Sex Love Psychedelics

Nadine Lee, founder of Tantric Alchemy + the newly released book Sex Priestess is a badass + embodies the modern experience of the tantric life.  Where some of the ancient practices can feel far beyond us, or like we really need to be in an ashram or monk life to live out, Nadine shares about the integration of her inner experiences + the external happenings in a way that is beautiful + accessible. In this episode, you’ll hear: The vulnerable journey of launching Nadine’s new book: Sex Priestess Tantric path of being a sex priestess + integrating all aspects of ourselves The hero’s journey + the responsibility to share our story Identifying where we have resistance as a key for unlocking dormant parts of our own selves Archetypes and the use of elements as a tool for personal exploration  Spiritual lingo + finding our own truth rather than regurgitation Concept of conscious relationships - and the illusion that someone is conscious  Healing the father wound to find inner union How relationships can catalyze our personal work Getting caught up in “doing the work” and forgetting to live Sex with partners who are not on the tantric path - what is this like for you? Do you? The attraction towards particular humans for the alchemy of what they inspire + draw out of us -- for our personal growth THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Nadine Lee is a teacher of the feminine tantric arts, feminine embodiment coach, devoted lover and sexual liberator. She is the founder of Tantric Alchemy, a platform and community devoted to supporting your rebirth into the woman you came here to be. She has helped thousands of women over the past 15 years to heal sexual trauma and ignite the erotic fire within, and to channel that creative force into their highest creative, feminine and sexual expression. She offers private mentorships, online programs and in-person workshops and retreats across the world. WANT MORE? My 4 week course for Sex Love Psychedelics: Ritual is NOW OPEN for enrollment. Each class is LIVE as I guide you into a potent space for exploration + discovery. I will show you how you can transform sex from being something on your to-do list, to being an experience for expansion both in your sex + self. We get into the pleasure mechanics around sex, how you can incorporate more playfulness in the bedroom, harm reduction practices for psychedelics, sexual rituals, + sensual journeys in sex.  So if you’ve been feeling that your sex life could be so much more, I agree. and I want to share this with you. https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexLovePsychedelics

What happens when someone takes psychedelics + they experience painful memories or an overload of emotion + thoughts that they aren’t equipped to handle by themselves? Lauren Taus, psychedelics assisted therapist, educator, advocate + founder of In-bodied life, joins me to dive into the relationship of psychedelics + trauma.  We get deep into some conversations about how psychedelics effect on our brain + body, which substances do we see as having a greater effect in working with trauma, what resources help support someone going through the healing work + much more.  In this episode, you’ll hear: The clinical perspective on “trauma” - (What happens to a person after the happening) Layers + variations of forms of trauma that exist (Individual, generational + systemic) How psychedelics heal trauma stored in the body The impact of psychedelics on our nervous system Navigating “bad trips” + reframing to ultimately be generative for our growth The potency of preparation, supportive relationships + love How can someone support themselves when trauma spontaneously resurfaces? What does integration look like for individuals who experience new memories or traumas unlocked by the psychedelics?  Spiritually bypassing versus doing “the work” from a spiritual lens Honoring our traditions, ritual + ceremony from a place of authenticity  Navigating the cultural appropriation of indigenous practices + healing our ancestral shame Systemic trauma for the communities of color + how to become stronger allies THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Lauren Taus is a psychedelic assisted therapist, educator and activist. Lauren is the Founder of INbodied Life, the co-Founder of the Psychedelic Coalition for Health, and a clinical advisor to Journey Clinical. Lauren runs a small group, psychotherapy practice in Los Angeles and leads immersive, experiential trainings for providers to learn psychedelic assisted therapy and integration. Lauren’s deepest wish is to see wake people up to the wonders of life, and in doing so, create more systems change agents. Personal liberation supports the needed collective shift.  Training.INbodiedlife.com @lauren.taus  @inbodiedlifetherapy  @psychedeliccoalitionforhealth In just a couple of weeks I will be opening enrollment for my 4 week course for sex love psychedelics: ritual. Each class is LIVE as I guide you into a potent space for exploration + discovery. I will show you how you can transform sex from being something on your to-do list, to being an experience for expansion both in your sex + self. We get into the pleasure mechanics around sex, how you can incorporate more playfulness in the bedroom, harm reduction practices for psychedelics, sexual rituals, + sensual journeys in sex.  So if you’ve been feeling that your sex life could be so much more, I agree. and I want to share this with you. https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexLovePsychedelics

Board certified naturopathic endocrinologist, trained clinical sexologist and author of the new book “Is This Normal?” Dr. Jolene Brighten joins me to breakdown all the complex questions that come with sex, hormones and PMS. You’ll hear Dr. Jolene addresses some of what our culture has adopted as normal + the underlying hormone imbalances that may be causing it. We even get into the issue of vaginal dryness, what causes it + how we can support our bodies' natural production again. In this episode, you’ll hear: Laughter’s role in activating the vagus nerve The connection between the nervous system, sexual desire + hormone health Generational trauma's influence on our cortisol levels and PMS symptoms “Normal” symptoms of PMS + symptoms that would suggest there’s an imbalance Signs that our hormones are “not normal” Cycle tracking and optimizing your menstrual period The lifestyle factors to promote optimal hormone health - Eat, Play, Sex The impact of endocrine disruptors on our hormones A look inside of Jolene’s book, “Is This Normal” How sex changes for women throughout their cycle How do you know if we have an autoimmune disease? How does autoimmune disease relate to sexual desire? Can orgasms strengthen our immune system? Vaginal dryness and the science of lubrication THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Dr. Jolene Brighten NMD, is a hormone expert, nutrition scientist, and thought leader in women’s medicine. She is board certified in naturopathic endocrinology and trained in clinical sexology. Dr. Brighten is the author of Is This Normal, a non-judgemental guide to creating hormone balance, eliminating unwanted symptoms, and building the sexual desire you crave. A fierce patient advocate and completely dedicated to uncovering the root cause of hormonal imbalances, Dr. Brighten empowers women worldwide to take control of their health and their hormones through her website and social medical channels. Dr. Brighten is an international speaker, clinical educator, and medical advisor within the tech community. https://drbrighten.com/ Book Bonuses Gifts: https://drbrighten.com/is-this-normal/ Dr. Brighten’s website: www.drbrighten.com Dr. Brighten’s social handles on Instagram, Tiktok, and Youtube are @drjolenebrighten WANT MORE? Sex Love Psychedelics Course: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexLovePsychedelics Couples Retreat: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/LoveAndLeather

Professional dominatrix Colette Pervette joins me to look at BDSM as a microcosm of the macro culture + our lives, and how you can find transformation with the intentional embracing of power roles, toys, tools, scenes--whether that’s with a partner or with a professional dom. I’ve brought many experts on to talk about BDSM, but this episode is hands down my favorite. Probably because Colette has such a brilliant + academically inclined mind, as well as, someone who is deeply devoted to spirituality + alchemy. In this episode, you’ll hear: Colette’s journey of accessing her power through softness + quietness Self-conscious submissives and sub-conscious dominants Ways to integrate powerplay beyond the confines of the bedroom How you can start becoming the top or dominant in your life Weaving spirituality, symbolism + alchemy in a BDSM practice How a professional dominatrix designings scenes for clients Can BDSM re-traumatize wounds? Can BDSM heal deep wounds? Dispelling the misconceptions of submissives being "weak" or "powerless" Steps for couples to explore BDSM and play When do you hire a pro-domme to facilitate the scene? Qualities to look for or be cautious of when vetting a professional dom or dominatrix Challenges that come from being a public-facing figure teaching taboo topics Recommended books for learning more about powerplay and transcendence Learn from Dr. Cat and Colette in their upcoming couples retreat, Love + Leather She even answers some questions from our audience: How has your play evolved over the years? Have your desires changed? I feel I have a part of me that is dom, but I lack confidence. How do I explore more? THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Colette is an educatrix. She is a professional dominatrix, where she has been practicing the art of intimacy and power exchange for over 18 years. She holds a PhD in Education from UC Berkeley, where her research focuses on misconceptions and conceptual change. Through her teaching and writing, Colette dispels misconceptions about kink, sexwork, and alternative sexuality. She leads an online course, MistressClass, where she teaches aspiring Dommes a he(art)tistic approach to Female Domination. WANT MORE? Sex Love Psychedelics Course: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexLovePsychedelics Couples Retreat: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/LoveAndLeather BOOKS MENTIONED: Radical Ecstasy Existential Kink The Loving Dominant The Topping Book, The Bottoming Book Playing Well With Others The Dominance Playbook

 Sex isn’t as straightforward as we might put pressure on ourselves to believe. Great sex takes time in demystifying + reconstructing concepts, narratives, + skills. Court Vox is a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach Surrogate Partner Intern and Sacred Intimate based coach. He’s the Founder of The Body Vox and Co-Founder of SQUIRM. Court works with individuals from all genders with somatics, teaching them to come back to the relationship with the body to understand the internal cues that make or break our experience. Like Damn, this conversation hit some nuances that might be what's affecting your sex life and you didn’t even know it. In this episode, you’ll hear: How to incorporate playfulness into your erotic states Approaching sex for many different reasons... “What do you want to feel in this experience?” Attuning yourself to the body’s knowing - Discerning fear vs excitement Implied consent and direct consent, the discrepancy between mind and body Erotic endurance + multiple-hour erotic experiences Redefining orgasm, peak arousal, and ejaculation Edging, peaking, and pleasure potentials Does sex have to require a lot of energy? Redefining sex Unconscious power dynamics in sex Erotic games to play in the bedroom Court’s journey of consciously exploring his shadow Vulnerable experiences from Dr. Cat’s personal love life--lucky you Questions from our audience: My partner had an episiotomy… At times we struggle to feel each other during sex, advice? Healthiest condoms for women who experience UTIs? THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Court Vox is a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach Surrogate Partner Intern, and Sacred Intimate based in Los Angeles CA. He is a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches, Founder of The Body Vox, and Co-Founder of SQUIRM. He is a guide for a vast spectrum of individuals and those in relationship/s seeking more in their erotic and intimate lives.  When it comes to human connection and sexuality, some are beginning their journey while others have been pursuing erotic education and experiences for years.  Court works gently with first-timers, as well as offers uncommon experiences to some of the world's most well-known sex educators and change-makers across multiple fields and disciplines. Court has become known for offering private, highly customized, exclusive experiences and travels extensively hosting and teaching workshops for all bodies, genders, and orientations. Court is also part of an elite team of sex educators that create the celebrated program for women,  Back to the Body, which runs retreats all across the globe. Website: www.thebodyvox.com Sacred Mens Retreat: https://thebodyvox.com/sacred%3A-5-day-retreat WANT MORE? Sex Love Psychedelics Course: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexLovePsychedelics Sex + Psychedelics survey link https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Q9FDNM2 Guide for vetting your psychedelic practitioner: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/Vetting%20Your%20Guide

Rev Briana Lynn is a spiritual mentor and facilitator on the intersection of the silly, sacred and sexy. She is here to wade through the plant medicine waters to help us understand the relationship of eroticism to plant medicine. The two of us unpack the unfortunate abuse of power + sex that can occur in the psychedelic and shamanic plant medicine world and how you can move forward more informed and safe. In this episode, you’ll hear: The erotic nature of plant medicine - flora, fauna, and fungi Erotic signatures or textures across the different plant medicines How to turn yourself on for your enjoyment How psychedelics can help dissolve the cultural myths around sexuality- Religion, and repression How plant medicines nurture the quality of our sex lives - “Orgasm as God” Can psychedelics be helpful in the healing of sexual trauma? Practices that amplify our connection to the erotic in the space of psychedelics or ceremonial plant medicines - Breath, Sound, Movement, Touch Components for safe psychedelic use: Trauma-informed therapy, Community, Movement, Nourishment The history feminine expression of sexuality + spirituality Shadow side of sexuality + the misuse of sexuality in medicine spaces Best practices for facilitators + practitioners to hold proper space Questions to consider when vetting your facilitator LINKS FROM THE SHOW Sex Love Psychedelics Course: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexLovePsychedelics Sex + Psychedelics survey link https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Q9FDNM2 Guide for vetting your psychedelic practitioner: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/Vetting%20Your%20Guide Chacruna’s Ayahuasca Community Guide for the Awareness of Sexual Abuse: https://chacruna.net/community/ayahuasca-community-guide-for-the-awareness-of-sexual-abuse/ THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Rev. Briana Lynn’s sacred studies began in 2003 when she began to travel Latin America by herself & completed her bachelor’s degree in Socio-Economics in Latin America, with a minor emphasis in the Spanish Language as Art. She later earned her NLP Masters Practitioner at NLP Marin (nlpmarin.com) & began her first holistic coaching venture, focusing on trauma-informed practices in 2010. She deeply integrates this work with her Masters (MA) in Peace Education from The United Nations University for Peace. Rev. Briana Lynn founded The Earth Temple in 2018 with the desire to have an equality-centered council for those deeply devoted to The Mystery, & committed to staying out of the hype of dogma, authoritarianism, religiosity, domination, rapture doctrine & the intrinsic waves of manipulation in social media. She & the other Earth Temple Council Members practice in community, holding each other close & in integrity in these wild & beautiful times.

Do you identify as a slut? Or do you feel repulsed or turned off by the word?  If you're ready to  embody the sacred slut and harness your sexuality as a form of healing, I’ve got an edgy + intelligent conversation for you. Gabriela Herstik is the author of Sacred Sex, Inner Witch, Bewitching the Elements, and Embody Your Magick, as well as the essay series "Diary of A Sacred Slut."  In this episode you’ll hear: Gabriela’s journey of embracing the world of Sex Magick, BDSM + Kink Merging the sacred and the profane Using BDSM in ritual space -- Solo practices + Exploration Spiritual practices of the occult + Witchcraft What role do archetypes play in sex? Or healing? Why studying images of mythical characters or goddesses can be helpful for us The history of the Witches + the Sluts Somatic psychology, EMDR + “Resourcing” “Slut” - A controversy in our society + the arguments behind it Gabriela’s process of stepping into her sacred slut era “Perverting” + “kinking” different areas of our life What is shadow work + how can one begin that daily process? Sex + kink as an outlet for the healing journey Rape culture + advice for those wanting to express their sexual autonomy THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Gabriela Herstik is the author of Sacred Sex, Inner Witch, Bewitching the Elements, and Embody Your Magick, as well as the essay series "Diary of A Sacred Slut". She is the Priestess of Kink Coven, a monthly full moon ritual play party for the protection and prosperity of sex workers. Gabriela is an angelic succubus and resides in the city of Angels. https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/authors/2172952/gabriela-herstik https://twitter.com/gabyherstik https://www.instagram.com/gabyherstik/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE Sex Love Psychedelics Course: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/SexLovePsychedelics Vetting your psychedelic guide: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/Vetting%20Your%20Guide Sex + Psychedelic Survey https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Q9FDNM2

International sex expert and sex educator and author of the new book Beyond Satisfied, Kenneth Play joins me to give us some techniques for face sitting, oral sex, flow states, and navigating the grey zone in consent. …This whole episode is full of skills to start incorporating in your sex play NOW. There’s so much we can discover about our bodies + about sex. When we approach it not from an achievement standpoint, but from a playful exploration… “let’s see what we can learn”, it can keep sex novel, fun, + something to look forward to. In this episode, you’ll hear: Sex hacking + how to become beyond satisfied in bed What is a “play lab”? How can “embracing the awkward” improve your sex life? How important are techniques in satisfying sex? And what are some favorites? Kenneth’s components that make up the art of great sex - Feeling, Calibration, Erotic Flow State, Self-Expression Techniques for female ejaculation + squirting How feeling your emotions supports your sexual pleasure Where the vagus nerve sits in the male body vs the female body Sex hacks for stimulating the prostate + back to back orgasms Discovering the “pleasure wiring” for yourself + your partner The psychedelic experience of rhythm + orgasm The vulnerability of receiving + learning how to be in a receptive role Simplifying instruction in arousal - Location, Pressure, Speed Face sitting and either taking or receiving Suggestions for those who have an emotional response in sex Negotiation + finding an agreement where both people get what they need Grey zone as it relates to consent -- ambiguous unclear, hard to read, not always a fuck yes + MORE! THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Kenneth Play is an international sex expert and sex educator. Named the world’s greatest sex hacker by GQ, he has been featured by more than one hundred media outlets, including The New York Times, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, Huffington Post, and Nightline. Kenneth has been a guest lecturer on female sexual pleasure at New York University and San Jose State University. His work has helped millions of men gain lasting confidence and competence. AskMen described Kenneth’s most recent course as having “at least one nugget of sexual learning you’ve almost certainly never encountered before, if not several. Check out Kenneth’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Satisfied-Mind-Blowing-Connection-Confidence/dp/1544516347 WANT MORE? If you’ve been desiring to experience orgasm for yourself, embody the archetype of the seductress, reach transcendent states in sex, + develop a deep devotion to your own body + inner landscape-- My 6 week Erotically Undone course is for you. Good sex + cultivating those skills takes time + devotion. Take this course at your own pace.  https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/EroticallyUndone

The author of the erotic poetry book Tales of Lara + host of the podcast ‘Pussy Church” joins me to share her intimate process in writing erotica, where she’s gotten her inspiration, how she sees her work as a fight against the patriarchal social expectations around sex + dating, as well as, how this practice of erotic writing changed her love life. If you want to not only be turned on, but given drip worthy reference points of an empowered erotic life, this episode is for you, your best friend + your neighbor... IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL HEAR: How art, music, poetry + erotica can validate our complex human experience The common segmentation between the “professional woman” + the “erotic woman” How erotic artists can protect themselves from unsolicited DMs and d*ck pics Lara’s  journey of being an anonymous artist + how that has impacted her love life The cultural “rules” around dating + leaning into your inner erotic Lara’s inspiration behind beginning to write her erotic stories The patriarchal social expectations around sex + dating Lara’s BEST advice for others who are writing erotica Favorite erotica authors + erotic artists that have inspired Lara + Cat Censorship on Instagram + “the rite of initiation” Lara also answers questions asked by our Instagram audience: Favorite/sexiest city to write about, to write in, to put down the pen and just fuck in? What’s your favorite movie sex scene? THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Lara is the creator of the online platform 'Tales Of Lara.' She is an erotica writer and host of the podcast 'Pussy Church,' where she interviews guests from sex therapist, erotic artists all the way to professional dominatrixes. Her debut book of erotic poetry and photography was published in 2021 and is available on www.talesoflara.com Links to social: IG: @talesoflara  ; Book: 'Tales Of Lara' - a collection of erotic poetry and photography, available at www.talesoflara.com ;  'Pussy Church' podcast, available on Spotify and Apple Podcast WANT MORE? If you’ve been desiring to experience orgasm for yourself, embody the archetype of the seductress, reach transcendent states in sex, + develop a deep devotion to your own body + inner landscape-- My 6 week Erotically Undone course is for you. Good sex + cultivating those skills takes time + devotion. Take this course at your own pace.  https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/EroticallyUndone

Certified Professional Sex Coach and Sexologist, and host of men, sex, pleasure podcast, Cam Fraser joins me to talk all things sex, masculinity + pleasure. Cam + I highlight the cultural assumptions that form our internal models of how masculinity + pleasure ”should” be… We also speak on how authentic masculinity can also include a touch of sensuality, play + pleasure.  It’s so good. I am buzzing for you to hear it. In this episode, you’ll hear: The cultural narrative + normativity we place on gender + sex in our society Sex toys and demonizing solo play, stigma and taboo around men + sex toys The vulnerabilities + benefits of playfulness within a task-oriented world The challenges that are presented from the Masculine/ Feminine polarity coaching communities The ramifications of powerful leaders narrowing the definition of what masculinity means The gendered expectations within relationships Sensually expressed men... Will women be attracted to them? Advice on how to explore a multilayered masculinity that is authentic for you. Men’s shame around sex or their bodies, penises, + pleasure Heteroflexibility -- men exploring with other men if interested? And more! THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Cam is a Certified Professional Sex Coach and Certified Sexologist. His work integrates scientifically validated, medically accurate information about sexual health, with sacred sexuality teachings from the mystery traditions. As a coach, he helps men go beyond surface-level sex and into full-bodied, self-expressed, pleasure-oriented sexual experiences free of anxiety or shame. www.instagram.com/thecamfraser www.tiktok.com/@thecamfraser2.0 www.twitter.com/thecamfraser www.youtube.com/channel/UCKn_mdnURk5OeFf9vUAtClQ WANT MORE? If you’ve been desiring to experience orgasm for yourself, embody the archetype of the seductress, reach transcendent states in sex, + develop a deep devotion to your own body + inner landscape-- My 6 week Erotically Undone course is for you. Good sex + cultivating those skills takes time + devotion. Take this course at your own pace.  https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/EroticallyUndone