Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

This episode is about leaning into femininity and recognizing self-worth. Today's caller, Lana, has childhood wounding that makes her wish she looked a different way. She would like guidance on how to be more feminine, have a healthier body image, and stop feeling jealous. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode405] Many women have mothers who did not have a healthy body image. And, often as children, we take that on. But, there is so much more than how we look. If we focus on how we look and compare ourselves to other people, we miss out on the incredible gifts that we are here to enjoy in this lifetime. We are constantly being programmed with what is "beautiful." We all have different ways in which the feminine expresses through us. It is essential for us to change the way society frames beauty for the future, for women, and for little girls. It is changing, but we have a long way to go. And, jealousy is a waste of energy. It is often a positive projection. When we look at someone who is "attractive," what we are really seeing is their confidence or the way they feel comfortable in their body. The next time you feel jealous, think about how you would rather be using that valuable, precious energy. Because jealousy kills our self-worth, sense of spirit, femininity, and relationships. It is no one else's job to make us feel secure in a relationship. My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their consciousness, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. Get exquisite self-care from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To apply go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. There is still time to get the early bird discount. Listen to this Coaches Corner episode to find out what happens during the retreat ChristineHassler.com/2022/08/coaches-corner-346. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you deal with jealousy? Do you think that if you looked differently that your life would be better? Did you grow up with a mother or a parent who didn't have a good body image and they passed that on to you? Do you know what being in your feminine and femininity means? Lana's Question: Lana would like tools to boost her body image and overcome jealous feelings in her relationship. Lana's Key Insights and Ahas: She deals with extreme jealousy but trusts her boyfriend. She has been in her current relationship for five years. She has low self-confidence. She doesn't feel feminine. She compares herself with other people. She's been hurt by relationships from her youth. Her mother didn't have a healthy body image. She is focused on looking a certain way. She is creative, loving, and has a big heart. Her soul wants acceptance for who she is. She puts a lot of energy into thinking she should look different. She wants to enjoy her life. How to Get Over It and On With It: Be compassionate with her feelings when she is triggered. Begin studying what it means to be in her feminine power. Instead of using her energy on jealousy and comparison, use it to enhance her creativity and joy. Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are beautiful, easy to clean and use, and non-toxic. The cookware and bakeware sets have a naturally slick ceramic surface. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the limited-time offer of 10% off on their full suite of products by using the promo code OVERIT at checkout. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

My friend and co-founder of Elementum Coaching Institute Alexi Panos joins me to talk all about the coaching industry. We cover why it's a GREAT time to be a coach, how to get over imposter syndrome, what makes an impactful and profitable coach, the "dark side" of the coaching industry and so much more. We also dive into why we founded Elementum and what makes this program so unique. Learn more here: https://elementumcoachinginstitute.com/

This episode is about embracing our gifts and making a living. Today's caller, Janelle, has lost the motivation to make a living by expressing her gifts. She would like guidance on how to reignite her drive. Christine offers her practical tips about shifting her limiting beliefs about money, and separating her survival needs from what brings her joy. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode404] Our gifts do not have to translate into a career. Our gifts are there for us to enjoy them. They don't necessarily have to be the thing that makes us money. It is completely possible to have a job you like that isn't your passion. We all have gifts and some of them translate into a lucrative career and sometimes they don't. Give yourself permission to explore your gifts without the pressure of needing to make money at it. Many people feel like a failure if they can not make a sustainable income doing what they love but as long as they are expressing what they love there is no failure. It's important not to marry gifts and purpose with survival. At some point in our lives, we are asked to look at what we have done to meet our survival needs and consider what we have to do to be more strategic. When we have a "Watch, I'll show you" energy, it can push us but it doesn't generate a lot of safety and abundance because we are constantly pulled back by our old beliefs. A caterpillar works hard to become a butterfly. It's a metamorphosis that needs to happen. It completely transforms and transmutes things. When we are in the chrysalis moments, we need to ask ourselves what needs to transform. My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. Get exquisite self-care from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To apply go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. There is still time to get the early bird discount. Listen to this Coaches Corner episode to find out what happens during the retreat ChristineHassler.com/2022/08/coaches-corner-346. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you doing something you love but not making the kind of money you love? Do you think you can make money and have enough to live doing what you love? Were your creativity, expression, and natural gifts encouraged as a child? Or, were you told you could never make a living at it? Do you have a good relationship with money? Janelle's Question: Janelle has lost her motivation to continue her dancing career and is looking for guidance on how to make a living following her passion. Janelle's Key Insights and Ahas: She knows her spiritual purpose. She is at a crossroads. She no longer feels excited about her career or art form. She is a professional dancer and actor. She expected to be more financially secure by now. The pandemic shifted her momentum. She is adaptable and independent. She was told being an artist would be a struggle. She was driven to succeed to prove to others that she could. She has completed the personal mastery course. She feels called back to her passion and desire. She has the tools but doesn't know how to use them. How to Get Over It and On With It: Shift her limiting beliefs about money. Do the "temper tantrum" technique and give her little girl a voice. Strategically consider her next steps and where she wants to go. Takeaways: Check out these Coaches Corner episodes with Jade Luna & Kate Northrup. Consider where you are. Is it time to take some risks and share your gifts with the world? Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Get ready for a great conversation about where we have been and where we are headed collectively with Jade Luna. Jade is the first Westerner ever to reconstruct Jyotish (Hindu Astrology) into a Greco-Roman format. Jade has traveled extensively around the planet, lecturing and conducting workshops on Astrology and Ancient Roman-Greco mysticism. He has traveled to India more than 30 times and spent a great deal of time with various teachers, Saints and Sadhu's in Asia. Jade also consults with people privately. He usually presents a few seminars each year at various locations world wide. He is the author of Asterian Astrology and has been one of the most successful Astrologers in the world and has maintained a high level practice for over 18 years.

This episode is about taking risks or making changes when you don't feel safe or secure on some level. Today's caller, Julie, feels stressed about making money because she is not doing something she is passionate about. Christine offers her guidance on how to shift her perspective into making an intentional transition. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode403] One of my pet peeves of the personal development industry is the implied pressure to just make changes, take leaps, or have courage. And, while it is important to be able to make changes and to be able to take leaps, when you feel not safe on some level, it is going to be challenging. It's always a blend of not staying in something that is familiar and "safe" but not what you want to be doing for so long that you get accustomed to feeling safe but not feeling alive, Not really feeling like you're doing what you're passionate about. Because the years will go by and your dream will quickly fade. However, you don't want to just drop everything and make a drastic change when you don't feel safe. When it comes to safety, we are humans who have basic needs. We have the need for love. We have the need for feeling that our physical needs are met also. There is a part of us that if we're not doing what we love or what we really desire, it can be difficult to make money at it because if we're really being called to something else, and we're not listening to it, often we'll have a sabotaging part that will come up. My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. Get exquisite self-care from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To apply go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. There is still time to get the early bird discount. Listen to this Coaches Corner episode to find out what happens during the retreat ChristineHassler.com/2022/08/coaches-corner-346. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you a people-pleaser and make decisions based on what you think other people want from you versus what you truly want from yourself? Are you making choices or doing things that are breeding resentment, maybe in your marriage, a friendship, in business, or with your parents? Do you feel unsafe and unstable in some way and you are doing something just for the money? Do you want to make a change but you feel like you just can't because you're not financially "stable" enough? Julie's Question: Julie is looking for guidance about personal finances. Julie's Key Insights and Ahas: She and her husband feel stressed about money. She is self-employed in her small business. She started working with an IFS therapist. She consumes a lot of information about her small business. She is a people-pleaser. She feels pressure from her husband to make more money. She likes helping people. She tires of doing what other people think she should do. She felt love from her parents was conditional. She judges herself for not doing what she wants to do. She has a love/hate relationship with money. How to Get Over It and On With It: Create a self-love-healing plan and an action plan. Approach her work from a different perspective. Identify where her triggers originate. Create safety in her system. Love herself through it. Check out the upcoming Women's Retreat. Takeaways: What are the steps, both internally and externally, you need to take to make an intentional transition? Get your applications in to join Christine at her Signature Retreat. Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance device that when paired with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and improving well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions to tone the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Aviva Romm MD is both a midwife and a Yale trained MD and Board Certified Family Physician with specialties in Integrative Gynecology, Obstetric and Pediatrics, with a focus on women's endocrinology. She's also a world renown herbalist, and author of the textbook, Botanical Medicines for Women's Health, as well as 8 other books, including The Adrenal Thyroid Revolution and her new book, Hormone Intelligence, an instant New York Times Bestseller, which explores the impact of the world we live in on women's hormones and health, and brings us a new medicine for women that is at once holistic and natural, while being grounded in the best science and medicine have to offer. A practitioner, teacher, activist and advocate of both environmental health and women's reproductive rights and health, she has been bridging the best of traditional medicine, total health ecology, and good science for over three decades. Her podcast, articles, books, and online programs are wildly popular and successful, helping women take back their health, She practices medicine in both NY and MA, and lives in the Berkshires of Western MA. Learn more at: https://avivaromm.com/

This episode is about feeling safe in our bodies by regulating the nervous system. Today's caller, Nicole, struggles to change her body weight and feels she lacks motivation and follow-through to do so. She asks for practical tips on how to shift it and create peace and love within herself. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode402] Nervous system regulation is bringing awareness to our state of being. Meaning, are we in a state of hyperarousal or hypoarousal? Both states can be a trauma response. Trauma, simply defined, is too much, too fast, too soon, or too little for too long. Hyperarousal means we are anxious, constantly bracing ourselves, staying busy and distracted to avoid pain, or we are nervous, vigilant, and possibly aggressive. Hypoarousal means we can be depressed, or we may lack motivation. We can even go into apathy or indifference. Whether it is hyper or hypo, it means we are functioning with an unregulated nervous system. It is hard for people in an unregulated state to be present. A regulated nervous system is when we feel safe inside our body. Yet, it doesn't mean we're in a meditative state and doesn't mean we are a Zen master. For those who grew up in an unsafe or chaotic house, your baseline is not going to be regulated. You can do all the emotional processing in the world to move the trauma and do inner child work but you have to practice a nervous system reset multiple times a day. Elementum Coaching Institute is beginning its 3rd year with a comprehensive 7-month program starting in September 2023. This program is for coaches of all skill levels. Apply to become a certified coach and get a 3-month business bonus at https://elementumcoachinginstitute.com. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel busy all the time and there don't seem to be enough hours in a day? Have you been wanting to release weight but you just can't seem to let it go? Do you know the benefits of self-love and self-care but you can't seem to do them? Did you grow up in a chaotic household and you long for peace and calm in your life? Nicole's Question: She struggles with prioritizing herself, practicing self-love, and having self-worth issues. She wants to lose weight but doesn't understand why she cannot stay motivated to do so. Nicole's Key Insights and Ahas: She attended the Be the Queen program. Her father didn't value overweight people. Her mother was self-critical. She tries to eat healthily and has a gym membership. She loves being outside, dancing, and being with her dog. She is finishing her Master's degree. She finds little time to do the things she loves. Her nervous system baseline is hyper-aroused. She longed for peace and calm in her chaotic childhood home. She focuses on losing weight. She tells herself she will do the things she loves when she loses weight. She is a people-pleaser. How to Get Over It and On With It: Break the pattern of being in a hyper-aroused state. Recalibrate her nervous system with hourly breaks and resets. Check out Style Space and use the promo code Christine10. Create peace and calm in her home and body. Practice transitions and be conscious about her next move. Practice saying no to create space for herself. Takeaways: Find online content about nervous system regulation. Sponsor: StoryWorth — Looking for a meaningful Father's Day gift? Storyworth helps your loved ones feel special, unique, and connected by sharing and preserving their precious memories. For a limited time, get $10 off your first purchase at StoryWorth.com/overit. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

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This episode is about getting over someone we can't seem to get over. Today's caller, Matthais, is hung up on someone he can't seem to get over but, as usual, it has to do with something much deeper. Often, it is the relationships that don't work out that teach us the most. [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode401] As children, we are naturally intimate, but if our parents can't be intimate back we start to shut down. Because intimacy feels scary and unfamiliar. And, even though everyone wants to be loved, they push love away because love has hurt them in the past. So, when love comes to us we push it away because it is unfamiliar. An avoidant attachment relationship pattern is when someone loves us and we push them away. It's because love feels unfamiliar and scary. Love feels like it hurts because as children, we naturally love our parents. When we don't feel that love back from our parents in the way we as children give love, it's very disorienting and it can make us not trust love. So, when someone wants to love us, it feels unfamiliar and unsafe. Whereas, when there is someone distant and aloof with us and maybe love bombs us, it feels great in the beginning but then the great feeling fades. Or, the person will give us ultimatums we have to fulfill and make us chase them. It makes us yearn for something familiar to us, and we often confuse the feeling with love because it is familiar. When we are hung up on someone, we think we are missing them but what we are missing is something we need to embody within ourselves. When we heal our inner child, we begin to choose the love we truly desire, not a feeling that triggers us. Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there someone that you've broken up with or that broke up with you but you just can't seem to let them go? Did you have a parent that wasn't there for you in the way that you truly desired? Do you relate to having an avoidant attachment style? Did you have a parent that parentified you or even made you their spouse and you didn't get to be a kid? Matthais's Question: He had a painful breakup that he can't seem to get over. He would like guidance on how to get over it and move forward. Matthais's Key Insights and Ahas: He hasn't felt emotional pain in his life before like he did with this breakup. He is having difficulty connecting with new people. He was very much in love. The breakup was abrupt. His ex triggered something deep inside of him. He has some wounding in his past about his looks. His ex said he triggered her childhood wounding. He has an avoidant attachment style. His parents divorced when he was 15 and has struggled with it for 25 years. His mother was caring but he has been the only man in his mother's life. He may be choosing partners who mirror his relationship with his father. He hasn't experienced true intimacy. He felt his dad didn't want him and his mother parentified him. He is attracted to controlling women. How to Get Over It and On With It: Discontinue any communication with his ex. Let her go. When he thinks of his ex, tell himself that it wasn't a healthy love and that real love is safe. Work on his inner child by exploring the self-guided Inner Child Workshop. Feel into self-love. Takeaways: Read the book Attached or dive into the Coaches Corner episodes on attachment styles. Sponsor: Aquatru — purifies water using a four-stage reverse osmosis process. The countertop purifiers remove 15 times more contaminants than ordinary pitcher filters. Their long-lasting and affordable filters are independently tested and certified to NSF standards to remove over 80% of the most harmful contaminants. Go to Aquatru.com and enter OVERIT at checkout to get 20% off any purifier. Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Emily is the founder of Ziva and has taught the Ziva Technique to over 40,000 people. Her best-selling book, Stress Less, Accomplish More, debuted at #7 out of all books on Amazon and has been translated into 12 languages. In 2021, she launched zivaKIDS, the first meditation course of its kind for kids ages 4-14. A formerly stressed Broadway performer who was going gray at 27, Emily discovered a powerful practice that cured her insomnia and improved her health on the first day. The Ziva Technique is a powerful combination of mindfulness, meditation and manifesting designed to help you get better at life, not meditation. You can join her for a FREE embodiment and manifestation event on May 17th at christinehassler.com/emily