On Attachment #66: How to Leave a Relationship (When You Know You Need To)
Apr 18, 2023
Topics include why breakups often unfold slowly and how overwhelm can freeze decision-making. Practical planning for safety, housing and finances is discussed. Listeners hear about leaning on trusted people and preparing for strong reactions. Clear boundaries and trusting your resilience are highlighted.
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Breakups Often Unfold As A Slow Disentangling
- Breakups often involve a preceding period of emotional disengagement rather than a single sudden decision.
- Rigg calls this gradual disentangling protective because it lets you grieve and process before pulling the trigger.
Stephanie’s Three And A Half Year Delay To Leave
- Stephanie Rigg shared her own three-and-a-half-year relationship where she knew early on it was unhealthy but kept trying to fix it.
- Her attachment to trying to change him delayed her decisive planning and eventual leaving.
Stop Waiting For A Perfect Time To Leave
- Decide to end the relationship imminently instead of endlessly delaying a “better time.”
- Stephanie Rigg warns that life presents endless excuses (holidays, events) so pick a timeframe and commit to acting within it.