How to have Extraordinary Relationships

Send us Fan MailHelen Margaret Lederer (born 24 September 1954 is a British comedian, writer and actress who emerged as part of the alternative comedy boom at the beginning of the 1980s. Among her television credits are the BBC2 sketch series Naked Video and BBC One's Absolutely Fabulous, in which she played the role of Catriona.In 2015, her comedy novel Losing It was published by Pan Macmillan It was nominated for the P.G. Wodehouse Comedy Literary Award and the Edinburgh Book Festival First Book Award.She recently released a biography,  " Not That I'm Bitter" she wanted people to connect with her experiences in a humourous way. At the time of writing she is in a run starring in the stage version of Fawlty Towers.In 2018, Lederer launched a new literary prize for comic fiction written by women. The 2019 published winner of the CWIP award was The Exact Opposite of Okay by Lauren Steven- Kirsty Eyre was the inaugural winner of the unpublished prize with her comic novel, Cow Girl, which was published in 2020. The 2020 awards added a humorous graphic novel prize.The award was created because of dissatisfaction with the Bollinger Everyman Wodehouse Prize , which was not awarded in 2018 and had up to that point only been won by a woman three times.Key points of this episode:How writing her book gave her a second confidence,,How people were not mean about woman in comedy back then as such, but it was simply a different time.How she "accidentally" stole someones comedy partner for a year!Her thoughts on comedy, connection with an audience and performance.What can make an audiance angry.Her book - "Not that I'm bitter"Her run being on the stage version of Fawlty Towers.Her appearance on "The Pilgrimage"You can see more about this talented lady here:@helenlederer on X and Instagram Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailFrom her website:Since I could first hold a pencil I have been writing stories. It was my most enjoyable hobby and one I never expected would become a career in adulthood. I am so lucky to do something I adore and luckier still that you, my readers, enable me to do it. For that I am incredibly grateful.Over the last four decades my love of storytelling has never changed, the only thing that has changed is my audience (once only me), which now includes you! I hope to carry you away to sunnier shores, while at the same time to remind you of all that is wonderful about England. Above all, my novels are about love – not just romantic love, but Love with a capital L, because when you boil life down to its essence, love is what you’ll find. I hope to sweep you away, to make you laugh and cry in equal measure, but most of all to make it possible for you to escape for a while.Key Points of the Episode:How her extraordinary childhood spiritual experiences now influence her writing.The complex and enthralling (yet hard to plot) storyline of her new book.How we all lose (but can relatively easily regain) our psychic ability.How she was visited by her sister (who was not alive) - seriously!How people many times come round to the idea.Her ghastly book tours!How she came back from the ghastly book tours- and how you need to be a rock star to break America!How she never believed she would have 34 books in her!Her key to a 34 year marriage!www.santamontefiore.co.ukEmail through contact in website Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailFrom the website:My determination to reduce my dementia risk grew out of my personal story.I spent 12 years caring for my mum, who had severe dementia. When she was diagnosed, I was 36 years old with a toddler, new born and a full-time job. My world was turned upside down – not only was I mum, wife, boss, I was now a carer too. What made this even harder to bear was that, as a teenager, I’d watched my mum going through the same thing with her mother. Now, I have two teenage daughters myself and I do everything I can to reduce the chance that they will have to look after me.I started researching everything I could about ageing well. I read a PhD paper, claiming that a healthy lifestyle at 50 reduces the risk of dementia, by up to 90%. This research is controversial – that’s a huge reduction – but at the time it felt like the sun bursting through some very dark clouds. Most importantly, it gave me a sense of purpose: an idea that I could change the way I age.  So I spent years studying scientific data on healthy ageing, Qualifying as a health coach and overhauling my own health. And guess what? I’ve found that as I’ve worked to do all I can to prevent dementia, I feel better than ever right now. And I want to share that with you.Key Points of the episode:How the greatest relationship you can have is with your brain.How to interpret the information without the hype...And how it can be applied to your life (especially as a busy working mum!)How her Mum was diagnosed with dementia at when Susan was 36.How suspected dementia is not always accurate and needs addressing differently.How she helps people with the 6 pillars of brain health.(eg bright coloured and crufiferous veg have been shown to lower dementia risk)...and strength training...How novelty and difficulty are really helpful.www.agewellproject.comhttp://www.susansaundershealth.comSee her 3 books available here.More group coaching coming soon. Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailFrom her website: Anne Sebba HistorianWelcome to 2025! Worries about Covid may have receded but war, brutality and uncertainty are still with us four years on. So it has seemed fitting that I have been researching a new book about a grim subject for grim times… the extraordinary story of the Women’s Orchestra of Auschwitz. It’s about female solidarity and the redemptive power of music as well as survival against the odds and will be published in March 2025 in the UK to commemorate the 80th anniversary of the liberation of the camps. there are various translations planned in the course of 2025 and 2026! watch this space.  2023 was the 70th anniversary of the execution of Ethel Rosenberg, electrocuted for for Conspiracy to Commit Espionage without any evidence against her, and I was very honoured that my biography of Ethel was published in France. Having spent years thinking about one woman in one prison, I am now contemplating the lives of hundreds of women in one of the most appalling prisons in history.  Living in isolation during Covid helped me a little in my understanding of the tragedy which befell Ethel.  But entering imaginatively into the lives of women in Auschwitz is a far harder task and listening to their testimonies (thankfully there are hundreds of these online) does keep me awake at night. I never forget that as the great giant of biography Richard Holmes wrote, self identification with one’s subject is the first crime of the biographer, but it still is a kind of duty to try and help the women who survived as well as those who did not bear witness to what they saw. I tried to tell the story of an era through the story of a woman, Ethel Rosenberg, I shall try and do the same with the current book.Incidentally Ethel has a variety of titles – An American Tragedy in the US Ethel Rosenberg: A Cold War Tragedy in the UK and for the paperback it is called The Short life and Great betrayal of an American wife and mother.My previous book was published on July 14th 2016 – Bastille Day –  Les Parisiennes, about women in Paris from 1939-49, in US, UK, France, Czech Republic, China and other countries. There are stories in it about resisters, collaborators, spies, writers and actresses, couturiers and jewellery designers, housewives, concierges and prostitutes. It won a prize and is being turned into a multi-part screenplay for TV (watch this space!)  I have always been fascinated by French History and the reverberations from this period are still being felt in the country today. Although I loved writing the story of Wallis Simpson (and she even has a cameo role in this book) I wanted to write a book of history this time and move away from biography for a change.For two years of my research I was chair of the Management Committee of Britain’s Society of Authors, a great honour and privilege in  difficult and challenging times for authors as the Society fights for Authors’ rights in a number of areas and is desperately needed. I am now on the SOA Council. But when I am not busy reading or reviewing someone else’s book, I will be concentrating on talking about my books, including Les Parisiennes. As any writer will tell you, you never quite leave your old books behind. New material keeps coming your way and you are constantly re thinking your work!In 2011, I published That Woma Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailWELCOME TO SEASON 3!Sarah Rosemary Vine was born in Swansea, Wales on 16 April 1967.When she was five, the family moved to Italy, initially staying in Rome before moving to Frascati. After graduation, Vine worked in customer services for the retailer Hobbs Ltd. She then worked in a series of jobs within journalism, including TV listings sub at the Daily Mirror and features editor for the magazine Tatler before joining The Times. She was promoted to arts editor at that newspaper.And now, she ia an author and in this podcast you will understand why and perhaps have a shift in perception....Key points of the episode:Her new book, as the ex of Michael Gove, "How not to be a political wife"How being in those circles makes you very much having (if you'll pardon the pun)  -toe the party line.Her "Lady Macbeth" moment....and the fallout of that.What it feels like to have horrible things written about you in the paper.How she feels the need to "have a conversation" with the reader and share who she really is.Her parents, and how they have affected her.Her people pleasing tendencies.How she feels about her upcoming book tour. Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailIn this anonymous episode we talk to "Mary" who shares her experience of coercive control. **TRIGGER WARNING**How coercive control is hard to notice until you are out of it.How it tends to happen slowly.How, 30 years ago, the words "Coercive Control" wew not even in our lexicon.The stages of coercive control and how red flags can be innocently and easily missed.How she hated being married and how it started to go wrong in a year.How it lasted over two and a half decades.When the physical violence kicked in and how to the police at the time it was "just a domestic"The divorce process and avoiding manipulation.Her experience of gaslighting.How materially "on paper" she had everything, but was screaming inside.How she has recently- very very recently found her sensible side.The reasons why people stay - the rationale they use to stay.Her new, free life and what she most desires now.For obvious reasons there are no contact details here.We hope this podcast has helped and inspired you.If you have been affected by anything you have heard here - support and help can be found here:https://www.womensaid.org.uk Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailSince studying at Central Saint Martin’s in the 90s, she has been farming, and planting, and growing, and mothering, but always, at heart, painting.She sees myself as someone who watches, quietly, but also as someone who gets on and does, so I’ve grown multiple biodiverse wildlife corridors around her home in Oxfordshire, and painted magical and challenging moments. She is surrounded by plants at all times, and whenever something takes her eye and moves her, she works with the feeling and paint, using colour to evoke the emotion. Sometimes her work veers towards the abstract, but she always circles back to the use of flowers, as a metaphor for my feeling of the fragility of life;the need to be in the moment.She chooses to make uplifting work which reminds her to be present, to live fully, to be the best she can be, both aesthetically and in her life.She also chooses to express her need for peace, and her determination to be conscious of the way she lives and its impact. Key points of the episode:  How she was a high achiever (and why) and how she nearly drove herself to burnout.Her painting and her thoughts on it. Her time at art school and how she loved it thanks to a wonderful teacher.How there is more love in her art now.How she is in a much better place now.How we should not be dis-eased with ourselves.What has worked for her with trauma releaseHow she had found a way of "getting it all done" without burnout.The connection between farming practices, soil health and gut health.How her workaholism got in the way of her relationships.How she recovered from Burnout and working out how to work without panic  and burnout. Inspired and interested? Reach out:  www.thecoachingbarn.com https://www.youtube.com/@catherineducker  Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailHer therapeutic experienceHer struggles and philosophy on relationships.How she cares much less about how she looksWHIPS- What is that?(not what you think!)Her current interesting and fun philosophy.Reach out to Bibi and see her work here: www.bibilynch.com Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailLindsay Nicholson has worked Editor-in-Chief of Good Housekeeping magazine and is now Editorial Director of the National Magazine Company. Her articles have appeared in many leading newspapers and magazines including the Guardian and the Observer. From her website:It’s natural to fear it - but to be alive is to experience loss. The only way to avoid loss is to die first. (Not recommended!) I am a former magazine editor, now a writer and researcher, who has experienced tragic and painful bereavements, specifically the tragic early deaths of my husband and young daughter. In the course of my life and work I have met many people whose experiences mirror my own and discussed ways of coping with grief with renowned experts. In these posts I will bring you the valuable lessons I have learned and remind you that whatever you are going through, there will come a day when you will smile again. I promise! These posts are currently free so do pass on to anyone in your life who is suffering. Together, we will get through thisInterested? Sign up here: www.lindsaynicholson.substack.comKey points of the episode:  Her family tragedies and following big wake up call and why she changed her lifeHer workaholismA litany of disasters over a 365 day periodHer way of coming back -eventually!Her revelation and wake up moment. (with a pony!)Why we are so much more than "brains in meat suits"Her busy yet much more "embodied"  life nowadays. Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

Send us Fan MailWith 25 years of experience as a Telegraph columnist, chef and food writer Xanthe Clay provides guidance on everything from roasting a Christmas turkey to baking the perfect loaf of bread. As the Telegraph's thrift expert, Xanthe can regularly be found taste-tasting staple supermarket products to find the best value, as well as taking a deep-dive into topical issues such as ultra processed foods, ethical farming and sustainability.How she will eat all things- apart from one!How she learned to cook in the first place……and how some of the family were appalled!Early culinary experiences – was the quality of the food higher?How she became a chefHer fascinating journeyThe foodie explosionHow celebrity chefs affected herHer signature dishA meal that blew her mindHer relationship with food in her lifeDo people have an emotional connection to food? Is it more than just nutrition?If she had to choose only one countries cuisine..Follow her! : www.instagram.com/xantheclay Support the showHas this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more?You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody".....On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/