Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

Beginning to speak to your children about all things adolescence  begins much younger than you might imagine. Many children enter puberty as early as 8. There doesn't necessarily need to be a formal "talk" but rather many conversations which build over time.  My guest for this episode is Dr. Dolly, a family medicine physician, who now helps parents and children broach all the uncomfortable discussions that might leave us wondering just what to say and when.  Episode Highlights:   Initial reactions and stigmas around The Talk Top tips for puberty The importance of teaching consent The topics of sexuality The impact of pornography, what we can do to protect them   Connect with Dr. Dolly Klock: Website | Adolessons | Dolly Klock, MD Instagram | Dolly Klock, MD | @adolessonsla   How can we “shame proof” our parenting? There are ways we can eradicate shame from our everyday interactions with our children. Building in ways to address our children can promote resilience and self-esteem rather than jeopardizing these precious commodities for our children. Nobody wants to shame, but sometimes we need a little help figuring out what else we can do. Click here to download the FREE guide now - https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/shame-opt-in                                           --   Want to support the Peace and Parenting Podcast by purchasing products through Hand in Hand parenting? Use my affiliate link https://bit.ly/3iUcGqg I highly recommend the: Listening to Children Booklet Set as an essential part of learning Connective Parenting.    Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me ONE on ONE and together we’ll hone in on the sources of discontent and chaos and find solutions that are specific to your family’s needs. It doesn’t matter if you are married or single, if you parent alone or you want to do this with your parenting partner. Sign up HERE https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/one-on-one-course for my one-on-one course today and change your parenting reality!   Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aggression is the product of a child who isn’t doing so well. Be it from frustration they can’t communicate well, or other factors that we as parents cannot always understand. I always recommend daily time with our kids-- but for our guest Cara, daily time has turned into frustrating and oftentimes painful rough play. In this episode, I explain how else we can curb aggression by listening to feelings and allowing them to download while protecting ourselves as well. This definitely isn’t going to be an easy or instant fix-- but the payoff is worth it and if you listen to the end you will hear an amazing update.    Episode Highlights: Cara’s issue with her sons aggression against her and their home How to stay safe during tantrums Setting limits during rough play turning aggressive Other methods to play in order to allow for off loading feelings How to handle aggressive tantrums and stay present Check out the Empathy Podcast and learn why our kids need us most when they appear to be at their worst.  Download the FREE guide - HOW TO HAVE EMPATHY How do you come alongside your child when they are upset? What do you say and how can you be supportive when emotions are running high? Find out what to say and the best ways to come with empathy in this free downloadable guide HOW TO HAVE EMPATHY: What to say and do when your child is really upset   -- Enjoy today’s episode? Please share this episode with a friend and subscribe to the show to get notified on the latest episodes. Support this podcast through my partnership with Hand in Hand Parenting. Find useful parenting material and the Booklets I discuss in the show? Click Here. Are you a coach, or online course creator? Have an email list you communicate with often? Do you have a website? Kajabi can be your home for all of these and so much more Click here and explore all Kajabi has to offer while supporting the Peace and Parenting Podcast with no extra cost to you.    Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Often people ask me if Parenting without Punishments and using connection is for all children. In this episode, Bea Moise and I reassure you that parenting this way is effective for kids who are neurodiverse and children who are neurotypical.  Bea Moise is a parent of a neurodiverse son and parenting expert who brings her experience and insight to put things into perspective around all different types of children.    Episode Highlights: Bea’s story Her experience with parents of neurodiverse children  The importance of connection    Connect with Bea Moise: Bea Moise,M.S.,BCCS (achild-likemine.com) Facebook @BeaMoise.M.S Instagram @achildlikemine Twitter @AChildLikeMine   How can we “shame-proof” our parenting? There are ways we can eradicate shame from our everyday interactions with our children. Building in ways to address our children can promote resilience and self-esteem rather than jeopardizing these precious commodities for our children. Nobody wants to shame, but sometimes we need a little help figuring out what else we can do. Click here to download the FREE guide now - https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/shame-opt-in  -- Want to support the Peace and Parenting Podcast by purchasing products through Hand in Hand parenting? Use my affiliate link https://bit.ly/3iUcGqg I highly recommend the: Listening to Children Booklet Set as an essential part of learning Connective Parenting.  Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me ONE on ONE and together we’ll hone in on the sources of discontent and chaos and find solutions that are specific to your family’s needs. It doesn’t matter if you are married or single, if you parent alone or you want to do this with your parenting partner. Sign up HERE https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/one-on-one-course for my one-on-one course today and change your parenting reality!   Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

I love all things teenager and so does my guest Kristen Cobabe the “teen whisperer”. When I first became a teen I found myself at a loss as to what to do and how to interact with my daughter. It was murky water and I struggled to say the least. But I have found my way and now I am enjoying the teenage years more than I thought I would. Today I’m joined by Kirsten Cobabe, who has worked with teenagers since she herself was a teenager as a mentor. In our discussion today, we talk about how to communicate best with both teens and tweens. This is one of the most significant developmental stages for them-- it's only right that we try our best to guide them without forcing their hands. Be sure to listen in! The best way to reach our teenagers is through connection, not control.   Episode Highlights: Kirsten’s background and experience How dealing with teens and tweens is different from a kid What you need to know about raising a teenager The changes that come with the teenager stage Why saying no is not our job as parents We need to choose our relationship with our kids over small issues   Connect with Kirsten: @kirstencobabe | Instagram Kirsten Cobabe | Website   How can we “shame-proof” our parenting? There are ways we can eradicate shame from our everyday interactions with our children. Building in ways to address our children can promote resilience and self-esteem rather than jeopardizing these precious commodities for our children. Nobody wants to shame, but sometimes we need a little help figuring out what else we can do. Click here to download the FREE guide now - https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/shame-opt-in  -- Want to support the Peace and Parenting Podcast by purchasing products through Hand in Hand parenting? Use my affiliate link https://bit.ly/3iUcGqg I highly recommend the: Listening to Children Booklet Set as an essential part of learning Connective Parenting.  Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me ONE on ONE and together we’ll hone in on the sources of discontent and chaos and find solutions that are specific to your family’s needs. It doesn’t matter if you are married or single, if you parent alone or you want to do this with your parenting partner. Sign up HERE https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/one-on-one-course for my one-on-one course today and change your parenting reality!   Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sometimes when our child is having a hard time of course we want to fix things, help them see the bright side. But things might look arduous and difficult for our children and leaning into those upsets with empathy can help them feel seen, heard and understood. This way they are able to let go with more ease.    In this episode a lovely mom Jenna asks how to navigate negativity. We discuss leaning into the icky feelings, validate them and come with empathy to honor discomfort. It’s not easy seeing our children upset but with our love they can make it through.    Episode Highlights:   How to respond to our kids when they are negative Using empathy to heal discomfort Letting them win Allowing them to make mistakes   Email me at michelle@peaceandparentingla.com for a chance to win the Yelling Course!   How can we “shame proof” our parenting? There are ways we can eradicate shame from our everyday interactions with our children. Building in ways to address our children can promote resilience and self-esteem rather than jeopardizing these precious commodities for our children. Nobody wants to shame, but sometimes we need a little help figuring out what else we can do. Click here to download the FREE guide now - https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/shame-opt-in    --   Want to support the Peace and Parenting Podcast by purchasing products through Hand in Hand parenting? Use my affiliate link https://bit.ly/3iUcGqg I highly recommend the: Listening to Children Booklet Set as an essential part of learning Connective Parenting.  Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me ONE on ONE and together we’ll hone in on the sources of discontent and chaos and find solutions that are specific to your family’s needs. It doesn’t matter if you are married or single, if you parent alone or you want to do this with your parenting partner. Sign up HERE https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/one-on-one-course for my one-on-one course today and change your parenting reality! Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

When our child says “no” it can send us into emotional turmoil both because of how we were raised and how society views a child who stands up for themselves. But no doesn’t need to be a dirty word, and our children need to have the space to explore standing up for themselves. If they aren’t allowed to do it at home how can they ever set boundaries as they grow up. What of yes too, if we are insisting on “yes” is that yes we receive authentic or is it coerced somehow and only used as a way to please us?   Sterna is my guest today, she helps us unravel this sticky parenting moment, and gives us her incredible insights into why no is more than just a child being defiant on purpose and ways we can work through the moments when our children use no.   Episode Highlights: Why “No” isn’t always bad Collaboration works better than blind obedience Letting go of complete control Respecting our kids, so they respect us   How can we “shame proof” our parenting? There are ways we can eradicate shame from our everyday interactions with our children. Building in ways to address our children can promote resilience and self-esteem rather than jeopardizing these precious commodities for our children. Nobody wants to shame, but sometimes we need a little help figuring out what else we can do. Click here to download the FREE guide now - https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/shame-opt-in    --   Want to support the Peace and Parenting Podcast by purchasing products through Hand in Hand parenting? Use my affiliate link https://bit.ly/3iUcGqg I highly recommend the: Listening to Children Booklet Set as an essential part of learning Connective Parenting.  Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me ONE on ONE and together we’ll hone in on the sources of discontent and chaos and find solutions that are specific to your family’s needs. It doesn’t matter if you are married or single, if you parent alone or you want to do this with your parenting partner. Sign up HERE https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/one-on-one-course for my one-on-one course today and change your parenting reality! Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Aggression is a common occurrence in children and we see it often when there’s a new sibling. It is a fear response and one that can be tricky to unravel.  If we take a global look at our child and work on ways to build in connective practices while also allowing the tantrum to fully occur we can get movement with aggression.  Long time listener Ashley fully understands the modes of Peace and Parenting it’s just a pep talk she needs to reassure her she’s on the right path.    Episode Highlights: Aggression is fear, fear of needs not being met The connective nature of tantrums are therapeutic Empathy for feelings of jealousy can help offload feelings -- Want to support the Peace and Parenting Podcast by purchasing products through Hand in Hand parenting? Use my affiliate link https://bit.ly/3iUcGqg I highly recommend the: Listening to Children Booklet Set as an essential part of learning Connective Parenting.  Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me ONE on ONE and together we’ll hone in on the sources of discontent and chaos and find solutions that are specific to your family’s needs. It doesn’t matter if you are married or single, if you parent alone or you want to do this with your parenting partner. Sign up HERE https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/one-on-one-course for my one-on-one course today and change your parenting reality! Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

How do we promote resilience in our child and use the tenets of Peace and Parenting? Does being a kind loving parent mean our children will not be able to handle the cruel world? Perhaps empathy and kindness is exactly what allows our children to build in self esteem and the ability to recover from hard things.  Episode Highlights: Why you should let your child win Listening to your child with empathy How to promote resilience The ways in which peaceful parenting protects our kids from shame. Check out the Shame and Winning episodes and learn why our kids need us most when they appear to be at their worst. Enroll in Understanding Big Emotions Today! This course will guide you through the messiness of overwhelming feelings, help you unpack your own emotions, while teaching you what it is like to connect during difficult moments instead of completely losing your mind. Click here to enroll https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/pl/266250 Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me ONE on ONE and together we’ll hone in on the sources of discontent and chaos and find solutions that are specific to your family’s needs. It doesn’t matter if you are married or single, if you parent alone or you want to do this with your parenting partner. Sign up HERE https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/one-on-one-course for my one-on-one course today and change your parenting reality! Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today I’m joined by Courtney, a lovely mother of three young boys who recently completed my One on One Six Week Course. In this episode, she tells us how she has begun to transform her family, let go of yelling, and found more calm for her and her boys.If you think you can’t change the dynamics of your family and find peace and less yelling, you CAN, just like Courtney did. Listen in as we discuss what she learned in my One on One Six Week Course.You can find Courtney on Instagram @mostlyplantbasedmama Courtney Learned:How to let go of punishmentsFinding ways to be and cultivate more calmHow connection can strengthen the relationship she has with her sons. How taking things personally isn’t always helpful--Enroll in Understanding Big Emotions Today! This course will guide you through the messiness of overwhelming feelings, help you unpack your own emotions, while teaching you what it is like to connect during difficult moments instead of completely losing your mind.Click here to enroll https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/pl/266250Are you ready to change your family dynamic through connective parenting? Work with me ONE on ONE and together we’ll hone in on the sources of discontent and chaos and find solutions that are specific to your family’s needs. It doesn’t matter if you are married or single, if you parent alone or you want to do this with your parenting partner.Sign up HERE https://www.peaceandparentingla.com/one-on-one-course for my one-on-one course today and change your parenting reality!Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Kids have different ways to cope with stressful situations. Some resort to more vocal ways-- while others tend to go inward as a way to cope with what’s hard in life. It’s hard for us to know exactly how to approach them with love and kindness while still helping them move through tough behavior. Joining me this episode is a follower and active participant on the Facebook group, Jillian.  Jillian, like so many of us, struggles with a behavior that she can’t quite figure out how to navigate. We take a look at the whole child, the underlying and the more obvious and try to find ways to meet her daughter where she is using connection.  I know others struggle with thumb sucking and pacifiers and hope this episode is helpful.                Episode Highlights: Familial background The root cause of thumb sucking  What we can do to curb it without the use of shame   Check out the Empathy Podcast and learn why our kids need us most when they appear to be at their worst.  Download the FREE guide - HOW TO HAVE EMPATHY How do you come alongside your child when they are upset? What do you say and how can you be supportive when emotions are running high? Find out what to say and the best ways to come with empathy in this free downloadable guide HOW TO HAVE EMPATHY: What to say and do when your child is really upset -- Enjoy today’s episode? Please share this episode with a friend and subscribe to the show to get notified on the latest episodes. Support this podcast through my partnership with Hand in Hand Parenting. Find useful parenting material and the Booklets I discuss in the show? Click Here. Are you a coach, or online course creator? Have an email list you communicate with often? Do you have a website? Kajabi can be your home for all of these and so much more Click here and explore all Kajabi has to offer while supporting the Peace and Parenting Podcast with no extra cost to you.    Follow Peace and Parenting Instagram @peaceandparenting Facebook @peaceandparentingla Apple Podcasts Spotify Google Podcasts Interested in learning how to balance parenting and technology? Join my Plugged in Parenting seminar on April 29-30: https://peaceandparentingla.com/event-understanding-kids-technologyAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy