

How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Connell Barrett
Yes, you can get a great girlfriend! And dating coach Connell Barrett will show you how to confidently connect with women by being authentic—no creepy pickup moves needed. On the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, Connell offers the kinds of tested dating tips he shared in his bestselling book, Dating Sucks but You Don’t, and in his TV appearances (GMA, “Today.”) In his 12 years as a coach, Connell has helped thousands of men in 17 countries find love. No wonder Psychology Today named him “America’s top dating coach for men.” Connell personally faced—and fixed—every common dating problem, from not knowing how to flirt to dating-app struggles to low self-confidence. After meeting his dream girlfriend Jess, Connell now helps nice guys and gentlemen find love by dating with “Radical Authenticity.” Ready to meet your soulmate? Join Connell and his expert guests every week for game-changing advice. Carpe date ’em. Seize the date!
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Jan 22, 2024 • 37min
The 5 Dating Superpowers: Use these 5 powerful moves for more dates and more confidence…instantly!
Did you know that there are 5 dating superpowers that you can start using TODAY to confidently attract wonderful women? In this episode of the Dating Transformation Podcast, dating coach and host Connell Barrett takes you through these 5 superpowers and shows you how to use them to attract your dream girl… and to do it with integrity and authenticity. Listen now!Quotes"When you text her with the mindset of already being in a relationship, you shift from trying to impress her to genuinely expressing yourself."- Connell BarrettFeatured in the episodeConnell BarrettFounder and Executive Coach of Dating TransformationWebsite:https://datingtransformation.comInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformationChapters00:00 - Introduction00:38 - Flirting and Confidence: Tips for Building Connection05:11 - Projecting Confidence: The Power of a Clear and Friendly Voice06:42 - Connell's Coaching Corner: Boosting Confidence in Dating and Self-Improvement10:25 - Subtly Expressing Physical Interest: Creating Rapport14:48 - Reading Signals and Gradual Progression: Respecting Boundaries16:50 - The Power of Laughter: Expressing Appreciation and Connection19:03 - Unleashing Authenticity: Overcoming Dating Struggles20:27 - Compliments and Teases: Balancing Playful Interest25:26 - Messaging from a Place of Confidence and Abundance27:45 - Playful Challenges and Making Her Chase You30:31 - Nicknames: Showcasing Confidence, Familiarity, and Closeness33:40 - Embracing Simplicity: Focusing on the Present Moment36:26 - Believe in Yourself: Finding Love in the Journey37:00 - OutroProduced by Heartcast Mediahttps://www.heartcastmedia.com

Jan 15, 2024 • 37min
The Top 10 Flirting Moves You Need to NOW to Make Sparks Fly with Wonderful Women
If you’re not sure how to flirt with women, this episode of the Dating Transformation Podcast is for you. Dating coach and host Connell Barrett has had 1,000 dates (literally!), so he knows exactly how to help you connect with women.Listen in as he shares his Top 10 flirting moves to help you attract your next girlfriend, and do it with class and authenticity. You’re about to learn…2:17 The first rule of flirting4:30 How to use your voice to create a connection7:31 The right posture and eye contact8:45 The charming, consensual, NON-CREEPY way to physically touch her on a date14:27 A simple, powerful thing to say on every first date that she’s gonna love17:17 Advanced flirting move! How the “Push-Pull” can get her super into you21:45 A texting shift to instantly become funny and confident when messaging her24:00 Say THIS on first dates to make her want to chase you26:00 An eye-contact secret to amplify mutual sexual tension27:03 A fun first-date move to get her WAY more into youListen now so you can become a MASTER at flirting, which will bring you closer to finding that incredible girlfriend you deserve.FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL, TO LEARN HOW TO ALWAYS KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO WOMEN: http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactQuotes"Just randomly placing your arm on... [UNTIL] and/or emotions." -Connell BarrettFeatured in the episodeConnell BarrettFounder and Executive Coach of Dating TransformationWebsite: https://datingtransformation.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformationChapters00:00 - Introduction00:15- Top 10 Funniest Prompts for Dating Apps03:52 - Navigating Fun and Flirty Date Conversations08:03 - Reusing Your Favorite Dating Prompts12:39 - Adding Humor and Romance to Prompts15:19 - Clickbaiting with a Sense of Humor19:09 - Boosting Dating Confidence for Ideal Matches22:50 - Spark Conversations with Netflix Humor25:21 - Exploring More Funny Bio Ideas29:09 - Using Humor to Attract Dates30:16 - Standing Out with a Balanced Dating Profile31:03 - OutroProduced by Heartcast Mediahttps://www.heartcastmedia.com

Jan 9, 2024 • 59min
LIVE COACHING! Nate Learns the Right Way to Text Women, How to Get Out of His Head on Dates, and More!
Do you get stuck in your head when talking to women? Are you struggling with what to say and how to text? Are you still hurting from a past break-up?You’re in luck, because in this episode of the Dating Transformation Podcast, dating coach Connell Barrett helps you fix those problems. How? You get to listen in on a live coaching session Connell does with his new client Nate.Nate has some common dating struggles, and in their first coaching session Connell gives Nate some advice that you can also use. You’re about to learn…5:45 How to get “out of your head” on dates9:00 The RIGHT way to text women (and the WRONG way)14:00 The kinds of texts to NEVER send17:10 Why authenticity is what women want21:00 How NOT to overshare with women35:00 How to stop doubting yourself on dates and feel more confident44:00 A simple way to get over getting dumped so you can meet someone new52:00 How to achieve an abundance mindset in datingListen now, so you can find your dream girlfriend, while dating with confidence and authenticity.FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL, TO LEARN HOW TO ALWAYS KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO WOMEN:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactGET CONNELL’S NO. 1 BESTSELLING GUIDE FOR MEN, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T,” YOUR PRACTICAL GUIDE ON HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND BY BEING RADICALLY AUTHENTIC:www.amazon.com/Dating-Sucks-but-You-Dont-ebook/dp/B08LDZL3

Jan 5, 2024 • 47min
Client Transformation! How John went from LOW Confidence to Dating INCREDIBLE Women…and How You Can, Too
If you struggle with how to flirt with women, or your dates don’t go anywhere, or you’re not meeting the kinds of women you’re into… listen up!In this episode of the Dating Transformation Podcast, dating coach and host Connell Barrett talks with his superstar client John, who’s been having some incredible dates with some incredible women… and he’s done it all with RADICAL AUTHENTICITY (no creepy pickup movesneeded.)John—a true, classy gentleman who likes and respects women—has gone from low confidence to an abundance of dating options.Connell and John are about to teach you how to…How to stay out of the Friend Zone*Make first-date moves that women enjoyGet HER to kiss YOU first and chase for your interestFlirt and text in a charming, classy way women love.Be more self-confident TODAYAnd a lot more!Are you ready to get more dates, more confidence, and find your dream girl? Listen to John’s rock-star success stories with women, and go find the great, gorgeous girlfriend you deserve.FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL, TO LEARN HOW TO ALWAYS KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO WOMEN: http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactGET CONNELL’S NO. 1 BESTSELLING GUIDE FOR MEN, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T,” YOUR PRACTICAL GUIDE ON HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND BY BEING RADICALLY AUTHENTIC:www.amazon.com/Dating-Sucks-but-You-Dont-ebook/dp/B08LDZL3Quotes"In any given moment, our confidence or lack thereof is going to come from what we focus on and how we interpret that focus." JohnFeatured in the episodeJohnConnell BarrettFounder and Executive Coach of Dating TransformationWebsite:https://datingtransformation.comInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformationChapters00:00 - Introduction04:26 - Confidence Boost and Refreshed Dating Skills08:40 - Finding the Right Setting for Successful Dates12:12 - Building Connection through Touch on Dates13:17 - Fun Dates: Intimacy, Rapport, and Compatibility18:19 - Embracing Confidence and Mindset, Letting Go of Insecurity21:41 - Pre-Date Confidence Boost: Reciting Notepad Words23:22 - Self-Reflection: Work Trip to Italy, Blake Shelton28:07 - Memorable First Date Leading to an Unexpected Kiss31:36 - Training for Improved Dating Success and Confidence35:48 - Authenticity Over Fakeness: Good Dating Advice37:34 - Having Fun Authentically: Showing Her the Way42:53 - Outro

