

How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Connell Barrett
Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
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Apr 15, 2025 • 36min
Ask the Dating Coach: ‘I Don’t Think I’m Good-Looking. Do I Even Have a Chance with Women?’
Do you worry that you’re just not good-looking enough to date the kinds of women you’re into? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett helps a man who wonders if any women will ever want him because he thinks he’s “ugly.” Connell breaks down what actually makes a man attractive—and it’s not male-model looks. Plus, another listener asks why women agree to dates and then cancel last minute, and Connell shares an easy fix.Episode Highlights:05:30: “Connell, Am I Not Good-Looking Enough to Attract Women?”15:15: “I Cried During ‘Titanic’ and She Ghosted Me—Was I Too Vulnerable?”20:25: “Damn You, Autocorrect! I Just Called Her ‘Boobzilla’!”24:14: “Why Do Women Keep Canceling on Me Last Minute?”32:45: “She Loves My Dog but Not Me. Am I in the Friend Zone?”Listen now and take the next step toward meeting your dream girlfriend.DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Apr 10, 2025 • 40min
Tired of Struggling on Tinder and Bumble? Try the Innovative Dating App that Helps Men and Women Connect IRL!
Tired of endless swiping that never leads to dates? Want to meet wonderful women in real life? Dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes David Vermeulen, founder of Inner Circle, a different kind of dating app. Inner Circle helps singles skip the small talk and make meaningful connections, both online and offline. As Vermeulen explains in this encore episode, Inner Circle hosts real-world events so its members can stop wasting time on flaky matches and connect with singles who genuinely want to date.With Connell and David as your guides, you’ll discover:4:46: The Dating Horror Story that Inspired David to Start Inner Circle6:38: How Inner Circle’s Technology Virtually Eliminates Fake Profiles7:55: Why the Platform’s IRL Events is “Where the Magic Happens”10:43: A Game-Changing Strategy for Introverts to Meet Women in the Real World11:25: Connell’s One-Sentence Dating Mantra that Will Transform Your Love Life19:29: How “Tinder is Like McDonald’s,” in David’s View27:41: Why Quality Matches Always Beat Quantity30:54: How to Decide if She’s Worth a Second Date33:36: A Simple Writing Tip to Make Your Bio Magnetic to Women35:32: David’s Surprising Rule for Online-Dating Success: “Opposites Don’t Attract”Ready to finally connect with women on a dating app that actually works? Listen now!LEARN MORE ABOUT INNER CIRCLE:https://about.theinnercircle.co/CHECK OUT INNER CIRCLE ON INSTAGRAM:https://www.instagram.com/innercircleco/DOWNLOAD THE INNER CIRCLE APP:https://apps.apple.com/us/app/inner-circle-dating-community/id838136374FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Apr 8, 2025 • 1h 35min
Too Anxious to Approach? Use these 5 Steps to Boldly Meet and Date Wonderful Women (Live Coaching with Ryan)
You see a gorgeous girl and want to approach her—but you freeze up! “What do I say? What if I’m creepy?” That inner voice kills your confidence, keeping you stuck and frustrated. Let’s fix it today! In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett teaches his client Ryan the 5 Master Steps to boldly approach women with charm and authenticity—no weird pickup moves needed.What You’ll Learn in this Live-Coaching Episode:10:15: What Stops Ryan from Approaching—and How He Fixed It with “Terminator Glasses”14:22: How to Turn Every Approach into a Fun, Confidence-Building Win24:45: How to Flirt with More Sexuality While Remaining a True Gentleman40:22: How to Tell If She Likes You… or Wants You to Walk Away45:40: How Connell Made Out with a Total Cutie—Just 1 Hour After She Rejected Him!52:00: The 5 Master Steps to Approaching Women with Authentic Confidence1:12:03: One Easy Move to Instantly Build Momentum in Any Bar or Venue1:22:23: Why Bold Risk-Takers are Irresistible to WomenWant to know exactly what to say in a way women find magnetic? Listen now!DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Apr 3, 2025 • 1h 3min
Women Love Nice, Nerdy Guys like YOU—If You Do 1 Important Thing (with Dating Coach Nick Notas)
Dating coach Nick Notas, with over 15 years of experience, shares insights on why many women are drawn to nice, nerdy guys. He explains how being authentic can make your geeky traits attractive. Nick reveals the pitfalls of pickup artist tactics and stresses the importance of genuine self-confidence. He discusses fun conversation starters for dates and debunks misconceptions about height in dating. Plus, he offers tips on meeting women through local events, emphasizing the significance of shared interests and personal growth in building meaningful connections.

