The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair

You get an idea, you have something you want to do or you become aware of a change you want to make. The first thing you feel is excitement…and then suddenly, the fear hits. Your mind starts racing with all the bad things that could happen if you move forward with your idea. Some of these concerns might sound legitimate, which just adds to the confusion. How can you tell if you're making a decision out of fear or out of wisdom? How can you connect to your soul to know if something is right for you or not? In this episode, I'm giving you a quick and easy five-step process to overcome fear in decision-making. Using this process, you will learn how to identify the specific fears you have, how to figure out which of them are true (and which are just stories) and how to get out of your head and intuitively make a decision from your heart. Listen to discover: Why fear comes up when we are trying to make a decision How fear keeps us from making good decisions A five-step process to and overcome fear in decision-making How to make decisions from a heart-centered place instead of a fear-centered one Here's the thing: it's normal to feel fear when making a big decision, and at the same time, fear isn't always a sign that we shouldn't move forward. When we learn to unwind our stories and get into our bodies, we can tell the difference between empty fear and intuitive guidance and learn to make the decisions that are truly best for us. "We think that it's real, all of these fears, but what we find is most of them are not. They're just stories we're telling ourselves." - Michelle Chalfant "Write down as many as you can until you have exhausted that part of your brain that's kicking out all the fears." - Michelle Chalfant "The idea is you want to be able to see what thoughts you're having around the decision." - Michelle Chalfant "If it's not 100% fact and truth, you're gonna cross it off the list." - Michelle Chalfant "When you feel it in the body, it anchors in your new truth." - Michelle Chalfant "Fear is a stimulating emotion." - Michelle Chalfant "That takes us out of fight or flight. That puts us in the parasympathetic nervous system, which is the rest and relax. Then we can think clearly again." - Michelle Chalfant "Sometimes when we make decisions, there's a little bit of fear there. If fear is there, it doesn't mean that we shouldn't move forward." - Michelle Chalfant "We want to make soul-driven decisions." - Michelle Chalfant "We don't make the right decisions when we're only in our heads." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES 2023 Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Doors Open Now! https://theadultchair.com/certification Tanasi https://tanasi.com/ Use code ADULT for 50% off your first order MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

If you've spent any time in the therapy or self-help space, you've probably heard amazing stories from leaders and teachers who have had some sort of spiritual awakening. To the average person, these types of experiences might seem far off – something reserved for the gurus or super spiritual among us. But in my work, I want to know if all humans can awaken to their true self and how we do that. Andrew DeGregorio was not a guru when he had his awakening. An average 30-something guy who wasn't necessarily on a spiritual quest, his life totally changed when he had a near-death experience that led him to connect with something bigger than himself. As he went through a season of immense suffering following his injury and turned inward to ask deeper questions about himself, he began to recognize how much he was living from survival- and fear-based strategies and how much conditioning was covering up his true self. Then, one day, he had an indescribable experience of connecting with his true self and the pure Love we all come from, and he never looked back. Today, he helps others heal and return to their true selves through personal development, energy work, nervous system work and so much more…and he's walking proof that, yes, any of us can awaken! In this episode, Andrew shares his experience of awakening and the deep wisdom from his own journey. We talk about the ego, soul, God, the universe and how we can get out of projection, our programming and fear and live from a love-centered and soul-centered place every day. Listen to discover: Andrew's powerful story of awakening to his true self after a near-death experience What the ego is and the role it plays in our life Practical (and often counterintuitive) ways we can begin to awaken The energetic dynamics of projection and how it affects relationships What the soul is (the stuff we're actually made up of as humans) How our souls and personality work together to create our purpose How to create a soul-driven and love-driven business Navigating pain and depression from a soul-centered place This is such a deep conversation where we talk about some of the biggest questions of life and the universe, but it felt so practical and grounded (that's part of Andrew's magic!). As you listen, I invite you to open your mind and stretch your beliefs. I believe that simply asking these types of questions is one of the most important things we can do. When we open our mind to the possibilities that exist and surrender to something bigger than ourselves, we might be surprised at what we discover about ourselves, others and even God. "Awakening is a good word. That was a process that began to happen to me." - Andrew DeGregorio "I took radical responsibility for my reality and moving out of this victim mentality." - Andrew DeGregorio "In that moment, I had an experience of the truth of what I am, of what we are." - Andrew DeGregorio "When you see all the things that you're not, eventually you're going to realize the thing that you are." - Andrew DeGregorio "We walk around thinking we're this person, but we're actually not that at all." - Michelle Chalfant "When we come out of our conditioning, we start to realize there's a lot more to reality." - Andrew DeGregorio "Where we source our action…really matters. What's the energy behind our action?" - Andrew DeGregorio "We can choose to begin to awaken by turning inward within ourselves." - Andrew DeGregorio "The true self is in all of us, but it's covered up." - Michelle Chalfant "We actually need each other as mirrors." - Andrew DeGregorio "A simple request when there's projection involved becomes an attack."- Andrew DeGregorio "Slowing things down is really key." - Michelle Chalfant "The soul has a mission that it's here to do." - Andrew DeGregorio "If we are depressed, and we can just have that intention of surrendering to God while taking some action and really having compassion for ourselves and finding somebody that can support us, I think anybody can come back from it." - Andrew DeGregorio "Surrender is not complacent." - Andrew DeGregorio LINKS & RESOURCES Andrew DeGregorio Website https://www.andrewdegregorio.com/ "The Knock" (Andrew DeGregorio Book) https://www.amazon.com/Knock-Unexpected-Wake-Up-Call/dp/1949003051 The Adult Chair® Workshop Nashville: November 3-5, 2022 https://theadultchair.com/nashville MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

When is a relationship worth fighting for and when is the only answer to walk away? Is it possible to work through dysfunctional patterns with a partner and get the outcomes you want? You know that I always say if there is physical abuse, GET OUT! But dysfunction exists on a spectrum, and just because someone has a personality disorder or dysfunctional traits doesn't mean they will always become abusive. In fact, many people in difficult relationships don't want to leave…they want to figure out how to make it work. Darlene Lancer, a licensed therapist and narcissism and codependency expert, joined me on the show today to help break down what abuse is, why abusive relationships are so hard to leave and the situations where someone with narcissistic traits can change and become a good partner…and when it's time to walk. She explains the five different types of abuse, the surprising and subtle ways it can show up and how our own childhood dynamics and emotional health play a role in how easily we can see and remove ourselves from abusive dynamics. Darlene also explains why some non-abusive people with narcissistic personality traits can learn how to be supportive partners and communicate in better ways and why it's necessary for codependents to build self-worth and change the dance with their partners. Listen to discover: Whether or not a narcissist can change What trauma bonding is and how it originates Why abusive relationships are so hard to leave The 5 different kinds of abuse Examples of subtle and not-so-subtle abuse The dynamics of codependency and narcissism Why people fall for dysfunctional partners and how to create healthier patterns in relationships This episode is not an invitation to try to change anyone. People – and especially narcissists – have to be self-aware and want to change for themselves before any transformation can happen. This episode is designed to help you understand the relationship between narcissism and codependency and what abuse looks like so you can more easily identify when it's time to get out vs. when there might be hope of working it out. "All mental illness exists on a continuum." - Darlene Lancer "If you suspect you're being abused, you probably are." - Darlene Lancer "When you're in a dysfunctional relationship, the person that you're with will want to isolate you." - Michelle Chalfant "[Narcissists] are all about impression management. Because of their inner low self-esteem and shame…they want to make you admire them." - Darlene Lancer "An abuser isn't abusive all the time." - Darlene Lancer "If it feels off in some way, it probably is." - Michelle Chalfant "Narcissists' demands are relentless, and