Sex Chat for Christian Wives

Episode 52: Resources for Great Sex About this episode Today we're talking about resources for your marriage, and specifically about resources to help you enjoy great sex in your marriage. From the Bible What does God have to say about sex? A lot! The Bible says a great deal about marriage and intimacy. Start with the Song of Songs. Resources We mentioned a LOT in this episode—and here are all the links for you! (This list includes affiliate links that earn us a small commission.) Bonny Burns OysterBed7 blog Unlock Your Libido: 52 Week Sex Drive Transformation Virgin Bride Guidebook: Wedding Night Answers Join Christian Wives with Low Sex Drive - Closed Facebook Group Chris Taylor The Forgiven Wife blog First Steps Facebook group (see link for instructions to request group membership) Women in the Middle Facebook group Passion Pursuit study Intimacy Mentoring J. Parker Hot, Holy & Humorous Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples Hot, Holy & Humorous Community (closed Facebook group for husbands and wives) Hot, Holy & Humorous HD group (closed Facebook group for higher-drive wives) Gaye Christmus Calm.Healthy.Sexy blog Passionate Marriage page Guide to Essential Romantic Oils Other Resources We Mentioned Christian Marriage Bloggers Association - Directory Dynamic Marriage 9 Week Course The Gift of Sex - Dr. Cliff and Joyce Penner Awaken Love - Ruth Buezis The Generous Wife Be Fully Well - Dr. Jessica McCleese Intimacy in Marriage Pursuit of Passion: Discovering True Intimacy in Your Marriage - Julie Sibert & Jeff Murphy Love Hope Adventure Intentional Today The Wedding Night: Embracing Sexual Intimacy as New Bride - Ngina Otiende The Good Girls Guide to Great Sex - Sheila Wray Gregoire Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage - Kevin Leman

We'd like to thank today's sponsor: Everpillow by Infinitemoon Disclaimer: We were provided with a free product. If you choose to purchase this product, Sex Chat for Christian Wives podcast will receive a small commission from Infinitemoon. All opinions are honestly given and not coerced. Click on the picture to learn more about this giving company and fabulous pillow. About this episode I'm thinking of a number! Can you guess what it is? I'm thinking of the number 2 because, it takes two baby! And, it's Sex Chat for Christian Wives' 2nd anniversary! Today, we're going to revisit some great information and share some new about: How can you find your sexiness by managing body image issues, stress, and lack of time? What is Female Sexual Response and how do we use it to understand our sex drive for the benefit of the bedroom? How can you find fun with your husband in and out of the bedroom? From the Bible What does God have to say about our sex lives? Here are some of the verses we shared in today's episode: It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. – 1 Corinthians 13:5 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. – 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it; rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and every creature that crawls upon the earth. – Genesis 1:27-28 and When the woman saw that the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eyes, and that it was desirable for obtaining wisdom, she took the fruit and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. – Genesis 3:6. Moral of the story: Sexual intimacy was encouraged by God and had nothing to do with "the fall." Song of Songs The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. – 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 Resources Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband's? – The Forgiven Wife The Macaroni and Cheese Lesson: Stepping Your Toes Outside Your Comfort Zone – The Forgiven Wife 5 Times of Day to Make Love – Hot, Holy & Humorous Are Stress & Fatigue Killing Your Sex Life? – Hot, Holy & Humorous High-Drive Wives Are Not Crockpots – Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Why Did God Make Sex So Hard Sometimes? – Hot, Holy & Humorous Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Why Sex Should Be Hot, Holy, and Humorous – Hot, Holy & Humorous Please visit today's sponsor: Everpillow by Infinitemoon Click on the picture to learn more about this giving company and fabulous pillow. Don't forget to use coupon code SEXCHAT10 for 10% off your order.

