Teach Me How To Adult

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. It’s officially the first day of Spring (!!!) and we are in full swing cleaning mode. But after years of half-assing our own organization, we set out to really declutter, put systems in place, and get *Monica clean*. We’re throwing it back to the top questions to ask during your decluttering journey, and the psychology behind organization and your belongings, with Megan Golightly. Megan is a professional home organizer and founder of Calgary-based business, Simplified, which helps people organize, pack and unpack their homes. Megan blends her degree in psychology and passion for neuroscience research with practical organization strategies. Listen to our full episode with Megan Golightly here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow Megan:go-simplified.com@gosimplified/Organization Guides: ​​go-simplified.com/guides Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

We humans are social creatures, we thrive on community and connection. But in these times of social media comparison and cancel culture, it can feel like we’ve lost sight of something vital — compassion. With mean girls dominating the news cycle, we thought this would be the perfect time to get deep and teach ourselves a lesson on the importance of compassion, how to give it to others and most importantly, how to give it to ourselves.At its core, compassion is about putting aside judgment and making an effort to understand the struggles within ourselves and others. It helps us create meaningful connections, build healthy relationships, and develop emotional intelligence, which coincidentally all make for a well-adjusted adult! We’re all a lot more similar than we are different so let’s get positive (but not in a toxic way we promise). Tune in as we chat about:What compassion actually meansThe difference between pity, sympathy, empathy and compassionThe importance of finding similarities with othersHow assuming positive intent can shift your mindsetWhy we should validate someone before trying to find solutionsHolding space for someone's painUsing the "RAIN" method to cultivate self-compassionGill's favourite Loving-Kindness mediation for next-level compassionWe hope this episode helps you have more compassion for the people in your life, but most importantly, for yourself.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaan Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Here’s the secret to breaking out of any rut, limiting beliefs, or periods of low self-esteem: You can completely change your life with one easy mindset tweak. So this week we’re throwing it back to the totally doable and life-changing tools Raia "Coach" Carey teaches to help clients gain confidence and break out of impostor syndrome… visualization, daily check-ins, and positive self-talk. Learn how to pursue the life you want, from the inside out, in just 5 minutes. Coach Carey is a 3x certified life coach and motivational speaker who specializes in confidence, visualization, and career coaching. She's worked with global companies like RBC, LinkedIn, H&M, SoHo House and Get REAL, teaching others the tools she’s used to completely transform her own life.  We hope this episode helps you harness your confidence, overcome impostor syndrome and chase the success you deserve. Listen to our full episode with Coach Carey here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow Coach Carey:@coach.careycareycoach.com Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Wedding season will soon be upon us, and if you’re planning to tie the knot, dreaming up a future wedding, or supporting a bride/groom in your life — this one’s for you. Whether you’re planning the event of the year, or an intimate and budget-friendly micro-celebration, every single wedding is a beautiful opportunity to celebrate love, so don’t lose sight of what’s important. But no matter the scale or scope, weddings can be stressful, so we got the inside scoop from luxury wedding planner Rebecca Chan. Rebecca is the owner and lead planner of Rebecca Chan Weddings & Events, which specializes in planning beautiful, luxury weddings and events in Toronto and abroad. She’s been orchestrating stunning events for over a decade and is a regular Cityline guest expert. She’s even planned events for celebrities like Rupi Kaur!So if you're ready to say "I do", tune in as we chat about:Planning for the wedding that YOU wantGetting clear on what matters mostThe big-ticket items you need to plan forHidden fees you might not know aboutHow to navigate the guest list and avoid hurt feelingsSubtle ways to ask for cash instead of giftsPro tips for having the perfect timeline on the day of your weddingWhen you should start dress shoppingQs to ask when finding the perfect venue We hope this episode helps you plan the wedding of your dreams, minus all the nerves and overspending. For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow Rebecca:Rebeccachan.ca@rebeccachanweddings Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. How different would your life be if you weren’t afraid to ask for what you deserve? This week we’re throwing it back to a game-changing episode with negotiation expert, Fotini Iconomopoulos, where she shares four key ways to crush your next negotiation. And here’s the thing: Negotiations are not about bulldozing others so you can get your way...they are about creating a collaboration that helps both parties get what they want. The key is confidence, clear communication, listening and empathy, and when you break it down like that, a lot of us already have these skills—we just need to apply them…and maybe practice with a friend!Fotini’s been helping people get what they want, both personally and professionally, for decades. Through her keynotes, workshops and virtual courses, Fotini helps teach the negotiation and communication skills required to navigate any scenario. She teaches MBA Negotiations at the Schulich School of Business at York University, and is the author of the book “Say Less, Get More: Unconventional Negotiation Techniques to Get What You Want”.We hope this episode inspires you to go after what you want and ask for what you deserve!Listen to our full episode with Fotini here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow Fotini:fotiniicon.com/instagram.com/fotiniicon/linkedin.com/in/fotiniiconomopoulos/Get Fotini’s Book: Say Less Get More Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

If you’re starting to think about having a bébé, or newly expecting (congrats!), it’s totally normal for a laundry list of Qs — like, WTF IS THIS GOING TO FEEL LIKE!? — to start building up. The unknowns can feel daunting, and there are so many aspects of pregnancy that still aren’t openly talked about. Like the whole nipple situation. Luckily for us, Cailyn tried out pregnancy for nine whole months, all so that we may benefit from her experiences and advice. Buckle up, because our resident mama is here to spill the tea on everything she learned during pregnancy.  Join us as we chat about:How to know if you’re ready to start trying for a babyWTF to do when you first find out you’re pregnantDebunking the narrative that you should wait three months to tell peopleHow to approach telling your boss that you’re pregnantWild pregnancy symptoms you may not know aboutHow to know if you're doing all the right thingsHaving compassion for yourself and your bodyThe honest scoop on how Cailyn’s body changedThe best pregnancy advice Cailyn received Stay tuned for our upcoming deep-dives into fertility, labor, postpartum realtalk, and life with a baby! Wherever you are in your pregnancy/fertility journey, we hope you have all the support and love you deserve during this incredible time in your life.  If you have any burning questions for us and you want to get us in the hotseat, DM or email us your Qs at contact@teachmehowtoadult.ca and we’ll dive into them in an upcoming Asking For A Friend. For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaan Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Dating can be maximum fun, but it can also be stressful and exhausting if you’ve been on the hunt for “the one” for a while. Whether you’re newly single or a seasoned app swiper, we gotchu, boo! We’re throwing it back to the most important lesson we learned from relationship coach Lauren Zoeller: The non-negotiables you should establish going into any relationship, and an insightful exercise to help you figure out your needs in a relationship, and how to give them to yourself, first. Consider this the healthiest dating pep talk you’ll hear, in 7 minutes. Treat yourself. Lauren is a CTA certified Love & Relationship Coach, motivational speaker and podcast host. She’s the creator of The Aligned Love Experience™, a coaching program that teaches women how to attract love. She’s been featured in international publications like Prevention, Shape, Business Insider, Thrive Global, Money Inc., and more. Believe us when we say love is her language!Listen to our full episode with Lauren here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow Lauren:laurenzoeller.com@laurenzoeller Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Good communication is the golden key to a healthy relationship, but like most things, it’s easier said than done. So today, we’re continuing our love month theme and throwing it back to a collection of game-changing advice from our episode on communication and conflict with licensed family and marriage therapist, Liz Earnshaw.Liz takes us on a relationship deep dive, breaking down everything from our physiology during conflict, to identifying power dynamics and creating healthy communication strategies. And even if you’re not in a relationship, this episode can help anyone work towards becoming the securely attached communicative human we all strive to be.Tune in as we chat about:The biggest relationship issues she sees in couples How The Four Horsemen can harm the way we communicate Dealing with criticism and feedbackHow to heal from hurt or betrayal The power struggles that crop up during conflict How to set healthy boundaries with your partner We hope this episode helps you create closer bonds and communicate effectively in conflict! Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

A wise person once said, love is blind. But let's be real…sometimes love can be straight up oblivious! Whether you’re single and dating or in a long-term relationship, green flags and red flags always seem to come up as signs that things are either going great, could use some work, or that it’s time to GTFO. So, today we’re tackling a question that a lot of our friends and listeners have been talking about lately — how to spot a red or green flag in a relationship, and what to do when those red flags start adding up. Pour yourself a glass of your favourite bevy (it’s a fun one!) and join us as we read, rate, and drink our way through the red and green flags you DM’d us on IG, and discuss/debate how good or bad each scenario really is:Tune in to hear our thoughts on: Staying friends with their exWhen they’re jealous AFBad texters When they want to do everything togetherWhen they’re a Mama’s boyWhat constitutes good VS bad fightingWhen they’re extra cheesy & write you love letters, songs and poems Low libidos Love bombingAnd more!!We hope this episode helps you navigate any potential red flags that come your way and helps you find the love you deserve. If you have any burning questions for us and you want to get us in the hotseat, DM or email us your Qs at contact@teachmehowtoadult.ca and we’ll dive into them in an upcoming Asking For A Friend. For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaan Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Just in time for Valentine’s Day, we’re diving into all things sex toys (pssst…it’s not too late to gift one to your lover!). We don’t talk about orgasms and toys enough. There’s still so much shame surrounding sex and intimacy — especially when it comes to female pleasure. But we’re here to normalize these conversations by throwing it back to some fire advice from our episode with Sexpert Dr. Jess O’Reilly. One of the key cornerstones of a solid relationship is great sex, and if you aren’t with anyone, exploring what you like in the bedroom solo is just as important. Tune in as Dr. Jess schools us with THE ultimate sex toy 101 lesson and shares her top tips for spicing things up in the bedroom. Dr. Jess is a sexologist (PhD), relationship expert, best-selling author and TV personality. She has worked with thousands of couples around the world to transform their sexual relationships, she’s the host of the hit reality series Swing, and hosts Intimately You on CityTV.Listen to our full episode with Dr. Jess  here!Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.For show notes and more adulting tips, visit: teachmehowtoadult.caSign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultpodcast @yunggillianaire@cailynmichaanFollow Dr. Jesssexwithdrjess.com  @sexwithdrjessSex with Dr.Jess PodcastBuy her books: https://www.amazon.com/Jessica-OReilly/e/B009LQRI8G Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube