Sex Chat for Christian Wives

We're addressing the topic of how we talk with our husbands to create a sexier and more intimate atmosphere for the bedroom. What defines "sexy talk"? What does that look like? As Christians, what kind of sexy talk is okay or not okay? How can we incorporate sexy talk into our repertoire? What are some specific ideas to get started or rev things up? Does the Bible have more to say about sexy talk? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More about Lorals This episode was also sponsored in part by the Honeycomb & Spice Community. Click Here to Check Out Honeycomb & Spice From the Bible My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. Song of Songs 2:14 Resources Talking Flirty vs. Talking Dirty – Hot, Holy & HumorousSay What? Sexy Talk in the Bedroom – The Forgiven Wife Flirt with Your Husband (12 SFW Text Messages) – OysterBed715 Flirty, Corny, Steamy SFW Texts For Valentine's Day – OysterBed7 Say the Magic Word! – OysterBed7 How to use Apple iPhone's Invisible Ink Bitmoji Webinars: https://forchristianwives.com/2019-webinar-series/

Episode 61: Listener Questions About This Episode Today, we are answering some of your questions! How do I practically and emotionally manage the messiness of love making? How do I talk to my husband about his premature ejaculation? Is it normal to feel self conscious about the way my vulva looks? Sponsor: Everpillow by Infinitemoon Use SEXCHAT10 in your cart for 10% off Click here to learn more about Everpillow This episode was also sponsored in part by Pillow Talk, by J. Parker. Click here to learn more about Pillow Talk From the Bible I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. Proverbs 5:18-19 Resources Wall of white vulva – Huffington Post article Enjoying Your Husband's Semen – The Forgiven Wife A Wife's Breasts Have History! – The Forgiven Wife (guest post by a man) Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy without Hormones – The Forgiven Wife Episode 14: Guy Talk – A Wife's Beauty Episode 58: Orgasm The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment – Clifford Penner and Joyce J. Penner 2019 Webinar Series Webinar teaser on YouTube Why Are You Leaking After Sex? – Hot, Holy & Humorous Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples – J. Parker

Episode 60: Vacation Sex Today we're talking about vacation sex. We're recording this episode at the beginning of summer, a time when many couples and families take a vacation. But, whether you're planning a vacation or not this year (or if you're listening at another time of year), this episode is for you too. Because we're going to take a broad view of the term "vacation sex," and look at ways to enjoy it any time of the year, without having to travel or spend a lot of money. We talk about why some women find it easier to enjoy sex on vacation, while others find it to be harder. And we explore ways to extend the definition of "vacation," so that it doesn't always require a lot of time and money. Finally, we look at ways to slow down and make summer less stressful and more enjoyable, whether you take a "vacation" or not. Sponsor: Everpillow by Infinitemoon Use SEXCHAT10 in your cart for 10% off Click here to learn more about Everpillow This episode was also sponsored in part by Married Dance, a discreet store where married Christians can shop for marital aids. Visit Married Dance From the Bible Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages. Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love. - Song of Songs 7:11-12 Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, "Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest." - Mark 6:31 Resources How to Have Vacation Sex - Even if You're Not on Vacation - CalmHealthySexy 9 Ways to Relax and Enjoy the Summer - CalmHealthySexy How to Enjoy Your Summer Vacation - CalmHealthySexy Travel and Sex - Bonny's OysterBed7 Vacationing with Hubby: How to Make It Better - Hot, Holy & Humorous