you'll never satisfy them." - Darlene Lancer "Projection is a confession." - Darlene Lancer "Blaming and shaming is pretty universal with abusers. And the problem is that codependents have shame of their own." - Darlene Lancer "Some idealization is normal, but when it clouds the negative behavior and it overtakes your reason, then that's a sign of some problem within us." - Darlene Lancer "A narcissist...doesn't see people as separate from them where a codependent doesn't see themselves as separate from others." - Darlene Lancer "Codependents, they want to get along, so they'll compromise. And you keep compromising away until you disappear." - Darlene Lancer LINKS & RESOURCES Darlene Lancer Website https://darlenelancer.com/ "Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist" (Darlene Lancer Book) https://www.amazon.com/Dating-Loving-Leaving-Narcissist-Relationships/dp/0578373181/ Episode #257: Unlearning Codependency with Darlene Lancer https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/257/ National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org/help/ The Adult Chair® Workshop Nashville: November 3-5, 2022 https://theadultchair.com/nashville Tanasi https://tanasi.com/ Use code ADULT for 50% off your first order MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Kute Blackson is no stranger to miracles. Growing up the son of a spiritual leader in Ghana, Africa, Kute witnessed healings and transformation that were nothing short of awe-inspiring. But when he realized it wasn't his calling to take over his father's ministry in the way his family expected, it led him on a challenging and transformational journey of his own: one in which he discovered the magic of surrender and how it can heal our lives. In this episode, Kute delivers so much wisdom about what surrender really is (it's not passive like you might think ), the role of the ego in our lives, why the challenges we face are an essential part of our soul's journey and how to let go and live open to the possibilities – the miracles – life holds for us. Listen to discover: ● Kute's story of courageously following his calling even in the face of adversity ● Why challenging experiences are essential to our soul's growth ● What surrender actually is and why it's so powerful ● How to tell when we're in the flow ● What to do when you feel stuck and are struggling to surrender ● Where resistance comes from ● Why surrender requires grieving what we think we know and how it opens us up to more love and joy Each of us is here with a purpose, and even the difficult moments in our lives hold something important for our growth. When we can relinquish control and what we think our lives should look like, we discover that there are divine possibilities beyond what our mind can even think of or dream up…and what a truly exciting, miraculous journey that is! "Those challenges [don't] mean you're on the wrong path. It sometimes means you're on the right path; you just have to go through, on a human level, the soul test." - Kute Blackson "Forgiveness frees you." - Michelle Chalfant "It doesn't mean that when something difficult is in your path, it's not God-inspired, soul-inspired." - Michelle Chalfant "Life is a university for our soul's evolution…We're always succeeding when we're learning the lessons, even if it's difficult." - Kute Blackson "In our culture, we have this misconception that surrender is weak." - Kute Blackson "In true surrender and letting go, what if you actually got more than you could have intended and planned with the limited concept of your own mind?" - Kute Blackson "Surrender is when we stop trying to force life to fit into our limited idea of what we think it should look like." - Kute Blackson "Many of our goals are often projections of unmet needs from our childhood." - Kute Blackson "The mind is constantly seeking to understand why…which is another form of control." - Kute Blackson "It's the journey that brings us the happiness." - Michelle Chalfant "Many times people think that they're feeling the feeling, but they're actually thinking about the feeling." - Kute Blackson "To truly surrender requires the willingness to move through the portal of grieving." - Kute Blackson LINKS & RESOURCES Kute Blackson Website https://kuteblackson.com/ Kute Blackson Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kuteblackson/ "The Magic of Surrender" (Kute Blackson Book) https://www.amazon.com/Magic-Surrender-Finding-Courage-Let/dp/0593189094 Kute's Bali Retreat https://www.boundlessblissbali.com/ The Adult Chair Workshop Nashville: November 3-5, 2022 https://theadultchair.com/nashville MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