Jan 2, 2024 • 1h
LIVE COACHING! What to Say When You Approach Women, to Be Charming and NOT Creepy
If you wonder what it’s like to work with a renowned dating coach, this episode is for you. Because dating coach Connell Barrett takes you “behind the curtain” and lets you listen in on a coaching session with his new client Ryan.If you’re like Ryan, you struggle with flirting, or you have self-confidence. Or you want to approach women but it’s difficult for you? You’re about to learn…• How to overcome “approaching anxiety” so you can meet some wonderful women• What to say when you want to approach and not seem creepy• The secret to self-confidence with women• How to flirt with women with charm, and no pickup tricks• How to gets dates in a matter of days!And a lot more.Listen to Connell’s live-coaching session with Ryan, as he has some BIG dating breakthroughs. It’s time to stop struggling in your love life, and to start attracting wonderful women, as your most authentic, confident self. Listen now!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL, TO LEARN HOW TO ALWAYS KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO WOMEN: http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactGET CONNELL’S NO. 1 BESTSELLING GUIDE FOR MEN, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T,” YOUR PRACTICAL GUIDE ON HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND BY BEING RADICALLY AUTHENTIC: www.amazon.com/Dating-Sucks-but-You-Dont-ebook/dp/B08LDZL3Quotes"So the lack of eye contact comes from your social discomfort. With doing this combined with those confidence pieces of confidence kryptonite. Okay? It's gonna take time." -Connell BarrettFeatured in the episodeConnell BarrettFounder and Executive Coach of Dating TransformationWebsite: https://datingtransformation.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformationChapters00:00 - Introduction06:21 - Transforming Negativity into Positive Action06:54 - Identifying Confidence Kryptonite: Building a Strong Foundation13:23 - Discovering Areas Where You Feel Amazing17:13 - Energy, Eye Contact, Confidence: Women's Response20:38 - Extended Phone Sessions: Transformation and Confidence Talks24:24 - Flirting Confidently: Asking About Her Eye Color26:06 - Utilizing Colorblindness to Spark Conversations30:03 - Overcoming Worry, Self-Doubt, and Overthinking31:42 - Politeness in Approaching and Asking Someone Out38:02 - Embracing Internal Validation, Ignoring External Sources39:15 - Approaching: Not Weird, Actually Creepy Not To42:25 - The Risky, Yet Safe Strategy: Confident Approaches46:08 - Letting Go of Unrequited Love and the Past49:06 - Accepting Rejection, Focusing on Future Opportunities55:05 - Practicing Confidence: Voice, Approach, and Growth55:51 - The Admiration for Social Charm and Gentlemen56:10 - OutroProduced by Heartcast Mediahttps://www.heartcastmedia.com

Dec 13, 2023 • 25min
5 Ways to Flirt, Connect and Make Sparks Fly with Your Ideal Woman
You know what’s worse than a big hunk of coal in your Christmas stocking? Approach anxiety, getting ghosted, and getting locked up in the friend zone after a first date. Ho-ho-NOOO!In this episode of the Dating Transformation podcast, dating coach Connell Barrett helps you fix all of those problems by taking some questions from listeners. You’re about to learn…Connell’s personal formula for taking massive approaching actionA texting tip you’ve NEVER heard beforeThe biggest dating mistake he ever made, which led to his biggest breakthroughHow to NOT get ghostedA confidence “hack” to make you feel MUCH more attractiveListen now, so you can STOP feeling stuck with women, and START making sparks fly with cool, cute girls, as your most authentic self.FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL, TO LEARN HOW TO ALWAYS KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO WOMEN: http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactGET CONNELL’S NO. 1 BESTSELLING GUIDE FOR MEN, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T,” YOUR PRACTICAL GUIDE ON HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND BY BEING RADICALLY AUTHENTIC: www.amazon.com/Dating-Sucks-but-You-Dont-ebook/dp/B08LDZL3Quotes“I sound like the love child of Suzanne Pleshette and Danny DeVito” -Connell BarrettFeatured in the episodeConnell BarrettFounder and Executive Coach of Dating TransformationWebsite: https://datingtransformation.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformationChapters00:00 - Introduction00:58 - Ignite Change: Embrace Disturbance and Take Massive Action05:35 - The Internal Struggle: Devil Stabs Angel, Motivation to Approach Women06:58 - Personalized Guidance: Boosting Confidence and Attracting Women11:20 - The Regret of Hiding: Learning from Dating Mistakes12:21 - Creating a Persona: Embellishing Adventures for Compatibility13:37 - A Year of Transformation: Taking Positive Action and Embracing Authenticity16:09 - Transforming Confidence: Finding your Dream Girl Through Self-Improvement19:27 - Crafting Engaging Texts: Building Excitement and Intrigue22:18 - Authenticity Over Lines: Emphasizing Confidence in Dating21:18 - The Common Question: What to Say When Approaching a Woman?24:12 - OutroProduced by Heartcast Mediahttps://www.heartcastmedia.com

Dec 8, 2023 • 24min
The 6 Game-Changing Photos to Get More Matches on the Apps
Pop quiz, dating app user! Do cute, quality women match with you about as often as Halley’s Comet visits Earth? Yeah, I thought so.It’s downright debilitating to grab your phone, check the app, and… crickets and tumbleweeds. No matches… no GOOD ones, anyway.The good news? This is fixable! You just need to realize the cause of your problem: Your photos SUCK! It’s time to upgrade your photo game and see the matches pour in.In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett gives you the 6 Game-Changing Photos that you need to get a LOT more matches (and dates!) on the apps.These are the 6 specific kinds of photos that Connell and his clients have used to get thousands of matches with bright, beautiful women.So listen now and upload 6 game-changing photos to YOUR profile, and turn your phone into a date-generating machine!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL, TO LEARN HOW TO ALWAYS KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO WOMEN: http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactGET CONNELL’S NO. 1 BESTSELLING GUIDE FOR MEN, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T,” YOUR PRACTICAL GUIDE ON HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND BY BEING RADICALLY AUTHENTIC: www.amazon.com/Dating-Sucks-but-You-Dont-ebook/dp/B08LDZL3Quotes“If you’re not getting matches on the apps, it’s NOT that you’re not enough. You’re awesome! But your portraits aren’t enough.” -Connell BarrettFeatured in the episodeConnell BarrettFounder and Executive Coach of Dating TransformationWebsite: https://datingtransformation.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformationChapters00:00 - Introduction01:52 - The 6 Game-Changing Photos for a Successful Dating Profile04:43 - From Jacket and Tie to Casual Style: Portraying Confidence in Photos05:31 - The 'Ah' Photo That Tugs at Her Heartstring07:08 - Boosting Confidence and Connections: Guidance from a Dating Coach10:53 - Activity and Masculinity: The 4th Photo, Social Settings with Friends for the 5th11:15 - The Dance Floor Connection: Capturing Unforgettable Moments in Photos13:20 - Inviting Her into Your Life: Giving a Glimpse of Exciting Experiences14:49 - From Fence-Sitter to Hell Yeah: The Power of the Goosh Photo17:07 - Fun, Silly, and Memorable: Crafting the Perfect 6th Photo20:12 - Game-Changing Photos for Dating Apps: A Quick Recap22:12 - Unveiling Online Dating Success: The Power of Your Photos23:55 - OutroProduced by Heartcast Mediahttps://www.heartcastmedia.com

Nov 28, 2023 • 24min
A Dating Coach Rates the Rom-Coms: ‘Love Actually’
‘Love Actually’ is now 20-years-old, and dating coach Connell Barrett is here to review the classic rom-com in terms of dating strategy. Listen in as he shares some lessons that YOU can use to improve your love life.So… let’s go get the sh*t kicked out of us by love!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL, TO LEARN HOW TO ALWAYS KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO WOMEN: http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactGET CONNELL’S NO. 1 BESTSELLING GUIDE FOR MEN, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T,” YOUR PRACTICAL GUIDE ON HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND BY BEING RADICALLY AUTHENTIC:www.amazon.com/Dating-Sucks-but-You-Dont-ebook/dp/B08LDZL3Quotes“Avoid dating someone you supervise or who supervises you. Workplace romances can be problematic, especially when a power dynamic is involved.” - Connell BarrettFeatured in the episodeConnell BarrettFounder and Executive Coach of Dating TransformationWebsite:https://datingtransformation.comInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformationChapters00:00 - Introduction00:12 - The Love-Hate Relationship with Romcoms: Comedy vs. Strategies03:50 - Connell Barrett's Review of 'Love Actually'08:12 - The Danger of Inappropriate Workplace Relationships13:23 - Advocation for the First-Kiss Initiative15:27 - Cautionary Advice Against Desperate Romantic Gestures18:20 - Embracing Romantic Risks for Love and Connection21:49 - Lessons to Learn: Dating Strategy from 'Love Actually23:57 - OutroProduced by Heartcast Mediahttps://www.heartcastmedia.com

Nov 17, 2023 • 39min
Struggling with Flirting? How To Go from Brutally Boring to Confidently Charismatic
Ever had what you thought was a good date or conversation with a woman, only to find out she just wasn’t interested?And you have no idea what you did wrong!Odds are, your conversation was too boring. And if you bore women, your dating life will suffer.Dating coach Connell Barrett knows this all too well. As an introvert, he used to struggle with flirting. He didn’t know what to say. He bored women, who chose more charismatic guys over him.And then he fixed it! How?In this episode, Connell shares three simple strategies he used to go from being Mr. Dull to authentically charismatic.Listen now, and take your love life from boring to SOARING!FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL, TO LEARN HOW TO ALWAYS KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO WOMEN: http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactGET CONNELL’S NO. 1 BESTSELLING GUIDE FOR MEN, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T,” YOUR PRACTICAL GUIDE ON HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND BY BEING RADICALLY AUTHENTIC: www.amazon.com/Dating-Sucks-but-You-Dont-ebook/dp/B08LDZL3Quotes"You can go from boring to charismatic with women if you convey an authentic, real, raw version of yourself." -Connell BarrettFeatured in the episodeConnell BarrettFounder and Executive Coach of Dating TransformationWebsite: https://datingtransformation.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformationChapters00:00 - Introduction00:19 - Breaking the Cycle: How to Avoid Being a Boring Date04:37 - Unconventional Love Story: Shelley and the Old Carriage Man07:14 - Dating Transformation with Connell: Revamping Your Dating Life11:09 - Mastering Compelling and Emotionally Charged Dating Approaches15:53 - Role Reversal and Playful Confidence: Spice Up Your Dates19:44 - Engagement Ring Role Play: Adding Fun and Playfulness to Dates20:30 - The Power of Opposite Texting After a First Date23:56 - Compelling Conversations: Personal Topics and Emotional Engagement28:08 - Movie Preferences and Conversation Tips33:27 - Attracting Women through Radical Authenticity36:32 - Unleashing Your Charisma: Expressiveness, Emotional Connection, and Humor38:56 - OutroProduced by Heartcast Mediahttps://www.heartcastmedia.com

Nov 14, 2023 • 41min
My 7 Biggest “Aha!” Dating Moments… Revealed
If your love life is stuck in a neutral, well, dating coach Connell Barrett has been there. He battled every dating problem in the book, from low confidence to approach anxiety to a lack of matches on the apps.And he fixed them all!In today’s episode, Connell shares 7 of the biggest “Aha!” moments he had on his journey from “the King of the Friend Zone” to becoming, as the New York Post calls him, “the real-life Hitch.”Listen now so you can have your own “Aha!” moment, and attract a wonderful girlfriend into your life.FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL, TO LEARN HOW TO ALWAYS KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO WOMEN: http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactGET CONNELL’S NO. 1 BESTSELLING GUIDE FOR MEN, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T,” YOUR PRACTICAL GUIDE ON HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND BY BEING RADICALLY AUTHENTIC: www.amazon.com/Dating-Sucks-but-You-Dont-ebook/dp/B08LDZL3Quotes"YOU don't suck. You're amazing! But your dating profile sucks. Fix your profile and you'll fix your dating life." -Connell BarrettFeatured in the episodeConnell BarrettFounder and Executive Coach of Dating TransformationWebsite: https://datingtransformation.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformationhttps://www.heartcastmedia.comChapters00:00 - Introduction00:58 - Life and Dating Advice for a Younger Self03:10 - The First Big Moment: Women Showing Interest08:51 - Authenticity: The Magic Bullet in Dating12:32 - Online Dating: A Digital Marketing Perspective16:08 - A Deal Between Friends: Follow Each Other's Instructions19:20 - Overcoming the Creepiness Factor22:25 - A Major Turning Point: Confident Approach and Tonality24:20 - Give to Get: Making Her Feel Special28:06 - Shifting Focus: From Ego to Giving30:44 - Magical Moments: Rainy Make-Outs and Potential Partners36:41 - The Temperature Rises: A Friend's Remark38:07 - The Power of Delivery: Tone and Non-Verbal Communication40:50 - OutroProduced by Heartcast Mediahttps://www.heartcastmedia.com