Episode 59: Myths We Learned from Pop Culture About this episode Where did you learn about sex? Was it from your church? From your parents? From your friends? No matter how much true and good sex-positive teaching we had, most of us learned a lot about sex from popular culture, too. Movies, television shows, and popular music often communicate messages about sex that are more myth than they are truth. In this episode, we talk about some of those myths--and we'll look at the truths that should replace those myths. Sponsors Use coupon code SEXCHAT10 for 10% off. This episode was also sponsored in part by Married Dance, a discreet store where married Christians can shop for marital aids. Visit Married Dance From the Bible What does God have to say about marriage and sex, women's sexuality, and men's sexuality? Song of Songs So I commend the enjoyment of life, because there is nothing better for a person under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then joy will accompany them in their toil all the days of the life God has given them under the sun. – Ecclesiastes 8:15 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. – Proverbs 5:18-19 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. – Genesis 2:24 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. – Ephesians 5:31-33 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. – 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. – Proverbs 5:15-17 "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. – Matthew 5:27-28 They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts. Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, and they are full of greed. – Ephesians 4:18-19 Resources Are Romance Novels Okay for Christian Women? – The Forgiven Wife What Is Lusting? – Hot, Holy & Humorous If I Wrote the Sex Scenes – Hot, Holy & Humorous Have Stories Damaged Your View of Sex? – Hot, Holy & Humorous Webinar Series Click to learn more about our upcoming webinars.

About the Episode It may be the pinnacle of pleasure, but lots of women still have questions about orgasm. Julie Sibert from Intimacy in Marriage joins us as we answer many of the orgasm questions we get from our listeners and readers. Let's start with the basics. What is an orgasm? Why is orgasm important? That is, what's the big deal? Should a wife expect or want to achieve orgasm every time she and her husband make love? A lot of women struggle to reach orgasm. What advice can we give them? This last question is kind of like a lightning round. I'm gonna throw out some things we get asked about regarding orgasm, and let's see how many of them we can quickly cover: multiples, simultaneous orgasm, female ejaculation, clitoral vs vaginal orgasms, G-spot orgasm. Sponsors Use coupon code SEXCHAT10 for 10% off. Click to Learn More about EverPillow Honeycomb & Spice Community From the Bible What does God have to say about orgasms? As we say in the episode, He gave women a clitoris--and its only purpose is pleasure! Resources Peace and Fireworks – The Forgiven Wife Forget What You Look Like While Making Love – Hot, Holy & Humorous The F-Word I Don't Like: A Rant – The Forgiven Wife These 3 Actions Could Bring You to Orgasm Birth Control and Libido – Bonny's OysterBed7 DHEA Can Help Vaginal Dryness – Bonny's OysterBed7 Episode 9: Listener Questions (includes question about multiple orgasms) Female Ejaculation: Is It Real? – Hot, Holy & Humorous A Different Kind of Sexual Wetness: Candid Discussion about Female Ejaculation Intimacy in Marriage Bonny Logsdon Burns on Amazon Author Central (follow her to get a heads-up when her Unlock Your Orgasm resource releases) Intimacy in Marriage – The Orgasm Page Better Sex in Your Marriage

About the Episode We tackle listener questions about gifts for a virgin bride, sex positions, and predicting sex drive. My friend is getting married this year, and she is a virgin. What kind of gifts would you recommend to help her have a more comfortable transition into losing her virginity, and loving sex? My husband and I are newly married and I feel like we repeat the same three positions and we have discussed getting a book to figure out new positions! I'm getting married in a few weeks. Is there any way to know before you're married if you generally have a high or low sex drive? Or is that something that you only know after marriage? Sponsor From the Bible How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much more pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume more than any spice! Song of Songs 4:11 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9 Resources Virgin Bride Guidebook: Wedding Night Answers, Bonny Logsdon Burns What to Pack for Your Honeymoon or Vacation – Hot, Holy & Humorous Sliquid Lubricant Sample PacksNoxzema Bikini Razors (Walmart site, but available other places) Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design, J. Parker Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage, J. Parker Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples, J. Parker "Considering Sexual Positions," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design, J. Parker Sex Position Cards, by Christian Friendly Sex Positions Guy Talk: Men's Sexuality – Sex Chat for Christian Wives Women's Sexual Response – Sex Chat for Christian Wives Our Website forchristianwives.com

