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Susan Cain On The Great Ache That Binds Us

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Aug 22, 2022

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Susan Cain

In this insightful discussion, Susan Cain, author of the bestselling book "Bittersweet," dives into the beautiful ache that connects us all. A former corporate lawyer, she explores the power of melancholy and how embracing bittersweetness enriches our lives. Susan shares her journey from law to literature and the complexities of introversion, advocating for greater acceptance of emotional depth. She also reflects on finding solace in creativity and the importance of nurturing introverted children in a society that often overlooks their strengths.

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Introversion vs. Shyness

Introversion is about energy source and stimulation preference, not shyness.
Shyness is fear of judgment, while introverts recharge in solitude, unlike extroverts.

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Silicon Valley Surprise

While researching "Quiet", Susan Cain visited Silicon Valley expecting an introvert haven.
Instead, she found introverts struggling in open office plans, unable to concentrate.

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Bittersweetness and Depression

Bittersweetness, acknowledging joy and sorrow's pairing, is often confused with depression.
Culture struggles to differentiate between clinical depression and bittersweetness, a nuanced state.

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Exploring Bittersweetness and the Depths of Introversion

02:24 • 4min

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Embracing Introversion and Bittersweetness

06:37 • 19min

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Pandemic Reflections: The Impact on Introversion and Extroversion

25:21 • 1min

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Embracing Bittersweetness

26:49 • 11min

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The Evolution of Emotional Care and the Vagus Nerve

37:36 • 2min

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The Depth of Bittersweetness: A State of Being

39:26 • 5min

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The Power of Longing and Emotional Expression

44:34 • 19min

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Embracing Bittersweetness and Resilience

01:03:14 • 18min

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Confronting Trauma and Embracing Vulnerability

01:21:04 • 17min

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The Emotional Resonance of Music

01:38:27 • 10min

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Understanding and Empowering Introverted Children

01:48:09 • 13min

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Closing Reflections and Gratitude

02:01:34 • 3min

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Are you one of those people that finds solace and comfort in rainy days or melancholy music?

It’s not quite sadness. It's more like longing. A beautiful ache that makes you feel more connected to the human experience.

What is that specifically? And why does it compel us so?

Former corporate lawyer turned author Susan Cain wondered the same—a query that launched a 7-year journey to better understand the complex and nuanced nature of all things melancholic. The result of Susan’s adventure is Bittersweet, her #1 New York Times bestselling book that ponders this quiet state of being and why embracing it paves a true path to creativity, connection, and transcendence.

Bluntly put, quiet states of being are Susan Cain’s jam.

Today we go delightfully deep on Susan’s transition from attorney to writer and how she came to write about introversion.

We discuss the irony of being a public introvert, the power of honoring your inner introvert, and how to support introverted kids and co-workers.

We also go deep on bittersweetness—and the how and whys behind cultivating it as a means of giving our lives more resonance and meaning and appreciation.

If you protect your quiet like I do, this one's for you.

Watch: YouTube.

Read: Show notes.

Both introversion and bittersweetness are states that society doesn’t do a great job of encouraging, but Susan really encouraged my acceptance and embrace of these ideas as an introvert myself (and someone who scored pretty high on the bittersweetness scale) as powerful when nourished.

My hope is that you will find this conversation equally nourishing.

Peace + Plants,

Rich

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