The Baggage Reclaim Sessions Ep. 308: How to Be Selfish: Reclaiming the Right to Self with Suzy Reading
Mar 27, 2026
Suzy Reading, a chartered psychologist and author focused on stress, loss and sustainable healthy habits, reclaims selfishness as self-advocacy. Short conversations explore childhood conditioning, toxic resilience narratives, resentment as a signal of obligation, and practical somatic checks to reconnect with basic needs.
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Selfishness Is Reclaiming The Right To Self
- Suzy Reading reframes selfish as reclaiming the right to self, including feelings, needs, and self-advocacy.
- She argues this shift enables reciprocity in relationships and improves both individual and relational health.
Early Conditioning Disconnects Us From Bodily Signals
- Childhood and social conditioning disconnect children from bodily signals, teaching compliance over self-awareness.
- Suzy links school rules and parenting messages to adults who shame needs and don't recognize feelings as essential.
Twisted Resilience Makes Selfcare Feel Wrong
- Modern resilience/gratitude messaging is twisted to valorize hyper-independence and downplay normal human struggle.
- That pressure makes people guilty for tending basic needs like sleep, food, movement, and social connection.