Our guest today is Kevin A. Thompson, the lead pastor at Community Bible Church in western Arkansas, speaks at marriage and parenting conferences, and has authored three books, the most recent one titled Happily: 8 Commitments of Couples Who Laugh, Love & Last. In Happily, you start by talking about how we tend to think happy or unhappy marriages are a product of luck or unspoken rules like marrying the right person. We've also heard this with the idea of sexual compatibility. What do y'all think about that idea? You have eight commitments outlined in Happily, but one stuck out to me in particular about how we can misuse apathy and aggression in marriage. How do spouses misuse apathy and aggression when dealing with sex in their marriage? Kevin, you've been bold on your blog about how women should be treated with respect, speaking for #MeToo and other issues. We've also talked about that here. But how can wives get husbands to understand their experiences with harassment and abuse without seeming like we're man-bashing? You're a pastor, and while you can't speak for all the others, we get this question sometimes and wonder how you'd answer: Why don't pastors preach and teach more about sex? What if a wife is experiencing sexual issues in her marriage? How should she approach her male pastor, and what safeguards should be in place? Kevin A. Thompson's book is Happily: 8 Commitments of Couples Who Laugh, Love & Last, and check out his previous marriage book, Friends, Partners, and Lovers and his blog. Our Sponsor CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS RIDICULOUSLY COMFORTABLE PILLOW. Resources Want help talking about sex in your marriage? Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker. Priced at $2.99 for the ebook only through Valentine's Day! Also check out Intimacy Mentoring from Chris Taylor. Let's Make This Abundantly Clear – Kevin A. Thompson How Football Can Protect Women – Kevin A. Thompson What a Drunk Girl Deserves – Kevin A. Thompson This is how women feel about walking alone at night in their own neighborhoods – Washington Post This List Shows All the Things Women Do to Protect Themselves on a Daily Basis — & We're Exhausted – Cafe Mom Will Your Pastor Preach on Sex? (with a sermon from Kevin) – Hot, Holy & Humorous A Message to Your Pastor (and Mine) – Hot, Holy & Humorous Never Call A Pastor for Premarital Counseling – Kevin A. Thompson What Men and Women Don't Know About Sex – Kevin A. Thompson From the Bible "Jesus said: 'Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.'" – Matthew 5:3-10 "Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. " – Titus 2:3-5 Our Website http://forchristianwives.com

Today, we're talking about creating a new year for intimacy in your marriage. Although we're already a few weeks into 2019, there's still plenty of time to make a plan for growing closer to your husband, strengthening your marriage, and enjoying sex and intimacy this year. There are lots of different ways to approach change in general. How do you approach making changes in your life? What changes do you plan to make this year, either in your marriage or in other areas of your life? What's your best recommendation to a listener who wants to improve sex and intimacy in her marriage this year, but isn't sure where to begin? Sponsor: InfiniteMoon Everpillow Coupon Code: SexChat10 for 10% off InfiniteMoon Resources "Eden" – Online Etymology Dictionary Goals to Grow Your Sexual Interest – Bonny's OysterBed7 What's Your Middle Name? – Bonny's OysterBed7 Pillow Talk by J. Parker (great book for the New Year!) 9 Things to Do This Week to Get Ready for a Healthy New Year - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 12 Strategies for a CalmHealthySexy New Year – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. How to Feel Sexy This Year – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Baby Steps for Moving Forward – The Forgiven Wife One Step Forward – The Forgiven Wife From the Bible "See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland." – Isaiah 43:19 Visit our website at https://forchristianwives.com.

Dr. Juli Slattery, president of Authentic Intimacy, joins us for this episode. Her most recent book, Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters, challenges us to think about sexuality in new ways. We talk with Juli about sexual brokenness, why the enemy likes to attack our sexuality, and how we can pray about our sex lives (even during sex!). From the Bible What does God have to say about brokenness and how we can fight the enemy's attacks on us (even in the area of sexuality)? And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28 But the Lord is faithful, and he will strengthen you and protect you from the evil one. 2 Thessalonians 3:3 Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. James 4:7 Resources 25 Reasons God Made Sex Really Good - Bonny's Oysterbed7 Sexual Invocation - The Forgiven Wife Passion Pursuit - Authentic Intimacy Resources Passion Pursuit study hosted by The Forgiven Wife Shekhinah Glory Links to Our Sponsors J. Parker, Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples at Amazon, Barnes & Noble/Nook, Apple/iBooks, and Kobo Chris Taylor, Intimacy Mentoring or Intimacy Encouragement

Today on the podcast we're talking about lingerie. What is lingerie anyway? That term covers both what we wear under our clothes and to bed. Or even just for a few moments before the outfit is summarily tossed onto the floor to make way for other activities in the bedroom. What do you think of lingerie, and have your opinions or practices changed throughout the years? How might our choice of lingerie impact our sexual intimacy? We often hear how husbands want to see their wives in sexy lingerie, but what if he doesn't care? What should a wife do then? Getting practical, how should wives shop for lingerie? What tips do you have? Do y'all have anything biblical to add to this topic of lingerie? Peace. Love. Joy. - 75 Simple Ways to Take Care of Your Health, Happiness, and Marriage this Holiday Season Resources Where to Shop for Lingerie – Hot, Holy & Humorous "Getting Ready for Sex," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design The 7-Day Lingerie Experiment – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 7 Ways to Make the Most of Your Lingerie – The Forgiven Wife Torrid Plus-Size Lingerie Honoring Intimates Marriage Spice Website forchristianwives.com

In this episode, we answer listeners' questions about struggling to initiate sex, catching your husband ogling another woman, having an orgasm during intercourse, and filming yourselves having sex. Be sure to check out our show notes at forchristianwives.com for links to helpful resources!

About this episode Merriam-Webster defines foreplay as "erotic stimulation preceding sexual intercourse." But what is erotic stimulation? And why is it important for the sexual intimacy in a marriage? How do men and women tend to think about foreplay differently? What does that word mean to husbands? What does it mean to wives? What actually constitutes foreplay? Why is foreplay important for a married couple? How can wives talk about their foreplay desires with their husbands? Is foreplay in the Bible? From the Bible What does God have to say about foreplay? Song of Songs – the whole book! "May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love" (Proverbs 5:18-19). Resources Rube Goldberg machine Freshen Up Your Foreplay – Hot, Holy & Humorous Newsflash, Hubbies! She Loves Foreplay. – Hot, Holy & Humorous The F-Word I Don't Like: A Rant – The Forgiven Wife Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband's? – The Forgiven Wife Ultimate Intimacy app Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker Visit our post for this episode.

About this episode It's been a while since the four of us had young kids, but today we're hosting special guest Keelie Reason, marriage and sex blogger at Love Hope Adventure, on the topic of making love when you still have kids in the house. How did you feel about having sex while your kids were in the house? Why do you not feel self-conscious? What would you say to someone who is self-conscious? How do you handle being interrupted? From the Bible What does God have to say about having sex when kids are in the house? "Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won't be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control" (1 Corinthians 7:5, NIV). Resources Lock the Door, for Heaven's Sake! by Hot, Holy & Humorous Young Kids Can Kill Your Sex Life…If You Let Them by Hot, Holy & Humorous Yes, Kid, Your Mommy and Daddy Have Sex by Hot, Holy & Humorous Making Love When You Have Teens in the Home by Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Avoiding Sex Because the Kids Can Hear by Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Times You Teach Holy and Healthy Sex to Your Kids by Hot, Holy & Humorous Does Parenting Get in the Way of Your Marriage? by The Forgiven Wife The Joy of Earbuds by The Forgiven Wife What Will the Kids Think? by The Forgiven Wife What If My Kids Hear Me Having Sex? by Keelie Reason (video) 4 Reasons to Add a Regular "Parents' Night" to Your Family's Schedule by CalmHealthySexy 4 Steps to Scheduling a Regular "Parents' Night" by CalmHealthySexy More show notes can be found here.

For many Christian wives, one of the biggest battles they face is with their own past. What we've learned, experienced, and done can affect the marriage bed for years. In this episode, we're going to talk about dealing with our sexual baggage. We are joined by Shannon Ethridge, best-selling author, speaker, and life coach. She has helped so many women overcome their sexual and emotional baggage in her own work. In this episode, she will join us to talk about dealing with our baggage. Learn more about Shannon at http://www.shannonethridge.com/.