

Non-Monogamy Help
Lola Phoenix
Non-Monogamy Help is a relationship advice podcast for people in non-monogamous or polyamorous relationships. With the help of a therapist with over a decade of experience, your host Lola Phoenix, answers the questions your questions about rules, hierarchies, unicorns and more.
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Mar 20, 2026 • 22min
Episode 178 - Relationship Anarchy for Newbies
A clear primer on relationship anarchy and its core ideas. A critique of the smorgasbord of options and why too much choice can feel overwhelming. Practical tips for navigating the smorgasbord together and pacing conversations. A discussion about avoiding labels as a way to dodge commitment and checking compatibility by comparing polyamory ideals.

Mar 6, 2026 • 26min
Episode 177 - What "Not Serious" Means
It doesn't matter if you don't call your relationship serious. If you act as though it is, your brain will feel like it is anyway.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Feb 20, 2026 • 22min
Episode 176 - Hierarchy vs Life Partner
Trying to figure out if polyamory is for you while dealing with new relationship energy can be a significant struggle.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Feb 6, 2026 • 18min
Episode 175 - Re-release Not Good Enough
Sometimes when your partner wants non-monogamy you can be left feeling like you’ve failed or not done enough.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact

Jan 23, 2026 • 14min
Episode 174 - Kitchen Table Parallel Polyamory
They debate whether kitchen table polyamory can coexist with parallel relationships and what that looks like in practice. Parenting and how children fit into non-monogamous networks comes up as a tense topic. Strategies for handling difficult partners, setting boundaries, and using group conversations are explored.

Jan 9, 2026 • 26min
Episode 173 - Polyamory Chicken
Your brain is telling you a lie: slowing down their relationship won't make your relationship safer.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact.

Dec 26, 2025 • 24min
Episode 172 - Forcing Kitchen Table
Explore the complexities of non-monogamy as the host dives into listener dilemmas about entanglement and household conflicts. Discover why metamours aren't obligated to forge friendships, and how pressure can lead to resentment. Learn the importance of respecting boundaries and stepping back when necessary. Find out how to support a partner without acting as a mediator, and the difference between boundaries and controlling rules. It's a vibrant conversation packed with insights on navigating relationships authentically.

Dec 12, 2025 • 22min
Episode 171 - Deconstructing Monogamy
Don't just follow the cultural script and behave like you're basically a monogamous couple with disposable arm candy.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact.

Nov 21, 2025 • 31min
Episode 170 - Dating Serial Monogamists
All relationships end anyway. Some just come with a clearer expiration date than others.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact.

Nov 7, 2025 • 24min
Episode 169 - Marriage and Polyamory
There is one throne and one person who can sit in that throne, and right now that's you—but you can be replaced.That's what's on this week of Non-Monogamy Help. Find the full audio transcription of this episode on my website.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Check my affiliate link at https://betterhelp.com/nonmonogamyhelp for 10% off your first month.Our discussion question this week came from the Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards. Pick up your own copy using my affiliate link and use NONMONOHELP at checkout for 10% off.Music for this podcast has been provided by Chris Albery-Jones at albery-jones.com.Email ask@nonmonogamyhelp.com with your question or record your question on nonmonogamyhelp.com/contact.


