The Kink Consultant What Is Shibari? A Conversation On Rope Bondage with Julieta Chiara
She started as a sex blogger in Utah, flew to Japan to train under a Shibari master whose stare alone made her cry, and never looked back.
In this episode, I sit down with Julieta Chiara, a certified Shibari instructor trained under Japanese master Hajime Kinoko, who went from studying to be a sex therapist to running a sex blog, to teaching Japanese rope bondage from her studio in Tulum. Julietta breaks down the difference between Shibari and Kinbaku, why self-tying is the most underrated way to learn, and how rope bondage can be a somatic meditation even when kink isn't the goal. We also get into her identity as a bonafide submissive who only takes a top role in rope, why she refuses to tie strangers for money, and how psychological kink rather than physical tools is where her submission actually lives.
This episode is intimate, deeply educational, and full of moments that will make you want to pick up a rope. Whether you've always been curious about Shibari or you've been in the scene for years, Julietta's perspective is refreshing, grounded, and genuinely one of a kind.
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https://www.instagram.com/chiarashibari/
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Episode Highlights:
00:00 Shibari vs. Kinbaku: Why the Debate Is Overblown
08:15 Learning Shibari Online vs. In Person
13:00 How a Bucket List Trip to Japan Became Her Career
19:00 Growing Up Sex-Positive in Salt Lake City
24:00 Self-Tying as Somatic Meditation
26:00 Being a Submissive Who Only Tops in Rope
34:00 Psychological Kink, Objectification, and Getting Into Her Head
36:00 How to Find the Right Dom (It's Just Like Dating)
40:00 Three Things to Know Before Starting Your Rope Journey