Apr 1, 2025 • 1h 42min
From ‘I’m Too Short’ to ‘I Feel Amazing!’ How to Transform Your Dating Confidence NOW (Live Coaching with Ryan)
Do you ever feel like you’re not tall or good-looking enough for women you find attractive? What if the real turn-off for women isn’t your height or looks but your insecurities? In this live-coaching episode, author and dating coach Connell Barrett helps his client Ryan crush those mindset blocks using a powerful process called the Authentic Awakening. It’s an effective way to build instant confidence by exposing the lies your insecurities tell you. The result? Ryan walks away with a whole new outlook on himself and on dating!Highlights of this Episode Include:2:01: Meet Your “Lower Self,” the Insecure Side that Kills Your Confidence4:45: The Brutal Belief that Nearly Made Ryan Quit Dating25:57: Ryan Sees the Cracks in His Toxic “I’m Too Short” Story32:16: The Hidden Toll Your Fear-Based Mind Takes on You44:25: The Truth About What Women Are Attracted to in Men59:56: Connell Smashes Ryan’s Toxic Belief1:22:41: Ryan Awakens His Higher Self—Ryan the Bold!Listen now and transform your dating confidence, just like Ryan did!DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Mar 27, 2025 • 60min
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Odds are, you struggle to read women and you miss subtle signals. This can cost you real romantic connections and leave you second-guessing yourself. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett talks with insightful dating expert Talia Koren, host of the “Dating Intentionally” podcast. Talia reveals how to recognize when a woman is into you, how to avoid “nice guy” mistakes that kill attraction, and why first-date follow-up is more important than the date itself.You’re About to Learn:03:15: The Best First Date Talia Ever Had—and What the Guy Did Right!07:15: How to Avoid a Huge First-Date Mistake10:15: The Easy Way to Escape “Interview Mode”12:30: How to Show Interest in a Classy, Non-Creepy Way16:09: Why Following Up After a Date is So Important to Women34:40: How to Instantly Feel Confident41:43: How to “Read the Room” and Decode Her Signals42:57: The Green Lights Women Give You to Approach50:59: Exactly How Many Texts to Send Her on Hinge Before Asking Her OutFOLLOW TALIA ON INSTAGRAM:@Dating.IntentionallyLISTEN TO TALIA’S PODCAST, “DATING INTENTIONALLY, ON APPLE, SPOTIFY, OR WHEREVER YOU GET YOUR PODCASTSBOOK A FREE, 1-1 DATING CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:http://www.DatingTransformation.com

Mar 25, 2025 • 1h 4min
Ignore These 5 Dating Lies—Or Stay Single Forever!
Is your dating confidence low? Do you get stuck in your head around women? You might be falling for one of the 5 most toxic dating myths. These lies crush your confidence, make it hard to talk to girls, and keep you stuck. In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett busts these myths—and gives you 5 powerful fixes to help you confidently meet smart, sexy women… and do it with charm and authenticity!You’re about to learn:09:02: Why Your Looks Don’t Matter to Women17:59: The “Alpha Male” Lie that’s Killing Your Confidence27:47: A Mistake that Turns Women Off (And How to Fix It)37:36: How to Stop Running Out of Things to Say—Instantly47:22: The Secret to Fearless ApproachingTO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND, BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com

Mar 20, 2025 • 1h 9min
Why You Freeze When You Want to Approach Beautiful Women—& How to Fix it NOW (Live Coaching with John!)
John feels stuck and frustrated. He often sees attractive women he wants to talk to at bars and coffee shops, but he always freezes up and says nothing. (Sound familiar?) He’s about to break free of his approach anxiety—and you can, too! In this live coaching session, dating coach Connell Barrett reveals the hidden mental roadblocks that stop men from talking to women. Plus, Connell shares simple, proven fixes that you can use today. Get ready to approach women confidently and authentically (no weird pickup moves needed!)You’re About to Learn:07:55: The 2 “Fear Factors” that Stop You from Approaching Women—and How to Fix Them11:30: 5 Ways to Destroy Approach Anxiety TODAY17:42: What Strangers Really Think of Men Who Approach37:21: The 1 Simple Shift that Makes Her Happy You Talked to Her45:03: How to Stop Making Excuses and Start Taking Action54:36: What NOT to Say When You Approach in the Day (or Else You’ll Seem Creepy!)If you’ve ever felt too scared to say hello to a beautiful woman, this episode will give you the mindset and tools to finally take action. Listen now!WANT PERSONALIZED HELP? BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL AND START CONFIDENTLY MEETING AND DATING WONDERFUL WOMEN:http://www.DatingTransformation.com

Mar 18, 2025 • 1h 5min
Forget Pickup Lines: Why Vulnerability is Your Dating Superpower (with Lisa Hickey of the Good Men Project)
Do you struggle to attract the kinds of women you want to date? Chances are, you’re making some big mistakes that turn women off, and you don’t even realize it. Help is here! Lisa Hickey, CEO of the Good Men Project, joins dating coach Connell Barrett to identify—and fix—the hidden dating mistakes men make. You’ll learn how to connect with women authentically, flirt with charm, and boost your confidence. Plus, Lisa shares invaluable wisdom on modern masculinity. (Check out the Good Men Project for a treasure trove of practical advice, and to read Connell’s dating advice column.)You’re about to learn:2:30: What to NEVER do when talking to a woman you’ve just met6:39: A simple first-date fix that turns women on16:40: Why men feel more dating anxiety than ever22:00: Practical ways to build self-esteem and confidence25:50: How to give authentic compliments that women love33:00: The single biggest dating mistake you’re making39:10: Great topics to talk about that spark connection47:30: How to turn fear and doubt into fun and excitement59:17: Lisa’s no. 1 dating tip that every man must knowAre you ready to become an even better man? Listen now!FOR GREAT READS AND PRACTICAL TIPS TO BE A BETTER MAN:http://GoodMenProject.comCHECK OUT THE GOOD MEN PROJECT’S DATING SUBSTACK:http://gmpdating.substack.comFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.comQuotes"Meaningful compliments celebrate deeper attributes beyond appearance."- Lisa Hickey"Building modern relationships requires the courage to take the next step after a good interaction."- Lisa HickeyFeatured in the episodeConnell BarrettFounder and Executive Coach of Dating TransformationWebsite:https://datingtransformation.comInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation

Mar 13, 2025 • 1h 6min
3 Hidden Reasons Why Women Lose Interest in You—and How to Keep Them Attracted Long-Term! with Johnny Cassell
Have you ever had things start great with a woman only for her to suddenly pull away and say, “I’m not looking to date right now”? The truth is, that’s probably her polite way of saying, “I’m just not interested in you.” In this episode, renowned London-based dating coach Johnny Cassell reveals 3 hidden reasons why women lose interest—and how to keep them attracted to you for the long haul.You’re About to Learn:02:20: Why You Must First “Date Yourself” to Attract a Wonderful Girlfriend18:55: How NOT To Go from a “Wild Tiger to Tubby Housecat” in Her Eyes19:53: How to Escape the “Yawn Zone” When You Talk to Women20:12: Johnny’s Amazing Drill to Flirt at Starbucks And ALSO Get a Free Coffee!22:44: How Connell Approached and Instantly Attracted His Future Girlfriend30:19: The Right Way to Approach a Large Group of Women at a Bar—and the Wrong Way44:44: Johnny’s Secret to Talking to Women of Intimidating Beauty1:01:00: The One Action You Should Take this Week to Improve Your Love LifeListen now to attract—and keep—that incredible woman’s interest!LEARN MORE ABOUT JOHNNY CASSELL OR TO APPLY TO WORK WITH HIM:http://www.johnnycassell.comFOLLOW JOHNNY ON INSTAGRAM:@LondonDatingCoachTO BOOK A FREE 1-1 CONSULTATION CALL WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF 1-1 COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://www.datingtransformation.com