Episode 56: Christian Sex Therapy, with Dr. Jessica McCleese About this episode Have you ever wondered what happens in sex therapy–especially Christian sex therapy? Listen in while Bonny talks with Christian sex therapist Jessica McCleese about what happens in the first session, treatment for pain during intercourse, sexuality and faith, and how much therapy is enough. Sponsor Click Here to Learn More From the Bible What does God have to say? Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Philippians 4:6 For lack of guidance a nation falls, but victory is won through many advisers. Proverbs 11:14 Resources Be Fully Well Dr. Jessica McCleese YouTube channel When It Hurts: Maintaining Sexual Intimacy While Dealing with Pain – The Forgiven Wife Maintaining Sexual Intimacy When Sex isn't Possible – Messy Marriage

Today, we discuss romance. Is it overrated? 1. What is the definition of romance to you? 2. How does romance change over time? 3. How do you communicate with each other about romance? Sponsor From the Bible What does God have to say about romance? He Like a lily among thorns is my darling among the young women.She Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest is my beloved among the young men. Song of Songs 2:2-3a And the rest of Song of Songs... Resources Why Knowing Your Low Drive Wife's Love Language Is Important – OysterBed7 Romance Infused with the Gospel – Debi Walter at Hot, Holy & Humorous August Is Romance Awareness Month – Hot, Holy & Humorous Common Myths of Romance Novels – Hot, Holy & Humorous A Romance Book You Can Read – Hot, Holy & Humorous Once in a While, Your Husband Needs a Girlfriend – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Are Romance Novels Okay for Christian Women? – The Forgiven Wife Romance His Socks Off! – The Forgiven Wife The Magic Relationship Ratio, According to Science – The Gottman Institute Love Language Profile for Couples (quiz) – The 5 Love Languages Visit Our Website: For Christian Wives

Today we're talking about the challenge of interruptions, what form they take, and what to do about them so you can still have and enjoy sexual intimacy in your marriage. What are some common interruptions couples face? Why do interruptions make it especially difficult for women to refocus on sexual intimacy? Do you have a story of being interrupted during sex and how you handled it? How can we minimize interruptions? How can we deal with interruptions that happen no matter what? Sponsor Get all 220+ sex position illustrations in playing card format! These sex position cards are an excellent tool for discovering new sex poses that can be added to your lovemaking repertoire. Regular $15. Now only $9.99! Click HERE to learn more. From the Bible Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. – James 1:2-5 And the two will become one flesh.' So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. – Mark 10:8-9 Resources My Many Mental Browser Tabs - Forgiven Wife Get Off Our Marriage Bed, Fido! - Hot, Holy & Humorous Lock the Door, For Heaven's Sake! - Hot, Holy & Humorous Making Love When You Have Teens in the Home - Hot, Holy & Humorous Bedroom Soundtracks - OysterBed7 Behind Closed Doors: Five Marriage Stories by J. Parker GoFundMe CLICK HERE TO DONATE OR LEARN MORE We live in different states and want to come together under one roof to develop material, plan future endeavors (including webinars), and record while actually being in the same room. Our aim is to develop material that will point you toward a more holy marriage bed and a deeper personal commitment to the Lord. Please consider helping us fund the cost of transportation and food for J, Chris, and Gaye as they travel to Bonny's house in east TN. Currently, any money we make from sponsors helps pay for the cost of podcast and website hosting. We will be incredibly grateful for your donation, whether $5 or $500. Thank you, faithful listeners. We wouldn't be here without you.

About this episode We're answering your questions today! Is it okay for me to feel hurt that my husband masturbates during my period? Where can I find a Christian counselor? Should I initiate sex even when neither of us is in the mood because I want us to be sexually active more frequently? Should I tell my husband if I had sex before marriage? This episode was sponsored by Scott Means from Heaven Made Marriage. Use the promo code PASSION 25 at the Heaven Made Marriage Store for 25% off (good through March 2019). The book can also be purchase from Amazon. From the Bible Proverbs 5:19 - A loving doe, a graceful deer-- may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. Resources Lay Christian Counseling and Client Expectations for Integration in Therapy - Types of Lay Christian Counseling and their methodology The F-Word I Don't Like: A Rant - The Forgiven Wife American Association of Christian Counselors Board of Christian Sex Therapists Stephen Ministries Focus on the Family counselor database Psychology Today database Episode 6: Women's Sexual Response Episode 17: Body Image