How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett

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Jun 26, 2025 • 52min

From Frozen to Fearless! True Stories of Shy Guys Who Beat Approach Anxiety and Found Love IRL

Want to approach women IRL—but you freeze up or overthink it? Connell Barrett, bestselling author and top dating coach, helps shy men meet wonderful women without pickup lines or weird tricks. In this episode, hear how guys like you overcame anxiety, walked up to women in bars, bookstores and gyms, and sparked real-life romance.You’re About to Learn:02:42: How Short, Shy Ken Scored His First Kiss Ever—with a Tall, Stylish Blonde16:03: What Ash Said to the Cutest Girl at the Bar to Make Her Swoon24:30: The Bold Coaching Move that Shattered Edward’s Social Anxiety and Led to a Date35:12: Raj’s Charming Bookstore Chat that Made Emily say, “You Made My Day!”43:17: Jared the Navy Captain’s Breakthrough that Crushed His Approach Fear for GoodApproaching isn’t something to fear—it’s your fastest path to romance and love!DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T":Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Jun 24, 2025 • 50min

20 Dating Lessons That Took Me 20 Years to Master—You’ll Learn Them by Lunch (Special Series!)

Struggling in your love life? Low on dates and confidence? Twenty years ago, Connell Barrett was in your shoes. So he began a journey to fix his dating problems. To mark his 20th year in the dating trenches, Connell kicks off a new series. In this premiere episode, he reveals 20 powerful, practical tips straight from his #1 Amazon bestseller “Dating Sucks but You Don’t.” Here’s the good news: You don’t have to spend years swiping, approaching and dating. You can start to transform your love life today—and meet your dream girlfriend in 20 weeks instead of 20 years!What You’ll Learn:5:20: Why Being Radically Authentic is Your Secret Weapon9:00: Myth-buster: Your Looks Don’t Matter to Women—This Does10:58: The Bulletproof Dating App Opener that Gets Replies16:09: The Secret to Flirting that Changes Everything20:15: How to Smoothly Go for the First Kiss30:43: The 15-Minute Morning Routine that Builds True Confidence35:52: How to Make Her See You as Her Dream Boyfriend37:32: Getting Consent Can Turn Her On (Yes, Really!)44:10: The NEW Way to Text Women: A Simple FrameworkListen now and start your own dating transformation—without waiting two decades!DO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, "DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON'T":Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Jun 19, 2025 • 47min

The Speed Dating Move that Drives Women Wild: Why Vulnerability Wins Every Time (Featuring Kavita Ajwani)

You struggle to connect with women, right? What if you could confidently walk into a crowded room and get numbers from women who find you utterly charming? You actually can—when you get great at speed dating! In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes speed dating expert Kavita Ajwani. As a woman, Kavita—founder of Dashing Date—knows what women really want from men. You’re about to learn why vulnerability, not pickup tactics, is your secret weapon for attracting women.Episode Highlights Include:02:21: Why Vulnerability is Your Most Underrated Dating Superpower06:45: The Question that Takes Dates from Small Talk to Deep Connection12:52: The One Topic that Instantly Helps Women Feel Safe17:25: How Being a “Nerd” Actually Attracts Women24:34: Your Speed Dating Masterclass: 3 Moves that Get You Matches and Dates42:37: How Kavita’s Coaching Transforms Men’s Love LivesLEARN MORE ABOUT KAVITA AJWANI AND HER COACHING:Follow @‌DashingDate on InstagramGET KAVITA’S “TO BE DESIRED” MASTERCLASS FOR FREE:DM “Connell” to @‌DashingDate on Instagram
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Jun 17, 2025 • 1h 1min

Textual Healing! Connell’s 4-Part Texting Formula to Stop Getting Ghosted and Start Getting Dates

Do you get ghosted on the apps and don’t know why? Do you freeze up on dates because you’re not sure what to talk about? Would you love to meet women at the gym, but you’re worried you’ll seem creepy? In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett gives you step-by-step solutions to all of these issues. Plus, you’ll discover his simple texting formula that will make it easy to spark attraction with wonderful women.You’re About to Learn:03:34: Why You Get Ghosted & How to Finally Fix It04:45: The Fatal Texting Mistake that Kills Attraction07:20: Connell’s 4-Part Texting Formula: Play, Play, Play… Then Pull the Trigger!18:39: Should You Use ChatGPT when Texting? The Answer Will Surprise You26:00: How “Interview Mode” Can Be… A Good Thing?!31:31: 8 Flirty Questions to Make First Dates Fun39:57: How to Go for the First Kiss without Making it Weird44:48: The Charming Way to Meet Women at the Gym—and NEVER Be Creepy56:08: The Exact Number of Texts to Send Before Asking Her OutFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Jun 10, 2025 • 39min

I Got Rejected 567 Times… Which is Why I’m GREAT with Women Now

Fear of rejection can make you freeze. It’s why you don’t say hi to the stylish woman at the café or make a move on the date. In this episode of. “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett gets raw and real about his own fear of rejection. He also shares how getting blown off so many times (“F-off, Ginger!”) actually opened the door to real romantic wins! If you’re tired of being too afraid to make move, this episode will change your dating life.Episode Highlights:05:44: The Rejection that Changed Connell’s Dating Life09:45: The 2 Hidden Forces that Create Your Fear of Rejection14:35: When Connell’s Date Left Him—Mid-Date!—for Another Guy18:35: “F---- off, Ginger!” How a Brutal Brush-Off Led to an Incredible Romantic Win27:00: 4 New Ways to Look at Rejection and Become a Fearless, Confident ManDO YOU WANT TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND? BOOK A FREE CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN ABOUT 1-1 COACHING:http://www.DatingTransformation.comEMAIL CONNELL FOR A FREE COPY OF HIS NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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Jun 5, 2025 • 59min

The Flirty Dozen: 12 Ways to Smash Out of the Friend Zone and Spark Connection on First Dates

Struggling to escape the Friend Zone? Discover twelve transformative strategies to ignite romantic sparks. Learn why women lose interest after dates and how to keep the connection alive. Uncover the art of sending charming texts that build excitement before you meet. Explore six effective moves to make your date engaging and memorable. Get tips on how to confidently initiate your first kiss without awkwardness. Plus, find out what to text the next day to secure that second date!
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Jun 3, 2025 • 49min

How to Be Bold, Flirty—and Never, Ever ‘That Creepy Guy’: A Dating Guide for Modern Gentlemen

Navigating the dating scene can be tricky, especially in today’s climate of heightened awareness. Discover how to flirt confidently without crossing boundaries. Learn the ins and outs of texting, making a move at work, and asking for a kiss with respect. There’s also valuable advice on how to sext the right way and what to keep in mind when inviting someone over. Ultimately, it’s about being bold yet respectful, while building genuine connections that resonate.
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May 29, 2025 • 31min

27 Flirting Tips in 27 Minutes! Go from the Friend Zone to the First Kiss—FAST

Not knowing how to flirt with women can leave you awkwardly fumbling your words. Dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett has fast, field-tested fixes! In just 27 minutes, he shares 27 practical flirting tips to help you confidently make sparks fly—on dates, during approaches, and over text. Get ready to escape the friend zone and boldly land that first kiss, even if you’re shy!Episode Highlights Include:03:00: 3 Playful First-Date Games that Instantly Spark Chemistry04:10: How to Flirt Without Being Needy or Weird09:00: Rejection-proof openers for Shy or Introverted Men17:41: The Right Way to Compliment Women (They Love This!)21:55: The Funny, Flirty Text that Gets You a Second Date26:47: A Great Question to Dial Up SparksFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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May 27, 2025 • 35min

Use these 8 Flirty Questions to Stop Boring Women and Spark Deep, Romantic Conversations

Do you get stuck in “interview mode” on dates? Not sure how to text women in a way that actually gets replies? In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett answers your questions to help you break out of boring small talk, ask magnetic flirty questions, and master texting with a simple 4-word rule. Whether you’re just starting out or stuck in a dating rut, this episode gives you the tools to build real connection—and get the girlfriend you want.You’re About to Learn:01:45: Why Some Women Want to Date Guys with Little to No Sexual Experience08:18: How to Get out of Interview Mode with these 8 Flirty Questions19:30: Why Some Men Become Incels—and How to Avoid this Trap29:11: Your New 4-word Framework that Makes Texting Fun and Effective33:42: Should You Worry if your Girlfriend is Texting Her Ex?Listen now and take on step closer to finding your dream girlfriend!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO FIND OUT IF DATING COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU:http://www.datingtransformation.comWANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:Connell@datingtransformation.com
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May 22, 2025 • 44min

Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)

Do you struggle to read women? The fear of making the wrong move—and seeming creepy—can kill your confidence. In this encore episode, dating coach Connell Barrett talks with renowned expert and bestselling author Kezia Noble, who’s helped over 100,000 men. They dive into how to read a woman’s signals, how to make the right moves (and avoid the wrong ones), and create real attraction through authenticity.Kezia and Connell discuss:7:35: How Kezia Learned to Get Great Results for Her Clients15:40: How to Dial Up Attraction Using her “Double-Sided Compliment”18:12: “The Shadow,” the Side of Men that Women Find Seductive21:45: What to Say on Dates to go from Boring to Charismatic23:05: How to Be Authentically Interesting to Women as the Raw, Real You29:05: The Right Way to Talk About Your Career… and the Wrong Way30:45: The Truth about How Much Looks Really Matter to Women33:51: Why Women Hate the Apps and are “Absolutely Dying” for Men like You to Approach Them37:35: How to Get a Woman Who Rejected You to Change Her Mind and Chase YouListen now and start so you can finally understand what women want!TO LEARN ABOUT KEZIA’S 1-1 COACHING PROGRAMSwww.kezia-noble.com/VISIT KEZIA’S YOUTUBE CHANNELhttp://www.youtube.com/@KezianobledatingexpertGET KEZIA’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “THE NOBLE ART OF SEDUCING WOMEN”http://www.amazon.com/Noble-Art-Seducing-Women-Foolproof/dp/1843587629FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO DISCUSS COACHINGhttp://www.datingtransformation.com/contact

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