Teach Me How To Adult

It’s Teach Me How To Adult’s two year anniversary and to celebrate, we’re switching things up a little! We have learned, and changed, so much since starting this podcast so this week we’re reminiscing and reflecting on some of the best advice from the experts we’ve interviewed.From managing money and navigating friendships to improving our wellbeing and learning to love ourselves, this week’s quickie is an essential rundown of the lessons that have truly changed our lives.Listen to our chat to learn more about:Our quick takeaways on investing, negotiation and working out The importance of friendships throughout different stages of life How to hack your mindset to improve your lifeThe transformative power of finding confidence and self-loveThank you so much for supporting us! ​​We’d love to know what your biggest takeaway from the podcast has been.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.ca Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:@yunggillianaireFollow Cailyn:@cailynmichaan Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

If you’re fresh out of a breakup and are feeling alllll of the feels, this one's for you. Navigating a breakup is never easy, but you’re far from alone. A study last year showed 25% of Canadians between the ages of 18-24 split up during the pandemic, and 5 million Canadians have experienced a recent breakup. Experts say it can take 6-8 weeks to get over the initial intensity of heartbreak, but with a lack of access during lockdowns to the normal stuff we do to get over our exes, and an ongoing mental health crisis, the “getting over it” part has been hard lately. That leaves us with the inner work we have to do: Finding out who we are again, rewriting our narratives, filling that void, and loving ourselves first. We called in breakup expert Lindsey Ellison to help us fall in love with our life again and manifest the dream partner that we deserve. Because when you can feel happy on your own, you're raising the bar for the next partner you bring into your life.Lindsey is a relationship coach who helps people navigate breakups or divorce. She’s the author of the best selling book, MAGIC Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist, and host of the popular podcast, Unbreakable You: Breakup Without Being Broken.Listen to our chat to learn more about:Gill’s biggest advice for navigating a breakupHow to know when it’s time to leave a relationshipThe best way to heal and change your mindset after a breakupHow the type of breakup you’re going through affects your recovery time/processTips for getting over trust issuesManaging triggers and relationship remindersHow to avoid becoming jaded or cynical about loveBuilding up your confidence after heartbreak​​We hope this episode helps you get through the tough moments, and inspires you to start putting your needs first.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.ca Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow Lindsey:https://lindseyellison.com/@lindsey_ellisonFollow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:@yunggillianaireFollow Cailyn:@cailynmichaan Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Love week is right around the corner so we’re throwing it back to this gem from 2021 where we dive into the five Love Languages, what they mean, and tips for dating each type.ICYMI, The Five Love Languages was written by marriage counsellor, Dr. Gary Chapman, and has sold over twelve million copies worldwide! We’re not kidding when we say it’s been a game changer for people all over the world…it’s literally been on the New York Times best-sellers list since 2007! Dr. Chapman noticed that couples often came to him with the same concern: “I feel like my partner doesn’t love me.” Starting to recognize a pattern, he discovered that there were five categories on how people could give their partner the love they need: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.And these don’t only apply to romantic relationships. You can also practise self-care for yourself using the 5 love languages, and use them to form stronger relationships with your friends, family and coworkers!Listen to our chat to learn more about:How to practice self-care using the 5 love languagesThe importance ‘Words of Affirmation’ play in making you feel understoodHow to spend ‘Quality Time’ together when you see each other 24/7 or are in a LDRWhy ‘Receiving Gifts’ isn’t as superficial as it soundsHow ‘Acts of Service’ can make your partner’s dayWhy ‘Physical Touch’ is more than just sexy timeTwo easy ways to find yours and your partner’s love languageCailyn’s top love languages and how learning them made her relationship thriveGill’s top love languages and how they can change throughout her lifeWe hope this episode helps you tap into your love language for you and the people you love! Mentioned in this episode:Coach CareyAurelia Box Lingerie Subscription Date Night In A BoxTake Dr.Chapman’s free quiz to find out your love languageFor show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.ca Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Humans are social animals – we thrive off connection – and after two years of almost constant isolation and working from home, people are feeling lonelier than ever. But being alone and being lonely are two very different things, and we’re here to tell you that getting comfortable spending time on your own can be the ultimate game-changer for your health, happiness and relationships.It’s all about reframing our idea of being alone. After all, personal time is a luxury in our busy lives, and making space to relax, reflect or get creative in solitude has amazing positive outcomes. Even if you thrive off social connection (we see you, extroverts!), finding fulfillment on your own is essential. So, this week we’re exploring how to combat loneliness and enjoy being alone! Tune in as we chat about:Why people are feeling lonelier than everHow alone time can help you learn about yourselfThe importance of finding personal hobbiesThe real reason those “mental health walks” do wondersThe power of microconnections and how to make themWays to be part of a communityRedefining your narrative and shifting your mindsetThe mental health benefits of giving backHow to increase your productivity during alone timeWe hope this episode helps you feel a little less lonely and embrace the beauty of time with yourself!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Take it from us: Building a successful side hustle or business is time-consuming and scary, but being your own boss has some serious perks, and it seems the entrepreneurial feeling is catching on. Gig workers now represent more than 20% of millennials in Canada…you could be next! (And we love that journey for you.) If you’ve been thinking about giving your own biz idea a go, this quickie is for you! We’re passing along the most important lessons we’ve learned starting our own business—the good, the bad, the hilarious—and how to set yourself up for success.Tune in as we launch into:Why you need to stop waiting for the perfect time to startDefining your mission and value propositionUnderstanding your consumer and audienceThe importance of setting up your finances and legal structureCreating killer brandingHow to launch with a bangThe metrics that matter for your launchHow to avoid burnout and stay committed We hope this episode inspires you to take the leap and launch your dream idea! And remember, the key is to just start and keep learning as you go. For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

One of the most common resolutions that almost everyone has in January is to save more money. But it’s not that easy with high living expenses, a hundred streaming service subscriptions, and a hefty UberEats habit. So in this week’s Quickie we’re diving into easy ways to save money…literally starting today! Because adulting just hits different when you have your financial sh*t together.Tune in to get the financial scoop on:Understanding your spending triggersInvesting in everyday itemsWhy negotiating with cash is KingHow to save on your fave clothes each seasonAutomating your banking to help you save Hacking your utility billHow to avoid paying annual fees on credit cardsTips on getting a higher interest rate on your savings accountWhat Gill and Cailyn both realized they need to cut back onWe hope this episode inspires you to save a little money this year and achieve all of your financial dreams!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

This year, instead of setting goals for ourselves and then promptly forgetting them, we’re focused on being intentional with our objectives and making sure we achieve them. Enter manifestation. If you’ve been anywhere near the internet lately you’ve probably heard the buzz around manifestation, and honestly the whole concept sounded too good to be true. So, this week, we’re digging deeper to find out if any of the hype is real, or if TikTok has made us all lose our minds. Spoiler alert: manifestation works (but it takes a little more effort than just asking the universe to step in)! This quickie is all about the science behind manifesting your dreams into reality, and how to incorporate intentions, visualization and affirmations into your daily life. There’s no magic or snake oil involved, we promise. So join us in starting 2022 off right with our official no-BS guide to using manifestation to master your mindset and get what you want.Tune in to learn more about: The intentions Gill and Cailyn are focusing on this yearSetting clear, actionable goalsThe benefits of visualization (and how to do it)Creating positive change through affirmationsHow to take action and *actually* achieve your dreamsWe hope this episode helps you approach your life with an abundance mindset and inspires you to manifest your dreams into realty in 2022.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Happy holidays friends! Today we’re throwing it back to an oldie but a goldie from 2020 because these tips are so relevant this holiday season… and TBH, who didn’t need a little breather this week!?While the holidays can be super joyful for many,  they can also come with a ton of stress, pressure, grief, and loneliness for others. So, today we’re diving into five expert-backed mindset hacks to make it through this week with your mental health intact.Tune in to learn more about: Setting clear boundaries with yourself and loved onesThe benefits of an *easy* gratitude practiseHow to “gamify” holiday drama and stress as a way of (pretty damn fun) copingDealing with grief and the loss of loved ones during the holiday seasonCreating new traditions and making your own meaning during the holidaysStay safe and happy holidays to you and your loved ones.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

This week’s episode is a topic you may not have realized you needed to learn way more about…modern etiquette! But this is NOT a stuffy table manners lecture about minding your P’s and Q’s. According to today’s guest, etiquette expert Myka Meier, modern etiquette is about being kind, thoughtful and respectful, presenting your best self, and having the emotional intelligence and social skills to go anywhere with confidence. Sign us up!Myka has been coined the “Marie Kondo of etiquette”. She even trained in London under a member of The Royal Household of the Queen — YAS QUEEN!She started Beaumont Etiquette, which offers courses on etiquette that are super relevant to society today. She brings a fresh and modern perspective to manners, breaking down the stereotype that etiquette is stuffy or outdated. She co-founded The Plaza Hotel’s Finishing Program, and is the author of the two best selling books: Modern Etiquette Made Easy and Business Etiquette Made Easy. Tune in as we answer all your Qs on:When should you bring a hostess giftAppropriate engagement, wedding and shower giftsHow to (politely) remind someone to pay you backWhen you should send a thank you noteHow to dress for weddings, funerals and job interviews.How to set a standard table settingHandling the bill on a first dateHow do you make a good first impression in a job interview or meetingWhere to sit in a boardroomHow to network and self-promote tastefullyThe 101 on business dining etiquetteWe hope this episode empowers you to walk into your next social situation feeling totally prepared and confident!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Myka:@mykameierBuy her books: Modern Etiquette Made Easy: A Five-Step Method to Mastering EtiquetteBusiness Etiquette Made Easy: The Essential Guide to Professional SuccessFollow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Let’s talk about sex, baby! If you, like us, believe the sex-ed we got in school was a total joke… this one’s for you. We’re talking communication, sexting, pleasure, technique, toys, kinks, and yes… butt stuff.We grew up in a time when there was so much shame surrounding sex, especially around female pleasure, and that still affects the way a lot of us navigate our own sexuality. But the best way to counter that, is to normalize and talk about it. Because one of the key cornerstones of a solid relationship is great sex, and for those who aren’t in relationships, a huge part of figuring out who you are and what you like is exploring sex. So in our latest episode, we called in sexpert extraordinaire, Dr. Jess O’Reilly. Dr. Jess is a sexologist (PhD), relationship expert, best-selling author and TV personality. She has worked with thousands of couples around the world to transform their sexual relationships, and she’s the host of the hit reality series Swing, and hosts Intimately You on CityTV.Join us as we discuss:How much sex, conversations in the bedroom, sexting, and toy play YOU guys are havingNavigating different libidos and desire levels Sexual compatibility and bridging the gap between different erotic preferences Asking for what you *really* want in the bedroom and giving (constructive!) feedback Overcoming shame and insecurity so you can be a more open-minded loverHot tips for getting confident with dirty talk and sextingTaking your pleasure to the next level with different penetrative techniques Dr. Jess’s top ways to reconnect and turn up the heat for relationships that are stuck in a sex rutThe best sex toys to try right now How to prep for and work up to butt play For show notes and more adulting tips, visit:teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:instagram.com/teachmehowtoadultpodcast Follow Dr. Jesssexwithdrjess.com  instagram.com/sexwithdrjesspodcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-with-dr-jess/id1166227345Buy her books: https://www.amazon.com/Jessica-OReilly/e/B009LQRI8GFollow Gillian:instagram.com/yunggillianaire/Follow Cailyn:instagram.com/cailynmichaan/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube