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Send us Fan MailWhat happens when women are told: “If your husband is typical, he has a need you don’t have?”, as Love & Respect put it. If you hear that your whole life that women need affection while men need sex, and women don’t actually need that much. Well, should it be a surprise if we grow up believing that sex is not for us?Links to things mentioned: The Great Sex RescueRabbi Shlomo Slatkin's Imago Marriage Counseling. You can schedule a free consultation now--or check out his retreats. My viral Twitter threadLast week's post: How The Act of Marriage impacted meOur libido seriesTo Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us Fan MailThis week were talking all about duty sex and consent! Thank you to our guests that joined us, it's so encouraging to hear other voices out there with a heart to share this hopeful message of what healthy sex looks like in marriage.Links to things mentioned: Andrew Bauman: his book The Sexually Healthy ManBenjamin Young's Twitter ThreadBenjamin Young's ministry Guard the GiftThe Great Sex RescueOur Previous Podcast on Marital Rape and ConsentTo Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us Fan MailThis week Sheila and Rebecca are digging deep into just how bad some of the advice out there is for Christians dealing with porn use in their marriage. We need to talk about this better, everyone!Thank you to Michael John Cusick for stopping by to help give us an even better look at what healing and recovery can look like for the many people struggling with pornography.Links to things mentioned:Our Porn series in April (read the first; the rest are linked from there) Our Porn Habits Podcast: How most porn use predates the marriage (my response to Focus on the Family telling women that men watch porn because their wives don't have sex enough) Michael John Cusick Website, Podcast, and book: Surfing for God, about discovering the divine desire beneath the sexual struggleRestoring the SoulRestoring the Soul podcastAndrew Bauman, author of The Sexually Healthy ManThe Great Sex RescueTo Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us Fan MailAnd we're back with a new 'Start Your Engines' episode! The whole team is practically here today, as Sheila, Keith, Joanna, AND Rebecca all join in to discuss this all too common teaching that 'ALL men will struggle with lust!'Links to things mentioned:The Great Sex RescueTwitter thread we readBlog posts:Noticing is Not Lusting12 Things Churches Can Do to Help Men Overcome LustWhy Bouncing Your Eyes Doesn't Honor WomenKeith's epic post on lustTo Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us Fan MailJoining us on the podcast this week is Ruth Everhart, author of the book 'The #MeToo Reckoning'. We hope you find today's podcast a helpful step in the larger conversation in how we need to handle and address sexual assault situations in the church.Links to things mentioned: Last spring we had a number of posts and podcasts on the problem with the gatekeeping message--namely that it can hinder arousal. Some of them are: Arousal: The missing piece podcast; And the let's bring back making out post.Why Unconditional Respect isn't a thing: Our podcast where we looked at the survey question that was used to justify the claim that men choose respect while women choose love. 9 Signs of Grooming Behaviour you need to understandRuth Everhart's post on The #MeToo Reckoning Ruth Everhart's book The #MeToo ReckoningFollow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoireThe Great Sex RescueTo Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us Fan MailThis week we are joined by author Rachel Joy Welcher, as we discuss all things purity culture - and where it went wrong! We so appreciate Rachel joining us and giving her insight!Links to things mentioned:Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire The Great Sex RescueRachel's book: Talking Back to Purity CultureRachel's TwitterWhy arousal can be difficult for women if they don't understand the sexual progressionMore information on women and pornRebecca's book: Why I Didn't RebelTo Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us Fan MailWelcome back! We are excited as we begin our rebranding process from To Love, Honor, and Vacuum to… *drumroll* Bare Marriage! Listen in as we discuss what led to this new name choice and our thoughts on how we see 2021 going, as we focus on a Jesus-centered marriage!Links to things mentioned:Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire The Great Sex Rescue Sheila's post on the Harvard StudyMore info on the Harvard Grand SurveyThe article on 'Mediocre Leaders'Our response to Emerson Eggrichs To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us Fan Mail2020 has been a wild year for everyone. As we close off this year, we want to reiterate how much we appreciate everyone who has taken the time to read the blog, listen to the podcast, buy the books, buy the courses and just be a part of our TLHV family. We hope you've enjoyed learning lots along with us this year, and we can't wait for the release of our book in March as we enter a new era on To Love, Honor, and Vacuum, (and hopefully a more joyful era at that!)Links to things mentioned: Dr. Cynthia Long Westfall's book Dr. Cythina Long WestfallMarg MowczkoTo Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Send us Fan MailAnother week, another episode of the TLHV podcast! A special thank-you to our guest Dr. Westfall for helping shed more light and give new perspectives on a passage in scripture that we read so often! We hope you enjoyed today's episode, and while we know we got pretty technical with some context and vocabulary, we believe it is very important that we look at these topics as clearly as possible to gain the best understanding.Links to things mentioned: Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire Dr. Cynthia Long Westfall's bookDr. Cynthia Long WestfallThe Great Sex RescuePsychology Today article To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books:The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves BetterThe Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great SexAnd she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Topics discussed include recognizing age and vulnerability, creating a safe church culture, evolving fashion trends and societal norms, dress code and responsibility, and breaking the myth of men being the only ones affected by visual stimulation. They also talk about the importance of distinguishing attraction and lusting.