You guys know I'm a huge believer in meditation for its emotional and spiritual benefits. It's one of the greatest tools I've found for personal growth and living a more peaceful life. But it turns out that meditation also has a major impact on the brain, from our fear response to how well we sleep at night. In this show, we take a deeper look at meditation through the lens of neuroscience alongside neuroscientist and brain expert Ariel Garten. In this fascinating show with a fascinating guest, Ariel talks about what meditation is (and what it's not), the benefits of meditation and how it positively affects the brain – backed by tons of research and data. And in case the studies she cites aren't enough, she actually invented a smart headband called Muse that monitors brain activity and gives you biofeedback to help you calm your busy mind, sleep better and measure the real benefits of a meditation practice! How cool is that?! This episode will give you the scoop on all the science behind fear, how our brains get wired for anxiety, how the brain contributes to sleep and the power to choose thoughts that heal our brain instead of hurting it. Listen to discover: What meditation is and what it does for the brain How to get started with a meditation practice The benefits of meditation (with data to prove it) The amygdala, the fight or flight response and how it connects to meditation What happens to the brain during sleep + the two mechanisms that govern sleep The 5 essentials of a good night's sleep The neuroscience of anxiety I absolutely love when science helps back up and explain ancient wisdom, and there's no arguing with the info Ariel shares. We NEED to be meditating as humans! If you don't currently meditate, start small (even 5 or 10 minutes a day has major brain-boosting benefits) and consider using tools like Muse to help you build a habit. I promise you won't regret it! "Meditation is not a weird or woo woo thing. Meditation is a practice or a training that leads to healthy and positive mind states." - Ariel Garten "Meditation is a practice. It's not something we can ever master." - Michelle Chalfant "Meditation is about learning to observe your thinking and then be able to make a different choice." - Ariel Garten "Our amygdala is really there to save us from the bad things in the world, but it goes way overboard." - Ariel Garten "Just eight weeks of meditation led to actual change in the brain." - Ariel Garten "The trick with anxiety is just to realize it's just a broken alarm." - Ariel Garten "In meditation, you have the thoughts that come. You rise up above them. You notice that you're having thoughts and you don't get sucked in." - Ariel Garten "We forget how powerful we are, that we can actually choose our thoughts." - Michelle Chalfant "We fall victim to our thoughts all the time." - Michelle Chalfant "One of the things that may be happening in somebody who has a hyper-reactive emotional state is that they've spent a long time engaging with that emotional state." - Ariel Garten "The thoughts in your mind and the emotions in your body don't need to trap you into yourself and into a small way of living your life." - Ariel Garten LINKS & RESOURCES Muse https://choosemuse.com/ Use code POD10 for 10% off Muse Social Media @choosemuse Ariel Garten Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ariels_musings Untangle (Ariel Garten podcast) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/untangle/id1073460738 The Adult Chair Workshop Nashville: November 3-5, 2022 https://theadultchair.com/nashville MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

We were all created with a purpose, but so many of us feel disconnected from who we are and why we're here. We get bogged down by everyday life, social pressure and the need to make money, and we get stuck in survival mode. Many of us don't even know what our passion is! But you were made for more! You were made to live a life of joy and passion that lights you up inside…and it's never too late to find that. In this show, I'm giving you five hands-on steps to uncover your passion and purpose in life. This episode will take you on an exciting journey of self-discovery that will reconnect you back to yourself in a profound way and discover why your beautiful soul is here on this planet. So, grab a pen and paper and follow along with me, or listen for the tips and do the exercises at a later date. But I promise, if you go through this process, you WILL discover more about what your purpose is…and how to start taking action towards it! Listen to discover: 5 hands-on steps for finding your passion and purpose 3 lists you can make to uncover your passion today Affirmations for finding your passion and purpose How to keep fear and inaction from getting in the way Our purpose in life isn't rigid. It might be more than one thing. It might change over the years. The way we live it out might evolve. This is why it's so important that we learn how to tune into our intuition and take the next step on the illuminated path in each season of life. When we let go of exactly what it should look like and instead embrace the exciting journey of life, we will be able to respond to the nudges we get from our soul and experience the joy of living in the flow…our unique path, designed around our gifts, passions and purpose. "Hopefully, your purpose lights you up and you feel passionate about it." - Michelle Chalfant "The body knows why we're here." - Michelle Chalfant "Use your heart and your body as a navigation system that will lead you down a path to help you to find your passion and purpose." - Michelle Chalfant "Every soul on the planet has gifts." - Michelle Chalfant "What you hear, you have to take action on." - Michelle Chalfant "That soul, it's connected to something way bigger than us. It's got a vision for our whole life." - Michelle Chalfant "You are wise beyond your knowledge." - Michelle Chalfant "Life is happening through you all the time." - Michelle Chalfant "Feel your fear and do it anyway." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES Certified Adult Chair® Coaches https://theadultchair.com/coaches/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification - Join the Waitlist! https://theadultchair.com/certification MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Grief, anger, sadness, fear…YUCK! I don't know anyone who likes to feel these emotions. I get emails from you guys all the time asking how to get rid of "negative" emotions like these. But are these emotions really negative? Or do they serve a purpose in our lives? While some emotions might feel more unpleasant than others, I personally don't believe any emotion is negative. All emotions are part of the human experience and carry information for us. However, they can create negative experiences in life when we get stuck in them. The problem isn't the emotions; it's that we don't know what to do with them! In this show, I'm teaching you how to work through the full range of emotions you were designed to experience as a human and how to get unstuck if you find yourself lost in anger, grief or fear. You'll discover practical steps for feeling your emotions in a way that allows them to move through you, no matter how you saw emotions modeled growing up. Listen to discover: Why "negative" emotions serve a purpose in life The messages we receive about emotions as children What causes emotions to get stuck Practical steps to feel emotions and move them through you Emotions are simply energy that moves through our body and creates sensation. And on the spectrum of emotions from love to fear, some feel better than others…but because they are energy, they can ALL move through us (and move through us quickly). Problems arise when emotions come up that we don't want to feel. We avoid them and shut them down, which makes us more likely to get stuck in these "negative" experiences. That's why we have to start going INTO our emotions, no matter how uncomfortable it might feel. When you do this, you'll be surprised how quickly they move through you...and what powerful insights they might hold for you. ​​"We're human, and humans were created to have emotions. We were created to have a range of emotions." - Michelle Chalfant "There's an energy to emotions that rises up and passes through us." - Michelle Chalfant "I don't even like to call emotions on the fear end of the spectrum 'negative.'" - Michelle Chalfant "Anger propels us forward." - Michelle Chalfant "Energy is always in motion, and emotions are energy." - Michelle Chalfant "Something that keeps emotions stuck is a story." - Michelle Chalfant "Just let it go and be present with whatever is coming up." - Michelle Chalfant "When you put pen to paper, you're tapping into your unconscious world." - Michelle Chalfant "There's power when someone is witnessing what's going on in our inner world." - Michelle Chalfant "If you feel the energy of peace, it's neutral." - Michelle Chalfant LINKS & RESOURCES The Adult Chair Workshop Nashville: November 3-5, 2022 https://theadultchair.com/nashville MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

If there's one thing that most cases of narcissistic abuse have in common, it's that the narcissist has an incredible ability to blindside their victims. Nearly every story starts out with someone meeting a wonderful, charming person until suddenly their dark side comes out. Sometimes the abuse can be so subtle that the victim doesn't notice it's happening until it's broken them down. The gaslighting can be so intense that even the strongest person can wonder if they're the crazy one and if it's all their fault. Narcissism is so, so sinister. This was what happened to Melanie Tonia Evans after she married what seemed like a wonderful man, before she even knew what a narcissist was. His abuse eventually pushed her into a breakdown that became a moment of healing, as it revealed to her the unhealed places in herself. Today, she has developed her own energy healing method to heal trauma at the soul level – beyond the conscious mind – and help others recover from narcissistic abuse. In the episode, Melanie talks about the keys to recognizing and healing from narcissistic abuse, how her experience with narcissism led her to healing her own self-worth and inner child and how she eventually learned to love who she really was and become whole. Listen to discover: The dynamics of a narcissistic relationship How Melanie discovered the unhealed places in herself that attracted her to a narcissistic partner Why it's so hard to leave a narcissist How to heal from narcissistic abuse in your inner world Next steps when leaving a relationship with a narcissist The difference between a survivor and thriver The #1 mistake people make when trying to recover from narcissistic abuse I'm so thankful that narcissism is more widely talked about. While the narcissist is cunning, with the tools to recognize narcissism and become our emotionally healthy true selves, I hope more and more of us can see through the narcissist's careful image and stop being blindsided by abuse. "What really scared me the most was how I started tolerating behaviors I never thought in my wildest dreams that I would be tolerating." - Melanie Tonia Evans "One of the biggest realizations I had in that epiphany moment was that he was treating me identically to how I'd been treating myself." - Melanie Tonia Evans "I had plenty of understanding from the chin up, but I wasn't standing in who I was." - Melanie Tonia Evans "When the person leaves, the narcissist does go after the person that leaves, and it's not pretty." - Michelle Chalfant "There's got to be a sense of the inner strength and empowerment in order to leave." - Michelle Chalfant "The narcissist is a black and white individual." - Melanie Tonia Evans "You're either serving the false self, where you're amazing. And if you want to get away or you're not, well then you are absolute trash." - Melanie Tonia Evans "The victim often looks like the perpetrator." - Melanie Tonia Evans "We actually thrive, not despite what happened to us, but literally because of what happened for us." - Melanie Tonia Evans LINKS & RESOURCES Melanie Tonia Evans Website https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/ Melanie Tonia Evans Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program https://courses.melanietoniaevans.com/p/narp Melanie Tonia Evans Masterclass https://www.recoverhealthrive.com/ The Adult Chair Workshop Nashville: November 3-5, 2022 https://theadultchair.com/nashville MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Anne Moss Rogers will never forget the day she got the news that no parent wants to hear: her son had died. And then a second piece of news came like a punch to the gut: he had died by suicide. Anne Moss and her husband knew he had been struggling with alcohol and drugs, but they didn't realize he had been using substances to mask thoughts of suicide. On top of their loss and grief, they were forced to wrestle with the questions that often come in the wake of suicide: Did they miss the signs? Was there more they could have done? How could such a wonderful person like their son feel so hopeless? In this episode, Anne Moss shares her powerful story of surviving and healing after her son's death, how she overcame the questions and guilt that come when someone close dies by suicide and her work as a mental health and suicide prevention speaker, reaching others who are hurting and educating people on the signs of suicide. Anne Moss uses her expertise to pull back the curtain on a tough topic that we often want to sweep under the rug and gives practical advice on how to talk about suicide, how to help someone who might be contemplating suicide and how to process grief following a suicide. Listen to discover: Anne Moss's story and how she has processed the grief of her son's death How Anne Moss overcame the guilt and questions surrounding her son's death The increasing rates of suicide among young people and what might be driving it The signs that someone might be contemplating suicide What to say and what not to say to someone contemplating suicide Correct language for describing suicide Tips for parents concerned about their children Suicide is becoming a rising cause of death, especially among young people, and while it's a tough topic to talk about, it's one that is too important to ignore. In fact, 86% of people who think about suicide let their intentions be known in some way. Anne Moss's advice in this episode helps us know how to approach this topic with empathy and boldness and how to walk alongside a child or friend who might be struggling. If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide, please call or text 988 or visit https://988lifeline.org/ to talk to someone who will offer you support and understanding with zero judgment. You don't have to walk through this alone. "Our love isn't what prevents suicides." - Anne Moss Rogers "They don't leave because they don't love you...they leave because they are in pain or a place of deep despair." - Anne Moss Rogers "It is really hard for a lot of humans to walk in and sit with someone in their