Authentic Parenting

(This conversation was oringially released in 2019) SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 22 exisiting memebers who contribute $140 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: info@authenticparenting.com STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

If parenting was stressful before the pandemic, during the COVID-19 global crisis, ⅔ of parents experienced some level of burnout. The pandemic is not over and stress on parents is not going to magically go away and it is critical that we recognize and find ways to prevent burnout in parents. Kate Gawlik, an Associate Professor of Clinical Nursing at The Ohio State University on how to recognize the signs of parental burnout and how to cope with it. Parental burnout builds in stages, slowly. Phase one -overwhelming exhaustion. Next phase, burned-out parents tend to distance themselves from their kids to preserve their energy. And the third phase is loss of fulfillment. You can take the self-assessment tool provided by Kate to learn more about yourself. Burnout runs on a continuum. A report by The Ohio State University Office of the Chief Wellness Officer and College of Nursing found the stress was simply too much for many working parents to handle, revealing that two-thirds of working parents experienced some level of burnout. The study found an association between burnout and depression, anxiety, alcohol consumption and The research, conducted in 2021 found stress on parents also had consequences for children, as parental burnout was associated with punitive behavior towards their kids – including screaming, criticizing and even physical harm – and increased acting out by their children. MENTIONED IN THIS EPSIODE Ep. 143: How to Be a Happier Parent with KJ De'll Antonia Ep. 144: Mommy Burnout: How to Reclaim Your Life and Raise Healthier Kids Ep. 281: The Power of Self-Regulation with Sarah MacLaughlin Ep. 289: Mind-Body Tools to Develop Stress Resilience with Rebekkah LaDyne Ep. 270: Simple Tools to Feel Great with Rangan Chatterjee, MD SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 22 exisiting memebers who contribute $140 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: info@authenticparenting.com STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

How many secrets do you have? Did you know that most peoples' secrets fall into 38 categories? Michael Slepian, the leading expert on the psychology of secrets on what secrets hurt most, the emotional and physical costs to keeping secrets, the 3 dimensions of a secret and sharing your secrets with a special chosen person is helpful. SOME KEY POINTS The difference between secrets and privacy Age and development, can babies keep secrets or when do children's first efforts at keeping secrets emerge? Can people tell if we are keeping a secret? To confess or not to confess, what are the consequences of confiding? Is there a value of sharing our secrets? and does the person whom we chose to share our secret with matter? And so much more GET HIS BOOK The Secret Life of Secrets SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 18 exisiting memebers who contribute $92 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: info@authenticparenting.com STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Today's guest —Tracy Dennis-Tiwary, Ph.D strongly believes that we pervasively misunderstand anxiety and presents a new framework for reimagining and reclaiming the confounding emotion as the advantage that it evolved to be. She is a professor of psychology and neuroscience at Hunter College, the City University of New York, where she directs the Emotion Regulation Lab, and is cofounder of the digital therapeutics company Wise Therapeutics. By thinking about anxiety as an unwanted affliction, we do everything in our power to do away with it. But when we accept the discomfort of anxiety and listen to what it's teaching us, we become more creative. Can you view anxiety as a gift and harness it to your advantage? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Future Tense: Why Anxiety is Good For You (Even Though It Feels Bad) Ep. 317: The Anatomy of Anxiety with Dr. Vora, MD Ep. 312: Unwinding Anxiety with Dr. Jud Brewer How Long Should It Take to Grieve? Psychiatry Has Come Up With an Answer NYT article SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 18 exisiting memebers who contribute $92 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: info@authenticparenting.com STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Are you kind and loving toward yourself? Do you offer the same care to yourself as you give it to others? How do you talk to yourself when you make a mistake or go through hard times? Do you get caught up in negative self talk? Learn to practice self-compassion with Marissa C. Knox, PhD— a teacher, researcher, and writer currently offering Mindfulness, Compassion, undergraduate and graduate courses at The University of Texas at Austin. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Ep. 119: How You Can Be Kind and Loving Toward Yourself with Kristin Neff, Ph.D Ep. 112: How to cultivate Self-Compassion with Marion Rose The Big 300th Episode with listener particaption g.r.a.c.e. and possibility by Marissa Knox, Ph.D SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 18 exisiting memebers who contribute $92 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: info@authenticparenting.com STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

How much do our childhoods, and especially the quality of our first loving bonds, determine who we become and how we love. A truly fascinating and delightful conversation about the science of attachment with a longtime Zen student, author of a phenomenal book Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment Bethany Saltman. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Lost Daughter Strange Situation Becoming Attached by Robert Karen, Ph.D Bethany Saltman's wesbite Follow her on Instagram Ep. 315: How to Help Kids with Emotional Self-Regulation with Mona Delahooke, PhD Ep. 267: The Power of Discord Dr. Ed Tronick and Claudia Gold, MD Ep. 260: Parenting with Presence with Dr. Dan Siegel Ep. 189: What's Your Attachment Style? with Jenny Rosier, Ph.D Adult Attachment Interivew Protocol SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 18 exisiting memebers who contribute $92 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: info@authenticparenting.com STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Unexpressed grief from the past may be one of the most overlooked public crises of our time. Says my guest, Hope Edelman today-who is a strong voice and influential figure in the bereavement field and her books have helped countless people, especially women, as she wrote about mother loss. And mother loss, doesn't necessarily mean loss by death. There is abandonment, separation, neglect… Her new book is one of the most important books I've encountered one the topic. It's called The AfterGrief: Finding Your Way Along the Long Arc of Loss. As the title suggests, adjusting to loss is a lifelong process but as you'll learn from this conversation-it doesn't have to be a lifelong struggle. The AfterGrief is where we learn to live with a central paradox of bereavement: that a loss can recede in time and yet remain so exquisitely present. MENTIONED IN THIS EPSIODE Ep. 307: How Mother Loss Shapes Who We Become Ep. 290. The Complicated Mother-Daughter Relationship SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 18 exisiting memebers who contribute $92 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast WORK WITH ME I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: info@authenticparenting.com STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Shaka Senghor, authhor of Letters to the Sons of Society on the power of transformation, father's love, vulnerability and freedom. His first book is a memoir Writing My Wrongs: Life, Death and Redemption in an American Prison, debuted on The New York Times and The Washington Post Best Seller Lists. RESOURCES AND LINKS Follow Shaka on Facebook Follow him on Twitter Follow him on Instagram Watch his TED talk On Conscious Co-Parenting SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 18 exisiting memebers who contribute $92 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast WORK WITH ME I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: info@authenticparenting.com STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

In this solo episode Anna talks about the 6 critical emotional needs of children. She provides an overview with some examples to help you understand your children better; become a better decoder of their behavior, uncover their emotional needs and meet the needs with responsiveness and sensitivity. She goes over her 4 Buckets Framework for understanding challenging behaviors (NEEDS is only one of the categories). In our culture we are always fixated on the behavior itself(we want to stop, correct and get rid of). When we focus on the behavior in isolation (wanting to stop, correct, get rid of etc.) and see the behavior as the problem, we misunderstand children. We miss the mark. So challenging behaviors not only persist but escalate and become more destructive, and intensify. Behavior-based approach is not effective. In no particular order here are the 6 emotional needs: Safety Respect Acceptance Autonomy Significance Connection If you want to learn more and go deeper, get The Why of Challeneging Behaviors and the How-to of Dealing with Them now. SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 18 exisiting memebers who contribute $92 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast WORK WITH ME I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: info@authenticparenting.com STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com