Sex Chat for Christian Wives

While some Christian leaders and churches address the topic of sex well, too many either mishandle it or ignore it altogether. We here at the virtual kitchen table have heard the stories, good and bad. And we're bringing our collective wisdom today to share what we wish more churches knew about sex and how to encourage church leaders to talk more biblically, authentically, and respectfully about it. Sponsor SHARE THE SOAP: Its purpose is to provide you with the essentials you need in a way that lavishes your skin, fills your senses and lifts your mood so that you are free to share the gifts and talents you've been blessed with. Visit Share the Soap HERE. From the Bible Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly. James 3:1 (A heavy verse for all of us who dare to instruct others publicly. May God give us wisdom.) Resources Episode 50: Happily, with Kevin A. Thompson Will Your Pastor Preach on Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous (with a sermon on sex from Kevin A. Thompson) A Message to Your Pastor (and Mine) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 118: Sex Is for You Too Authentic Intimacy - Resources for Leaders One Way Churches Could Really Help Marriages - Hot, Holy & Humorous (hotholyhumorous.com) Invite J to Speak! - Hot, Holy & Humorous Sexual Clarity for Christian Women Course w/Bonny • Strong Wives Intimacy Mentoring w/Chris Taylor - Honeycomb & Spice Why Abuse in the Church Makes Me Crazy - Hot, Holy & Humorous Samson Society Episode 22:: Sexual Harassment #ustoo Episode 64: Healing from Sexual Abuse, with Mary DeMuth Note: All women who shared quotes and scenarios with Bonny gave her permission to share them on this podcast. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

In this episode, we tackle listener questions, including where Christian wives can find sex tips and techniques, fantasizing during lovemaking, when it's okay to refuse sex, and how to grab hold of an elusive orgasm. Sponsor J. Parker is hosting an online conference for higher desire wives! It's coming up on April 29, 2023 and features six speakers addressing our common-yet-challenging situation. You can attend live, part-live and part-recorded, or all recorded on your own time. But REGISTER TODAY to get the $49 pre-event price! Learn More about Desire Con 2023 From the Bible Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers. Hebrews 13:4 (NASB) Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. 1 Corinthians 7:3-6 (NKJV) - but see the definition and examples for deprivation HERE Resources 75 Ideas for Spicing Up Your Sex Life - Honeycomb & Spice How To Tips - Hot, Holy & Humorous Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design by J. Parker 2019-2020 Webinar Bundle Foreplay – Webinar Getting in the Mood Webinar Oral Sex Webinar 280+ Illustrated Sex Positions | Christian Friendly Sex Positions Packing the Suitcase Sex Position - Christian-friendly Sex Positions Dragonfly Sex Position - Christian-friendly Sex Positions Games & Sex Dice for Couples - Married Dance Online Store 3 Benefits to Playing a Bedroom Game - Hot, Holy & Humorous How to Fantasize About Your Spouse - Hot, Holy & Humorous How to Get Rid of a Fantasy You Don't Want | The Forgiven Wife Mindfulness & Meditation During Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous What Is Emotional Safety? (and What Does It Have to Do with Sex?) - Knowing Her Sexually Episode 132: The Orgasm Iceberg Sex Positions with Clitoral Stimulation - Christian-friendly Sex Positions 6 Steps to Learn to Orgasm with Your Husband - Honeycomb & Spice Forget What You Look Like While Making Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens by Bonny Logsdon Burns Orgasm Webinar Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

We're back at the virtual kitchen table, and today we're talking about our bodies. That is, women's bodies—what real women look like, how we view our bodies, and how we can care for and embrace those bodies that we bring into the marital bedroom. SPONSOR Share the Soap - natural skin care, aromatherapy, and more! Also, the Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise. FROM THE BIBLE For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Psalm 139:13-15 RESOURCES 11 Ways to Love Your Body - CalmHealthySexy Beauty and Confidence for Real Women - CalmHealthySexy 5 Ways to Feel Confident and Look Great - CalmHealthySexy A Wife's Breasts Have History! | The Forgiven Wife Episode 10: Tending Your Garden Episode 149: Your Body, Your Health, and Your Sex Life 5 Reasons to Embrace the Body You Have - Hot, Holy & Humorous Feel Beautiful Series Archives - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 91: How to Feel More Sensual Dove Real Beauty Sketches | You're more beautiful than you think Toxic Influence: A Dove Film | Dove Self-Esteem Project Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

