Emotionally Uncomfortable

POINT 1: Every trigger is a lesson. I know, it’s annoying but our inner work is never done. EVER! Our children constantly how up and push us to become the best versions of ourselves. POINT 2: You don’t need to be with your child to create connection. There was a father at the Conscious Parenting event who shared a personal story with me about how he is currently unable to see his children. I shared a few easy ways to stay connected in the moment - and create connect for the future as well. POINT 3: You will piss people off when you decide to parent differently. We can’t become people pleasers when we do, we get angry and annoyed. This is currently my greatest lesson. You will have fan and you will have haters. Resources: Dr.Shefali’s website Private FB community.

POINT 1: You are in control of your energy. Yep, you. No one else. Boundaries mama. It's a process but everyday is a new learning opportunity. How can you grow? What actions can you take to feel closer to how you want to feel? POINT 2: If you don't control your energy, your energy will control you. Period. Just like anything, it's all a practice. It takes time. We need to integrate it as a lifestyle, not a quick fix. POINT 3: What you resist will persist and grow bigger. It took me 3 days of pity party to experience enough contrast to know I needed to get my shit together. If you don't pay attention to the aches - they WILL get better. ACTION STEP: What do you need to do right now, today to get you one step closer to your essence? Resources: ACTIVATE THE LIFE YOUR SOUL CRAVES WEBINAR: December 8th 2016 10am CLICK to register: www.heatherchauvin.com/activate

035: Why I stopped asking for my husband’s advice. POINT ONE: Watch out for their limiting beliefs. When we ask others ‘what they think’ often times they are coming from a judgemental point of view. Their own lens of beliefs. Take ALL advice and guidance and ask yourself “does this work for me?” POINT TWO: Don’t ask for advice if you’re really seeking permission. This is a sneaky one and it gets us every time. When you ask for advice making sure you’re asking the right person and not something who is emotionally involved in the problem. POINT THREE: It’s not up to him, it’s up to you. Start taking personal responsibility for what you want not what someone else wants. If you’re always living in someone else’s life - you will never feel in alignment in yours. RESOURCES: Activate The Life Your Soul Craves Webinar. www.heatherchauvin.com/activate

In a perfect world there would be no stress but that doesn't exist because even if you are not physically doing anything we are still human and affected by other's and the emotional stress we put on ourselves - mostly unconscious. In today's podcast I discuss... POINT 1: Importance of silence Why letting go of what you need to let go could be your saving grace, even if you are disappointing someone else. If you're not in the right state of mind. How do we exact others? POINT 2: Importance of understanding your yellow zone. The yellow zone is the place between the green and red zone. I talk about this in my Teach Your Kid To Meditate Program www.momisincontrol.com/tyktm When you practice mindfulness and begin to understand your emotional and physical cues to stress you will begin to understand what your body does before it approaches the red zone (crisis zone). POINT 3: Know your story. Know the stories you tell yourself in your mind. "If I stop I'm lazy." "I'm letting other's down." When you need a break, take it. Just plan on getting back up. ANNUAL RETREAT. Sun and Soul Retreat February 17th -21st Interested? Reach out and let us know heather@heatherchauvin.com We are now accepting applications.

I'm a giver to a fault. I would give my shoes to someone in need. So when the holiday season comes around I'm always curious how I can be of service to others while still maintaining my sanity. In this episode I talk about How my grandmother inspired this podcast. How the woman at the hair solon gave me a great idea to make a difference. And the power of community and starting where you're at. What are you doing this holiday season? How are you giving back? Let me know heather@heatherchauvin.com

Discipline is a very personal choice and something a lot of parents are confused about which approach to take. My personal choice is to do no harm. This isn't easy when my 'go to' place is anger and rage. So what can YOU do when it comes to taking a new approach to discipline in your home? POINT: Understand where your kids are coming from. How are they feeling in that situation? Was there something else going on that has nothing to do with you? Maybe they are upset and acting out because of a previous situation. What they might need in a hug instead of a lecture. POINT: Talk to them the same way you would want someone to talk to you. This is my go to question when I want to yell and scream. Would I respect it if someone else talked to me this way? Ask yourself this next time you want to punch a hole in the wall. You children will thank you. POINT: Be proactive instead of reactive. What can you do to avoid these conversations? Are there systems or alternative solutions that can be taken care of so yelling doesn't occur? Example: Late for school? Get up earlier, make sure everything is ready the night before. Do your morning routine so you are grounded and focused before taking care of the kids. Like the FB page. Have a personal question? Email me heather@heatherchauvin.com

Have you ever wondered how two people can be in the exact same shitty situation and yet one is thriving? Me too. It's not their life that sucks. It's their thoughts. Their perspective of the whole situation. ACTION STEP: Journal. Ask yourself these questions. What is one action I say take right now that will shift my energy and attention? What do I really want to feel? How can I make it happen? Ready to transform your life? Join us at the Sun & Soul retreat this February in California. www.triptribe.com/sunandsoul

What happens when you feel disrespected by your children? How do you get out of the mental loop of yelling, screaming, door slamming, guilt, shame -- and the cycle continues. POINT 1: You can go in solving a problem with the same mindset that created it. Point 2: What do you kids think about the situation? Point 3: How are you treating yourself? Resources covered in this episode. Bryon Katie. The work. Have a question or feedback, feel free to personally email me: heather@heatherchauvin.com or find me on Facebook

Self care is essential to growth, happiness and kick ass awesomeness. But have you ever experienced a Self Care Tantrum? You know the experience when you DON'T WANT TO DO IT! You can't. You want to avoid it like the plague, run away and hide. Why does this happen? Listen and find out. Have a personal topic, you would like me to cover: email heather@heatherchauvin.com If you like the episode, please share.

Point: FINE is not ok. It's just. Stop trying to justify it. You were created for more. Stop avoiding your soul's signs that something needs to change. Point: Stop hitting your inner snooze alarm. Use activation energy to get yourself moving. You're going to need to do it eventually so why not now? Point: Your brain has two sides: auto pilot & emergency break. Learn how to use them. Listen and learn how to find the sweet spot. The middle ground where you THRIVE. ACTION STEP: Use the 5 second rule. Listen to the impulse and take action on it quickly. Or write it down. How To Stop Screwing Yourself Over. Mel Robbins Ted Talk. Have a personal question, just ask. heather@heatherchauvin.com