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Liz Fosslien on How to Cope with Big Feelings

Apr 26, 2022

Liz Fosslien, author and workshop leader on emotional intelligence, dives into coping with intense feelings in the workplace. She debunks myths surrounding perfectionism, revealing how it hinders growth. The conversation emphasizes the importance of embracing imperfection to foster connections. Liz also discusses emotional management, encouraging resilience in the face of uncertainty and comparing feelings like envy to personal values. Listeners gain practical tools to navigate their emotions, from reframing anxiety to improving communication.

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ADVICE

Addressing Anxiety

Stop "anxious fixing", the unproductive cycle of trying to do things to alleviate anxiety without addressing the root cause.
Identify specific fears driving the anxiety to develop actionable steps.

ADVICE

Perfectionism and Fear

Recognize that perfectionism isn't about being perfect but about the fear of failing.
Liz shares her personal struggle with perfectionism in relationships, fearing her partner seeing her imperfections.

INSIGHT

Perfectionism Is Not About Being Perfect

Perfectionism is not about achieving perfection, but rather a fear of failure.
It can be detrimental, hindering progress more than it helps.

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Liz Fosslien regularly leads interactive, scientifically-backed workshops about how to create a culture of belonging, help remote workers avoid burnout, navigate different work styles and effectively harness emotion as a leader. Her work has been featured by The New York Times, Ted, The Economist, and NPR. She is also the co-author and illustrator of The Wall Street Journal bestseller, No Hard Feelings along with the book discussed in this episode, Big Feelings: How to Be Ok When Things Are Not Ok.

In this episode, Eric and Liz discuss really specific, practical ways to cope with various Big Feelings.

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Liz Fosslien and I Discuss How to Cope with Big Feelings and…

Her book, Big Feelings: How to Be Ok When Things Are Not Ok
The myths of Big Feelings
Myths about Uncertainty
Tools to help cope with Perfectionism
Emotions are often a response to stimuli we’re taking in and a result of our brain chemistry
How to stop “anxious fixing”
The helpful phrase “I’m a person learning to….”
How extreme language produces extreme emotions
Naming your inner perfectionist
Finding a non-perfectionist role model
The red flag of thinking “I’ll be happy when…”
How envy can reveal what you value, and then thinking about your willingness to live the life that leads to that
How to just make it through when you’re in the worst of it in life

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Liz Fosslien, you might also enjoy these other episodes:

Embracing Emotions at Work with Liz Fosslien (2019)

Befriending Difficult Feelings with Adreanna Limbach

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