The Kink Consultant

Let’s be honest, most people hear “throuple” and immediately assume chaos, jealousy, or some kind of messy situation waiting to happen.In this episode, I’m joined by Carnivale Risque, a real-life throuple made up of Tank, Ellez, and Obsidian, who are out here living, loving, and building a life together in a way most people only speculate about. We talk about what non-monogamy actually looks like behind the scenes, not the fantasy, not the internet version, but the real dynamics of communication, boundaries, and sharing a life with more than one partner. They break down how their relationship formed, how they navigate being a closed triad romantically while still playing and sharing energy in kink spaces, and what it really takes to make this kind of relationship work long term.We also get into the stuff people are really curious about but are too scared to ask. Sleeping arrangements, jealousy, conflict, finances, and yes, how three people actually function as a unit without everything falling apart. We talk about emotional maturity, ego checks, and why non-monogamy does not work without radical honesty and self-awareness. If you’ve ever been curious about non-monogamy, questioned the “one person forever” script, or just want a real, human look at what this dynamic can look like when it’s done with care, this episode is going to expand your perspective in the best way.Connect with Carnivale Risquehttps://carnivalerisque.com/https://www.instagram.com/carnivalerisquehttps://www.facebook.com/229898104290303https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWAmtkOUzPRcV3rBpzVR9mghttps://www.x.com/CarnivaleRisqueConnect with Amandahttps://www.amandadames.com/https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consultDownload the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/storeEpisode Highlights00:00 Poly and closed triad23:27 Sex intimacy and kink26:35 Vulnerability And Intimacy27:16 Beyond The Fantasy35:36 Switching Shame And Ego38:06 Authenticity In The Industry43:57 Titles And Real Experience

Mistress Tash Mia, a professional dominatrix and educator known for blending humor and somatic coaching, talks authentic dominance as grounded, sarcastic presence. She covers where to start with desires, safety and consent foundations, practical home-play setups, managing dom burnout, and the skill of holding space and presence in scenes.

She started as a sex blogger in Utah, flew to Japan to train under a Shibari master whose stare alone made her cry, and never looked back.In this episode, I sit down with Julieta Chiara, a certified Shibari instructor trained under Japanese master Hajime Kinoko, who went from studying to be a sex therapist to running a sex blog, to teaching Japanese rope bondage from her studio in Tulum. Julietta breaks down the difference between Shibari and Kinbaku, why self-tying is the most underrated way to learn, and how rope bondage can be a somatic meditation even when kink isn't the goal. We also get into her identity as a bonafide submissive who only takes a top role in rope, why she refuses to tie strangers for money, and how psychological kink rather than physical tools is where her submission actually lives. This episode is intimate, deeply educational, and full of moments that will make you want to pick up a rope. Whether you've always been curious about Shibari or you've been in the scene for years, Julietta's perspective is refreshing, grounded, and genuinely one of a kind.Connect with Julieta Chiarahttps://www.instagram.com/julietachiarahttps://www.instagram.com/chiarashibari/TKC LinksSign-up for the Free Dom/Sub Dynamics Virtual Summit here: https://kconsultant--domsubliving.thrivecart.com/vip/Last Longer with Promescent. Head over to https://www.promescent.com/ and use the code TKC15 for 15% off.Connect with Amandahttps://www.amandadames.com/https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/Book A Consult Call with Amanda https://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consultDownload the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560Courses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/storeEpisode Highlights:00:00 Shibari vs. Kinbaku: Why the Debate Is Overblown08:15 Learning Shibari Online vs. In Person13:00 How a Bucket List Trip to Japan Became Her Career19:00 Growing Up Sex-Positive in Salt Lake City24:00 Self-Tying as Somatic Meditation26:00 Being a Submissive Who Only Tops in Rope34:00 Psychological Kink, Objectification, and Getting Into Her Head36:00 How to Find the Right Dom (It's Just Like Dating)40:00 Three Things to Know Before Starting Your Rope Journey

The kinkiest show in Vegas is hosted by the most vanilla couple you'll ever meet. In this episode, I get to sit down with Zion and Poppy, the hosts of Rouge at the Strat, for an inside look at Vegas's sexiest show. These Australian acrobats turned comedy hosts break down how they created the most authentically kinky show on the strip without actually being kinky themselves. We talk about audience interaction, improv comedy with drunk tourists, managing a topless show while pregnant, the wild backstage stories, and why being happily married actually makes them better at hosting a sex-positive show. Zion and Poppy also get real about working six nights a week with a toddler, handling inappropriate audience behavior, and why the best audiences are old married couples who have zero filter.This episode is hilarious, insightful, and a behind-the-scenes peek at what it takes to make Vegas magic. If you've ever wondered what happens backstage at a kinky Vegas show, this conversation delivers.Episode Highlights: 00:00 Why Rouge Stands Out11:19 Vegas Sex Culture (And What's Actually Legal)20:03 Favorite Acts in the Show35:30 Wild Improv Moments and Callback Stories40:57 Being Kinky Without Being Creepy54:59 Warming Up the Crowd for Fantasy AnswersConnect with Poppy and Zion  https://www.instagram.com/zionandpoppy/https://www.instagram.com/rouge.vegas/Connect with Amandahttps://www.amandadames.com/https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/Book A Consult Call with Amandahttps://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consultDownload the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560Join the Kinky Book Club:https://www.amandadames.com/offers/H3LbqfTw/checkoutCourses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/storeJoins the Couples Retreathttps://www.amandadames.com/BetaWaitlist

What if you could rewire how your brain stores pleasure in just one session?In this episode, I sit down with Jordan Wolan, a certified hypnotherapist who works with sexual freedom and performance anxiety, to talk about how hypnotherapy can actually help you have better sex. We get into what hypnosis really is (spoiler: you're already doing it when you scroll), how it can rewire your brain to enjoy new positions or experiences, and why your subconscious mind is way more powerful than willpower when it comes to lasting change. Jordan also breaks down hypnokink, how to explore it safely, and why this whole field requires way more ethics and care than most people think.If you've been curious about hypnotherapy, want to understand how your brain stores sexual habits, or you're wondering how to tap into deeper states during play, this conversation will open your mind to what's actually possible.Episode Highlights: 00:00 What hypnotherapy actually is16:13 Rewiring your brain to enjoy better sex21:44 Why hypnosis is becoming essential right now31:30 Hypnokink, ethics, and how to stay safe35:47 Consent, boundaries, and aftercare in hypnoplayConnect with Jordan Wolan https://jordanwolan.com/https://instagram.com/jordanwolanhttps://www.youtube.com/@JordanWolanConnect with Amandahttps://www.amandadames.com/https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/Book A Consult Call with Amandahttps://www.amandadames.com/book-a-consultDownload the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560Join the Kinky Book Club:https://www.amandadames.com/offers/H3LbqfTw/checkoutCourses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/storeJoins the Couples Retreathttps://www.amandadames.com/BetaWaitlist

Lucy Baldwin, shadow alchemist, magician, and author who blends sex magic with shadow work. She explains sex magic, sigils, and masturbating to symbols. She explores existential kink and using bodily sensation as guidance. She covers planetary magic, the holy hexagram ritual, and turning shame or anger into energetic fuel.

Tripp Terrier, power-exchange content creator and founder of Subspace, breaks down the brat-dom debate and why bratting fits submissives by definition. He discusses consent as pre-scene practice, how power shapes play, navigating social media fallout, and mentoring submissives to reclaim agency. Expect sharp, theory-forward discussion on community, safety, and modern kink dynamics.

Not sure what to expect on a kinky cruise? You're about to find out, and it's way more fun (and safe) than you think! In this episode, I’m not just going to have one, not two, but four guests! I sit down with Lee from Concasions and the powerhouse team behind Carnivale Risqué (Tank, Goddess Ellez, and Obsidian) to talk about what it's really like on a kinky cruise. These industry veterans have been teaching kink at lifestyle parties for over a decade, and they break down how they turned empty dungeons into packed playspaces by making BDSM approachable, glamorous, and fun. We dig into the upcoming Kinky Cruise in April, what to expect as a first-timer, how consent culture creates the safest party spaces, and why "swingsters" (swingers + kinksters) are now a whole community. They also get real about living as a throuple, teaching workshops on unleashing your authentic self, and why vulnerability is the sexiest thing you can bring to any relationship.This episode is part prep guide, part inspiration, and 100% permission to explore. If you've been thinking about attending a lifestyle event or just want to understand what makes these spaces so magnetic, this conversation will get you ready to dive in.Don’t let the Kinky Cruise sail without you! Go to http://www.kinkycruise.com and use the code TKC50 to get $50 offDownload the Bliss Cruise app and Celebrity Cruise app to plan your scheduleConnect with Tank, Goddess Ellez, and Obsidianhttps://carnivalerisque.com/https://www.instagram.com/carnivalerisque/https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100063613538670Connect with Amandahttps://www.amandadames.com/https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/https://www.amandadames.com/thereadinglist

Better sex isn't a luxury, it's accessible. And if you're not exploring what's out there to improve your intimacy, you're leaving pleasure on the table.In this episode, I get to sit down with Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, for an honest conversation about sexual wellness, performance anxiety, and why 70% of people using delay spray don't even have premature ejaculation, they just want better sex. Jeff shares his unexpected journey from semiconductor engineering to running a sexual wellness company, and breaks down the real stats on the "arousal gap" (spoiler: the average man lasts 5 minutes and 42 seconds while the average woman needs 18 minutes). We dig into why delay products have gotten a bad rap, how Promescent's formula is different, and what Vita Flux can do for blood flow, libido, and natural lubrication. Jeff also gets real about communication, foreplay that starts hours before sex, and why vulnerability is the foundation of great intimacy.This episode is practical, sex-positive, and full of solutions. If you want better connection, longer-lasting sex, or just want to level up your intimacy game, this conversation will give you the tools to do it.Want longer-lasting sex without losing sensation? Get 15% off at Promescent.com/tkc15Episode Highlights:00:00 Changing the Conversation Around Intimacy27:34 Exploring Sexual Frequency and Refractory Periods29:19 The Impact of Good Intimacy on Attraction31:38 Addressing Anxiety and Intimacy33:30 Menopause and Women's Sexual Health35:36 Innovations in Female Arousal Products40:21 The Rise of Male Masturbatory Products53:58 The Importance of Communication in Sexual RelationshipsConnect with Jeff Abraham https://www.linkedin.com/in/technicalresources/https://www.promescent.com/Connect with Amandahttps://www.amandadames.com/https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/Joins the Couples Retreathttps://www.amandadames.com/BetaWaitlistDownload the BDSM Checklist Here: https://www.amandadames.com/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151620560Join the Kinky Book Club:https://www.amandadames.com/offers/H3LbqfTw/checkoutCourses and Resources to Help Your Kink Journey: https://www.amandadames.com/store

Samia Mounts, creator of ClosetEd who explores pansexuality, polyamory, and anonymous confessions. She recounts discovering she is wired for multiple loves. They discuss jealousy, boundaries versus control, transitioning a marriage into friendship, and negotiating new relationships with emotional maturity.