Teach Me How To Adult

Winter is coming… and with almost two years of the pandemmy under our belts and the sun now setting before we even get a chance to see it (who is daylight savings ACTUALLY saving?), it can feel like we’re living in Groundhog Day. If you’re feeling stuck and stagnant, and running low on energy like us, you’ve come to the right place!We’re done with languishing. So, in this week’s quickie, we’re talking how to break the cycle of being in a rut and bring the joy back into life – and from changing our mindset to creating moments of inspiration and spontaneity, we’ve got the expert-backed strategies to get you back on track. Join us as we discuss:How to know if you’re in a rutFinding the source and identifying limiting beliefsGetting out of your own way and taking responsibility Checking in with your emotional bank accountSetting manageable goals that will create momentumFinding inspiration through creativity and spontaneity The life-changing effects of practicing gratitudeWhy falling in love with change is the antidote to getting “stuck”We hope this episode inspires you to make positive change and kick those ruts to the curb!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

We’ve all heard the saying “quitters never win and winners never quit”…it’s a mindset instilled in us from an early age, but is it *really* true? Spoiler alert: no, it is not. Letting something go when it’s no longer right for you isn’t a weakness or a failure. Be it a job, a relationship or even a habit, making the difficult decision to quit something can be the ultimate act of self-preservation. Seriously, we’re big fans of moving on from jobs or situations that don’t serve us, and quitting has led to some of our biggest successes!We’re living through The Great Resignation right now with North Americans quitting their jobs at record high rates, and if we’ve collectively learned anything from the last two chaotic years, it’s that our BS tolerance is at an all-time low, and we deserve to start prioritizing the things that bring us joy, growth and fulfillment. #YOLO!So, this week we’re flipping the script on quitting and redefining success for ourselves. There’s only 24-hours in a day, let’s make sure they’re filled with the stuff that matters.Join us as we discuss:Redefining the narrative around quittingWhy society is entering "The Great Resignation"How to know when it's time to quitOur biggest lessons for letting goWhat quitting can mean for your career and for creating new opportunitiesChoosing yourself over toxic situationsHow to quit well and leave on a high noteWe hope this episode helps guide your decisions, and empowers you to find success on your own terms. You got this!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

We can find support for nearly every aspect of our lives these days, from our careers to our mental health. But when it comes to friendships, there's virtually nothing out there to help us maintain and strengthen our relationships with some of the most important people in our lives.As two besties and business partners, Gillian & Cailyn know all too well the impact that having strong friendships can have on your life. So we called in friendship coach and expert Danielle Bayard Jackson to help us level up our friendships and show up as supportive BFFs. TBH, after the past year and a half of social distancing, this is the episode you didn't know you needed to help you feel more connected with your #girlgang. Danielle is a certified friendship coach and national speaker dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain meaningful friendships through her company, Friend Forward. She’s also the host of the Friend Forward podcast, and she dishes out amazing advice and hilarious videos on IG and TikTok, so be sure to follow her for allll the game-changing friend advice!Join us as we chat about:Our biggest friendship lessons and realizations How to address conflicts in a healthy wayMaintaining your friendships when you’re in different life stagesHow to get better at taking and receiving criticismClear signs that it might be time to end a friendship and how to do it Tips for setting boundaries when you can’t spend as much time togetherHow we can show up as better friends for the people we loveWe hope this episode inspires you to build a stronger relationship with your friends or help you take the steps to let go of the ones that are no longer serving you. For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Danielle:IG: @daniellebayardjacksonbetterfemalefriendships.com/membershipIG: @friendforwardTikTok:@thefriendshipexpertFollow Gillian:IG: yunggillianaireFollow Cailyn:IG: cailynmichaan Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Let’s be real, we’ve all got bad habits that are less than beneficial to our wellbeing. Whether it’s scrolling Instagram for hours or being late to everything – it’s time to admit that a big part of adulting is recognizing our own troublesome habits and doing the work to change them. We’re all about growth here at Teach Me How To Adult, people!The good news is: bad habits aren’t actually that hard to shake once you break it down. When we understand the psychology behind our patterns we can rewire our routines and start replacing them with good habits, instead. Revolutionary, we know!So we’re getting to the bottom of all our bad habits in this week’s Quickie and breaking down the 5 steps to break free of them!Join us as we chat about:The psychology behind how bad habits are formedGetting clear on why you *need* to change your habitIdentifying what triggers your actionsHow to replace your habit and why quitting cold turkey won’t work Gill & Cailyn’s bad habits and how they’re breaking themWhy its key to focusing on consistency vs. perfectionThe research-backed ways an accountability-buddy can keep you on courseWe hope this episode helps you curb some of your not so cute habits and make room for some more positive ones!Download our free habit tracker to track your progress:teachmehowtoadult.ca/habitsFor show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

From discussing salaries and the cost of homes, to splitting the bill and vacation-planning, it’s NEVER easy to talk about money. But it’s super important to get comfortable doing it—in a 2018 Fidelity Couples & Money survey, 46% of couples admitted that money was the biggest challenge in their relationship.The key is figuring out how you want to structure your finances *together*, so you can contribute and save towards important goals, and still have your own financial independence—which we’re all about!So we called in Alyssa Davies, the mastermind behind award-winning Canadian personal finance website and YouTube channel, Mixed Up Money, where she dishes out financial content for women who care about their money. Alyssa published Her first book, The 100 Day Financial Goal Journal, in 2020, and launched a personal finance podcast with her husband, Learn From Us, where they make talking about money feel less awkward and more relatable by sharing their own tough lessons.Listen in as we chat about:How to start talking about money with your partnerDifferent ways to structure your accounts togetherHow to protect your assets if your partner moves inHow Cailyn navigated money with her husbandAlyssa’s advice for couples who have moved in togetherWhat to do if you have different spending/saving habitsHow Alyssa manages money with her husbandKey money goals couples should haveWhy prenups don’t need to be a “scary” thingAlyssa’s tools for successful budgeting with your partnerWe hope this episode inspires you to have those important money chats with your partner!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Alyssa:mixedupmoney.com/instagram.com/mixedupmoney/Alyssa's Budgeting Templates: mixedupmoney.com/shopFollow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

For young people like us, learning how to get politically active and engaged can be challenging at first. But with the upcoming federal election in Canada, it’s more important than ever to educate ourselves and show up to vote! So today, we’re diving deep on how to navigate the election on September 20th, and why it’s SO important for you as a responsible adult to exercise your right and privilege to vote. As we learned growing up, “if you don’t vote, you can’t complain.” So tune in as we cover how to get politically active by informing yourselves about the election and candidates, how to figure out which party you’re most aligned with, how to actually cast your vote and make a voting plan, and the different platforms of Canada’s major political parties. Listen in as we chat about:Why it’s so important to get politically engaged and voteHow to gather reliable information on political platforms through reputable news sources How to make a rock solid voting planHow to choose which party you’re most aligned with (and legit online quizzes that will take out the guess-work) How the Canadian electoral system worksHow to actually cast your vote in the federal election this SeptemberHow to fill out your ballot based on the candidates in your local ridingThe main platform points for the Conservatives, Liberals, NDP, Green Party and Bloc QuebecoisWe hope this episode helps you get educated on all of the different parties and platforms and inspires you to vote! Mentioned in this episode:Quiz: https://votecompass.cbc.ca/canadaQuiz: https://canada.isidewith.com/political-quizParty Platforms: https://www.bnnbloomberg.ca/2021-federal-election-platform-tracker-where-each-party-stands-so-far-1.1639592How to navigate the news articleelections.caFor show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Let’s be honest, we’ve all been guilty of procrastinating at some point. But if left unchecked, the endless cycle of putting off important tasks can cause a lot of unnecessary stress in our lives and can hold us back from achieving the things we truly want. And a lot of people think it’s just laziness or bad time management that leads to procrastination, but it turns out there’s a LOT more behind the psychology of why we put things off. Some use it as a coping mechanism to avoid unpleasant tasks, and the human brain is literally hardwired to value instant gratification and immediate rewards more than future rewards.But, as the soon-to-be former queens of procrastination, we’re ready to kick this habit to the curb because there really is no better feeling than getting sh*t done. So in this week’s Quickie, we spill the tea on 7 ways that you can set future you up for success and stop procrastinating...today! Tune in as we chat about:The psychology behind why we procrastinateGetting to the root of why you’re putting certain tasks offShifting your focus to the long-term benefits of completing projects nowThe benefit of breaking tasks down into smaller piecesWhy it’s KEY to create a detailed timeline and workback schedule Identifying and eliminating your distractionsHow to use “temptation bundling” to take actionThe impact an accountability-buddy can have on your goalsWe hope this episode inspires you to break free of any procrastination tendencies you have so you can get things done and achieve everything you set out to do. Let us know if you try any of these tips or if you have any other tried and true methods to stop procrastinating!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.ca Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

If you’re on the job hunt, looking to change industries, going freelance, or want to scale your side hustle this episode is for you. We’re diving into how to network effectively, which can be hella intimidating for a lot of people. But according to statistics in the US, 85% of jobs are filled by networking!We called in the founders of Monday Girl, Rachel and Istiana, to give us the scoop on how we can all network like a pro, nail a cold LinkedIn outreach, how to maintain relationships after an initial networking call, and so much more.Monday Girl provides a safe space for women to explore empowering career opportunities, job resources, and more. Through their network, you’re set up to meet thousands of other like-minded and career-driven women and through their social club membership you can get access to exclusive events, career resources, mentorship opportunities, and curated job postings. They also share a ton of free resources and tips through their instagram account and weekly newsletter. Tune in as we chat about:Why you should network within your current company Crafting an “elevator pitch” for yourself going into networking scenarios How networking brought Gillian and Cailyn togetherHow to network effectively online right now (we’re looking at you LinkedIn and IG!)How to navigate going back to in-person networking post-lockdowns Networking do’s, don’ts and etiquette Great questions to ask during a networking chat or informational interviewHow to maintain your connection after the initial networking meeting? What to look for in a good mentor, and how to find oneWe hope this episode inspires you to get back out there and grow your network, and remember to pay it forward!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/Follow Monday Girl:mondaygirl.ca/mondaygirl.ca/subscribeinstagram.com/mondaygirlto/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

One of the many things we’re loving about life after lockdown is that LOVE IS BACK, BABY! So many people are jumping back into the dating world, but we’ve also heard from lots of single friends that they’re feeling a little apprehensive or unsure of how to get back into it all after over a year of isolation. In our recent Instagram polls about dating, 47% of you said you’re a litttttle nervous to get back into dating post-Covid, too, and lots of you have had less than ideal experiences on dating apps. Navigating love and the dating world in 2021 ain’t easy, so we called in love and relationship coach, Lauren Zoeller, to answer all of your burning Qs, and give us the advice that everyone needs to hear, whether you’re newly single, have been on the market for a while, or are in an open relationship.  Lauren is a CTA certified Love & Relationship Coach, motivational speaker and podcast host. She helps high performing, female executives attract the dream relationship and life they crave, and she’s the creator of The Aligned Love Experience™, a coaching program that teaches women how to attract love. She’s been featured in international publications like Prevention, Shape, Business Insider, Thrive Global, Money Inc., and more. Believe us when we say love is her language!Tune in as we chat about:@yunggillianaire & @cailynmichaan’s biggest lessons from the dating worldThe lowdown on which apps are best for your wants and needsHow to meet someone IRL vs. on the appsTools for bouncing back from bad dating app experiencesThe inner work we all NEED to do to show up as our best selves3 non-negotiables you should be setting from the get-go when datingConfidence boosters to get you feelin’ good as hell going into a date Tips for setting boundaries early on when dating and why that’s *actually* sexyHow to deal with rejection and what to do if you’re ghostedGood questions to ask on a first date to build connectionWhat you should consider if you have a “type” you only dateRed flags to look out for on apps and during a dateLauren’s hot tip to successful dating in 2021We hope this episode helps you get back out there, date with confidence, and pursue the love that you deserve!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/Follow Lauren:laurenzoeller.com/instagram.com/laurenzoeller/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

If you’re an over thinker like us, worrying about the future, dwelling on the past, and overanalyzing every single decision can be totally paralyzing in your day-to-day life. Overthinking can make decision-making impossible, and it can create tons of unnecessary stress that holds us back from living a life we truly want. And TBH, it’s usually all over nothing!But today can literally be the day you take control of your thoughts rather than letting your thoughts control you. Spiralling thought patterns are learned, and they can also be unlearned. The key is just to identify what’s triggering your overthinking, and then work on changing your mindset. In this week’s episode we have tons of expert and research-backed advice on how to do exactly that. Tune in as we chat about:The difference between ruminating vs worrying Why learning to just act and “think less, do more” can change your life and propel you forwardWhy you should carve out designated time to overthink/worryHow to rewrite the stories you are telling yourself in your headTricks for taking back control over your thoughts Tips for challenging perfectionismThe 10/10/10 test for gaining perspectiveHow simple mindfulness practices can calm your racing mindWe hope this episode helps you take control of your thoughts! If you have tried and true tactics for stopping those overthinking spirals, we would LOVE to hear them, so DM us if there’s something else that’s worked for you! For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube