Sex Chat for Christian Wives

It's hard to believe, but today we're going to start talking about the holidays. By the time we publish this episode, most of us will have started thinking about the upcoming holiday season. What does that have to do with sex? Just this—the six or seven weeks from mid-November until New Year's Day are some of the busiest and most stressful of the year for women. And we know from previous episodes (and you likely know from your own experience) that stress can mess with your libido and your sex life. So, we want to talk a little bit about stress and sex, but then mostly about ways to reduce holiday stress and enjoy fun sex and intimacy with your husband during the busy holiday season. Sponsor Use code FCWlipbalm to get free lip balm (J's favorite lip balm ever!) when you buy massage oil. Click here to shop now! From the Bible For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. Isaiah 9:6 Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. Colossians 3:2 Resources Peace. Love. Joy. 75 Simple Ways to Take Care of Your Health, Happiness, and Marriage this Holiday Season (use code FRIEND25 at checkout to save 25%) 25 Ways to Have Fun with Your Spouse During the Holidays - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 5 Ways to Take the Crazy Out of Christmas this Year - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Are Stress & Fatigue Killing Your Sex Life? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Does Your Sex Drive Take a Dive in the Holiday Season? - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Ways to Make the Holidays Good for Your Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous Is Seasonal Depression Impacting Your Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Fully Decorated Pre-Lit 6 Foot Pop-Up Christmas Tree (not the one J has but similar) In case you're curious, Buc-ee's holds the World Record for Largest Convenience Store My Gift to You: Christmas Intimacy Playlist - Hot, Holy & Humorous Santa Baby Bedroom Soundtrack Playlist • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

About this episode We hear from many wives who say they struggle with giving oral sex. In episode 42, we looked at the big picture of oral sex and discussed what God has to say, health concerns, and how a couple can work through their disagreement about oral sex. This episode is for wives who are ready to start giving their husbands oral sex or who want to get even better at it. We're going to get into some specifics here. So, friends, pull yourself up close to our virtual kitchen table and listen up. Sponsors Click the image to visit Share the Soap and learn more about goat milk products with aromatherapy. This episode was also sponsored in part by our Webinar Series. Visit our store to learn more. From the Bible Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest is my beloved among the young men. I delight to sit in his shade, and his fruit is sweet to my taste. Song of Songs 2:3 Resources Is Giving a "Blow Job" Enjoyable for the Wife? - Hot, Holy & Humorous (hotholyhumorous.com) 5 Things You Should Know about Oral Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous Get to Know His Penis | The Forgiven Wife Fresh Balls Lotion| Men's Anti-Chafing Soothing Cream to Powder - Ball Deodorant and Hygiene for Groin Area MANSCAPED® The Crop Preserver, Anti-Chafing Men's Ball Deodorant, Male Care Hygiene Moisturizer Episode 10: Tending Your Garden Q&A with J: What about "Manscaping"? - Hot, Holy & Humorous MANSCAPED® Electric Groin Hair Trimmer, The Lawn Mower™ Trustex Flavored Latex Oral Sex Condoms | Christian sex toy store | MarriedDance Sliquid Naturals Swirl Edible Lube | Christian sex toy store | MarriedDance JO H2O Flavored Lube - Strawberry & Many Others Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker (full chapter on Oral Sex) Oral Sex Webinar Oral Sex: Learning to Bless and Learning to Be Blessed | The Forgiven Wife Do I Have To? | The Forgiven Wife

For many, sexuality and sexual experience are compartmentalized away from God. Today, we want to invite you to sit with us as we discuss how God is interwoven throughout every area of our lives, including (and most importantly for this podcast) our sexual intimacy with our husbands. Sponsor VISIT THE STORE TO LEARN MORE! From the Bible Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me. Psalm 23:4 (NASB) But now, this is what the Lord says— he who created you, Jacob, he who formed you, Israel: "Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. Since you are precious and honored in my sight, and because I love you, I will give people in exchange for you, nations in exchange for your life. Isaiah 43:1-2,4 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 9:6-11 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me. Psalm 51:10 (ESV) But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Galatians 5:22-23 Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast. Psalm 139:7-10 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 1 John 4:16 Resources Episode 30: Lies Women Believe, Part 2 - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 43: Dealing with Sexual Baggage Is It Okay to Yell at God about Your Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Prayer for Your Sexual Intimacy - Hot, Holy & Humorous Praying Before, During, and After Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 117: Prayer and Sex "In Bed" (or Lessons from a Fortune Cookie) - The Forgiven Wife Sexual Invocation – My Journey Toward Sexual Wholeness #3 - The Forgiven Wife Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage by J. Parker Visit our website: forchristianwives.com Check out our value-priced webinars: Shop! - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Individual Websites Calm.Healthy.Sexy. - Gaye Christmus Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker Strong Wives - Bonny Burns

Sexual arousal describes physiological and psychological preparation for a sexual encounter and intercourse. Today, we talk about what it feels like, what gets in the way, and how to enhance your sexual arousal. Sponsor CLICK HERE TO BUY OR LEARN MORE! From the Bible Let him lead me to the banquet hall, and let his banner over me be love. Strengthen me with raisins, refresh me with apples, for I am faint with love. His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me. Song of Songs 2:4-6 Resources Sex Chat for Christian Wives - webinars Episode 1: Getting in the Mood Episode 33: Getting in the Mood 2 Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband's? | The Forgiven Wife You're Not Kissing Enough - Hot, Holy & Humorous An Embarrassing Post about Female Sexual Dysfunction | The Forgiven Wife Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy Without Hormones | The Forgiven Wife Mindfulness & Meditation During Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous 5 Ways to Talk About Sex with Your Husband (calmhealthysexy.com) 2019 Webinar Series 2020 Webinar Series Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

Today, Bonny and Gaye share fresh ways of thinking about changes you want to make in your sex life and offer practical tips for taking small, positive steps in that direction. Sponsor CLICK HERE TO BUY OR LEARN MORE! Also sponsored by Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples! From the Bible Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8 Song of Solomon: Solomon's Song of Songs - Bible Gateway Resources Embrace Uncertainty - The Healthy Life Toolbox Overcome Resistance - The Healthy Life Toolbox Focus on Action - The Healthy Life Toolbox The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles by Steven Pressfield Resolution Week: "And Now for Something Completely Different..." - Hot, Holy & Humorous Two Words That Could Change the Course of Sex in Your Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

There are a lot of resources about sex now, some great and some terrible. But often, resources have some important truths, some debatable points, and some myths. Today we want to talk about what really matters—the foundational points we want wives to know about sex. From the Bible What does God have to say about sex? But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. – Galatians 5:22-23 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a Resources Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 3 Words that Can Transform Your Sex Life - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. The #1 Myth Christian Women Learned about Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband's? - The Forgiven Wife Episode 41: 4 Truths About Sex Husbands Should Know - Knowing Her Sexually How to Read a Marriage Book | Hot, Holy & Humorous Must a Better Friendship Come Before Better Sex? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Healthy Life Toolbox series - Calm.Healthy. Sexy. 3 Ways a Vibrator Can Help Marital Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife Q&A with J: "Is It Okay to Use Sex Toys?" | Hot, Holy & Humorous Is Anal Sex Okay? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Has the Mainstream Embraced BDSM? Should You? | Hot, Holy & Humorous Solo Masturbation? - The Forgiven Wife Setting Boundaries in the Bedroom | Hot, Holy & Humorous Finding Friends to Support Your Marital Intimacy | Hot, Holy & Humorous 10 Tips for Talking to Your Husband About Sexual Intimacy - Hot, Holy & Humorous God, Sex & Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Sponsor Click to buy or learn more Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

About this episode We understand the struggle wives often have with their body image and how it affects their sexuality. Today we want to revisit this topic to discuss how we can finally embrace our bodies and get comfortable being naked with our husbands. Why is having a positive body image such a challenge for women? What can we do to combat messages that make us feel worse about ourselves? Do we have any responsibility to take care of our bodies? Despite how we feel about ourselves, most husbands find their wives beautiful. But what about the wife whose husband criticizes her appearance? What advice from your own journey would you give to help a wife embrace a positive body image? rom the Bible What does God have to say about body image? For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:13-14 Resources Body Image Got You Down? - The Forgiven Wife Body by God - The Forgiven Wife| He Can't Really Be Happy with My Body - J's guest post on The Forgiven Wife Enjoy a Plus-Sized Sex Life - Honeycomb & Spice 5 Ways to Feel More Attractive – Beauty and Confidence for Real Women - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. My Husband's Big Belly Turns Me Off. Am I Shallow? - Bonny's OysterBed7

About this episode Today we're talking about something that most women are thinking about at this time of year — taking better care of our health. If you're like us, you're probably thinking about getting in shape, eating a healthier diet, getting more sleep, or losing some weight over the next few months. And your reasons, like ours, are probably pretty straightforward — you want to look better. You want to feel better. You want to have more energy. And you want to avoid getting sick. But there's a bonus reason for taking care of your health that you may not know about — improving your sex life. So let's talk about some of the ways that good health can lead to better sex and intimacy in your marriage. From the Bible What does God have to say about this? "Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies," 1 Corinthians 6:19-20. Resources Episode 7: Exercise and Sex, Sex Chat for Christian Wives Praying for Sexual Health, Hot, Holy & Humorous Is Your Sex Life Getting Enough Sleep?, Hot, Holy & Humorous 4 Ways that Exercise Can Improve Your Health - and Your Sex Life, CalmHealthySexy 9 Things to Do to Get Ready for a Healthy New Year, CalmHealthySexy Healthy Living for Busy Women, CalmHealthySexy A Healthy Weight is not a Skinny Weight, Bonny's OysterBed7 Help for Vaginal Dryness, Bonny's OysterBed7 Sleepin' Is Sexy, Bonny's OysterBed7 A Reminder to Breathe, The Forgiven Wife Sponsor

Today we're talking about higher desire wives. But whether your sexual interest is higher or lower than your husband, you'll benefit from our conversation. Sponsor Learn more HERE. From the Bible What does God have to say about higher desire wives? "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife" (1 Corinthians 7:3-4). "Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion" (1 Corinthians 7:8-9). "Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love" (Song of Songs 7:12). "All night long on my bed I looked for the one my heart loves; I looked for him but did not find him. I will get up now and go about the city, through its streets and squares; I will search for the one my heart loves" (Song of Songs 3:1-2). Resources Episode 59: Myths We Learned from Pop Culture "Dealing with a Low-Desire Husband," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design, J. Parker 5 Truths for High-Drive Wives – Hot, Holy & Humorous I Love My High Sex-Drive Sisters – OysterBed7 Q&A with J: When It Comes to Sex, My Husband Says I'm "Too Much" – Hot, Holy & Humorous A Prayer for Higher-Drive Wives – Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: What If Hubby Is Passive in the Bedroom – Hot, Holy & Humorous High-Drive Wives Are Not Crockpots – Hot, Holy & Humorous A Letter to the Low-Drive Husband – Hot, Holy & Humorous Get Off Your Screen & Have Sex with Your Wife - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Should A Higher Drive Spouse Lower Their Expectations? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Webinar Replays: Understanding Your Sex Drive and Foreplay J's Subscription Community for HDWs FREE 30-day trial! Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

We've talked a lot on this podcast about being able to discuss sex with your husband. And even have "more than one conversation," which is Gaye's trademark advice. But today, we want to walk through the specifics. Whether it's actually for small changes, an overhaul of your sex life, or something in between, how can you talk to your husband about sex? Sponsor Get your copy of Pillow Talk today! From the Bible Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones. Proverbs 16:24 My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. Song of Songs 2:14 Resources How to Talk about Sexual Problems with Your Spouse - Hot, Holy & Humorous Wives, Your Voice Matters (in the Bedroom & Beyond) - Hot, Holy & Humorous 2020 Webinar Series 2019 Webinar Series Orgasm Webinar Submission Doesn't Mean Putting Up with Sexual Misbehavior - Hot, Holy & Humorous You Are Not Your Husband's Sex Toy - Hot, Holy & Humorous Launching the Conversation About Sex in Your Marriage (with Downloadable Sample Chapter of Pillow Talk) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Husbands - How to Help Your Wife Feel Sexy Again - CalmHealthySexy How to Talk to Your Husband about Sex - CalmHealthySexy Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices That Make or Break Loving Relationships by Drs. Cloud/Townsend Faithful Counseling (now Better Help) - affiliate link The Feeling Wheel - Couples - The Gottman Institute Visit our website: forchristianwives.com