Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay

Jill Corvelli, founder of the Neurodiverse Partners Institute, specializes in supporting complex couples where one or both partners are neurodistinct. In this discussion, she reveals common stages of change in neurodiverse relationships, emphasizing the growth potential through connection. Jill introduces her ND Compass model to improve communication and decision-making and highlights the importance of emotional safety. She also explores the necessity of inner work for enhanced intimacy and managing nervous system health, providing valuable insights for navigating these unique dynamics.

During this episode, Jennie Williams talks about her own neurodivergence and disabilities and how important it is to support the intimacy needs of disabled and neurodivergent folks. She shares information about why she started the charity Enhance the UK and the campaign they run called Undressing Disability. Some of the other topics addressed include how to communicate about your intimacy needs as a disabled adult. The resources available through the Love Lounge that Jennie and her friend Zoe co-lead. Participants can get 3 free sessions to work through any issues they are facing in their intimate relationships. She also shares how internalized shame and/or ableism does not equal an authentic relationship and how important it is to address sensory sensitivities and other needs each partner may have that could make their intimate relationships more mutually beneficial.You can learn more about the work being done through Enhance the UK here.

If you would like to learn more about the resources Mona offers you can check out the links below. Buy the ⁠Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards or Workbook⁠⁠Newsletter⁠ | ⁠Instagram⁠ | ⁠Website⁠ | ⁠YouTube⁠Mona also offers supports groups for neurodiverse couples and non-autistic/neurotypical partners. Learn more here. If you would like to buy life-time access to the 31 video sessions from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference click here and use code Podcast50 to get $50 off the price. ____________________________________________________________During this session from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference, Stephen Robertson, LMFT shares information about the group work he has done with Autistic men. In his work as a psychotherapist, he has observed the profound impact of neurodiverse-NT relationships on both partners, yet the male ASD-1 perspective is often overlooked. In 2023, he began facilitating men’s therapy groups specifically for ASD-1 individuals and was struck by the glaring lack of specialist support available to them. These men shared deeply about their experiences, challenges, and hopes, and he was moved by their courage and desire to connect. In this episode, Stephen highlights the stories and struggles of male ASD-1 partners, challenges the stigma they often face, and he explores how we can create safe therapeutic spaces for them to share their experience, strength, and hope. By broadening the narrative, we can foster deeper understanding and compassion in neurodiverse-NT relationships.Stephen Robertson is a Licensed Marriage, and Family Therapist (LMFT) and autistic individual (ASD-1). He offers a unique blend of lived experience and clinical expertise in supporting neurodiverse-NT couples. His work focuses on helping partners navigate the complexities of neurodiverse relationships, fostering emotional connection, and building understanding through practical tools and compassionate guidance. In 2023, Stephen launched therapy groups for ASD-1 men, uncovering an urgent need for spaces where they can safely share their struggles and strengths. These groups have become a cornerstone of his mission to empower neurodivergent men and challenge the stigma they often face in relationships.Stephen’s trauma-informed, strength-based approach integrates modalities like Internal Family Systems and Emotion-Focused Therapy. He is passionate about redefining the narrative around neurodiverse relationships, celebrating their unique strengths, and helping clients create meaningful, fulfilling connections.You can contact Stephen at the link below:https://www.therapy4autisticmen.com/stephen-robertson

If you would like to learn more about coaching services, support groups and other resources Mona has available for neurodiverse couples and individual partners you can check out her website.____________________________________________________________During this episode with Caron Starobin you will learn about the Relationship Bootcamp she is co-facilitating on October 10th and 11th in Ashton, Maryland. Participants will learn essential skills for improved communication, conflict resolution and building intimacy using the Relational Life Therapy Model that was developed by Terry Real.Caron shares how she will use Relational Life Therapy to help participants learn how to address the never ending cycle of harmony, disharmony and repair and how the skills couples and individuals learn will help them connect in more effective and healthy ways. Caron has extensive experience working with neurodiverse couples and this is her second time as a guest on the podcast. She was also a presenter at the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference.To register for the Relationship Bootcamp or learn more about the services available through Starobin Counseling you can click here.

In this engaging discussion, Laurie Budlong-Morse, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and AANE-certified neurodiverse couples therapist, shares her insights as the adult child of an autistic mother. She explores the unique challenges faced by adult children of unidentified autistic parents, addressing themes of emotional neglect, codependency, and social isolation. Laurie emphasizes the importance of validation, self-compassion, and learning practical relationship skills, while also offering hope for healing and enhanced understanding of parental behaviors through a neurodiversity lens.

If you would like to learn more about the resources Mona has available through Neurodiverse Love you can click here . Mona offers coaching and support groups for neurodiverse couples and the non-autistic/NT partners. ____________________________________________________________During this episode, returning guest Grace Myhill shares information about why many neurodiverse couples seek help from coaches or therapist to address challenges with intimacy. She also provides details about the new Intimacy Intensive training that is now available through AANE for coaches and therapists who are seeking more in-depth knowledge on how to work with and help neurodiverse couples who need guidance and support in this area of their relationship. Click here to learn more about this training.In addition, Grace shares information about the new neurodiverse couples retreat "Comfort, Curiousity, Communication and Connection" that she and her colleague Leslie Sickels will be co-facilitating on October 17th, 18th, and 19th in Baltimore Maryland. For more information about the retreat you can email Grace at grace.myhill@aane.org

Michelle Garnett, a clinical psychologist specializing in autism and co-founder of Atwood & Garnett Events, joins Tony Attwood, an internationally recognized autism specialist. They discuss the importance of embracing neurodiversity in relationships, highlighting communication strategies like the four C's: curiosity, compassion, commitment, and connection. They explore how to celebrate strengths, recognize positive interactions, and adapt to communication challenges in neurodiverse couples. The conversation emphasizes acceptance, compromise, and the need for supportive resources.

In this solo discussion, the complexities of emotional reciprocity in neurodiverse relationships are explored. Listeners learn the significance of listening to truly understand their partner's needs. Curiosity replaces judgment as partners are encouraged to ask for specific support. The episode highlights the importance of attunement, teamwork, and addressing misunderstandings with patience. Apologies and repairs are emphasized as essential steps in nurturing a loving connection.

Candice Christiansen, an experienced clinician specializing in autism and intimacy, shares her insights on the diverse sexual lives of Autistic individuals. She challenges outdated stereotypes by highlighting their rich spectrum of desires and experiences. Candice delves into the nuances of sensory experiences in intimacy, offering practical tips to enhance sexual pleasure by connecting with emotional and physical needs. Personal anecdotes illustrate the importance of communication in fostering meaningful connections and satisfying relationships.

In this insightful discussion, Sarah Hendrickx, a leading author and diagnostician on AuDHD, sheds light on the rising rates of adult dual diagnoses of autism and ADHD. She explains how historical diagnostic limitations and a focus on children have shaped our understanding. The conversation explores how the traits of these conditions can mask each other, resulting in unique challenges and strengths. Sarah also shares practical tips for managing impulsivity and building routines, along with exciting news about her upcoming workbook aimed at self-discovery.