A clear roadmap for healing anxious attachment and why sequencing the work matters. Why starting from compassion instead of shame sets the foundation. Building nervous system capacity and daily self-regulation practices. How to identify and shift negative core beliefs and build self-worth through action. Where communication and boundary skills fit into the timeline.
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Stephanie’s Personal Shift From Anxious Attachment
Stephanie Rigg shares her own anxious attachment history triggered by a challenging relationship that prompted deep work.
She describes discovering the concept later and then committing to building self-trust and reducing control tactics.
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Start Healing With Compassion Not Shame
Approach healing from curiosity and self-compassion rather than shame to create a fertile foundation for change.
Stephanie Rigg explains shame reinforces anxious patterns and reframing to “this makes sense” changes how subsequent work lands.
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Build Nervous System Capacity Daily
Build nervous system capacity and daily practices so you’re less easily triggered rather than relying on crisis hacks alone.
Stephanie Rigg recommends micro self-attunements (water break, stand outside) and regular nervous-system nourishment.
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If you've been putting in the work to heal your anxious attachment but still feel like you're treading water, this episode is for you. In today's episode, I'm sharing what I believe are the three core pillars of healing anxious attachment — and why the sequencing of that work matters just as much as the work itself.
Whether you're just starting out or have been on this journey for a while, having a clear roadmap can be genuinely grounding. Lack of effort is rarely the problem for anxiously attached people — it's about making sure that energy is directed where it will have the greatest impact.
In this episode, I cover:
Why the mindset you bring to this work is the real foundation — and how approaching healing from a place of shame will undermine everything else
Understanding your nervous system and building the capacity to self-regulate (hint: it's about much more than crisis management)
Identifying and shifting the negative core beliefs and core wounds that shape your relationships — and why real self-worth is built through doing, not just affirmations
Communication skills, boundary-setting, and voicing your needs — and why starting here without the previous two pillars often falls flat
The common pitfall that keeps so many people stuck, and what to focus on instead
On March 16, I’ll be celebrating four years since I first launched Healing Anxious Attachment. To mark the occasion, I’m bringing the course back to its original launch price of US$222 for 24 hours only.
If you’re curious, add yourself to the waitlist below — the anniversary offer will only be available for 24 hours and only for those on the list.
Join the waitlist at stephanierigg.com/haa-anniversary-sale-waitlist
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