198: Listen To This If You Lose Yourself In Relationships | In The Trenches

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Apr 14, 2026

Discussion about self-abandonment and the fear of losing someone versus losing yourself. Insights on how texting can feel intimate but hide lack of real-world prioritization. Clarity on attention versus intention and why hope can keep you stuck in low-effort dynamics. Tips for dating with detachment, using your voice to set standards, and what makes a memorable dating profile.

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INSIGHT

Loving Yourself Means Being Okay To Lose People

Loving yourself means being willing to lose people so you don't self-abandon.
Sabrina explains that fearing loss leads you to conform and sacrifice your selfhood to keep others in your life.

ADVICE

Stop Mistaking Texts For Intimacy

Do stop equating constant texting with real intimacy and look for in-person prioritization.
Sabrina distinguishes attention (texts that satisfy someone) from intention (making time and concrete plans).

INSIGHT

Hope Can Keep You Stuck Not Growing

Holding on to hope keeps you stuck because hope provides dopamine and avoids confronting reality.
Sabrina links childhood survival strategies (change yourself to get caregiver) to adult dating patterns of waiting for someone to change.

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Are you so afraid of losing someone that you have already lost yourself? In this bonus episode, Sabrina answers listener questions about self-abandonment, emotionally unavailable partners, and why holding on to hope in a low-effort dynamic keeps you stuck in childhood core beliefs instead of building the healthy relationship you deserve. She breaks down dating with detachment, the difference between attention and intention, and how to stop performing for people who are not showing up for you.

Sabrina also gets real about fear of rejection, chasing validation, and the mantras that changed her entire dating life. Plus, she reviews a listener's dating profile and shares exactly what makes a profile memorable versus forgettable. Whether you are navigating the apps, stuck in a situationship going nowhere, or struggling to use your voice and set standards, this episode will help you start choosing yourself first.

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Chapters:

00:00 Stop Losing Yourself in Dating

02:47 Red Flags You Keep Excusing

04:11 Attention vs Intention in Dating

06:16 Why You Hold On to Hope

10:26 Texting Is Not a Relationship

13:39 What Healthy Relationships Take

16:46 Fear of Losing People

18:08 How to Date With Detachment

23:53 Dating Profile Review With Ryan

31:10 Using Your Voice to Set Standards

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