The Coach Approach Ministries Podcast

Brian was reading Tim Hicks book, Embodied Conflict, and came across the term "Maybe Capacity". Hicks writes: We can create a type of understanding that allows for the coexistence of mutually contradictory accounts, what might be called a "maybe capacity," a looser attachment to hypothesis formation that allows us to be receptive to, and to convey our openness to, each party without fully subscribing to their account or to our own internal responses to their account. That is kind of a mouthful. Brian and Chad break the "Maybe Capacity" down to a level that every coach can use. Here are some highlights: Get comfortable with not knowing Ask questions that are wide open at the beginning Create a "frame" for the client to design actions Let the Client assign the meaning and action to the issue (and yet keep them in a maybe capacity)

Brian interviews Ken Kessler about his role in creating a coaching culture in his denomination. Ken is the Director of the Coaching Network for the Baptist General Association of Virginia (bgav.org) They discuss the dynamics of creating a coaching culture.

Brian and Chad discuss the easy trap of turning a coaching conversation into an interrogation. Too many questions! They explore other ways to create a conversation without the overuse of Powerful Questioning.

Merlin Switzer is the Founder and CEO of Switzer Associates (switzeronleadership.com). He is certified as a PCC coach with the International Coach Federation, and he is our guest today on the Coach Approach Ministries Podcast. His calling is to coach leaders, especially senior leaders and business owners. He believes that if he can impact a leader, there is a rippling effect throughout the organization. The higher the leader is in an organization, the greater the impact.

Brian and Chad discuss the "typical twelve" responses to distress. These are responses coaches should avoid. Advising: I think you should leave the room the second he raises his voice. One-upping: You think that's bad? Let me tell you about the rages my husband gets into. Educating: I can recommend a really good book that describes what happens in the brain when you've been traumatized as a child. Analyzing: It sounds like you have internalized your father's rages so that your husband's raised voice triggers that old fear. Storytelling: Did I ever tell you what I did on my honeymoon when my husband yelled at me? Minimizing: Well, at least he doesn't hit you the way your father did. Sympathizing: I feel frightened when I hear how angry he gets. Interrogating: How often does he go into one of these rages? Reassuring: I'm confident that you'll find a way to resolve this together; the two of you have been through a lot. Avoiding: Let's talk about something else, OK? This topic is quite upsetting. Diagnosing: It sounds like you have some typical codependent personality traits. OR It sounds like he has dysfunctional anger syndrome. Judging: It sounds like you've made a poor choice in a spouse.

Three types of coaching models are described in this episode, along with clues that might indicate the need for a different model. Also, Chad gives one thing he doesn't like about Abraham Lincoln.

Brian interviews Brian Tracy on how to lead as a coach. Brian Tracy planted the Evangel Assembly church 24 years ago. He has a multiple staff, including a worship/youth pastor, guest services pastor, children's outreach, office manager, and a part-time assistant children's program. The whole staff is trained in coaching.

Brian and Chad talk about coaching change, transition, and transformation.

Brian interviews Linda Miller on How to Give Feedback. Linda has worked for the last 18 years with the Ken Blanchard Companies as their Global Liaison for Coaching. She is one of the founding partners with CAM. How to Give Feedback S - Situation B -Behavior I - Impact N - Next Steps (Moving forward)

Brian and Chad discuss four types of coaching practices. 1. Life 2. Leadership 3. Ministry 4. Missional