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Betrayal is a uniquely painful human experience that can shatter your sense of self, your health, and your ability to trust. What if there was a predictable path to move through the devastation and emerge stronger on the other side?​ Imagine turning your deepest personal pain into a mission to heal others. That is exactly what today's guest, Dr. Debi Silber, did. After experiencing life-altering betrayals, she embarked on a PhD to study the topic, uncovering three groundbreaking discoveries about how we can heal and transform. Dr. Silber found that while you can't count on time to heal the wounds of betrayal, there is a proven, research-based roadmap to move from breakdown to breakthrough.​ Dr. Silber is the founder and CEO of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and a leading expert on healing from betrayal. In this conversation, she and Jay explore the science and soul of recovery, including why this particular type of trauma requires a different approach.​ In this episode, Dr. Silber discusses: ► Her personal story of betrayal and what led her to research the topic.​ ► Post-Betrayal Syndrome and its common physical, mental, and emotional symptoms.​ ► The five predictable stages of healing from betrayal, and how to know if you are stuck.​ ► Why it's possible to not only heal but to become a new, transformed version of yourself.​ To learn more about Dr. Debi Silber and her work, visit her company's website at https://thepbtinstitute.com. Connect with Dr. Debi Silber: ► Official Website: https://thepbtinstitute.com ► Podcast: https://thepbtinstitute.com/podcast/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ ► TEDx Talk, "Do You Have Post Betrayal Syndrome?": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iyqOR69dHiU ► Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Saint Solaire Skincare--the absolute best sunblock for your face. It's healthy for you, and healthy for the planet. https://saintsolaireskincare.com/ Use code "heywait" at checkout to get 15% off your order! And to stay connected with Jay, head over to https://jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Jay: ► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1 ► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Jay Moon Fields' Books Less Lost and Teaching People Not Poses on Amazon ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ This podcast was produced by Scufd Studio Pvt. Ltd. For permissions, inquiries, or collaboration, please contact hello@scufdstudio.com

Do you ever feel like you're dating the same person in a different body, repeating the same painful relationship patterns over and over? Many of us search for a love that completes us, only to find we've lost ourselves in the process. This cycle of relating is more common than you think, and it has a name: love addiction. That is what today's guest, Jodi White, is here to unpack. Jodi is a licensed therapist, coach, and podcaster specializing in codependence and love addiction. Drawing on her professional training and her personal recovery after a 25-year struggle, she helps clients heal relationship patterns rooted in childhood trauma and cultural conditioning. For both Jay and Jodi, a huge "Hey, Wait" moment was the realization that these patterns weren't about love, but about a process addiction. It's an addiction to seeking the safety and validation externally that we needed to develop internally. Understanding this is a powerful first step toward breaking the cycle and building a fulfilling relationship with yourself and others. In this episode, Jodi talks about: ► The difference between codependence and love addiction. ► The three core symptoms of a love addict. ► How cultural messages and childhood experiences create these patterns. ► What the recovery process looks like and how to start healing. To learn more about Jodi White, visit her website or listen to her podcast, Journals of a Love Addict. Connect with Jodi White: ► Official Website: https://www.jodiwhiteonline.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jodiwhite_ ► Podcast: Journals of a Love Addict Saint Solaire Skincare--the absolute best sunblock for your face. It's healthy for you, and healthy for the planet. https://saintsolaireskincare.com/ Use code "heywait" at checkout to get 15% off your order! And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Jay: ► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1 ► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Jay Moon Fields' Books Less Lost and Teaching People Not Poses on Amazon ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ This podcast was produced by Scufd Studio Pvt. Ltd. For permissions, inquiries, or collaboration, please contact hello@scufdstudio.com

Is your relationship with work your most unhealthy one? In a culture that prioritizes constant production and consumption, it's easy to feel like you're just a cog in a machine, disconnected from your own vitality and purpose. The pressure to hustle is relentless, and the system can feel impossible to escape. What if the antidote isn't working harder, but divesting from that system altogether? That is the question today's guest, Megan Leatherman, helps us explore. Megan is an anticapitalist teacher, writer, and vocational guide who teaches people how to "compost capitalism" by reconnecting to the land, the seasons, and their own inner knowing. For both Jay and Megan, the realization that our lives and bodies are not meant to operate like machines was a huge "Hey, Wait" moment. They discuss how capitalism is both powerful and precarious, and how small, gentle acts of rebellion, like watching the sunset or paying attention to the seasons, can help us reclaim our life force. In this episode, Megan talks about: ► What it means to "compost capitalism" and live an anti-capitalist life.​ ► How to find your true vocation when you feel trapped by the need to earn a wage.​ ► Using the wisdom of the seasons, especially autumn, to practice letting go.​ ► Simple, accessible ways to reconnect with the land, even if you live in a city.​ Connect with Megan Leatherman: ► Website: https://awildnewwork.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/awildnewwork/ ► Podcast: A Wild New Work https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-wild-new-work/id1437555777 And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Jay: ► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1 ► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Jay Moon Fields' Books: Less Lost and Teaching People, Not Poses on Amazon ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/ This podcast was produced by Scufd Studio Pvt. Ltd. For permissions, inquiries, or collaboration, please contact hello@scufdstudio.com

Have you ever felt like an imposter, terrified of being "found out" as unqualified, despite your successes? What if the key to overcoming that fear wasn't to "get it together," but to get radically honest and build your own unique toolkit for mental fitness? You may know Stephanie Szostak from her roles in hit films and shows like The Devil Wears Prada, Iron Man 3, and A Million Little Things. But behind the Hollywood success was a decade-long struggle with imposter syndrome that came to a head after she landed her first lead role. Paralyzed by fear and self-criticism, she realized the only way forward was to stop trying to be who she thought she should be and start building a practice to reconnect with herself. That is the "Hey, Wait" moment that led Stephanie to create her "Personal Playbook," a daily practice of mental fitness that became the foundation for her book, Self!sh. It's a powerful tool for anyone who wants to move from self-doubt to self-discovery and live with more confidence, joy, and meaning. In this episode, Stephanie talks about: ► Her journey from the corporate world at Chanel to pursuing acting at age 29. ► The powerful story of how she overcame debilitating imposter syndrome. ► The "Personal Playbook": what it is and how to create your own. ► Finding your "glimmers" and why being "selfish" is essential for your wellbeing. ► What she learned about tough love from playing a real-life mother in her new film, Soul on Fire. To learn more about Stephanie's work, visit her websites and check out her book, "Self!sh: Step Into a Journey of Self-Discovery to Revive Confidence, Joy, and Meaning." And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Stephanie Szostak: ► Official Website: https://www.stephanieszostak.me ► Playbook Website: https://selfishplaybook.com ► Book (Self!sh): https://stephanieszostak.me/selfish/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephshortstak ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanie-szostak-86556b213/ Connect with Jay: ► Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ ► (Book) less lost: finding and being yourself in the wilds of ordinary life https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B/ref=sr_1_1?crid=221PWAS0W0ZLC&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.-eRJFgQB4PnBUu9EFA5KH0qjLkBb0WOaS_HjQyUF2kw.CNtBvCKk6A0VuF_beHrhgWISjOophnXc2zr577YZlOk&dib_tag=se&keywords=less+lost+jay+fields&qid=1759192701&sprefix=less+lost%2Caps%2C181&sr=8-1 ► "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching ► Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ ► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

Kyle Elliott, an LGBTQ+ trauma-informed career coach, shares his journey from work addiction to finding a balanced life. He discusses the dangers of intertwining identity with job performance and offers insights into trauma-informed coaching. Kyle provides actionable tools like his 'Next Job Manifestation Guide' to help listeners redefine career clarity and authenticity, while emphasizing the importance of mental health in the workplace. Tune in for practical strategies to align work with personal values and discover a more meaningful career path.

Aging is part of the human experience, but as our bodies change, so must our approach and mindset toward caring for them. Imagine going from being an elite athlete and coach to Olympic track and field athletes, to barely being able to move only a few years later. When you have spent your 20s identifying as strong, physical, and healthy, losing the ability to move freely can feel like a devastating loss. That is exactly what today's guest, Coach Ashley Selman, experienced. After having a hip replacement and going into perimenopause in her early 40's, her body began to take a turn. She needed to find a solution and eventually discovered BFR, or Blood Flow Restriction training. BFR is something both Jay and Coach Selman have in common, and discovering it was a huge "Hey, Wait" moment for them both. It's a powerful tool not only for women navigating menopause, but for anyone with an aging body. In this episode, Ashley talks about: Her path toward becoming a coach Blood Flow Restriction: what it is and how it works Women losing muscle mass sooner than men due to Human Growth Hormone To learn more about Coach Seli and BFR, visit her company's website at selishttps://www.selistrength.com/#via=heywait To sign up for the Hey, Wait cohort for BFR training, visit https://www.selistrength.com/#via=heywait And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Coach Ashley Selman: Official Training Website:https://www.selistrength.com/#via=heywait Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/selistrength LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashley-selman Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

Why is it so hard for so many of us… to simply be ourselves? No one becomes a Somatic Healing Coach by accident. Learning to connect with what you feel on the inside doesn't always come easily. For Jay, that realization began after one of the most painful experiences of her young life, separating from her first husband. In this very special and illuminating episode of the Hey, Wait Podcast, Jay sits down with former guest Sara Rusbatch, who turns the tables by interviewing Jay about her own life experiences. Together they trace the moments of trauma and transformation that shaped Jay into the person, author, coach, and educator she is today. In this episode, Jay talks about: Her childhood and feeling disconnected with her inside Getting married young and experiencing separation and divorce The value in working one-on-one with clients vs. corporate Her mission & her legacy To stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields Connect with Sarah Rusbatch: Official Website: https://sarahrusbatch.com/ Sarah's Book, "Beyond Booze": https://sarahrusbatch.com/beyond-booze Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrusbatch/ "The Women's Wellbeing Collective" on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/342319476897067/ Sarah's FREE Guide, "100 Things to Do Instead of Drinking": https://sarahrusbatch.com/free-guide-100-things-to-do-instead-of-drinking

The world may try to tell you otherwise, but you have the sovereignty to choose the kind of life you want to live. When we think of improv, we often picture shows like Whose Line Is It Anyway? or Saturday Night Live. While improvisation on TV can be incredibly entertaining, choosing to improvise in life by saying "yes, and…" can move you away from the scripted path others expect and toward a life that truly feels right for you. In today's episode, author, artist, entrepreneur, and improviser Amanda Hirsch joins Jay for an inspiring off-the-cuff conversation. Amanda shares her story of reclaiming her own life and offers practical tips and exercises you can start using today. Together, they explore how asking "why?" (or "Hey, wait") and making a "new choice" can better align your desires, passions, and energy. In this episode, Amanda talks about: Choosing a different life path than the scripted one in front of you Daring to ask "Why?"... Sometimes more than once Noticing what is a "yes" and what is a "no" Making a "new choice" beyond the practical and obvious To learn more about Amanda's book, "Improvising Adulthood" visit her website at amandahirsch.com/improvising-adulthood And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Amanda Hirsch: Personal Website: https://www.amandahirsch.com/ "Improvising Adulthood" Book: https://www.amandahirsch.com/improvising-adulthood "Mighty Forces" Company Website: https://www.mightyforces.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mightyforcesamanda LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahirsch Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

In times of stress, we seek to self-sooth our nervous systems… But it isn't always beneficial in the long run. When we think about eating, it's easy to forget how deeply connected food is to our nervous system, early attachment experiences, and even the ways we relate to ourselves. Eating is not just about nutrients. It's about safety, grounding, and the body's attempt to protect itself. In this episode, Jay sits down for an insightful conversation with Stephanie Mara Fox, founder of Somatic Eating and somatic psychotherapist, to explore how we can begin to understand our relationship with food from a place of curiosity and compassion. Stephanie shares how hyper-palatable foods can become stand-ins for secure attachment, the impact of diet culture on our nervous system, and practical ways to start building trust with our bodies and our meals. In this episode, Stephanie talks about: How food behaviors can reflect survival strategies and unmet attachment needs The role of somatic awareness in understanding impulses around food Practical ways to reconnect with your body through somatic pauses and neutral body check-ins Food fawning and the ways people-pleasing can show up in eating behaviors To learn more about Stephanie's work and programs, visit StephanieMara.com for one-on-one support and her podcast Satiated, or SomaticEating.com for her live three-month Somatic Eating program, community meals, and upcoming Somatic Eating Coach Certification Training. And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Stephanie Mara Fox: Personal Website: https://www.stephaniemara.com/ Somatic Eating Website: https://www.somaticeating.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_stephaniemara/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephmara/ Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields

When we hold a baby, we naturally cradle the neck and the tailbone. In that moment we are tuned in to something gentle and instinctive, an awareness of subtle energy. It comes so easily to us as parents, and yet it's so often abandoned in our own wellbeing as adults. Many sensitive people, including so many listeners of this podcast, describe feeling as if they "lose themselves" around others. Subtle energy is about deep inner regulation and the quiet exchange that happens between human beings. It is always moving within us and flowing all around us. In this episode, Jay shares a heartfelt and practical conversation with Craig Walker, a chiropractor, yoga instructor, and educator, who helps people strengthen their connection to themselves and to the world through an understanding of subtle energy. In this episode, Craig talks about: Subtle energy: what it is and how it works The value of coordinated breath Empathic people are genuinely capable of absorbing the energy of others Gaining attunement to your body and your surroundings The layers that exist within you To learn more about Craig's work and subtle energy, visit his Youtube at: youtube.com/@Craig_Walker_ And to stay connected with Jay, head over to jaymoonfields.com and follow along on Instagram. If you have a question for the podcast, send it in. You might just hear it on a future episode. Connect with Craig Walker: Website: https://subtleenergymechanics.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Craig_Walker_ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/subtle_energy_mechanics/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachwithcraig Connect with Jay: Official Website: https://jaymoonfields.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/ "Yours Truly" Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching Jay Moon Fields' Book "Teaching People Not Poses": https://www.amazon.com/Teaching-People-Not-Poses-Principles/dp/1478326913/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields