Earn Your Happy

In This Episode You Will Learn About: Grace during the holiday season Expectations put upon us Why you should stop trying to be enough Teaching people how to treat you   Resources: Learn more: The Bliss Project March 2019   Show Notes Today I felt it really necessary to talk about expectations and not being enough. We are going to flip the script a bit today though, and rather than talk about our own expectations, we are going to chat about the expectations that people have on us. On the book tour, I noticed that there were so many people who felt this nagging expectation from people in their past to keep showing up how they used to show up. We’ve all heard it, “Oh, you aren’t the same person.” Well today, I’m going to free you from that–I’m giving you the permission to disappoint other people. I also wanted to remind you to get your tickets to The Bliss Project, coming to Newport Beach, CA this March. It is going to be an incredible weekend of complete life transformation & immersion!   Quotes “”The more grace that you can have with yourself, and let go of those expectations, and just say, “You know what, I’m going to be really present and I’m just going to stay in motion.””   Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook

In This Episode You Will Learn About: How the Tribe Called Bliss book tour went Asking for help Expectations + grace Books + Podcasts Lori loves Going from an idea to reality Body image and self-worth   Resources: Read: A Return To Love by Marianne Williamson Learn more: The Bliss Project March 2019   Show Notes Welcome to another Q&A Day with my Q&A co-host and assistant, Evans! These episodes are always fun because I get to answer questions from all of you, and it helps me feel even more connected to this incredible community. Evans and I also share great quotes that are really speaking to us–and a few laughs, too! Today we are also sharing our experience from the Tribe Called Bliss book tour.   Question Highlights: @sheryl_scranton: “What is your most life-changing book? What are you currently reading? What’s your favorite podcast?” @empowermentwithelizabeth: “I’m planning a retreat and I’m curious about the process of Bliss Project–how you went from the idea to executing it. How did it get from an idea to reality?” @victoriaevansofficial: “How do you seperate your physique from your self-worth? I’m really struggling right now not to put so much value on my body after losing weight. I’m having a hard time seeing myself as my body. Did you ever struggle with this as you were competing in fitness?”     Review of the Week: “Lori, I can’t thank you enough for what both your book and podcast have done for me. When I went through a messy breakup with my ex, one of my friends/fellow coaches suggested this book to me and your podcast. I’ll be honest, at first I was apprehensive. So many friendships and relationships have been burnt in my life, why light another candle and redevelop a tribe? But, you’ve given me the courage to be brave, to step up, and to anoint my own dang self with self-love, encouragement, bravery, and replacement of negativity, fear, judgement, etc. With positivity, compassion, understanding, I’m excited to see where your journey takes you because you’ve helped so many of us and deserve the best. Keep rockin it sista!” @katie671   Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook

In This Episode You Will Learn About: How Niyc found positive psychology The day of Niyc’s own awakening How Kundalini yoga has been a game changer Niyc’s way of creating an event How she found her value Her book writing journey Giving and receiving permission Happiness pie   Resources: Learn more: niycpidgeon.com Instagram: @niycpidge Read: Now Is Your Chance Facebook: Now Is Your Chance Group Learn more: The Bliss Project March 2019   Show Notes Today I am joined by the amazing Niyc Pidgeon, a positive psychologist, success coach, international speaker, and author of Now Is Your Time. Niyc is obsessed with empowering women to create more joy, and unstoppable success within themselves and their businesses. Yes please! We talk all about her awakening, what sparked her interest in positive psychology, and how she found her own value. The conversation we have is epic, and I can’t wait for you all to benefit from all we talk about.   Question Highlights: Did you notice that you had work to do around your lack/money mindset? What was a big thing that helped you switch the lens you viewed through? What does your life look like now? What are some of the main things that are helping the women that come to you? How do you start to create an event or container? How did you find your value? What did your journey look like while writing a book? What is the most exciting thing in your life right now? Was there a theme for what was blocking women this year? How did you start your million dollar business?   Quotes “Positive psychology is like a breath of fresh air and it focuses on human strength and virtue and what we do right as people, rather than what we do wrong.” “I had to do a lot of personal growth before I even recognized I had a negative money mindset.” “I’ve learned in life and business to go towards the ease, to lean into where the energy is.”   Niyc Pidgeon, a Positive Psychologist MSc BSc CTLLS IPPA, Award Winning Best Selling Hay House Author “Now Is Your Chance”, International Speaker, and Certified High Performance & Success Coach CHPC, from Newcastle upon Tyne in the UK with a big heart, a big vision, and a big mission. Her aim is to help a million women change their lives using Positive Psychology by the year 2020, and she’s well on her way to creating that.   She is proud to have already created a business with a global reach, helping tens of thousands of people around the world to access the strength inside of them, to step up and be, do, create, and have more! Through her best selling book, Now Is Your Chance, her personal coaching programs, and online Now Is Your Chance community, Niyc is helping you help yourself by equipping you with the tangible tools, and personal learnings that can really help you make a positive difference in your life   Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook

In This Episode You Will Learn About: How to care + make an impact We all have superpowers Releasing our energetic cords Forgiving yourself + others   Resources: Learn more: The Bliss Project March 2019 Instagram: @earnyourhappy   Show Notes Today, I want to talk about focus. So many of us believe that we have to care about every little thing, and that our value is determined by just how caring we are. This causes so much scattered focus, leading to us actually not doing anything for what we truly care about. We are going to talk about our superpowers and energetic cords, and how to release them in order to move forward.   Quotes "If you’re aiming at nothing, you’re certain to hit it.” “When we forgive someone, it’s not for them, it is for us.” “Your thoughts are energy.”   Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook

In This Episode You Will Hear About: The upcoming Bliss Project Reevaluating your habits Quotes we are loving How to know what your next goal is Preparing yourself to be an epic human   Resources: Learn more: The Bliss Project March 2019 Check out: Farmgirl Flowers     Show Notes We are having another Q&A day today, so I’m joined by my lovely assistant, Evans, to answer questions sent in by you! I also wanted to remind you to get your tickets to The Bliss Project, coming to Newport Beach, CA this March. It is going to be an incredible weekend of complete life transformation & immersion. Tickets are over half sold out– I want to make sure you can get yours before they are gone!   Questions: “How do you train your brain to be productive even when you’re not feeling it?” From: _angela_jones “How do you know what your next goal is? How do you prepare yourself for the day to be an epic human being?” From: kathleenparent.ca   Quotes "I only hang around people who feed my vision now.” “You would be amazed at what opens up for you when you actually start following the energy and the creativity.”   Review of the Week: “Lori Harder knows what’s up and speaks to my soul. If you’re on a journey to truly love yourself and find your happy, you absolutely need to have this podcast in your life!” @goldandgoodvibes   Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook

In This Episode You Will Learn About: The current Tribe Called Bliss book tour Why “the messy stuff” is good for you   Show Notes Messy is a part of everything. It’s vital to be messy in the beginning. We don’t get the good ideas if it’s NOT messy. A lot of times we stop ourselves from doing things because we think about the things that we DON’T want to happen; the worst case scenario parts.  But we need to focus and change our perspective around this. So many of us are stuck in those thoughts that you’re literally it won’t even allow yourself to move forward.  START! Start Googling, take the next action to make the path less scary. Your mantra for this time is: “I’m going to leap, it’s going to be messy, and that is going to be perfect.”   Quotes "I’m going to leap, it’s going to be messy, and that is going to be perfect."   Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook  

In this episode we talk about: Evans and I reminisce about our Oprah Cruise last week and talk about some of the things we learned while traveling. Answers to a bunch of questions from YOU. Back-up plans for your life How to change the story you feel about how OTHERS view you. How to deal with setbacks   Questions Answered in This Episode: “Please talk about back-up plans. I feel like having one is telling the universe that it’s ok for me to NOT live out my passion.  I am super conflicted with this and would love to hear your thoughts!” - Holly Dorfman “I’ve been gossiped about, not cheered on, etc by other women so I have a bad story about women in my life. How did you change the story about how women see you?” -Amy Burnes “How can you sustain self-motivation when you constantly suffer from a lot of setbacks?”  -@NRQuotes94   Favorite Quotes: “If you get tired, learn to rest, not to quit.” “Forget your troubles and dance.” -Bob Marley “Stay focused on whatever you want to do and don’t doubt yourself.” “Focus is more important than intelligence.”   Review of the week: By “Hauber18” - “Finding yourself if hard. Earn Your Happy podcast is a reminder that you can do it! Lori’s inspiring and so enjoyable to listen to. Want to be the best version of yourself, it starts here!”

In This Episode We Talk about: The need for tests in order to realize our dreams Fear of tests Supporting yourself   Resources: FINAL CALL! Round 2 of the book tour is taking place in November! Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest stops on Lori’s book tour! A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Show Notes I just returned from being on an Oprah Magazine Cruise with Holland America and am still sitting in the experience. I met so many amazing people and got to speak to and coach a different demographic than I’m used to. And while having lunch and random conversations with so many of these people throughout the week, I realized that we’re all the same, and we’re all tested at one time or another.  Never be ashamed of your dreams or the thing you want to do the most. There will always be tests along the way that test your faith. And while they’re often super uncomfortable, they are 100% necessary to help you realize your dreams. Instead of giving up, say “bring it!” This is your faith practice. It’s digging in your heels, being scared, and not feeling good – and moving forward anyway. After all how can you be tested if you’re not experiencing it? “It’s OK to be afraid, but it’s not OK to give up."  So lean in. Experience it. Let time help you work through it. Your faith is tested by often extreme measures. Learn how to support yourself through it. Who can you call? Can you pray, meditate or read a book? What keeps that faith alive? Just as you would study or prepare for a test, you must prepare (not avoid) the tests that come up around your dream. “Don’t resist the test, prepare for it – it’s how you pass.” These tests will strengthen you and help refine what you’re meant to do. Stop avoiding them. “You don’t get better or get the reward unless you keep showing up – no matter the result.” So keep showing up. Let go where you can and know that you’re not alone. Something beautiful is just around the corner. Are you ready for it?   Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook

Review of the week: "Earn your Happy is one of my FAVORITE podcasts! Lori truly speaks from her heart and experience and wants everyone she reaches to ‘earn their happy’! From amazing speakers to a quick 5-minute quote, this podcasts fuels my creativity and grit to do more work with my life! THANK YOU Lori for all this amazing content! If you have not listened, WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR!?!   Questions: Ally M. "My question for you is, have you ever faced problems with jealousy, and if you have, do you have any tips on how to overcome those feelings?"   Genevieve L. "I am a UK-based listener and have been really inspired to become part of a business that has a positive impact on the world like yours and a lot of the guests on the podcast. Do you know of any UK-based entrepreneurs or businesses for people like me to check out?"   Amy W. @amywilford15 "It was so awesome to finally meet you randomly in the courtyard at The Summit of Greatness through our mutual friend Linda! I <3 you, your content, and your authenticity, BUT if you could claim anyone else’s content as your own, whose would it be and why?"   Alex A. @atracktive "What are some things I can do to put my negative self-talk (aka my inner sh*t talker) on mute?"   Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook  

Questions answered in this episode: @stellalunaevents "What was the biggest challenge you had to face to live out your true purpose?"   @Mistyyynnhaar "How do you confidently juggle work and personal life?"   @julie_ann_davey "What's the most pivotal decision you've made in your life that changed everything?"   Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook