Non-Monogamy Help Episode 174 - Kitchen Table Parallel Polyamory
Jan 23, 2026
They debate whether kitchen table polyamory can coexist with parallel relationships and what that looks like in practice. Parenting and how children fit into non-monogamous networks comes up as a tense topic. Strategies for handling difficult partners, setting boundaries, and using group conversations are explored.
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Listener's Kitchen Table Dilemma
- The questioner practices kitchen table polyamory with his wife, girlfriend, and her local boyfriend.
- He feels unsafe around his wife's second boyfriend who speaks poorly about him and mistreats his wife.
Set Democratic Inclusion Rules
- Discuss inclusion rules for who is part of your kitchen table and what that means for new partners.
- Make the decision democratically with your wife, girlfriend, and other partners rather than unilaterally deciding.
Clarify Assumptions About New Partners
- Ask concrete questions about assumptions: will new partners automatically join the kitchen table or need approval?
- Clarify who gets included and set expectations before more people join to avoid future conflict.
