Sexology

Welcome to episode 266 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Fredrick Zal to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the similarities between the kink and punk rock scenes, how you can explore kink to know if you prefer being a submissive or dominant and ways you can step out of your comfort zone to explore kink.    Fredrick’s sexuality education work has focused upon erotically marginalized communities, partnerships, and individuals since 2006 by "Teaching the Art within Sexual Acts" in private lessons, semi-public and private events, and workshops in Oregon, Washington, California, British Columbia, and via Zoom worldwide.      They teach mindfulness, ritual, communication, consent, sexual attitudes reassessment, tantra, kink, and other embodied erotic pathways with an ever broadening understanding of power differentials, socio-political impacts over the centuries, and ways to truly dismantle what they feel in their blood and bones to be a corrupt and flawed acculturalized system.      When not teaching or doing sexuality research; Fredrick endeavors to focus life around what they love, which is the arts, getting outside for adventures, sharing quality time and food with friends, practicing 茶道 (Chado, Japanese Tea Ritual), and movement such as yoga and dance.      In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at the similarities between the kink and punk rock scenes  Understanding that it’s normal to have interest in kink   How kink is centered around a heart and mind connection  Ways in which we can cultivate our emotions to fully embody kink  Looking at the differences between tops and bottoms  How you can explore kink to know if you prefer being a submissive or dominant Understanding the powerplay dynamics and their relationship to kink Looking at ways you can step out of your comfort zone to explore kink  The importance of after care and clear communication     Valentine's Day  If you would like to shake things up this Valentine’s Day by creating a perfect Sex-cessful date, sign up for my upcoming 2-hour workshop: https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/optin1640020968176     Thank you to our sponsor Cozy Earth!  https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Grab 40% off all products using promo code: SEXOLOGY    Find Fredrick Zal Online  http://www.tantrickink.com     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 265 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Darshana Avila to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss why is good kissing important for sex, understanding porn is not sex education, and how you can be more thoughtful in your communication.    Darshana Avila is nurturing a culture of Erotic Wholeness. As an internationally recognized speaker, coach and facilitator, Darshana supports women and couples in exploring and reshaping their relationships to intimacy, sex and eroticism. She created the Map of Erotic Wholeness as a path to personal liberation in service to our collective sexual liberation.      Darshana believes “we are erotic by nature,” and is dedicated to helping people feel truly at home in their bodies, at ease with their sexuality and in alignment with their hearts. Her unique style of somatic sex and intimacy coaching weaves together a trauma-informed, nature-based, justice-oriented approach, inviting more presence, pleasure and passion into the lives and relationships of those she guides.      In this episode, you will hear:     How Darshana became interested in this line of work   Understanding that trauma gets healed in the community   Ways in which you can learn to open up your sexual self   Understanding porn is not sex education   Why is good kissing important for sex?  How to communicate to your partner the types of kissing you like   The importance of build-up and foreplay for great sex   Recommendations for whole body experience to build u to great sex  Looking at the different types of kissing and styles   How you can be more thoughtful in your communication   The best ways you can explore touch     Thank you to our sponsor Cozy Earth!  https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Grab 40% off all products using promo code: SEXOLOGY    Find Darshana Avila Online  http://darshanaavila.com     9 Foreplay Ideas  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558    Follow Us On Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 264 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back Dr. Alison Ash to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how you can give a killer blowjob, incorporating play into great oral sex, and understanding that you can still get an STI just through oral sex.  Dr. Alison Ash is at trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences.   She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.    In this episode, you will hear:   How you can give a killer blowjob  The importance of your appreciating your lover and communicating that to them  Incorporating play into great oral sex  How to overcome things like gag reflex when giving a blowjob  When is the best time to also use your hands when giving a blowjob? How you can also stimulate testicles when giving a blowjob  The importance of being sensitive when stimulating testicles  Overcoming the issue of not liking the taste of semen  Is it possible to change the taste of semen? Understanding that you can still get an STI just through oral sex    Thank you to our sponsor Cozy Earth! https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY  Grab 40% off all products using promo code: SEXOLOGY  Find Dr. Alison Ash Online https://www.TurnON.love   Dr. Alisons Class  https://www.TurnON.love/intimacy-skills Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills: A 2-month experiential course  Jan 11 - March 8th 2022  9 Foreplay Ideas https://exciting-builder-8729.ck.page/2690c062c9 Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dr. Alison Ash, a trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and Stanford lecturer, shares her expertise on cunnilingus. She discusses essential do’s and don’ts, focusing on communication and comfort for both partners. Techniques like 'writing the alphabet with your tongue' and the best positions for oral pleasure are explored. Dr. Ash also dismantles myths around body scents, emphasizing the importance of embracing naturalness. This enlightening conversation offers valuable insights for enhancing intimacy and sexual satisfaction.

Welcome to episode 262 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I answer questions from our listeners. In this episode, we touch upon subjects such as tackling anxiety-based issues such as not feeling big enough for your partner, misconceptions about the importance of penis size and what to do if your partner wants to join OnlyFans.      In this episode, you will hear:     Knowing when the right time is to touch your partners clit   Tackling anxiety-based issues such as not feeling big enough for your partner   Overcoming performance anxiety   Looking at spontaneous and responsive desire   What to do if your partner wants to join OnlyFans   Understanding the motivations behind wanting to start an OnlyFans page   The importance of starting slow if your partner does start an OnlyFans page   How you can build up your sexual confidence  Misconceptions about the importance of penis size   Understanding your relationship with your body   Ways in which you can overcome sexual shame    Find Sexology Podcast Online  https://sexologypodcast.com     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 261 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Krista St-Germain to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Krista became interested in becoming a life coach for widows through the tragic passing of her husband, the myths and misconceptions around grief, and ways you can invite pleasure after grief, inside and outside the bedroom.    Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista’s life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her unfurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about — now she coaches and teaches other widows so they too, can love life again.      In this episode, you will hear:     How Krista became interested in this work through the tragic passing of her husband   What is grief and how is it defined?   The myths and misconceptions around grief   Understanding that grief is not uniform and different for each person   How people can begin again to lean into pleasure while experiencing grief   The ways in which grief can impact people’s sexual health   Resources and places you can go if you want to seek out pleasure after grief   Looking at the term “Widhoe” and Krista’s thoughts on it   Other ways you can invite pleasure after grief, inside and outside the bedroom   Recommendations for dating in today’s digital world of apps   Learning to be honest and open with people when dating and not be afraid to even talk about things like STI’s         Find Krista St-Germain Online  https://www.coachingwithkrista.com     Sex Quiz for Women   https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 260 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Holly Richmond to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Dr. Holly's new book “Reclaiming Pleasure”, looking at ways to combat shame and guilt and how sexual trauma mis-informs our sexuality.      Dr. Holly is one of North America’s leading sex therapists, serving women, men, couples and gender-diverse individuals for relationship and sexuality issues. She counsels a broad range of clients including Hollywood’s elite and prominent corporate clientele and offers consultation services with psychotherapy interns and other therapists.     Dr. Holly works from a sex positive approach, meaning: “all sex is good sex as long as it’s consensual and pleasurable.” She is committed to helping her clients feel better—mind and body—not just behave differently.     Her therapeutic relationships are built on strong rapport, trust, non-judgment and acceptance, though she is directive and results oriented, not simply supportive. Her objective is to help clients meet their goals and move through the therapy process as quickly as possible.     Dr. Holly’s forthcoming book, Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life (New Harbinger, Oct. 2021) is a groundbreaking examination of both somatic and psychological factors in survivor’s’ recovery.      In this episode, you will hear:     Why Dr. Holly decided to write her book “Reclaiming Pleasure”   Looking at ways to connect people easier   Analyzing the issue of trauma re-enactment   Understanding the difference between trauma re-enactment and a healthy sex life   Looking at ways to combat shame and guilt   How many people struggle with performance anxiety   Understanding the fight, flight, freeze and fawn responses and their relationship to trauma   How we can learn to reconnect with ourselves   Looking at exercise couples can take part in together   Learning to schedule sex with your partner for a better sex life  How sexual trauma mis-informs our sexuality     Find Dr. Holly Online  https://drhollyrichmond.com     Sex Quiz for Women   https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 259 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Jamila M. Dawson, LMFT and August McLaughlin to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss triggers and how are they defined, looking at the relationship between sex and trauma and understanding the importance of practicing self-compassion.   Jamila M. Dawson, LMFT is the co-author of the innovative book: With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships. A licensed therapist with an expertise in sexuality, trauma, and relationships, Jamila has been a sex educator since 2005 and has practiced psychotherapy since 2015. She is the founder and owner of the psychotherapy practice Fire & Flow Therapy. She has collaborated with Buzzfeed, MEL, Playboy, Harper’s BAZAAR and other media outlets and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including Girlboner and Sex with Dr. Jess. Jamila uses her Instagram & Facebook accounts to share practices, tools, and reflections on sexuality, relationships, and mental health. She divides her time between Las Vegas and Los Angeles.   August McLaughlin is a nationally recognized journalist and host and producer of the podcast, Girl Boner Radio, a true story-driven podcast where she explores sexual empowerment, relationships and pleasure. Her articles have been featured by Cosmopolitan, the Washington Post, Salon and more. Her 2018 release, Girl Boner, was featured in the New York Times and called “equally fun, risqué, and informative” by Publishers Weekly. She has presented at colleges, recovery centers, and the CDC headquarters, attended the 2016 United State of Women summit as a nominated changemaker and gave a TEDx talk on her experience overcoming an eating disorder she was diagnosed with while working abroad in the fashion industry.   In this episode, you will hear:   What are triggers and how are they defined? How Jamila and August and became interested in this line of work Looking at the relationship between sex and trauma Understanding that issues around trauma are common Looking at how fight, flight and fawning works with trauma What is fawning and how is it related to trauma? The importance of practicing self-compassion Analyzing pleasure traps Understanding that you deserve to have pleasure Finding peace in alternative sexual behaviors Find Jamila M. Dawson Online https://jamiladawson.com   Find August McLaughlin Online https://augustmclaughlin.com   Sex Quiz for Women https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 258 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Robyn Goldberg to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the relationship between food and sexuality, looking at food addiction and the issues it can cause and why Robyn decided to write her new book, The Eating Disorder Trap.    Robyn Goldberg is a registered dietitian nutritionist, certified eating disorder registered dietitian supervisor, certified intuitive eating counselor and a Health at Every Size® (HAES) clinician. Robyn has spent years learning from some of the best in the industry and continues to seek professional mentoring, attends innovative conferences and stays abreast with the most current literature.     Robyn began her career at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles as the in-patient dietitian in the Department of Cardiology. For the last 23 years, Robyn Goldberg has had a private practice in Beverly Hills, CA, where she specializes in medical conditions, eating disorders, disordered eating, dual diagnosis, pre-pregnancy nutrition and women seeking fertility treatment.     Robyn consistently educates professionals, students, and RDNs about how to best incorporate intuitive eating and Health at Every Size® approaches into their work and lives. She teaches nutrition classes on a wide array of topics for the Motion Picture Industry’s Wellness Program.     Actively involved in the nutrition and body positive community, Robyn is also a member of organizations including: Association of Size Diversity and Health (ASDAH), Academy of Eating Disorders (AED), International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals (iaedp) and the International Federation of Eating Disorder Dietitians (IFEDD). She also serves as a Nutrition Consultant for the Celiac Disease Foundation. Robyn also leads several body image and eating disorder groups in sober living settings in the Los Angeles Area.     Robyn is a nationally renowned contributing author registered dietitian nutritionist. She has been quoted as an expert in various publications including The New York Times, The Huffington Post, Diabetes Forecast, Shape Magazine, Fitness, Oxygen, Life & Style, Natural Solutions, Beverly Hills Weekly and Today’s Dietitian. In addition, Robyn has also served as an eating disorder specialist on the nationally televised show “The Insider” and an expert on The Associated Press (AP).     In this episode, you will hear:     How is our relationship between food and sexuality related?   Why it’s important to look at the relationship between food and sexuality  How our hormones can change if we restrict them for a long time   Looking at food addiction and the issues it can cause   Who is at risk of developing an eating disorder?   What to do if you don’t like your body   Connecting with your partner on this issue to improve your sex life  Looking at how Robyn works with people to feel better within their own bodies   How dieting can have a negative impact on eating disorders   Why Robyn decided to write her book, The Eating Disorder Trap       Find Robyn Goldberg Online  https://theeatingdisordertrap.com     Sex Quiz for Women   https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 257 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Lucie Fielding, MA (she/they) to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Lucie's new book: Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments, looking at erotic privilege and genital curiosity and how we can cultivate erotic embodiment.    Lucie Fielding, MA (she/they) is a white, queer, non-binary femme, and a Resident in Counseling, practicing in Charlottesville, VA. She received her Master’s in Counseling Psychology at Pacifica Graduate Institute (2018). Lucie also holds a PhD in French from Northwestern University (2008), where she specialized in eighteenth-century literature, histories of sexualities, and erotic literature.     Her background in literature and history attunes her to the many ways that image, metaphor, and cultural scripts shape and inform the narratives we carry with us as we move through the world as well as how these narratives inscribe themselves on our bodies. She is the author of Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments (Routledge, May 2021).      In this episode, you will hear:     How Lucie became inspired to write: Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments  Looking at the politics of desirability   The benefits of trans for trans dating   How biases that exist in society effect who we see as desirable   Looking at erotic privilege and genital curiosity   How we can cultivate erotic embodiment   Overcoming the unrealistic expectation that trans people should disclose upfront  How the frameworks in Lucie’s book can also apply to cis people        Find Lucie Fielding Online  https://luciefielding.com     Sex Quiz for Women   https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy