hey, wait

When we hold a baby, we naturally cradle the neck and the tailbone. In that moment we are tuned in to something gentle and instinctive, an awareness of subtle energy. It comes so easily to us as parents, and yet it's so often abandoned in our own wellbeing as adults. Many sensitive people, including so many listeners of this podcast, describe feeling as if they "lose themselves" around others. Subtle energy is about deep inner regulation and the quiet exchange that happens between human beings. It is always moving within us and flowing all around us. In this episode, Jay shares a heartfelt and practical conversation with Craig Walker, a chiropractor, yoga instructor, and educator, who helps people strengthen their connection to themselves and to the world through an understanding of subtle energy. In this episode, Craig talks about: Subtle energy: what it is and how it works The value of coordinated breath Empathic people are genuinely capable of absorbing the energy of others Gaining attunement to your body and your surroundings The layers that exist within you To learn more about Craig's work and subtle energy, visit his Youtube at: youtube.com/@Craig_Walker_ And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Craig Walker: Website: https://subtleenergymechanics.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Craig_Walker_ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/subtle_energy_mechanics/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachwithcraig Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

"Whose story am I serving right now?" Have you struggled with feeling invisible? Shrunk yourself to fit a mold? Before you learn to stand up for yourself, you have to learn how to see yourself. Marta Czajkowska knows this truth better than most—not just from therapy or theory, but from the side of a cliff, 20,000 feet in the air. Growing up in communist Poland, Marta learned to survive by staying small. But even while disappearing into the roles others expected of her, something wild was already stirring. At 15, she set her sights on Yosemite's El Capitan, and spent the next few decades climbing literal and metaphorical mountains to find freedom. In this episode, Marta about how chasing freedom led her to an even deeper question: what does it mean to be fully alive? Marta is a climber, author, soul-guide, and the founder of Masters of Badassery. Through a near-death accident, a bathroom-floor breakdown, and a hard-won reawakening, she emerged with a mission: helping others break free from societal scripts and step into their boldest, truest selves. In this episode, Marta shares: Why freedom isn't about escape—it's about embodiment Her Hey, Wait moment in Yosemite that shattered her invisibility How mountaineering forged her ability to sit with clients in their deepest unraveling Why breaking down isn't the end—it's often the beginning of becoming Marta doesn't offer easy answers. She offers a mirror, a path, and the invitation to remember who you were before the world asked you to shrink. Ready to stop performing and start becoming? Hit play. Connect with Marta: Book: Masters of Badassery How I Reclaimed My Wild, Worthy, and Whole Self: and How You Can Too. Free group for women: https://mastersofbadassery.com/bold-free Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Do you find yourself trying to one-up others? Or maybe you tend to one-down instead? Whichever direction you lean, both have something in common. Contempt. Whether it's contempt for yourself or for the other person, it disconnects you from having a true, grounded experience of yourself. Even if it feels satisfying in the moment. Today, Jay speaks directly with you about what happens in your body when you fall into one-upping or one-downing. Saying "Hey, Wait" means noticing when it happens, tuning in to how it feels in your body, and learning how to move away from that sensation toward something more authentic and connected. In this episode, Jay talks about: Going one-up or one-down in relation to other people One-up is contempt for the other person. One-down is contempt for yourself. The feeling in your body associated with each choice, & how to use your body to bring a sense of equality back to the conversation. Her upcoming book! More news coming about Jay's book soon, but for now, to stay connected, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Whether in a boardroom with global business leaders or simply with your family in the comfort of your own living room, we negotiate with other people every single day. Saying "Hey, Wait" is about giving yourself permission to express yourself and own your reality while also acknowledging the reality of the person you're in conflict with. Skillful negotiating works in exactly the same way. Today's guest, Kwame Christian, is a leading expert in the field of negotiation. He's the host of the Negotiate Anything podcast, the number one negotiation podcast in the world. In this insightful conversation with Jay, Kwame explains why fear is often the main reason we avoid the conversations we need to have. He also offers practical steps that you can use right away to improve how you communicate and connect with others. In this episode, Kwame talks about: How overthinking is a sneaky manifestation of fear Focusing stoically on things within your control Whoever needs to make the deal more will lose the negotiation, so make your "Plan B'' as enticing as your "Plan A" Leading with compassionate curiosity To learn more about Kwame's speaking, his podcast, and more, visit his company's website at negotiateanything.com And To stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Kwame Christian: Negotiate Anything Official Website: https://negotiateanything.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kwamenegotiates/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kwamechristian Negotiate Anything Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/negotiate-anything/id1101679010 Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

If you're someone who feels deeply—and often feels alone, even when around other people—you likely carry a quiet longing for more in your relationships. Other people—even you—might mistake this wanting as wanting more attention, or wanting more time with the other person. But the true, deeper longing is for more connection. For the sense that someone is truly with you. "Resonance" is a term frequently used by today's guest, Sarah Peyton, to describe a way that you can find deep and healing connection with yourself and others. Sarah is an author and educator of relational neuroscientist, and her conversation with Jay will challenge the way you think about loneliness, shame, human interaction, and self-empathy. When you allow yourself to open up to another person, when you truly connect and feel their presence and your own, you begin to shift your entire perspective on both yourself and the world around you. In this episode, Sarah talks about: Why cortisol is the hormone of loneliness—and what emotion spikes it most The difference between resonance, empathy, and compassion What it takes to find your internal resonant voice—and what's possible when you speak to yourself in a warm, inviting way How you're trained in childhood to either over-attune or emotionally insulate yourself How emotional insulation can travel from generation to generation as a learned habit Being "known" by others can actually rewire your brain To learn more about Sarah's work, her writing, and more, visit her website at https://sarahpeyton.com/ And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Sarah Peyton: Official Website: https://sarahpeyton.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahpeytonauthor/ 20% Off Sarah's Book "Your Resonant Self": https://wwnorton.com/books/9780393712247?promo=SUMMIT20 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/empathybrain/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/resonantself Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPJ_wotaL-ZoZefuLdgEGkQ Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Accepting your humanity means embracing every part of yourself, including your emotions. The image we often associate with a Navy SEAL is toughness, resilience, and strength. That's what makes today's guest, Jon Macaskill, so compelling. A retired Navy SEAL with 24 years of service, Jon has been through some extraordinary experiences. But instead of using his past as an excuse to close off from his emotions, he has chosen to express them openly and confidently through his widely successful podcast Men Talking Mindfulness. Jon is a layered and complex person. In this conversation with Jay, you'll have the chance to experience so many different sides of him. He is a warrior, a kind and thoughtful man, a father, a speaker, and someone who knows the value of pausing to reflect. As someone who has worked directly with Jay, Jon is a great example of what it looks like to stop, say "Hey, Wait," and hold space for both your own experience and the experience of others. In this episode, Jon talks about: Lessons learned through the Navy SEALS The continued value of practicing mindfulness Being "Nice" is not the same as being "Kind" Having resilience in yourself starts by having faith in yourself You're more confident than you're giving yourself credit for To learn more about Jon, explore his podcast, work, and offerings at jonmacaskill.com/links. And To stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Jon Macaskill: Official Website: jonmacaskill.com/links Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mentalkingmindfulness "Men Talking Mindfulness" Podcast: https://mentalkingmindfulness.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonmacaskill Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Improv is about saying "Yes, and." It's about listening to others, embracing the moment, and choosing to input your own reality. In that way, improv and "Hey, Wait" are actually very similar. Today's guest Erin Diehl is as authentic as they come. She's a speaker, author, podcast host, "edutainer," "failfluencer," and self-proclaimed professional "Zoombie." Erin fully owns who she is, and yet she still finds herself struggling with people-pleasing. Whether it's through their shared love of Oprah, discussing a messy trip to Mexico City, or hitting heavy topics like the importance of empathy and alignment… Jay's conversation with Erin is one that I think you'll really be able to relate to. It's funny, it's engaging, but most importantly it's entirely authentic. In this episode, Erin talks about: The powerful health benefits of aligning mind and body. How she's learned to say "Hey, Wait" in her own life. Why The Gift of Peace isn't just a nice-to-have. It's essential. What it looks like to let go of ego in service of the mission. Feeling inspired to try the Chicken Dance yourself? Visit itserindiehl.com to learn more about Erin, and click here to purchase a copy of her book I See You! To stay connected with Jay Moon Fields, head to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Erin Diehl: Official Website: itserindiehl.com Improve It's Website: learntoimproveit.com Instagram: instagram.com/itserindiehl Workday Playdate Podcast: learntoimproveit.com/podcast-page-empathy Empathy Cheat Sheet: mailchi.mp/8331b3185dac/empathycheatsheet Erin's Book "I See You!": https://www.itserindiehl.com/i-see-you Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

You're not picking a fight. You're picking yourself. Saying "Hey, Wait" might feel like confrontation… But what if it's actually one of the most loving and respectful things you can do? In this solo episode, Jay closes out her three-part series on the "Hey, Wait" method with the final and most tender step: actually saying "Hey, Wait" to another person. Whether you're someone who keeps the peace at all costs or someone who only speaks up when you're already at a boiling point, this practice will help you to find a healthy space in between. A way to stay with yourself while staying true to your relationships. A way to speak up without burning it all down. Because "Hey, Wait" isn't just about learning how to use your voice. It's about learning that your reality matters. In this episode, Jay shares: Why "Hey, Wait" can feel so charged, especially if you're used to staying quiet How to turn "Hey, Wait" into a true bid for connection How to start practicing in low-stakes situations before tackling the bigger ones What to say next, and how to keep the moment grounded in your truth In this episode, Jay also opens up about her course, Yours Truly: a self-paced program designed to help you come home to yourself in your nervous system, your voice, and your relationships. For a limited time, you can join for just $148. Visit jaymoonfields.com/yours-truly to learn more, and use the code wholeness at checkout to receive your discount. Have a question for the podcast? We'd love to hear it! Send Jay a DM on Instagram, you might just hear your question in a future episode. Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

You don't need to stand up for yourself. You need a "self". Saying "Hey, Wait" is just the beginning. The real magic? Learning how to actually speak from your own reality. If you've been with us from the start, then you already know how much Nancy Dreyfus means to Jay. She's been Jay's mentor for years, and has shaped so much of the "Hey, Wait" approach you've been hearing about. Think of Nancy as the "Yoda" of helping people get their insides to match their outsides. She's a psychotherapist, an author, and, more than anything, a deep well of wisdom. If this podcast has been resonating with you, you'll love this episode. It's packed with thoughtful insights and practical takeaways that'll help you get one step closer to being Radically and Embarrassingly True to Yourself. In this episode, you'll hear Nancy talk about: Why being authentic can feel both embarrassing and liberating How to stand in your truth and honor someone else's reality What it really means to "do the work" with your partner And how you'll start to notice your own growth when you take healing seriously Want to go deeper? Grab Nancy's book, Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love, and flip through the flashcards one by one. Don't just read them… say them out loud. Let the words settle into your body. Here's the link to grab the book. And don't forget to stay connected with Jay Moon Fields—check out jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. Got a question for the podcast? Send it in! You might just hear it in a future episode. Connect with Nancy Dreyfus: Official Website: https://nancydreyfus.com/ Nancy's Book: "Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love": https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0399162003/ Nancy's Psydbar Substack: https://nancydreyfus.substack.com/ Instagram: https://www.instahttps://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0399162003/ref=s9_simh_gw_p14_d1_i3gram.com/nancydreyfus_psyd/ Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/nancydreyfus.bsky.social Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Welcome back to the "Hey, Wait" Podcast, hosted by embodiment coach, educator, and author Jay Moon Fields. In each episode she shares stories, insights, interviews, and practical tools to help you shift how you show up in your relationships, and in your life. In today's episode, Jay is joined by Jane Bond. Jane is a powerhouse in luxury real estate (Naples, NYC, Philly), and a fierce advocate for women. Having "unpacked her life," Jane now inspires women through her podcast, Unpack Your Life, to pause and take an honest look at their lives—and to ask themselves if what they're going through is allowing for their growth or keeping them hostage? When her career, marriage, finances, and ego all collapsed at once, Jane had to let go of everything she thought made her who she was. In this major "Hey wait" moment, she stepped out of performance and into reckoning—with her truth, her fear, and her power. Together, she and Jay talk about what it takes to stop performing and to start living from presence. Except it took two takes…because the first time Jay and Jane sat down to record the interview, they both fell into old patterns of performing and people pleasing, and it didn't come across as authentically as they knew they were capable of being. So two women who, in earlier chapters of their lives, would've either kept the inauthentic version or thrown it in the trash and walked away, instead chose to stay, have an honest and hard conversation and give themselves and each other a second chance. Give it a listen to see what came out of their second conversation. And Hey, Wait! Before you go, make sure to subscribe to the "Hey, Wait" Podcast so you can follow along with every new episode as soon as it is released. And be sure to connect with Jay Moon Fields on her website (jaymoonfields.com/) and across all social media platforms (instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/) so you can submit your questions to the Podcast. You just might be featured on a future episode! Key Takeaways: Unpacking your life is about reclaiming your power & walking through fear If this chapter of your life isn't serving you, then rewrite it Withholding your truth disconnects you from the people who need to show up in your life The fear of being misunderstood, being too much, and of starting over again Self worth doesn't need an audience You don't owe the world your whole story to be impactful Connect with Jane Bond: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/janebond___/ Unpack Your Life Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/unpack-your-life/id1789819668 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/janebondtbg/ Real Estate Website: https://www.compass.com/agents/jane-bond/ Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields