The Confidence Chronicles

The other night my husband and I watched a show on Netflix called "The Social Dilemma". If you haven't watched it yet, I highly recommend checking it out. There was a lot of negativity portrayed in here around the use of social media and how it has turned into a bigger marketing machine than anyone could have anticipated. It got my husband and I thinking and chatting about how we use social media, and how it can be used for good but how important boundaries are when using it. If you have children and they are on social media, I can't even imagine how hard that is to navigate. My kids are only small so they're not on it yet, but if your kids are older there is a lot that needs to be thought about here. I think that social media is an incredibly powerful tool for business, for connecting with people, for feeling part of something but it can also spiral out of control. You can become addicted to watching other people's lives, wishing you were them, comparing yourself to them. In this episode today I give you some tips on how you can use social media in a positive way, setting up boundaries, talking about it with your kids and having times when you just leave your phone alone. I don't think social media needs to be a "dilemma", but like anything it needs your thought around how to use it properly.LINKS:Join the Waitlist to BUY MY BOOK!Watch The Social Dilemma on NetflixInstagram: @thequeenofconfidenceFacebook: @TheconfidencequeenYouTube: The Queen Of ConfidenceLinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.com👑 Want to request a podcast? Have a question for me? Click here to request a podcast!👑 Loving this podcast? Please leave me a review so other women who needs this can find this show 👑 Are we friends on Instagram? If not come say hello @thequeenofconfidence Lastly - THANK YOU for listening, I APPRECIATE YOU! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You might think that being confident means that you don’t get scared, you don’t feel anxious and you don’t 💩your pants.But my love, confidence is uncomfortable. You’re scared, you’re sweaty, your pooing your pants but you’re doing the damn thing. Confidence comes from action.PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK - Confidence Feels Like Sh*tInstagram: @thequeenofconfidenceFacebook: @TheconfidencequeenYouTube: The Queen Of ConfidenceLinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.com👑 Want to request a podcast? Have a question for me? Click here to request a podcast!👑 Loving this podcast? Please leave me a review so other women who needs this can find this show 👑 Are we friends on Instagram? If not come say hello @thequeenofconfidence Lastly - THANK YOU for listening, I APPRECIATE YOU! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I literally can't stop thinking about how many people are not okay right now, and I thought it would be useful to share with you some of the things that I'm doing to help my mental health during this time.Everyone will have a different version of what helps them mentally, but there are definitely some universal tips that I feel will really help you.As I mentioned in this episode, I have a free coach yourself worksheet that you can download HEREDownload My FREE Audio Training - What It Really Takes To Change Your LifeInstagram: @thequeenofconfidenceFacebook: @TheconfidencequeenYouTube: The Queen Of ConfidenceLinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.com👑 Want to request a podcast? Have a question for me? Click here to request a podcast!👑 Loving this podcast? Please leave me a review so other women who needs this can find this show 👑 Are we friends on Instagram? If not come say hello @thequeenofconfidence Lastly - THANK YOU for listening, I APPRECIATE YOU! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

One of my beautiful Instagram followers messaged me recently letting me know she was struggling with making decisions. She was in a relationship with a narcissist, there was gaslighting going on and she was really struggling to make her own decisions as a result. So how do you stop being indecisive? It's not something that just happens. You need to practice making decisions all the day. Stop asking for outside input and go within yourself. The more decisions you make, even if they start out really small, will help you build that muscle and give you the confidence to make more.Download My FREE Audio Training - What It Really Takes To Change Your LifeInstagram: @thequeenofconfidenceFacebook: @TheconfidencequeenYouTube: The Queen Of ConfidenceLinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.com👑 Want to request a podcast? Have a question for me? Click here to request a podcast!👑 Loving this podcast? Please leave me a review so other women who needs this can find this show 👑 Are we friends on Instagram? If not come say hello @thequeenofconfidence Lastly - THANK YOU for listening, I APPRECIATE YOU! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We've got an incredible business episode for you today with my gorgeous guest, Arriane Alexander. This woman is incredible. Not only does she live in Hollywood and is an actress, but she is an absolute pro on how to gain confidence on camera. Arrianne coaches people from all over the world on how to play a bigger game, get their faces on camera and start generating great income in their businesses. She knows so much about lighting, how to do your makeup, what to say, how to present yourself and the importance of sharing your unique story.Tune into this episode and take some notes!Connect with Arriane:Play A Bigger Game Facebook GroupInstagram: @arrianealexander-----------------------Download my FREE audio training - What It Really Takes To Change Your LifeInstagram: @thequeenofconfidenceFacebook: @TheconfidencequeenYouTube: The Queen Of ConfidenceLinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.com👑 Want to request a podcast? Have a question for me? Click here to request a podcast!👑 Loving this podcast? Please leave me a review so other women who needs this can find this show 👑 Are we friends on Instagram? If not come say hello @thequeenofconfidence Lastly - THANK YOU for listening, I APPRECIATE YOU! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For whatever reason, we may have something happen to us in our past (most likely our childhood or adolescence) that has us seeking validation or acknowledgement from others in some form.The overachiever/workaholic who’s constantly trying to prove to someone that they’re good enough (that’s def been me)The self-conscious woman who obsesses about her body image and how she needs to look externally (that’s also been me)The workaholic who hustles their face off trying to be the most successful they’ve ever been, make the most money they’ve ever made so that they can finally get the approval from society, their parents, ex bullies etc ... (been there too!)The list goes on and on.You finally reach a point where you realise that you don’t need validation or acknowledgement from anyone else but yourselfThis is when you gain your freedom to just BE who it is you want to be.This obviously requires deep excavation of the self and a commitment to letting go of the thoughts, beliefs and things that no longer serve your growthLinks We Mentioned:Power Couples MasterclassConnect with Hamish:Join his free meditation courseInstagram: @manfulnessmenConnect with Erika:GRAB MY FREEBIE - What It Really Takes To Change Your LifeInstagram: @thequeenofconfidenceFacebook: @TheconfidencequeenYouTube: The Queen Of ConfidenceLinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.comWAYS TO WORK WITH ME:Join my online coaching program for women – the SistahoodLearn how to Conquer Social Media through my new Confidently Conquering Social Media Course👑 Want to request a podcast? Have a question for me? Click here to request a podcast!👑 Loving this podcast? Please leave me a review so other women who needs this can find this show 👑 Are we friends on Instagram? If not come say hello @thequeenofconfidence Lastly - THANK YOU for listening, I APPRECIATE YOU! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I have been in some terrible relationships y'all. If you've been following me for awhile, you'll know the kind of men I used to date and the way I allowed them to treat me. I was jealous of other women, jealous of what they had and I felt like I could never have that. But after years of working on myself and marrying the most wonderful, respectful man, I thought I was past all of that jealous bullshit. But something came up for me recently that was unexpected.I was on Hamish's phone on the explore section of his Instagram and there were all of these hot women in workout gear popping up. I know that the explore section fills with what you search for - it's all algorithms, so I was confused. I immediately started thinking that Hamish mustn't like my body, that he's looking at fit women because I'm not fit enough, that he doesn't want to have sex with me...all these things that deep down I know aren't true.So I confronted him about it. I asked him straight up why there were all these women on his feed and he told me honestly what was going on. It wasn't that he had been looking at women, that he didn't appreciate my body - he tells me all the time how sexy I am. It wasn't anything like that. He was just looking at fitness clothing.I had made up this story in my head about what Hamish was doing and it all stemmed from what I had dealt with in the past. If you're jealous or comparing yourself to other women, get excited about that. It means you can work on it. You can heal that and change your story. The three questions I asked in this episode are:What actually happened?What did I make it mean?What else could it mean? (this is the game-changer)Connect with Erika:Instagram: @thequeenofconfidenceFacebook: @TheconfidencequeenYouTube: The Queen Of ConfidenceLinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.comWAYS TO WORK WITH ME:Join my online coaching program for women – the SistahoodLearn how to Conquer Social Media through my new Confidently Conquering Social Media Course👑 Want to request a podcast? Have a question for me? Click here to request a podcast!👑 Loving this podcast? Please leave me a review so other women who needs this can find this show 👑 Are we friends on Instagram? If not come say hello @thequeenofconfidence Lastly - THANK YOU for listening, I APPRECIATE YOU! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’re out there going through some trouble regarding work during this long ass pandemic that’s just never-ending it seems, this is an episode that you’ll want to tune into.So many businesses have been forced to close and many jobs have been lost. If you are someone that has lost their job, I feel for you and I want to arm you with some steps that you can take to turn your situation around.Firstly, you got to get your money sorted right? Whatever it takes. Apply for welfare, jobseeker, jobkeeper and any government funding you can. There’s also small business grants and other grants that you can look into. Otherwise, if you’re not able to pay your bills you might need to get a non-sexy job that gets you over the line for now. Work at a gas station, look for freelance work online, get onto Fiverr - whatever it takes to get your money sorted. Then you need to get out of the headspace of “I can’t”. This is a very easy place for your mind to live right now. I can’t work, I can’t exercise the way I’d like to, I can’t leave my house. Although these may be true for you, it’s not healthy to live in that mind. Instead, focus on what you CAN do. You can rejig your resume, you can get a job you don’t love for right now, you can spend more time with your kids. You can really think about where your life was heading, and where you need to pivot. I’ve got a lot of tips to share with you today and I hope it helps you feel armed with some positive action.Connect with Erika:Instagram: @thequeenofconfidenceFacebook: @TheconfidencequeenYouTube: The Queen Of ConfidenceLinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.comWAYS TO WORK WITH ME:Join my online coaching program for women – the SistahoodLearn how to Conquer Social Media through my new Confidently Conquering Social Media Course👑 Want to request a podcast? Have a question for me? Click here to request a podcast!👑 Loving this podcast? Please leave me a review so other women who needs this can find this show 👑 Are we friends on Instagram? If not come say hello @thequeenofconfidence Lastly - THANK YOU for listening, I APPRECIATE YOU! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm writing my first book right now and the journey I am on with this is incredible. I am going deep into my childhood to try and understand the timelines of so many things that I can't really remember. I didn't initially think I would be including a lot of my story in this book but I'm realising how important it is to share as much as I can.As I've gone back through the memories that I have of my childhood, I've been realising how much is missing. I don't know timelines, I don't know ages and I really wanted to do some digging to see if I could join some of the dots for my book.So I started Googling the social worker I had as a child. I remembered her first name and where I was during that time, but that's about it. Sure enough, her name came up and the minute I saw her last name, so many emotions came flooding in.This social worker still works in the same place. I was able to contact her and leave a voicemail. It was incredible. Again, as I heard her voice on her voicemail more emotions came flooding in. I sobbed and sobbed after I left her a message.I didn't expect her to remember me. I didn't expect her to email me back, but she did. And again, a flood of emotions washed over me.So I wanted to share this with you today to let you know that healing is not linear. I have done years and years of work on myself and I have processed so much trauma. I have a wonderful life, a gorgeous family and everything I need. But it doesn't mean that my healing journey is over. The journey will never e over. There will always be things to work through, emotions to process and that is okay.Allow yourself to feel your feelings and know that you will work through them.Connect with Erika:Instagram: @thequeenofconfidenceFacebook: @TheconfidencequeenYouTube: The Queen Of ConfidenceLinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.comWAYS TO WORK WITH ME:Join my online coaching program for women – the SistahoodLearn how to Conquer Social Media through my new Confidently Conquering Social Media Course👑 Want to request a podcast? Have a question for me? Click here to request a podcast!👑 Loving this podcast? Please leave me a review so other women who needs this can find this show 👑 Are we friends on Instagram? If not come say hello @thequeenofconfidence Lastly - THANK YOU for listening, I APPRECIATE YOU! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’ve got a Biz Series podcast coming at you today and I’m so excited to introduce you to my guest, Emily Osmond. She helps women market themselves authentically online and runs two amazing online courses with hundreds of members all around the world. Emily loves helping women build businesses, feel comfortable selling on their social media platforms, and doing it all in a really authentic way. She is all about connection over perfection and I enjoyed our conversation so much.Not only does Emily talk about her journey to becoming a marketing educator, but also her struggles with imposter syndrome and finding her feet in business. So much of what we spoke about will really resonate with you whether you’re new to business or you’ve been at it for awhile and you need some fresh ideas.Connect with Emily:Instagram: @emilyosmond/Website:  https://www.emilyosmond.com/Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com.au/emilyosmond/Modern Marketing Collective ProgramScalable Program - How To Build Your Own Online CourseEmily's Instagram Stories ChallengeConnect with Erika:Instagram: @thequeenofconfidenceFacebook: @TheconfidencequeenYouTube: The Queen Of ConfidenceLinkedIn: https://au.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-ab695571Sistahood Program: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/sistahood/Website: www.thequeenofconfidence.comWAYS TO WORK WITH ME:Join my online coaching program for women – the SistahoodLearn how to Conquer Social Media through my new Confidently Conquering Social Media Course👑 Want to request a podcast? Have a question for me? Click here to request a podcast!👑 Loving this podcast? Please leave me a review so other women who needs this can find this show 👑 Are we friends on Instagram? If not come say hello @thequeenofconfidence Lastly - THANK YOU for listening, I APPRECIATE YOU! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.