

How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Connell Barrett
Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
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Mar 11, 2025 • 33min
The 7 ‘Friend Zone’ Destroyers: Go from Hearing ‘Let’s Be Friends’ to ‘Let’s Go to Your Place!’
You think a date went well, only to get that frustrating text: “You’re a nice guy, but I just didn’t feel a connection...” The Friend Zone can be brutal. Dating coach Connell Barrett knows this from experience. “I didn’t just live in the Friend Zone,” he says. “I owned real estate there.” But he also knows the way out. Now he’s sharing the 7 Friend Zone Destroyers simple, tested moves that you can make to spark attraction on your next date!You’re about to learn:8:24: Friend Zone Destroyer #1: Send Her Flirty Messages Before the Date10:34: Friend Zone Destroyer #2: Share an Authentic Personal Story14:27: Friend Zone Destroyer #3: How to Give Her a Sexy Compliment16:53: Friend Zone Destroyer #4: Find Emotional Commonalities18:31: Friend Zone Destroyer #5: Touch Her the Right Way (NOT the Weird Way!)21:41: Friend Zone Destroyer #6: How to Help Her Feel Connected to You24:05: Friend Zone Destroyer #7: Three Smooth First-Kiss Moves28:52: Bonus: Connell’s Favorite First-Date Game that Women LOVE to PlayStop hearing “Let’s just be friends” and start hearing “Let’s go out again!” Listen now.TO TAKE YOUR DATING RESULTS TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Mar 6, 2025 • 58min
Tired of Swiping? How Matchmaking Can Set You Up with Incredible Women (Ditch the Apps for Good!)
Are you exhausted by dating apps? Tired of first dates with people who aren’t right for you? What if someone hand-picked incredible women for you to meet—women who are just your type? Dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes elite matchmaker Amy Andersen, founder of Linx Dating, to break down the world of high-end matchmaking. Amy shares the key advantages of working with what she calls “your own personal cheerleader” and offers expert first-date tips to help you make a great impression.Connell and Amy Discuss:04:45: Why Dating Apps Take So Much Time—and How Matchmaking Saves You Countless Hours08:22: Why a Personalized Approach to Finding Love Can Work Better than DIY Dating17:45: “They Got Married on their Second Date!” Amy’s Jaw-Dropping Success Story28:57: Essential Do’s and Don’ts of Hiring a Matchmaker33:11: How to Be Interesting and Attractive on the First Date44:01: The Power of Authenticity and Vulnerability in Sparking Real Romantic ConnectionsIf you want an easier way to meet incredible women, this episode is a must-listen.LEARN MORE ABOUT MATCHMAKING AND LINX DATING:http://www.Linxdating.comFOLLOW AMY ANDERSEN ON INSTAGRAM:@ms.linxdatingBOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW 1-1 DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU FIND A GREAT GIRLFRIEND:http://www.DatingTransformation.com

Mar 4, 2025 • 30min
How to NEVER Run Out of Things to Say: The 7 Best Banter Topics to Instantly Attract Women
Do you ever struggle with what to say to women—either in person or when trying to craft the perfect text? Dating coach Connell Barrett gives you the 7 Best Banter Topics so you can keep conversations flirty and free-flowing. Whether you’re talking to her in person or messaging on your phone, just reach for one of these foolproof topics for instant banter. And you don’t need to be naturally witty. These simple tips will work for any guy! Plus, you’ll learn the Playful Pivot, a powerful technique that takes your banter to a masterful level.Highlights of this Episode:03:20: The 7 Best Banter Topics to Never Run Out of Things to Say04:47: The Words She’s Dying to Hear from You09:17: The “Desert Island” Question that Ignites Instant Attraction11:44: The Storytelling Trick that Makes You Charismatic16:47: The Topic That Sparks Playful, Engaging Conversations17:35: The “What If” Question that Makes You Different from Other Guys19:45: The Playful Pivot—How to Master Flirty Banter and Become IrresistibleGet ready to attract women effortlessly with great banter. Listen now.WANT TO TAKE YOUR FLIRTY BANTER TO A WHOLE NEW LEVEL? BOOK A FREECALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:www.DatingTransformation.com

Feb 27, 2025 • 1h 7min
How to Make Bold Moves without Being Creepy: A Top Coach for Women Tells All! (with Evan Marc Katz)
You know you should make moves with women—say the flirtatious thing, go for the kiss. But what if you come off as creepy? So you hold back… and nothing happens. You feel stuck, right? Renowned dating coach for women Evan Marc Katz is here to get you unstuck! Having coached thousands of single women, Evan knows exactly what they want. And today, he’ll tell you how to make the right moves to attract the ideal woman for you.You’re About to Learn:02:15: What Women Really Want: Evan Breaks It Down04:35: How Introverts Can Better Connect with Women08:12: Feeling Shy on a Date? Try This!15:58: How to Build Authentic Trust with a Woman You Just Met16:15: How to Unlock Your “Masculine Edge” and Make Moves—Without Being Creepy27:55: The Right Way to Text Women (So They Actually Respond)33:02: Forget Money and Looks: These Are the 3 Things Women Look For43:35: The Mindset Shift You Need to Finally Succeed on the Apps52:11: Evan’s Most Important Advice for Attracting Your Future GirlfriendHit play now and start making all the right dating moves.LEARN HOW EVAN HELPS SMART, SUCCESSFUL WOMEN FIND A GREAT GUY:https://www.evanmarckatz.com/LISTEN TO EVAN’S “LOVE U” PODCAST:https://www.evanmarckatz.com/the-love-u-podcastFOLLOW EVAN ON INSTAGRAM @realevanmarckatzFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Feb 25, 2025 • 45min
Does Love (and Life) Feel Like a Grind? The ‘3 Classes of Experience’ Will Set You Free
Ever feel like dating—and life—is just a grind? This episode will change how you experience both so you can feel much more fulfilled. Dating coach Connell Barrett introduces the 3 Classes of Human Experience, a powerful self-improvement framework that Connell and his clients use to make dating fun. (What? Dating can be fun? Who knew!) And nothing’s more attractive to women than a guy who actually enjoys life.You’re About to Learn:01:10: The Mindset Shift that Transformed Connell’s Entire Life06:37: The 3 Classes of Human Experience: How to Go from Coping to Thriving12:05: Why Your Love Life is Stuck in the ‘Class 2’ Grind—and How to Escape20:32: The Most Powerful Self-Improvement Shift You Can Achieve Today29:01: The Key Move that Makes Talking to Women So Much Easier36:55: The Simple Way to Change Your Whole Life, Not Just Your Love LifeHit play and start living—and dating—the way you were meant to.FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Feb 20, 2025 • 1h 20min
It’s Rom-Complicated! How Nice Guys Can Get the Girl: Lessons from ‘Say Anything’ (with Hollywood Producer Cristina Nava)
“It’s Rom-Complicated!” returns, helping you find love by watching rom-com movies. This time, dating coach Connell Barrett shares love lessons from the 1989 Cameron Crowe classic “Say Anything.” He’s joined by special guest Cristina Nava, a Hollywood producer who specializes in making rom-coms! (Her latest movie, the very funny “Say a Little Prayer,” is now streaming on Amazon Prime and Apple TV.) Can a quirky nice guy like Lloyd Dobler (John Cusack) really win over his dream girl, Diane Court (Ione Skye)? Or does it take a boombox, a trench coat, and a questionable lack of boundaries? Let’s break it down.Connell and Cristina Discuss:4:12: Why Women WANT to Date Nice Guys Like Lloyd Dobler5:59: Why “Say a Little Prayer” is a Great Date Movie16:30: Cristina Reveals Her Real-Life Rom-Com Moment: Surprise Roses in Eighth Grade24:53: The Rom-Commies—the Best, Worst, and Stalkiest Moments of “Say Anything”31:22: The Best Dating Move from the Movie that Actually Works36:35: The Worst Dating Advice in the Film—Avoid This!39:33: The Secret to Lloyd’s Confidence (It’s NOT His Looks)49:27: What Hasn’t Aged Well: Boomboxes and Boundary Issues1:14:26: The Film’s Biggest Love Lesson that Women Want You to KnowWATCH “SAY A LITTLE PRAYER” ON AMAZON PRIMEhttps://www.amazon.com/gp/video/detail/0OSRUJ1FSZXHSCDGXFZ23PMPUL/refFOLLOW THE MOVIE AND CRISTIONA ON INSTAGRAM@Sayalittleprayerfilm@IamcristinanavaFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Feb 18, 2025 • 49min
My Girlfriend Jess Reveals the #1 Secret to Landing Second Dates! (Most Men Make 3 BIG Mistakes)
So, you finally get a first date with a smart, attractive woman… only for her to say, “no thanks” to a second. It’s discouraging. Let’s fix that! After last week’s special 4-part Valentine’s Day series on meeting and attracting women IRL, you don’t want to put in all that effort only to hit a first-date roadblock. Connell and his girlfriend, Jess, break down what made their first date a fun, flirty success—and what you can do to get a LOT more second dates. (Originally aired in November.)In this episode, Connell and Jess discuss:3:20: The Profile Photos that Made Her Swipe Right13:05: The Right Way to Text a Woman Before a First Date18:20: Jess’s Top First-Date Tip29:00: What to Talk About So You Never Run Out of Things to Say30:48: How to Avoid Interview Mode and Not Get Friend-Zoned34:15: Jess Called this First Kiss Move “Suave”—You Need to Know It!37:18: How to Ask Women Out for a Second Date39:21: Her Top 3 First-Date Mistakes that Guys Make45:00: Why Women Want Authentic Men, Not Toxic “Alpha Males”Sick of hearing “Let’s just be friends”?Learn how to get more second dates, starting now.BOOK A CONSULTATION CALL TODAY & GET A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S BESTSELLING DATING GUIDE!Frustrated with dating? Ready to find an amazing girlfriend? Book a FREE call with Connell to see if his coaching is right for you. If you book your call today, you’ll get a free copy of his No. 1 Amazon bestselling book, “Dating Sucks but You Don’t.” Spots are limited, and this deal expires today—don’t miss out. Use this link to book your free call now to see if coaching is right for you.www.datingtransformation.com

Feb 16, 2025 • 57min
“Let Her Kick Rocks!”—How to Turn Rejection into Results (and Dates) with No-B.S. Love Expert Sabrina Zohar
Do women send you mixed signals—and you have no clue what they mean? Get ready for the raw, unfiltered truth about what women really want, from straight- talking dating expert Sabrina Zohar. A social media sensation with over 2 million followers, Sabrina reveals why “nice guys” lose out, the texting mistakes that get you ghosted, and how to finally land dates with great women on the apps.Sabrina Will Tell You:13:33: How to Stop Taking Rejection Personally and Bounce Back Stronger20:15: The One Texting Mistake that Makes Girls Lose Interest22:48: How to Message Women the Right Way and Stop Getting Ghosted31:27: The Profile Photos and Prompts that Get You Matches33:57: The One Photo You Should NEVER Put on Hinge or Bumble37:47: Why Women Swipe Left—and How to Get them Swiping Right44:12: The Approach Fail that Gets You Rejected Every Time49:36: The WORST Gym Pickup Line Ever—and What to Say InsteadSabrina’s no-B.S. advice will help you start winning at dating. Listen now!LEARN MORE ABOUT SABRINA ZOHAR:http://www.sabrinazohar.comFOLLOW HER ON INSTAGRAM:@TheSabrinaZoharShowLISTEN TO HER PODCAST, ‘THE SABRINA ZOHAR SHOW’http://www.sabrinazohar.com/podcastFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Feb 15, 2025 • 1h 56min
LIVE Approaches: Hear Me Chat Up Cuties IRL—Listen NOW to Get Numbers and Dates Tonight! (Part 4)
It’s Valentine’s Weekend—get ready to flirt with women and get dates! In the last of a 4-part series about attracting women IRL, dating coach Connell Barrett shares the final steps in becoming a 1 Percent Man—the rare guy who can confidently approach women without weird pickup lines. You’ll hear ACTUAL AUDIO of Connell meeting and flirting with bright, beautiful women, for an inside look at how simple and powerful it is when you approach with authenticity. Plus, you’ll get great openers for 10 situations, and also learn the 5 biggest approaching mistakes to avoid.Highlights of the Episode:03:25: The Night Connell Went from a Panic Attack to Approaching and Attracting Kelly10:45: How to Become a Confident, Authentic 1 Percent Man14:05: What to Say to a Group of Women at a Bar to Spark Interest15:28: What to Say to a Cute Girl at Your Gym to Be Charming, Not Creepy17:50: What to Say at a Grocery Store to Make Her Laugh21:00: What to Say in the Elevator to Have a Great Conversation25:20: The All-Purpose Opener that Works with Women Anywhere28:33: The 5 Biggest Approaching Fails and How to Fix Them50:00: EXCLUSIVE! For the First Time Ever, Connell Shares Actual Audio of Him Approaching Women and Getting Numbers and Dates1:31:27: The One Action to Take Today to Get a Great Girlfriend in 90 Days or LessYour journey to meeting and attracting wonderful women starts today. Listen now!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Feb 14, 2025 • 1h 8min
Say This, Get the Date (No Flaking!) How To Never Run Out of Things to Say (Part 3 of 4)
You’re talking to a woman you like—now what? How do you avoid running out of things to say and awkward silences? And how do you ask her out? In Part 3 of this special dating IRL series, dating coach Connell Barrett gives you a simple, 3-step roadmap to keep the conversation flowing, spark attraction, and smoothly get her number. Plus, discover the 7 biggest conversation fails that kill attraction (and how to fix them). And you’ll learn the right way to meet women at the gym, without being “that guy.”You’re About to Learn:2:47: The 3-Step Roadmap to Keep Conversations Flowing and Get the Date5:37: What to Talk About First After You Approach8:15: The Magic Word that Makes You More Interesting to Her12:30: The Exact Way to Ask Her Out21:51: How to Get Her Phone Number27:07: The BIG Mistake that Will Get You Ghosted28:45: The 7 Conversation Fails that Kill Attraction and How to Avoid Them47:10: Why Women Ghost You—and the Simple Move to Fix It56:54: How to Meet and Charm Women at Your GymListen now to have flirty conversations with women you meet IRL—so you can get dates!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com


