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It’s hard to believe another year has come to an end, but that means it’s the perfect time to start planning our goals and setting our intentions for 2023! This week we’re re-releasing a timeless episode that dives into why you need to set clear goals vs. ambiguous resolutions, and gives you our secret sauce to pandemic-proofing your plans for the year ahead.If you want to take control of your life, goal-setting is where it’s at...goals give you focus, direction, motivation and a clear benchmark for measuring your success and progress. So we’re breaking down what a SMART goal is, and eight ways you can plan and execute any goal you set.Tune in to learn more about: Finding the “why” behind your goalsSetting positive, future-thinking goalsEstablishing “SMART” goalsHow to integrate your goals into your daily routineScheduling your non-negotiablesThe importance of accountabilityHow to prioritize to make room for your new goalsHow we broke down our own goals for the yearPLUS download our free goal setting cheat sheet that outlines all of the steps to creating and achieving your goals for 2023: teachmehowtoadult.ca/goalsWe hope this helps you absolutely slay the new year with clear direction, motivation and planning, no matter what awaits us. Thanks for joining us on our journey this year and supporting this podcast, it has meant the world to us. Happy New Year, friends!  Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

The holiday parties have officially begun so this week we’re throwing it back to one of our favourite episodes from 2021 on an often underappreciated topic… modern etiquette! But fear not, this is NOT a stuffy table manners lecture about minding your P’s and Q’s. According to our guest, etiquette expert Myka Meier, modern etiquette is about being kind, thoughtful and respectful, presenting your best self, and having the emotional intelligence and social skills to go anywhere with confidence. Sign us up!Myka has been coined the “Marie Kondo of etiquette,” is the author of two best-selling etiquette books and even trained in London under a member of The Royal Household of the Queen. She started Beaumont Etiquette which offers courses on etiquette that are super relevant to society today and co-founded The Plaza Hotel’s Finishing Program. She brings a fresh and modern perspective to manners, breaking down the stereotype that etiquette is stuffy or outdated. Join us as she answers all our Qs on:When you should bring a hostess giftHow to (politely) remind someone to pay you backWhen you should send a thank you noteHow to set a standard table settingHandling the bill on a first dateHow to network and self-promote tastefullyThe 101 on business dining etiquetteWe hope this episode empowers you to walk into your next holiday party or event feeling totally prepared and confident!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultFollow Myka: mykameier.com@mykameierGet Myka's books:Business Etiquette Made Easy: The Essential Guide to Professional SuccessModern Etiquette Made Easy: A Five-Step Method to Mastering Etiquette Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

This week, we’re throwing it back to an episode that feels as relevant today as it was when we released it in 2020: navigating a layoff. With a looming recession, the volatile stock market, and sky-high interest rates, it seems like companies everywhere are laying off employees each time we log into LinkedIn — especially in the tech industry. Layoffs can happen for a million different reasons, and it’s important to know that company cuts and restructuring has nothing to do with you personally. Still, losing a job impacts your self-esteem, your bank account and your career goals, but our chat with Latesha Byrd is back to help you bounce forward if it happens to you. Latesha is a certified career coach and the CEO of Perfeqta, a talent development consulting agency that helps companies build high-performing teams and put equity back into talent.Join us as we chat about:Our personal experience with layoffsThree things people should do immediately after they’ve been laid offHow to gain confidence againThe importance of a “Career Readiness Toolkit” How to talk about your layoff in an interviewKey traits top talent have that sets them apartImportant questions to ask in an interviewHow to use LinkedIn to build your own personal brandWe hope this episode helps you feel a little less alone and ready to jump into your next big opportunity!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultFollow Latesha @latesha_byrdhttps://www.lateshabyrd.com/ Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

’Tis the season to set some hardcore boundaries, because they really are the key to living a less stressed, healthier, happier life. Upholding boundaries doesn’t mean you’re in your villain era… the truth about how to properly set and hold them may pleasantly surprise you, because they actually work to improve your relationships — not to restrict them. We got a game-changing rundown on how boundaries will change your life, with the incredible Melissa Urban, who literally wrote the book on boundaries, aptly called The Book of Boundaries. This is THE boundaries 101 crash course for anyone looking to overcome people-pleasing tendencies and improve their relationship with themselves, their family and friends, and in the workplace. Melissa Urban is a six-time New York Times bestselling author, the co-founder and CEO of the wildly popular Whole30 nutritional program, and host of the Do the Thing podcast. You may have seen her on her hugely popular social accounts or heard her on some of your favourite podcasts, from Glennon Doyle’s to The Skinny Confidential. Melissa has helped millions of people live their best lives through the work she does in the health and mental wellness spaces.Join us as we chat about:Melissa’s journey to helping people establish healthy boundariesSigns that it’s time to set a boundary with someoneHow to *actually* set a boundaryWhy boundaries improve your relationshipsMelissa’s green, yellow, red frameworkHow to stop breaking your own self-boundariesBracing for pushback from othersSetting boundaries at work to crush it without burning outWays to set boundaries this holiday seasonWe hope this episode motivates you to set some boundaries in your life, so you can take back your time, mental health, energy and relationships!  For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultFollow Melissa @melissau Buy Melissa’s book: https://www.amazon.ca/dp/0735243212 Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Taking on the world by yourself can seem overwhelming, but if Eat, Pray, Love taught us anything it’s that solo travel can lead to some of our most liberating, life-changing experiences. This week we’re diving into one of our most frequently asked questions for our in-house globe trotter, Gill: How do I travel alone? Travelling solo might feel entirely out of your comfort zone, but the benefits of taking time to explore a new place (and yourself) on your own terms can be a serious game-changer for your mental well-being, confidence, and fulfillment. So buckle up, because we’re taking you on a journey through the good, bad, and best parts of flying solo!Join us as we chat about:Gill’s epic trips and why she decided to travel on her ownHow travelling solo can be healing during hard timesThe importance of setting an intention for your tripHow to keep the vacation sparks alive when you’re back homeHow to decide where you should go, and whenWays to combat loneliness when you’re on your ownTips for putting yourself out there and meeting new peoplePlanning your trips with “possibilities” vs. a strict itineraryKey safety tips you need to know while travelling soloGill’s brutal experience getting mugged in Lisbon3 key tips for anyone who’s thinking about travelling aloneWe hope this episode inspires you to take the leap and book your next solo trip! You won’t regret it.If you have any burning questions for us and you want to get us in the hotseat, DM or email us your Qs at contact@teachmehowtoadult.ca.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Just in time for the holiday season, we’re here to help you get back to being the social butterfly, conversational queen that you are. Because between the endless Zoom calls and virtual happy hours, a lot of us have lost the art of real conversation. So as we return to the office and real holiday parties, it’s about time we all brushed up on our social skills and learned how to carry a convo IRL. Solid talking and listening skills are an essential piece of thriving in your love life and work life, so this week we’re saying BYEEE to social anxiety so we can work any room with confidence.Join us as we chat about:How a little pre-event prep can ease your nervesFinding common ground with someone you don’t knowBrushing up on current events/pop cultureAvoiding small talk by staying curious and using open-ended questionsThe power of being vulnerable and sharing 50/50 in a conversationHow to approach heavy topics in a respectful wayThe power of a good compliment and positive vibesBody language tips for being more approachableThe 50/70 rule of eye contactWe hope these tips will help you work any room you’re in and add a little charisma to your conversations. For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

The real estate market is crazy right now, but if there’s one thing we learned from today’s episode, it’s that home ownership is absolutely still possible right now, and there’s not necessarily a “good” or “bad” time to get into the market — if you can afford to get in, start building that equity, boo! But is it *really* more expensive to get into the market right now with current lending rates, or do the costs even out in a cooler buyers’ market? Tune in for some stress-busting answers. As homeowners themselves, Gill and Cailyn both know how stressful it can be buying a first home, especially in a volatile economy. From hidden costs and mortgage options, to offer strategies when you find the right home for you, we get all the answers from licensed realtor, Alexandra Cote. Alexandra has been voted best realtor in Toronto in NOW Magazine’s Reader’s Choice Awards since 2016, and beyond helping her clients reach their real estate goals, she also works alongside the Government Relations and Affordable Housing Committees to create positive change in housing policies.Join us as we chat about:Gill and Cailyn’s journeys to home ownership Avoiding being “house poor” Navigating the current market and higher interest ratesPlans and incentives for first-time home buyersSetting a budget for your home hunt, and hidden costs to considerMortgage term options, finding a broker, and getting preapproved What to know about down payments Creating a winning offer strategyNegotiating conditions and inclusions in your offer We hope this episode helps you feel a bit more clear and confident on your road to home ownership!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultFollow Alexandra:thefoxteam.ca@alexandracote Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

We’ve talked about how to successfully network and interview for jobs, but what comes next when you do get the job, and you’re ready to move up? Climbing the corporate ladder is a whole other beast, but with our own years of experience, and tips from the experts, we have plenty of advice on how to make moves.This week we’re answering a question sent in on how to get promoted from a coordinator to a management position at work, but the advice applies to anyone looking to move up a level in their career. From building solid relationships and mapping out a plan with your boss, to learning how to lead, this is your official guide to getting promoted!Tune in as we chat about:How to ask for what you want Gaining visibility within your companyExploring lateral movesWhy understanding communication styles is keyBeing an adaptable leaderHow to find a mentorWhen it’s time to jump ship We hope this episode helps you get the recognition you deserve at work, so you can keep crushing as a corporate baddie!If you have any burning questions for us and you want to get us in the hotseat, DM or email us your Qs at contact@teachmehowtoadult.ca.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadult Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Moving in with your significant other sounds like a dream… that is until they start loading the dishwasher all wrong. Taking the leap and living together is a make-or-break step in any relationship but there are ways to set yourself up for success and today we’re giving you the cheat sheet!From how to start the conversation about your boundaries (and finances!) to tips on keeping the spark alive, this week’s quickie has everything you need to know before you move in with your partner and tips for making the transition as smooth as possible.Tune in as we chat about:Creating goals for your relationshipHow to protect yourself and the legal agreements you might needAn easy guide to tackling financesWhy communication and setting boundaries are keyHow to make your design styles meshRespecting routines and making new onesThe positive side of healthy conflictHow to keep your sex life alivePrioritizing YOU time We hope this episode helps you decide if you’re ready to move in with your partner and makes the transition a little smoother. Good luck to all the love birds ready to make their nest together, you got this!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultMentioned in this episode:How To Spice Up Your Sex Life with Sexologist Dr. Jess O’ReillyHow To Manage Money In Your Relationship with Finance Expert Alyssa Davies Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Our limiting beliefs get the best of us sometimes, and it’s something that so many of us struggle with in life and at work. The truth is, we can’t always trust the things we tell ourselves. Our brain pumps out around 6,000 thoughts per day and with that much going on, it’s bound to get a few things wrong. So this week we called in Komal Minhas to help us develop the confidence and mindset skills to tap into our potential and get out of our own way. Komal is an executive coach, business strategist, interviewer, and resilience educator who coaches people to build successful businesses while improving their wellbeing and mastering their mindset.She’s landed a spot on Oprah’s Super Soul 100 list, screened her film, Dream, Girl, at the Obama White House, and has interviewed legends like Glennon Doyle and Michelle Obama. She’s overcome great adversity to accomplish so many incredible things in her life, sharing her insights and wisdom on her podcast, Lessons Learned, and in her own column for Fortune Magazine.Tune in as we chat with Komal about:Her journey through adversity and how she found her purposeThe most common limiting beliefs people hold3 research-backed ways to build confidence (and why we should all re-watch Legally Blonde)How to pursue success while maintaining your health and wellbeingTips for setting boundaries at workCultivating resilience during difficult timesHow to find your purposeDesigning a life with balanceWe hope this episode helps inspire you to relentlessly pursue your full potential, protect your wellbeing as you own your success, and believe in your damn self!For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow us on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultFollow Komal:Komalminhas.com@komalminhasMentioned in this episode: Ikigai: The Japanese Concept Of Finding Purpose In Life Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube