
The Rachel Hollis Podcast 340: Let’s Talk About SEX - Tips for Great Sex, Embracing Your Pleasure & Understanding Your Body’s Needs with EMILY NEGOSKI PhD
Nov 15, 2022
Emily Nagoski PhD, sex educator and author of Come As You Are, offers evidence-based insights on sexual wellbeing. She explores cultural myths that silence women, the accelerator-and-brake model of desire, why reducing brakes can beat adding stimulation, stress and context effects, masturbation as learning your body, and how to reclaim pleasure and bodily autonomy.
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Context Can Turn Turn On Into Turn Off
- Context massively shifts whether identical sexual stimuli trigger approach or avoidance motivation in the brain.
- Nagoski cites rat nucleus accumbens experiments showing the same stimulus elicits approach in a calm 'rat spa' but avoidance when stressed.
Recreating A Honeymoon Failed Because Stress Changed Context
- A stressed couple tried to recreate a past great getaway and failed because their mental state differed despite the same physical location.
- Nagoski describes friends returning to the same bed and breakfast but missing the original context due to stress.
Only Do Sex That Feels Good To You
- Only do sexual activities that feel good to you and stop anything that causes unwanted pain or distress.
- Nagoski defines normal sex as everyone being glad to be there, free to leave, and without unwanted pain.