tragedy." - Anne Moss Rogers "Time removed [grief's] fangs." - Anne Moss Rogers "You cannot push pain away. You have to go straight into it to heal it." - Michelle Chalfant "I'd rather somebody be mad at me than dead." - Anne Moss Rogers "Your job is to listen with empathy...allowing another person to feel heard is the absolute greatest gift you can give to another human." - Anne Moss Rogers "86% of those who thought about suicide let their intentions be known in some way." - Anne Moss Rogers LINKS & RESOURCES Anne Moss Rogers Blog www.emotionallynaked.com Anne Moss Rogers Website https://annemossrogers.com/ "Diary of a Broken Mind" (Anne Moss Rogers book) https://www.amazon.com/DIARY-BROKEN-MIND-Mothers-Haunting/dp/0998788163 Suicide Prevention Lifeline Call or text 988 https://988lifeline.org/ The Adult Chair Workshop Nashville: November 3-5, 2022 https://theadultchair.com/nashville MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

As humans, we tell ourselves stories all the time, every day. As we go through life, we try to make sense of our circumstances by making assumptions, filling in blanks and telling ourselves stories about why things are the way they are. The problem? 97% of the time, these stories aren't true! These untrue stories and assumptions that we believe create SO much unnecessary stress, anxiety and pain…they can even destroy our relationships. In this show, I chat with my good friend and fellow life coach, Claudine Sweeney, about the time that stories and assumptions almost ended our 15-year friendship. This hilarious story is an incredible example of how easily we can all fall into story and the domino effect assumptions have on our lives and our relationships. It's only because we chose to be truth seekers that we were able to clear up the misunderstanding and save our friendship! In this show, we're sharing practical tips for how you can bust stories and live as a truth seeker…and save yourself a whole lot of stress, pain and drama in the process! Listen to discover: The (now) hilarious story of how Claudine and I almost lost our friendship ALL because of assumptions Why our brains so easily create stories How our past experiences can feed our stories and assumptions Steps to bust stories and unwind assumptions How to change your life by choosing better, more conscious thoughts The power of giving others the benefit of the doubt and seeking a higher perspective Stories and assumptions are a vicious cycle because once we have a story in our mind, our ego collects all the evidence to validate that story. We suddenly only see things that reinforce our beliefs. It takes courage to slow down, question our thoughts and ask others for clarity, facts and truth…but it's what we do from our Adult Chair! We don't just make assumptions about our own lives; we make assumptions about others around us all the time. We assume we know what type of person someone is and what type of experience they've had in life because of where they live or what they look like or stereotypes and prejudices we hold. How often do assumptions lead to anger, division and even hate? By being curious, giving people the benefit of the doubt and leading with love, we not only change our lives and our relationships, but we might even change the world. "Stories and assumptions are things that plague every aspect of our lives." - Michelle Chalfant "And all of the sudden that lack of invitation becomes this whole story and there's so many assumptions and it can really destroy relationships." - Claudine Sweeney "We collect data to reinforce the story…The eyes and the brain will sort for anything to reinforce what my belief is." - Michelle Chalfant "What we do as healthy adults is we learn to bust those stories." - Michelle Chalfant "Our pasts come into play here." - Claudine Sweeney "Blame is all from the ego." - Michelle Chalfant "[We] believe our feelings are fact and truth." - Claudine Sweeney "97% of the time that we're in stories and assumptions, they're incorrect." - Michelle Chalfant "If someone comes at us and treats us in an unkind way, we have to consider the circumstance." - Michelle Chalfant "I challenge and encourage my clients to get curious, not critical." - Claudine Sweeney "We fall victim to our negative, unconscious thoughts." - Michelle Chalfant "When I learned that my thoughts generated my emotions…it was mind-blowing and absolutely changed my life." - Claudine Sweeney LINKS & RESOURCES Claudine Sweeney Website https://claudinesweeney.com/ Share Your Love: Review The Adult Chair® Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-adult-chair/id941317634?mt=2&ign-mpt=uo%3D4 MORE ADULT CHAIR The Adult Chair® Website https://theadultchair.com The Adult Chair® Membership https://theadultchair.com/membership/ The Adult Chair® Events https://theadultchair.com/events/ The Adult Chair® Coaching Certification https://theadultchair.com/certification STAY CONNECTED Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant