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What happens to the brain and body of a wife who discovers her husband's relationship with porn? This is part 1 of our 2 part series on the trauma of sexual betrayal taught by Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket. You'll learn why wives react the way they do, how to tell the difference between wives expressing anger vs. engaging in abusive behavior, how to set appropriate boundaries while practicing empathy, and what wives really want from their husbands in the healing process (VOWS). This teaching is absolutely brilliant. Take notes!Dr. Barbara Steffens is the founding president of APSATS, the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists. She has specialized in providing help for the partners of sexual addicts since 1999. Dr. Steffens is a recognized expert in the field, and is now accepting speaking engagements for churches and professional organizations. Learn more and connect with Barb at drbarbarasteffens.comBuy Barb's book (this is a paid link):Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and HealLyschel Burket is the Lead Hope Caster and Founder of Hope Redefined. She is also a current APSATS Board Member and the committee lead for BTRL (Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training). Lyschel has been working with women since 2008 by helping them navigate the road of betrayal by sexual infidelity. She knows all too well the isolation, shame, fear, and trauma that betrayal causes. More than anything, Lyschel wants women to know that they don’t have to walk this road alone, so she provides a safe community where each one can find healing and hope.Learn more about Lyschel and Hope Redefined at hoperedefined.orgMore resources for women from Hope Redefined:private online communityonline support groupsintensive retreats1:1 coachingListen to the Hope For Wives podcast at hopeforwives.com!Get trained by Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket through BTRL (Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training). Learn more here.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Dive into the powerful story of Philip and the Ethiopian eunuch, exploring themes of inclusion, sexual shame, and childhood trauma. Discover how the gospel offers healing and redemption to those feeling marginalized. The eunuch's journey highlights societal exclusion while showcasing the transformative power of faith. Ultimately, this discussion emphasizes that no matter one's past, everyone belongs and has the opportunity for a new identity in Christ.

Join Henry Brown, Director of Operations at Husband Material, Jason Pidcock, a trauma-informed recovery coach, and Jordan Castille, a certified Christian counselor, as they delve into the complexities of friendship among men with varying sexual attractions. They share personal experiences highlighting the beauty of diversity and the challenges of building inclusive faith communities. The discussion also navigates trust, vulnerability, and the healing power of deep connections, emphasizing that genuine relationships can flourish despite past insecurities.

Jordan Castille, a Board Certified Christian Counselor and Clinical Sex Addiction Specialist, explores the complexities of same-sex attraction with profound insight. He challenges common stereotypes held by heterosexual men, emphasizing empathy and understanding. Jordan discusses the impact of trauma on sexual attraction, the nuances of relationships, and the importance of emotional bonds over mere sexual desire. His engaging narratives encourage listeners to embrace a broader view of masculinity and connection, breaking down barriers to acceptance and personal growth.

In this insightful discussion, Jason Pidcock, a Certified Trauma Informed Recovery Coach, sheds light on the stereotypes surrounding men and opposite-sex attraction. He candidly challenges ten common misconceptions, using humor and personal anecdotes from his own journey of recovery and transformation. The conversation emphasizes the importance of creating compassionate spaces for healing, fostering emotional expression, and breaking down barriers in male friendships. Jason urges listeners to embrace their true selves and find strength in community support.

If you've spent years wishing your sexual thoughts and feelings would go away, this episode is for you. Related resources:Unwanted, by Jay Stringer (paid link)How To Interpret Sexual FantasiesHow To Analyze Sexual FantasiesWhy We Sexualize Emotions...And How To Desexualize ThemSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Have you ever felt unable to enter into your wife's pain? In this episode, Nathaniel Gustafson explains how to come close to your wife in a way she is more likely to trust. You'll learn how to stay out of shame, keep the spotlight on her, and practice these skills before "game time." Sobriety is not enough. You must learn empathy. Nathaniel's compassionate guidance will help you develop it.Watch the video of this episode here.Nathaniel Gustafson is a licensed professional counselor and ordained pastor who specializes in working with men and couples recovering from pornography and affairs. Nathaniel also offers monthly webinars alongside his wife, Tammy.Learn more about Nathaniel at tenderheartedmen.comJoin Nathaniel's next Know Your Why Workshop in October!Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Many men have been wounded by women. In this episode, Britta Eskey explains how women can help men heal wounds caused by women. Without women, we are missing half of humanity.Britta Eskey co-founded COR, which assists people in finding and living their purpose, including through the Noble Man workshop. Britta is the author of Initiations in Love, a spiritual memoir which answers the age old question: “What do we do with our pain?” Britta has a background in social work, family therapy, counseling, family constellation work, dance and movement, spiritual direction, and life coaching. Britta is a NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM) trauma-informed professional and a certified Compassion Cultivation Teacher. She lives in Asheville, North Carolina, with her husband, Lee Eskey, and their dog, Heidi.Explore Britta's work at corexperience.comBuy Britta's book: Initiations in Love: A Memoir (paid link)Learn more about The Noble Man Workshop at corexperience.com/noblemanSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Explore the intriguing concept of having three unhealed boys within every man. Meet the 'good boy' who becomes the 'hero,' the 'bad boy' morphing into the 'villain,' and the 'hurt boy' assuming the role of the 'victim.' Each character stems from childhood experiences, highlighting the importance of nurturing these inner children for personal growth. Gain insights into how recognizing and healing these aspects can lead to a deeper understanding of identity and masculinity.

Have you ever tried to remove access to porn on your digital devices? What if you could create a filter with no loopholes? In this episode, you'll learn a new and innovative approach to internet filtering with Jon and Kristin Wilkes, founders of pluckyfilter.com. You'll also hear from Scott Wurtz, a passionate Plucky user. If you're interested in protecting yourself from porn without giving up your phone, this episode is for you. Learn more at pluckyfilter.com.Jon and Kristin Wilkes, founders of Plucky, have been married for 12 years and have 3 young children. Jon created Plucky because he needed a strong internet filter and happened to have the software skills to make it. Kristin is the Director of Communications and Jon's cheerleader. They've been on this adventure of using their skills for God's kingdom full-time for the past 9 years.Scott Wurtz grew up in Wheaton, IL, and attended Wheaton College (BS, MA). Professionally, he has taught physics and computer science at the high school level and currently works as a software developer. Scott discovered Plucky during the Covid-19 pandemic in 2020. He has used it ever since.Learn more at pluckyfilter.com.Your free guide to technology that keeps you safe from porn:https://www.purelifealliance.com/porn-fighting-technology.htmlSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!