The School of Greatness

“IF YOU FILL YOUR HOUSE LIGHT, DARKNESS CAN'T COME IN.” So many people I know put more time and energy into their things, or their career, than they do into into their relationship. I know I can be guilty of it, and I’m sure you can be too. We put so much time into fixing up things like our homes, maintaining our cars, we tend to forget about those closest to us. We take them for granted. When is the last time you really took the time to make your partner feel good? How often do you really put effort into boosting their confidence -- or even just being present with them. That’s not the only relationship we neglect though - we forget about the one with ourselves. Chances are it’s been awhile since you’ve taken the time to forgive yourself. To do something respectable and give yourself that moment to appreciate it. To appreciate you. To dive further into this I wanted to bring back a previous episode with the internationally acclaimed spiritual author and lecturer, Marianne Williamson on Episode 639. In This Episode You Will Learn: The only thing that matters (00:37) What our society really seems to care about (00:43) What you should be doing for your partner daily (1:19) Where a lot of the pain we feel comes from (1:57) The importance of atonement (2:20) How to start respecting yourself again (2:52) Plus much, much more Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Mike Chandler, a former Bellator Lightweight Champion and MMA fighter, shares his inspiring journey of resilience and self-belief. He discusses the critical role of self-image in achieving greatness, emphasizing that one must believe they can be the best. He elaborates on the importance of positive self-talk over negative self-listening. Chandler highlights how overcoming setbacks shaped his mindset and the necessity of embracing fear in pursuit of excellence. His insights drive home that true success lies in hard work and the positive impact we make on others.

"When you become rare, people become really terrified of losing you." - Matthew Hussey I know I get huge value every time I sit across from an expert and hear their wisdom about one of the most important parts of my life -- my relationships. We've had some amazing relationship coaches on the podcast through the years, but some of the episodes are so old, I know you may not remember them (or have ever heard them). That's why I wanted to put together another mashup episode from the archives to share some of these gems with you. If you enjoyed last week's mashup episode on High Performance Habits, you're going to love this one. We're first featuring a clip from my good friend and global dating icon Matthew Hussey. This is still one of the most popular episodes we've ever recorded. Then we dive into part of my conversation with Tracy McMillan, an Oprah favorite, a long-term TV writer, and relationship expert. I love how real and honest Tracy is in this episode. Last, we feature the master therapist herself, bestselling author and powerhouse coach Esther Perel (who has been on the podcast twice and spoken at Summit of Greatness). I think you'll love each clip for a different reason -- and I want to know! Let me know by messaging me on social media @lewishowes. If you're looking for some insight into making your intimate relationships better, look no further than this mashup Episode 637. In this episode you will learn: The problem with having a sense of entitlement in dating (5:05) What makes you attractive beyond your best quality (10:10) The biggest mistake people make in dating (12:41) How to get through the rough patches of a relationship (17:13) The importance of humor in relationships (19:35) How to work with your partner when they are triggered (20:55) Why monogamy is a choice (26:45) Plus much more... Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

“WHEN YOU HAVE A VISION, IT BURNS INSIDE OF YOU.” If you want to find your purpose in life, you need to dream with others in mind. When you find that purpose, you’ll have to lead others. When you do, there’s a lot of responsibility that comes with that. To explain this more, and how to tell if you’re really meant to be a leader, I brought back this clip from Nancy Duarte. Nancy Duarte is the founder of the design firm Duarte, Inc. They have consulted companies and leaders like Apple, Google, GE, and so many more to create the speeches and presentations that have shaped all of the brands we love. Her most recent book is all about how leaders can use storytelling to enroll their teams to follow their vision. You’ll learn all about what it takes to bear the torch of leadership, on Episode 636. In This Episode You Will Learn: Who the real leaders are (1:00) The importance of being a torch bearer (1:51) Why we need self mastery (2:25) How businesses used to be run (2:53) What your dreams need to have to be successful (3:48) Plus much, much more Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Brendan Burchard, a high-performance coach and author, and Michael Gervais, a high-performance psychologist, share transformative insights on achieving excellence. They discuss the power of effective habits and positive mindsets in boosting personal and professional performance. The conversation emphasizes clarity and intent over mere creativity, challenging the myth of strengths-based success. They also highlight the importance of embracing competition for growth and the insatiable hunger for success, urging listeners to adopt daily practices that enhance overall life quality.

