle instructor gave me the wake-up call (or question) that led to a shift.   “What is a gift you could give yourself right now that would make your day or life better?”   I actually surprised myself with the answer…an attitude adjustment. Whoa, seems a bit harsh, huh? But here’s the thing. Now is not the time to take it easy on myself. I’ve still got a lot of things I want to do. And one of those things, was getting back into the groove with my podcast interviews.   I had a ton of resistance around my scheduled interviews this week, but once I remembered how much I enjoy talking with such incredible humans, I changed my tune.   “Sitting in resistance is a choice.”   Sitting in resistance was not serving me. It was time to lean in and start asking myself questions instead. What would it look and feel like if I was back in the groove of things? What if I let go and enjoyed it? What would that look like?   “If it’s something you’re choosing to have on your plate because you want it there, you can let go of the resistance.”   I realize that letting go can be hard and it takes a lot of thought. Trust me, that has been me for the last week. But just start small by asking questions – don’t force it. You’ll find that once you start envisioning all the good things, your energy will increase, too. Resistance, while sometimes helpful, only sucks your energy away. Let’s do the opposite by ramping up your energy instead and watch as more shows up.   I hope this message prompts you to take a moment today to figure out what you need the most, move through resistance and lean in.  -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Discovering what you really need to give yourself Why Lori gave herself an attitude adjustment Letting go of resistance and leaning in   Resources:   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.