Coaching and Mentoring Best Practice - Both Sides of the Coin How to coach clients to reprogramme negative self-talk
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Feb 28, 2024 
Mary Sorley, a St. Paul violinist, teacher and conductor, and Paul Boehnke, a life coach and former classical musician, discuss reprogramming negative self-talk. They explore how practiced thoughts form, a four-phase coaching process, spotting physical cues, crafting resonant affirmations, treating mental practice like instrument training, and handling setbacks with steady practice.
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Thoughts Get Practiced Like Musical Phrases
- Paul discovered that old thoughts return with practiced musical phrases when he replayed a piece after five years.
- While relearning a passage he realised he had been unconsciously practicing thoughts, which re-emerged with the notes years later.
Uncovering Core Messages Creates Real Choice
- Uncovering underlying messages increases awareness and choice by revealing root causes of behaviour.
- Paul emphasises digging past surface beliefs to the core narrative so clients can decide whether to keep or change it.
Use Body Signals To Surface Hidden Thoughts
- Watch for micro‑signals like sighs or sudden tension and ask curious questions to surface hidden thoughts.
- Ask clients what just happened when you notice a change in breath or posture to bring awareness to inner dialogue.