Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

Trying to parent without being resourced is impossible. We all need and deserve a place to have our feelings. Someone to listen can help us move through difficult moments and unravel childhood unmet needs and just come to our parenting more centered because we have a place to be heard too! A Listening Partner is this person! Someone who supports you weekly in your parenting challenges. This Parenting Tool from Hand in Hand Parenting is life changing. If you want to know more about this tool. Use this link to get the Listening Partnerships Booklet and a clear explanation on how to get one started. https://www.handinhandparenting.org/partner/Peaceandparenting/  Since I am a partner of Hand in Hand a portion of the sale of the LP Booklet goes to support this little podcast. You can also join our Private Facebook Group to search for a partner. https://www.facebook.com/groups/peaceandparenting  Kelly lives in South Africa with her twin boys. Her background is in Montessori Teaching and now has become a HIH Instructor.  She will share with us the significance of listening partnerships and how this transformative tool can bring healing to our relationships and parenting journey!   Episode Highlights: Kelly’s pregnancy experience with her twin boys The reality of giving birth What it feels like to have and raise twin babies What is a Listening Partnership? The powerful impact of Listening Partnerships. Unpacking your emotional backpacks How do we re-parent ourselves?   Have you ever thought that tantrums are actually connective? Did you know big messy feelings are healing and the idea of being an empathic listener is what makes this all happen for our children? My online video course Understanding Big Emotions...without using punishments or otherwise losing your mind teaches us how to be the emotional coach for our children, helping them learn authentic and lasting self regulation while also instilling self regulation. For the next 24 hours you can purchase this course for an introductory price of $47. When it launches, it will be $67. I will be holding a live Q+A and forming a Private Facebook group just for the members of this class. I hope you will take advantage of this offer and look forward to seeing you in the live Q+A!   Click the link below to purchase this life changing course: https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/offers/NHT5pxLR/checkout   About Our Guest: Kelly van Rooyen is a certified Hand in Hand Parenting instructor, passionate about bringing the listening tools to families looking to build a deep connection and parent from the heart. Instagram @consciousconfidentparenting Facebook @consciousconfidentparenting   --- Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Twitter @peace_parenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

“When we bring kids into this world, our hope is that in the future, there will be a more peaceful world for them.” Good behaviour from our children begins with us, their parents.  In this episode, Kiersten, a dear member of our community joins me to talk about how her journey’s been like as a mom, the joyful and the hard parts, as well as how she is growing as a mother and how peaceful parenting helped her nurture her relationship with her kids! When we are met with defiance, we can’t help but lose our cool sometimes especially when there are many things going around at the same time. Keep listening to today’s episode to find out how you can connect with your kids on a deeper level and learn how to move away  from punishing and controlling and lean into calm and peace.    Episode Highlights: How Kiersten’s journey with peaceful parenting began Peace begins with us, parents Stop trying to control your kids Let your kids grow and experience life The hardest part of peaceful parenting for Kiersten Mistakes are inevitable, remember to be gentle with yourself too   Enjoy today’s episode? Please share this episode with a friend.   Want to support the Peace and Parenting Podcast by purchasing products through Hand in Hand parenting? Use my affiliate link https://bit.ly/3iUcGqg I highly recommend the: Listening to Children Booklet Set as an essential part of learning Connective Parenting.    We make plans for many things in life, but what about making a plan to connect each day with our children? Connection is the cornerstone to Peace and Parenting. Making plans each day to weave connection into your everyday life is essential to ensure we are making it our focus. In this FREE plan, I give you the things I do each day to keep connection top of mind and give you some ideas for your own well thought out plan. Download the free plan HERE https://bit.ly/39qmkxP    Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Twitter @peace_parenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts   Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

At some point in your child’s life, they will experience things which may cause overwhelm, and we won't be able to prevent them from feeling these tough emotions. However, we can be the safe place for them to be when things are tough.  Having deep empathy for our children and allowing them to fully emote helps those feelings pass, be processed so our child can move forward and be the cooperative kind kid they are meant to be. Mindfulness Jars, Cool Down Corners and Breathing Techniques may "get" kids to calm down, but at what expense? Where have the feelings gone and what will then glean from our expectation of calm? Listen in as Michelle explains just this.   Episode Highlights: What are the pitfalls of mindfulness jars and cool-down corners and breathing techniques? What can you do when things are difficult for your child? Being empathic shows unconditional love. What is co-regulation and how can we model it? Telling our child they need to calm down might be giving them the wrong message. Having empathy and holding space for your kids to release their feelings is the key to expelling upsets they may be stuck   Check out the Empathy Podcast (https://apple.co/39VgyU1) and learn why our kids need us most when they appear to be at their worst.  Download the FREE guide - HOW TO HAVE EMPATHY How do you come alongside your child when they are upset? What do you say and how can you be supportive when emotions are running high? Find out what to say and the best ways to come with empathy in this free downloadable guide HOW TO HAVE EMPATHY: What to say and do when your child is really upset (https://bit.ly/2KAqglQ) Enjoy today’s episode? Please share this episode with a friend and subscribe to the show to get notified on the latest episodes. Support this podcast and also find useful parenting material from Hand in Hand Parenting. Want the Booklets Michelle discusses in the show? Click Here (handinhandparenting.org/partner/peaceandparenting) Are you a coach, or online course creator? Have an email list you communicate with often? Do you have a website? Kajabi can be your home for all of these and so much more Click here (https://app.kajabi.com/r/UePe9pqc/t/pvvnvmcl) and explore all Kajabi has to offer while supporting the Peace and Parenting Podcast with no extra cost to you.    Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Twitter @peace_parenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts   Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

