

Husband Material
Drew Boa
So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode makes it easier for you to achieve lasting freedom from porn—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually mature man of God.
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Dec 16, 2024 • 29min
Recovering From Purity Culture (with Dr. Camden Morgante)
Dr. Camden Morgante, a licensed clinical psychologist and author, joins to unpack the complexities of purity culture. She discusses its historical roots and harmful myths that foster shame, especially among women. Dr. Camden contrasts these toxic beliefs with a more empowering view of sexuality that encourages intimacy and mutual respect. The conversation also highlights the importance of vulnerability and self-acceptance, featuring mindfulness exercises to foster healing. Stay tuned for a beautiful meditation on overcoming sexual shame.

Dec 9, 2024 • 29min
How To Stop Hiding And Lying
Delve into the reasons behind hiding and lying, especially in the context of porn addiction. Discover insightful exercises designed to foster honesty and vulnerability. The discussion emphasizes the importance of feeling safe enough to share the truth. Listeners can look forward to practical resources for healing and personal growth. This journey invites introspection and encourages a path from deception to openness.

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Dec 2, 2024 • 40min
Sexualized Attachment (with Dr. Floyd Godfrey)
Dr. Floyd Godfrey, a Clinical Sexologist and Certified Christian Counselor, explores the intricate world of sexualized attachment and its emotional ramifications. He shares his personal journey of healing, illustrating how emotional and sexual energies intertwine, often leading to unhealthy behaviors. The conversation dives into the dynamics of youth sexual identity and the importance of community support. Dr. Godfrey emphasizes the distinctions between healing and recovery, offering hope and practical resources for those seeking to navigate their emotional landscapes.

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Nov 25, 2024 • 59min
The Science Of Attachment (with Michael John Cusick)
Michael John Cusick, a Licensed Professional Counselor and spiritual director, dives into the fascinating science and theology of attachment. He shares how being seen, soothed, safe, and secure forms healthy relationships and supports recovery from addiction. Cusick discusses the profound effects of parental gaze on identity formation and the need for nurturing divine attachment. He also highlights the journey of embracing vulnerabilities to find joy and healing, culminating in a serene meditation on Psalm 131.

Nov 18, 2024 • 9min
Announcing Husband Material Ministries!
Exciting developments are underway as the podcast transforms into a ministry dedicated to supporting Christian men in overcoming pornography addiction. Discover the value of community and how your contributions can help expand vital resources. Learn about free programs like mini-courses and an all-in-one academy designed to foster healing and transformation. This initiative emphasizes a journey of support, encouraging listeners to engage in self-improvement and collective growth.

Nov 11, 2024 • 21min
Play, Awe, & Porn Addiction: A Polyvagal Perspective
In this episode, you'll learn two powerful antidotes for porn addiction: play and awe. Ready for a deep dive into neuroscience? According to Polyvagal Theory, play and awe are both "blended states" that regulate your autonomic nervous system through connection instead of disconnection. Play is not peripheral. Awe is not optional. These experiences are essential for the health of your brain!Watch the video at www.husbandmaterial.com/play-awe-pornRelated podcast episodes:Porn And Polyvagal Theory (with John Kilmer)Why Men Need To Play (with Dr. Michael Crocker)Master Your Nervous System (LIVE)Recommended reading (these are paid links):Anchored by Deb DanaPolyvagal Theory in Therapy by Deb DanaThe Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam JolmanSupport the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!

Nov 4, 2024 • 23min
Own Your Identity (with Jason Mellard)
Jason Mellard, the founder of Own Your Identity and a certified high-performance coach, shares his powerful journey of overcoming unwanted same-sex attraction. He discusses his struggles with masculinity and the impact of past trauma on his self-identity. Jason emphasizes the importance of embracing one's identity in Christ and finding purpose beyond addiction, detailing transformative healing methods like visualization and mentorship. His insights provide hope and practical tools for men seeking clarity and empowerment.

Oct 29, 2024 • 41min
The Fear And Power Of Being Vulnerable (with Trent Dollyhigh)
In this conversation, Trent Dollyhigh, founder of Be Vulnerable Mentoring and expert in sexual addiction recovery, shares his candid journey from trauma to triumph. He reveals the struggles of growing up in a strict household and how it shaped his view of vulnerability. Trent emphasizes that true connection requires risk, explores his battles with pornography, and highlights the power of self-acceptance. Listeners will be inspired by his insights on embracing vulnerability as a path to healing and rebuilding relationships.

Oct 21, 2024 • 11min
Inside Out 2 And Porn
Dive into the emotional lessons from Pixar's Inside Out and Inside Out 2, exploring how these narratives can help with healing from pornography. Discover key takeaways that advocate understanding and processing emotions for better vulnerability. The discussion illuminates the importance of navigating your internal landscape to achieve emotional freedom, offering a fresh perspective on personal growth.

Oct 14, 2024 • 43min
How Women Heal From Sexual Betrayal Trauma (with Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket)
What are the 3 phases of healing from sexual betrayal? In part 2 of our series with Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket, you'll get a helpful overview of the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM). You'll also learn the difference between forgiveness vs. reconciliation vs. trust and how to avoid "good boy syndrome" while working on rebuilding trust.Dr. Barbara Steffens is the founding president of APSATS, the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists. She has specialized in providing help for the partners of sexual addicts since 1999. Dr. Steffens is a recognized expert in the field, and is now accepting speaking engagements for churches and professional organizations. Learn more and connect with Barb at drbarbarasteffens.comBuy Barb's book (this is a paid link):Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and HealLyschel Burket is the Lead Hope Caster and Founder of Hope Redefined. She is also a current APSATS Board Member and the committee lead for BTRL (Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training). Lyschel has been working with women since 2008 by helping them navigate the road of betrayal by sexual infidelity. She knows all too well the isolation, shame, fear, and trauma that betrayal causes. More than anything, Lyschel wants women to know that they don’t have to walk this road alone, so she provides a safe community where each one can find healing and hope.Learn more about Lyschel and Hope Redefined at hoperedefined.orgMore resources for women from Hope Redefined:private online communityonline support groupsintensive retreats1:1 coachingListen to the Hope For Wives podcast at hopeforwives.com!Get trained by Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket through BTRL (Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training). Learn more here.Support the showTake the Husband Material Journey...Step 1: Listen to this podcast or watch on YouTubeStep 2: Join the private Husband Material CommunityStep 3: Take the free mini-course: How To Outgrow PornStep 4: Try the all-in-one program: Husband Material AcademyThanks for listening!