Today we're talking about your health and health habits and the ways they can affect your sex live. As you know, we're not medical professionals, so we won't be talking about specific health conditions or medical advice. Instead, we'll focus on the kinds of healthy habits that almost every woman can establish in her life and the ways that those habits might affect her body and sex life. Sponsor Hot, Holy & Humorous Couples' Cruise - October 14–21, 2023 Cruise, connect, and cultivate better intimacy! Click here to learn more. From the Bible "Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well." 3 John 2:1 Resources 15 benefits of drinking water and other water facts (medicalnewstoday.com) 5 Healthy Eating Tips for Women - Healthy Life Toolbox A Simple Way to Improve Your Diet - CalmHealthySexy The Busy Woman's Guide to Making Time for Exercise (use code FRIEND25 at checkout to save 25%) Quick. Healthy. Delicious. Simple Meal Solutions for Busy Moms and Hungry Families (use code FRIEND25 at checkout to save 25%) 32 oz. Motivational Water Bottle - Amazon 32 oz. Mermaid Water Bottle - Amazon (J loves this one!) Toolkit for Sleep - Huberman Lab Tools for Making Healthy Changes in Your Life - Healthy Life Toolbox The New Way to Get More Exercise - Healthy Life Toolbox 8 Ways Sugar Sours Your Sexual Interest • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

Today, we are discussing sex scheduling. This is a term we throw around in our kitchen table conversations, and yet it's been a while since we devoted a whole episode to this controversial topic. Sponsor Thanks to Share the Soap for sponsoring this episode! Check out their wonderful, natural skin products. Great for gifts or self-care. Also sponsored by the Hot, Holy & Humorous Cruise, coming October 12–21, 2023. From the Bible There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens. Ecclesiastes 3:1 Resources What Is Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Intimate Covenant Podcast: Q&A from the 2022 Annual Retreat [112] on Apple Podcasts - Q at 7:43 (also available on their website) Big Bang Theory – Sheldon & Amy on Honeymoon What Euphemisms for Sex Do You Use? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Different Sleep Schedules? 1 Simple Tip to Keep Your Sex Life Alive - Honeycomb & Spice How Do You Manage Sex When Your Schedules Are Different? - The Forgiven Wife Episode 5: Sex Scheduling Episode 86: Making Space in Your Life for Sex Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

Dr. Juli Slattery, the co-founder of Authentic Intimacy and author of numerous books, joins us at the virtual kitchen table to discuss some topics found in her latest book, God, Sex, and Your Marriage. Sponsor Venus Pearls Vaginal Comfort Suppositories, formulated to relieve vaginal dryness and enhance sexual response. Buy 2 Get 1 with coupon code B2G1 Also sponsored by Married Dance, an online Christian marital aid store from a Christian husband and wife. From the Bible (in order of mention in the episode) The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. 1 Corinthians 7:3-6 (NIV) Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. Philippians 2:3-4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a The wife's body does not belong only to her. It also belongs to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong only to him. It also belongs to his wife. 1 Corinthians 7:4 (NIRV) The wife does not have [exclusive] authority over her own body, but the husband shares with her; and likewise the husband does not have [exclusive] authority over his body, but the wife shares with him. (AMP) Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. Ephesians 5:25-33 The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to "stand up for your rights." Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. 1 Corinthians 7:3-4 (MSG Paraphrase) Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. Psalm 51:10 (KJV) And He said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness." 1 Corinthians 12:9a (NKJV) Resources God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Rethinking Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery Authentic Intimacy - Juli's website Are You Owed Sex in Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Does Sex in Marriage Keep You from Cheating? - Hot, Holy & Humorous The #1 Myth Christian Women Learned about Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Love (and Sex in Marriage) Is Not Self-Seeking - Hot, Holy & Humorous Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker (have deeper discussions about sex!) Praying Together for Your Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous 4 Ways to Be Present During Sex - The Forgiven Wife "In Bed" (or, Lessons from a Fortune Cookie) - The Forgiven Wife Join Me for a Study! - Honeycomb & Spice Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

When it comes to sexual interest, we tend to talk about which spouse has the higher or lower drive. Whichever you are, it can be helpful to understand where the opposite is coming from. So today, we're going to illuminate what desire is like for the higher drive wife and lower drive wife—recognizing that this can help us better understand our own spouse's perspective and be advocates for one another! Sponsor Thank, Share the Soap! For a limited time, buy a date night set and get a bonus mini lip balm & a bonus mini personal-size soap! Use coupon code FCWdate. (Note: The bonus won't show up in the cart, but it will be added to your order.) Expires February 28. Visit Share the Soap website Also sponsored by: Hot, Holy & Humorous Marriage, October 14-21, 2023 From the Bible I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. Song of Songs 7:10 Resources Episode 13: Mismatched Sex Drives Understanding Your Sex Drive – Webinar Replay - ONLY $5! Understanding Her Sex Drive – Webinar Replay (for the hubbies!) - ONLY $5 Are You Normal? - Honeycomb & Spice Episode 145: When the Relationship Gets in the Way of Sex Episode 66: Higher Drive Wives Higher Desire Wife Community (hosted by J of Hot, Holy & Humorous) How the Sexually Rejected Spouse Feels - Hot, Holy & Humorous Intimate Covenant Podcast: Higher Drive Wives with guest, J. Parker [129] on Apple Podcasts Depression and Sexual Interest • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Episode 95: How Does Depression Affect Sex? Q&A with J: Should A Higher Drive Spouse Lower Their Expectations? - Hot, Holy & Humorous How the Sexually Disinterested Spouse Feels - Hot, Holy & Humorous Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too - Healthy Life. Happy Marriage. Episode 118: Sex Is for You Too Flip the Switch from Initiation to Availability - Hot, Holy & Humorous Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)

About this episode For women, sexual interest tends to be affected by many different factors. Of particular significance is the status of our marital relationship. When things are going great in your overall relationship with your husband, sex can feel like an easy and natural extension of that relationship. And what about when things aren't going so great? It's normal to have ups and downs throughout the life of your marriage—but how does this affect your sex life, and what can you do about it? Before we dig in, let's be absolutely clear that we are talking about normal ups and downs—when you and your husband have had an argument, when one of you has hurt feelings, or even when life gets busy and you barely have time for a conversation, much less sex. We are NOT talking about a marriage that is on the verge of divorce, nor are we talking about a situation in which your husband has been in unrepentant sin against you through pornography or abuse. Sponsor Share the Soap - Turn Up the Romance Set Use the code fcwsteamy for an extra 20% off if you order by February 28, 2023. Married Dance Venus Pearls From the Bible Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. Galatians 6:2 Resources What About Him? | The Forgiven Wife Nurture Your Nonsexual Intimacy | The Forgiven Wife Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work by Kevin A. Thompson Episode 9: The Myth of Make-up Sex - Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com)

Quickie can be used as a noun or adjective to simply mean "something done or made in a hurry." When it comes to lovemaking, quickies are drive-through sex, rather than the full meal or feast we might prefer to have. But quickies in a marriage can serve a positive purpose, and today we talk about when and how to incorporate them into your marriage, as well as when not to. Sponsor LIMITED-TIME OFFER! Use coupon code FCWQUICK at Share the Soap and get 30% off anything (whole cart) except merchandise (tshirts, water cups, etc). Good only until December 9, 2022. Visit the website and save 30% off! Also sponsored by Married Dance. Save 13% storewide using coupon BF22 only through November 30, midnight CST. From the Bible "Hurry, my beloved, And be like a gazelle or a young stag On the mountains of balsam trees!" Song of Songs 8:14 (NASB) Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a Resources What a Quickie Taught Us About Sexual Intimacy | The Forgiven Wife How "Maintenance Sex" Can Bless Your Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous 60-Day Risk-Free Bullet Vibrator Pilot Program | Christian sex toy store | MarriedDance Mindfulness & Meditation During Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 62: Why Not Have a Quickie? - Knowing Her Sexually (khsministry.com) Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show.Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker) Affiliate notice: This post contains affiliate links, meaning that our ministry receives a small commission with each purchase made through the link that helps cover our costs.

About this episode Welcome to our 6th annual Christmas episode! With Christmas only 6 weeks away, we want to help ease your mental load. So, today we are sharing some gift giving ideas that link to our favorite past episodes. These gifts are in the categories of: Something you want Something you need Something you wear and Something you read! And of course, the gift ideas we offer are something that can enhance the sexual intimacy in your marriage. Sponsor Special for our listeners: Buy an advent self-care set and get a free Anticipation Aromatherapy Roll On (a $9.99 value). To get the bonus, simply add both items to the cart and use coupon code FCWALLIWANT at checkout. Click Here to Visit Share the Soap! This episode is also sponsored by Married Dance - a Christian sex toy store run by a married couple, with marriage-focused products and tips. Be sure to listen to the episode to hear more about the products below and learn why they made our lists! Chris's picks, based on Episode 98: Overcoming Boredom in the Bedroom. WANT 60-Day Risk-Free Bullet Vibrator Pilot Program | MarriedDance 60-Day Risk-Free Traditional-Style Vibrator Pilot Program | MarriedDance 60-Day Risk-Free Air Pulse Clitoral Stimulator Pilot Program | MarriedDance 60-Day Risk-Free Vibrating Ring Pilot Program | MarriedDance 60-Day Risk-Free G-Spot Vibrator Pilot Program | MarriedDance NEED Personal Lubricants | MarriedDance Liberator Fascinator Throw | MarriedDance WEAR Honoring Intimates - model-free lingerie Temporary Tattoos - love-themed Costumes, like a Pirate READ Deck of Sex Position Cards | Christian sex toy store | MarriedDance Sock Monkey Kama Sutra J's picks, based on Episode 75: Our Best Tips for Initiating Sex WANT Bedroom Makeover: The One Whom My Soul Loves Song of Solomon 3:4 Wall Decal Downluxe Queen Comforter Set Bedsure Bamboo Cooling Sheets Fairy String Lights with Remote (mood lighting) Yankee Candle MidSummer's Night Scented, Classic 22oz Large Jar (other scents available) Let's Snuggle/Let's Get Naked Reversible Pillowcases Love Mop Premium Cotton Sex Towel NEED Higher Desire Wife Subscription (we've been there, we know, we're here for you) - 30-day trial available WEAR Edible Body Paints Glow-in-the-Dark Neon Body Paint Crayons Black Light Bulbs (2-pack) READ You & Me - A Game of Love & Intimacy Couple's Sex Game Gaye's picks, based on Episode 4: Stress and Sex WANT Ultimate Aromatherapy Diffuser & Essential Oil Set - Ultrasonic Diffuser & Top 10 Essential Oils - Modern Diffuser with 4 Timer & 7 Ambient Light Settings - Therapeutic Grade Essential Oils – Lavender NEED 6 Assorted Goat Milk Bath Soaks (bath bombs) from our friend and podcast sponsor, Share the Soap WEAR Aculief Heating and Cooling Shoulder Wrap W/Lavender Aromatherapy READ Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life, Updated and Expanded Edition, by Henry Cloud and John Townsend Bonny's picks, based on Episode 84: Self-Care and Sexual Interest WANT A better friendship with your husband Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage Pillow Talk NEED We all need Jesus! John (a LifeChange book) Reclaiming Your Sexual Identity after Betrayal - Small Group Led by Bonny Logsdon Burns WEAR Red Charmeuse Satin Nightie by Honoring Intimates Fuzzy Fleece Leopard Lounge Set Belle's Design Flannel Nightshirt READ Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode by Aundi Kolber More Resources Hot, Holy & Humorous Store with sexy Christmas coupons, private gift tags, and more Sex Chat for Christian Wives webinars - value-priced and chock-full of great info for your sexual intimacy From the Bible "My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me. I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one— I in them and you in me—so that they may be brought to complete unity. Then the world will know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me." John 17:20-23 May you and your husband be in unity this holiday season (and beyond)! Affiliate notice: This post contains affiliate links, meaning that our ministry receives a small commission with each purchase made through the link that helps cover our costs. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we'd appreciate you leaving a five-star rating and/or review so that others can find the show.Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) Honeycomb & Spice (Chris Taylor) Calm.Healthy.Sexy. and The Healthy Life Toolbox (Gaye Christmus) Hot, Holy & Humorous (J. Parker)