There are tons of ways to cope with the inevitable challenges brought about by motherhood, and it doesn't always have to be something that involves alcohol. When you have a very demanding job and very demanding kids plus a husband you need to take care of, it can get very overwhelming. You're tired and sometimes, you just turn to drink alcohol to help ease your burden a little bit. Wine is a good way to treat yourself for a job well done but turning to alcohol to deal with your kids and responsibilities at home ain't funny. You want to raise your kids the best way possible but you're unsure of how to do it with everything that you got on your plate. What should you do?  In this episode, I'm joined by Jennifer Gardner, a lovely member of our community and a mother of two. Jennifer's going to share how the method of parenting that she discovered changed the way in which she approaches motherhood, parenting, and ultimately helped her become a better version of herself! This conversation with Jennifer will remind you of why you wanted to be a parent and the joy of being one as she talks about her healing journey, and that there is another way to parent, one that helps you connect with your child!   Episode Highlights: How conscious parenting has helped Jennifer in her motherhood journey Self-care and Jennifer's healing process Transparency and teaching your kids that it's okay to not be perfect Vulnerability and modeling How to really be there for your child without hindering their growth 2 impactful things that Jennifer's learned through conscious parenting Getting curious   Enjoy today’s episode? Please share this episode with a friend. Want to support the Peace and Parenting Podcast by purchasing products through Hand in Hand parenting? Use my affiliate link.  I highly recommend the: Listening to Children Booklet Set as an essential part of learning Connective Parenting.  As a parent, how do you react when your patience has come to a breaking point?   Yelling and threatening are common reflexive responses, but there is a way more effective path to dealing with your reactions.   Healing Ourselves Through Journaling is not another handy parenting tool. It's a powerful in-depth experience.   In 6 insightful steps, you'll find out how to take responsibility for your reactions and feel proud of yourself and your child.   Click HERE to join our community and claim your free copy today. You can find Jennifer at: thejennifergardner.com or on IG @thejennifergardner   Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Resistance is just something that comes with parenting, be it telling our kids to turn off their phones or brush their teeth. But-- that doesn’t always have to be the case. We as parents can make the conscious choice to prioritise our personal relationships, using them to teach our kids what has to be done for themselves, effectively building up their own independence and self-control. In today's episode, I have Kelty and Hannah from Upbringing, here to discuss a new approach to connecting with our kids, so we can raise young adults that have a stronger sense of self and a more stable approach to life. They believe that by choosing to connect with our kids instead of controlling them, it can result in a relationship that positively reinforces self-discipline and accomplishing tasks for themselves-- instead of them simply following our words.   Episode Highlights: Who They Are The parenting dynamics of old Why the old dynamics need to change What you can do instead of power-parenting Focus on building relationships with your kids How to approach your kids to get a better response Kids and their safe spaces   About our Guests:   Hannah and Kelty currently run Upbringing-- an inclusive community that promotes the elevation of growth and connection. Through their beliefs in parenting, they work to redefine how we raise our kids while avoiding the conventional beliefs of old. Holding a Bachelor of Arts Degree from Stanford, the two have grown to become certified Parent Educators through the Positive Discipline Association, Family Life Coaches, and completed programs that focus on mindfulness-based stress reduction.   To take advantage of the Upbringing free Listening guide click here and enter code PEACE.   Connect with Hannah and Kelty from Upbringing: UPBRINGING | Podcast, Speaking, Coaching with Hannah + Kelty Upbringing ⋓ Hannah + Kelty (@upbringing.co) | Instagram Upbringing | YouTube Upbringing | Pinterest   Enjoy today’s episode? Please share this episode with a friend.   As a parent, how do you react when your patience has come to a breaking point? Yelling and threatening are common reflexive responses, but there is a way more effective path to dealing with your reactions. Healing Ourselves Through Journaling is not another handy parenting tool. It's a powerful in-depth experience. In 6 insightful steps, you'll find out how to take responsibility for your reactions and feel proud of yourself and your child. Click HERE to join our community and claim your free copy today. Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome Dr. Vanessa La Pointe! If you don't know who she is you must get to know her and her work. She has several books on parenting which have personally given me so much insight. She is a therapist who works with families and parents to help them come to parenting with more connection and less conventional wisdom. Please listen in as she and Michelle talk about how punishments just don't work.  Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We're discussing manipulation and if our kids truly manipulate us? Take some time to journal on it using Michelle's journaling guide and join the discussion on our private Facebook Community Group. Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Maisara joins us to talk about finding peace for her family and herself. Check out her blog at Deen Soul for more from her.  Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

We are breaking down a parenting question about one mom's daughter and her social situations. We'll be talking about why intervening isn't always the best option and how to manage our children's feelings when tough social moments arise.  Don't forget to rate, review, subscribe, join our Facebook Community Group and check out our Patreon!  Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Join us for our second episode in our success story series.  Shauna joins us to talk all about how she discovered she needed to make a shift in her parenting approach!  Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy