Dating Intentionally 233. Why You Obsess Over Someone You Barely Know w/ Sabrina Bendory
Jan 30, 2026
Sabrina Bendory, relationship expert and author of Detached, explains detaching from outcomes while keeping self-worth intact. Short segments unpack limerence versus real connection. Practical tools include the 'opposite day' habit and a 'freak out deadline' to curb dating panic. Conversations cover situationships, asking for clarity early, pacing intimacy, and talking about money with kindness.
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Value Slow Mutual Builds
- Treat slow builds and mutual escalation as healthy relationship growth, not a lack of chemistry.
- Avoid confusing reciprocal deepening with limerence-driven obsession.
Why Limerence Feels Addictive
- Limerence is an involuntary obsession triggered by intermittent rewards and uncertainty.
- It often targets people who are partially available, creating addictive dopamine cycles.
Ask For Clarity Early
- Ask for clarity early if you don't know where you stand; healthy relationships are safe for honest talks.
- If a talk could 'ruin' the relationship, you're already in the wrong relationship.
