Jillian on Love The Difference Between Pursuing and Chasing
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Mar 23, 2026 A coaching session untangles why emotional investment can happen before a real relationship begins. It contrasts pursuing with chasing and explains how texting and calls can create false intimacy. Practical steps include setting boundaries, recognizing deflection, and expanding life beyond apps by attending live events to rebuild confidence and reduce anxious patterns.
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Move From Texting To Meeting Within A Week
- Do stop long drawn-out texting relationships and move to an in-person meet within about a week.
- Jillian illustrates: after a week of Hinge texts and voice notes the caller felt intimacy with a stranger and then she pulled back when meetings were delayed.
Hinge Match Moved Fast From Texts To Phone Then Ghosted
- Caller matched on Hinge, texted a week, moved to voice notes and a phone call, then felt 'the safest' he'd ever felt in early dating.
- After that phone call the woman gradually pulled back, missed three date attempts, and eventually ghosted him.
Texting Creates A False Sense Of Intimacy
- Insight that texting and phone calls give a false sense of intimacy with a stranger.
- Jillian explains you can't read body language, facial expression, or full character via text/phone, so perceived safety is misleading.