Dr. Rangan Chatterjee, a leading UK physician and holistic health advocate known for his show Doctor in the House, dives deep into transforming health. He critiques the reliance on quick fixes, urging listeners to address root causes of chronic illnesses like diabetes and depression through lifestyle changes. Discussion highlights include the importance of emotional well-being, the deep connections in healthcare, and practical steps towards a healthier life. Chatterjee emphasizes simplifying health, advocating for patient-centered care and effective communication.

“CULTIVATE PEOPLE AROUND YOU WHO ARE NOT AFRAID TO TELL YOU YOU THE TRUTH.” Whether you want to admit it or not, you have an ego. Everyone does. We tend to put a bad connotation on it, but in truth a little ego is healthy. Ego can be confidence about yourself and what you do. It can be a challenge if you become successful, because people become afraid of telling you the truth and pointing out your flaws. To keep growing, however, you must surround yourself with people who aren’t afraid to tell you the uncomfortable truths in a polite way. And if you truly respect someone with power over you, you’ll do the same. To go deeper into this, I am bringing back a strong segment from a previous episode with Ryan Holiday. Ryan is a writer and media strategist. When he was 19 years old, he dropped out of college to apprentice under Robert Greene, author of The 48 Laws of Power. He went on to become the director of marketing for American Apparel. His creative agency, Brass Check, has advised clients like Google, TASER, and Complex, as well as many prominent bestselling authors, including Neil Strauss, Tony Robbins and Tim Ferriss (and me). He has worked with huge egos in his career, but what I love about Ryan is his willingness to take on his own ego as well. Learn how to control your ego and help those around you on Episode 633. In This Episode You Will Learn: The spectrum of Ego (00:54) Where confidence comes from (1:33) How to continue your growth (3:02) When people stop listening to the truth they need to hear (3:32) How to tell powerful people the truth (5:18) What to do when you’re right (5:48) Plus much more... Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jay Williams, a former NBA player turned ESPN analyst, shares his incredible journey of resilience after a life-altering motorcycle accident. He dives deep into the challenges of identity loss, battling depression, and overcoming addiction. Jay emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, teaching conscious awareness to his child, and creating a personal advisory board for accountability. His reflections on fame, relationships, and the urgency of connection highlight the deliberate choices he's made in redefining success and greatness in life.

Sally Kohn, a writer and activist known for her work on reducing hate, shares her journey from political commentary to exploring the roots of hate in society. She discusses her personal encounters with bullying and the surprising warmth she experienced at Fox News, which spurred her research. Sally highlights the importance of understanding our biases and the power of diverse interactions to combat them. She emphasizes the need for kindness and engagement with opposing views to foster social change, reminding us that we all have the capacity for both cruelty and compassion.

"I am not my past, I am not my future. This is the only place I am able to express my will.” Do you ever have those moments when you replay a certain event in your mind over and over? It becomes so real, it’s almost like you are there. You start thinking, “What could I have done differently? Does this make me a bad person? Could I have handled things better?” I know when this happens I start judging myself. I become my worst critic, obsessing over how I lost my temper here or the person I hurt there. Ultimately, these moments don’t define us. What does define us is right now. What we do at this moment is who we are, and as long as we learned from our mistakes we shouldn’t judge ourselves. We need to forgive ourselves and stop the emotional punishment. To go more into this I wanted to bring you a clip from Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. for this episode of 5 Minute Friday. Don Miguel is a master of transformation, and he shares so much wisdom about forgiveness and moving forward with life on Episode 630. In This Episode You Will Learn: Why people judge themselves so harshly (00:47) What it means to forgive yourself (1:23) How we reward and punish ourselves (1:40) The illusion of our expectations (2:38) How to forgive yourself (3:28) Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.