Two Bi Guys

It’s almost election day, so we sat down with a civil rights attorney, recent candidate for Justice of the Peace in Texas, writer, activist, proud bisexual man of faith, and mega-fan of this podcast, Andrew Reginald Hairston! We chatted about voting and why it’s so important for queer people to get out the vote and protect our communities (GO VOTE PLEASE!), the freedom Andrew has experienced since coming out, how this podcast appeared at the right moment to help him on his bisexual journey, how his sexuality has impacted his work as a civil rights lawyer and prison abolitionist, and also how it has intersected with his faith community, and his newfound “limitless capacity for love” since embracing his whole identity.We also talked about the highs and lows of dating, how our bisexuality has come into play in negative and abusive relationships we’ve had, and how to cultivate self-worth not just despite a complicated, sometimes-confusing identity but BECAUSE of it – and why we should not just ask for but demand the recognition and respect we deserve. Andrew eloquently reminds us that no matter what happens in the 2022 mid-terms, hope is a discipline, this is just one moment in a long struggle, we are building on the efforts of those who came before, and the future is bright if we work together to take the next step.Follow Andrew on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrewrhairston/Follow Andrew on Twitter: https://twitter.com/AndrewRHairstonVisit Andrew’s Website: https://andrewrhairston.com/Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob CohenCreated by Rob Cohen and Alex BoydLogo art by Kaitlin WeinmanMusic by Ross MintzerWe are supported by The GothamMade on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastrTry MagicMind and get 20% off your order or 40% off a subscription with promo code BIGUYS20: www.magicmind.co/biguysBuy the FirmTech Tech Ring or Performance Ring: https://myfirmtech.com/collections/firmtechWe're going on a Bi+ trip to Maine in June 2023! Join the email list to get all the info: https://my.trovatrip.com/public/l/survey/rob-cohen

We're all aware of the unfortunate statistics showing that the bisexual community receives a tiny minority of LGBT+ charity resources despite making up a majority of the community itself. But how does that play out and what does it actually mean for Bi+ people?We chatted about that and more with Dominic Arnall, CEO of “Just Like Us” (an LGBT+ young people’s charity) and the only out bisexual man running a queer charity in the UK. He explained what happens when the “B” is neglected in the non-profit space, why we need resources that are dedicated specifically to the Bi+/fluid community (and for kids especially), and what those programs might look like if they were properly funded and prioritized.We also discussed the current political climate and the targeting of trans kids, why the “B” & “T” communities are intertwined and benefit by standing up for each other, and how queerness and gender are evolving and being viewed by young people today. We also touched on Dominic’s own bisexual journey, how his marriage and child have intersected with his queerness, and things to consider when coming out as Bi+ in the workplace.Follow Dominic on Twitter: https://twitter.com/DominicarnallFollow Just Like Us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/justlikeusUKSupport Just Like Us: www.justlikeus.orgTwo Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob CohenCreated by Rob Cohen and Alex BoydLogo art by Kaitlin WeinmanMusic by Ross MintzerWe are supported by The GothamMade on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastrUse my special link zen.ai/twobiguys1 and use twobiguys1 to save 30% off your first three months of Zencastr professional. #madeonzencastrThis podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/twobiguys to get 10% off your first month.We're going on a Bi+ trip to Maine in June 2023! Join the email list to get all the info: https://my.trovatrip.com/public/l/survey/rob-cohen

This week we chatted with author, illustrator, and activist Florence Given, aka “Floss”, about her new (very bisexual!) novel, GIRLCRUSH. Floss gained an online following leading up to her first book, “Women Don’t Owe You Pretty”, a non-fiction feminist primer, before transitioning to fiction and highlighting sexual fluidity in “Girlcrush”.We talked about Floss’s bisexual journey, the biphobia and bi-erasure she’s experienced since coming out, the differences she’s encountered dating men v. women, how not wanting to play into toxic and gendered power dynamics in relationships can lead to being overly cautious, why she wanted to create a “messy” bisexual character who gets confused and makes mistakes, and the unexpected joys that have come with a queer identity. We also discussed what it’s like to be a social media influencer today, the difference between our digital self and our reality, parasocial relationships between creators and their fans, how to deal with online trolls and negativity, and the pleasant surprises that come with a public persona. Finally, we touched on consent, how to recognize and get out of an abusive relationship, and how to reclaim your own power and authenticity.Follow Floss on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/florencegiven/Visit Floss's website: https://www.florencegiven.com/Buy GIRLCRUSH: https://bookshop.org/books/girlcrush/9781914240522Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob CohenCreated by Rob Cohen and Alex BoydLogo art by Kaitlin WeinmanMusic by Ross MintzerWe are supported by The GothamMade on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastrUse my special link zen.ai/twobiguys1 and use twobiguys1 to save 30% off your first three months of Zencastr professional. #madeonzencastrRob is hosting a Bi+ trip to coastal Maine in June 2023! First 10 to book get $200 off: https://trips.trovatrip.com/trips/united-states-with-rob-cohen-jun-2023

Happy Bi+ Visibility Day and Awareness Week! There's no better way to celebrate than an interview with another true BI-CON, Dr. Mimi Hoang!Dr. Mimi a psychologist, educator, author, and grassroots activist specializing in the LGBTQ+ and Asian Pacific Islander communities -- and she was named “one of the most significant women in the bisexual movement”! In this special episode, we chatted about her family history and bisexual journey, the multiple organizations she co-founded in Los Angeles for Bi+ individuals (including LA Bi+ Task Force and AmBi), how to cultivate resilience, when and how to speak to a psychologist or therapist about your sexuality or gender identity, the cognitive dissonance caused by our actions not matching our words and how coming out can lead to more internal congruence, and the particular challenges of being married and bisexual. Though we do mention the negative mental and physical health outcomes we know are prevalent in our community, we focused our chat on the joys, surprises, and positive aspects of fluid sexuality and the value of building Bi+ community.Visit Dr. Mimi's website: https://www.drmimihoang.com/index.htmlFollow Dr. Mimi on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmimihoang/?hl=enDr. Mimi's Linktree: https://linktr.ee/drmimihoangJoin AmBi! https://www.ambi.org/Dr. Mimi's amazing list of queer and Bi+ resources: https://www.drmimihoang.com/resourcescontact.htmlTwo Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob CohenCreated by Rob Cohen and Alex BoydLogo art by Kaitlin WeinmanMusic by Ross MintzerWe are supported by The GothamMade on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastrUse my special link zen.ai/twobiguys1 and use twobiguys1 to save 30% off your first three months of Zencastr professional. #madeonzencastrThis podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/twobiguys to get 10% off your first month.Check out Hinge's "Not-so Frequently Asked Questions: hinge.NFAQ.coVisit tracysdog.com/ and use promo code “twobiguys” to get 15% off, and don’t forget to check out the OG Pro 2.We're going on a Bi+ trip to Maine in June 2023! Join the email list to get all the info: https://my.trovatrip.com/public/l/survey/rob-cohen

We chatted with NYC-based entrepreneur Stephen Quaderer, who identifies as gay and pansexual. Stephen is the creator of Headero, the connection app for people who love oral pleasure ;) We talked about the queer future of dating apps; the potential pleasure of meeting people based on shared interests or desires rather than gender identity or sexuality; how to navigate the online dating scene safely and consensually, and the important of being honest and direct about preferences, kinks, and expectations. We also discussed Stephen's gay and pansexual identities and the growing number of gay men who are exploring sexual fluidity.Download Headero: https://www.headero.com/Thot Experiment: https://www.thotexperiment.co/Follow Header on IG: https://www.instagram.com/headeroapp/?hl=enFollow Stephen on Twitter: https://twitter.com/ItsQuadsTwo Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob CohenCreated by Rob Cohen and Alex BoydLogo art by Kaitlin WeinmanMusic by Ross MintzerWe are supported by The GothamMade on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastrUse my special link zen.ai/twobiguys1 and use twobiguys1 to save 30% off your first three months of Zencastr professional. #madeonzencastrCheck out Hinge's "Not-so Frequently Asked Questions: hinge.NFAQ.coThis podcast is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/twobiguys to get 10% off your first month.Visit tracysdog.com/ and use promo code “twobiguys” to get 15% off, and don’t forget to check out the OG Pro 2.Interested in group travel with the bisexual community? Take this survey! https://my.trovatrip.com/public/l/survey/rob-cohen

We're back with part two of our interview with content creator, activist, and all-around bi-con RJ Aguiar! In this episode we chatted about using sex appeal as a marketing tool (for example, the title of this episode...), RJ's modeling work and how it's affected his own body image, how RJ blends sexuality and mental health with other pop culture and political topics on his show "Quick Question", RJ's bisexual activism with the LA Bi+ Task Force and other organizations, why his hair is a different color every summer, and much more! Do you think RJ should return as one of the two bi guys more often? Let us know!Follow RJ on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/damnitrjFollow RJ on Twitter: https://twitter.com/DamnItRJFollow RJ on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@damnitrj"Quick Question" hosted by RJ on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gotaquickquestion"Quick Question on Snapchat: https://story.snapchat.com/p/bd17b093-426b-4a13-9d9f-a36dfe8c9231/192565335373824?sender_web_id=ccdf3237-e350-4aa8-9fad-f3ed9dd93d8b&device_type=desktop&is_copy_url=true"TheNotAdam", RJ's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/thenotadamLA Bi+ Task Force: labitaskforce.orgTwo Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob CohenCreated by Rob Cohen and Alex BoydLogo art by Kaitlin WeinmanMusic by Ross MintzerWe are supported by The GothamMade on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastrInterested in group travel with the bisexual community? Take this survey! https://my.trovatrip.com/public/l/survey/rob-cohenGet $5 off a variety pack of Magic Spoon cereal!http://magicspoon.com/twobiguys  CODE: TWOBIGUYSYou can get 30% off Zencastr for 3 months with promo code: twobiguys -- or just click this link: https://zencastr.com/pricing?coupon=twobiguys&fpr=ex42o. Start recording your own podcast or meetings today!

What's it like to go viral with your Bi+ coming out story? We asked that and more to RJ Aguiar, the OG bi YouTube sensation. in our 2-part season 5 premiere! In this episode, RJ discuss his personal bisexual journey, reactions to his coming out (both privately and on social media), the experience of being a very public bi guy years before the more recent (modest) increase in representation, how to balance and integrate Bi+ content with other important issues, the ways that social media shapes how we see ourselves, and much more. Stay tuned for part 2 where we discuss more about RJ's modeling, activism, and his work with the LA Bi+ Task Force! Follow RJ on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/damnitrj Follow RJ on Twitter: https://twitter.com/DamnItRJ Follow RJ on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@damnitrj "Quick Question" hosted by RJ on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gotaquickquestion "Quick Question on Snapchat: https://story.snapchat.com/p/bd17b093-426b-4a13-9d9f-a36dfe8c9231/192565335373824?sender_web_id=ccdf3237-e350-4aa8-9fad-f3ed9dd93d8b&device_type=desktop&is_copy_url=true "TheNotAdam", RJ's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/thenotadam LA Bi+ Task Force: labitaskforce.org Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman Music by Ross Mintzer We are supported by The Gotham Made on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastr Get $5 off a variety pack of Magic Spoon cereal! http://magicspoon.com/twobiguys CODE: TWOBIGUYS You can get 30% off Zencastr for 3 months with promo code: twobiguys -- or just click this link: https://zencastr.com/pricing?coupon=twobiguys&fpr=ex42o. Start recording your own podcast or meetings today!

Interested in sponsoring this show or podcast ads for your business? Go to https://zen.ai/twobiguys0 and fill out the contact information so Zencastr can help you bring your business story to life. It's the Two Bi Guys Season Four Finale and it's jam-packed with bi science, bi history, bi culture, bi politics, and of course bi puns! We are thrilled to be joined by Dr. Julia Shaw, psycholoical scientist at University College London, founder of the Bisexual Research Group, and author of multiple best-selling books -- including her new book "Bi: The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of Bisexuality", coming out June 28 in the US! We chatted about Dr. Shaw's bi identity and how a lack of research about bisexuality led to her exploring on her own and coming out, why bisexual people frequently "want more" (and deserve more!), the privilege of being in a place and position where coming out is safe (and the responsibility that comes with it), why psychological research has often marginalized fluid sexuality and why the field of "positive psychology" offers new promise, how traditional evolutionary theory comes up short in its explanation of queerness and why multi-spectrum attraction is not only natural but likely evolutionarily advantageous, the deep and often-invisible cultural bias toward heterosexuality that most of us grew up with, how positive Bi+ & queer representation in media can contribute to meaningful, real-world political change, Dr. Shaw's six stages of "bidentity" development (spoiler: it begins with loneliness but ends with peace!), and the importance of Bi+ spaces and BI PRIDE! Thank you all for listening to another season of Two Bi Guys! Happy Pride and we'll be back soon! Dr. Shaw's website: https://www.drjuliashaw.com/ Order Dr. Shaw's book! (and find Bi+ events w/ Dr. Shaw): https://linktr.ee/drjuliashaw The Bisexual Research Group: https://www.bisexualresearch.com/ Follow Dr. Shaw on Twitter: https://twitter.com/drjuliashaw Follow Dr. Shaw on IG: https://www.instagram.com/drjuliashaw Follow the Bisexual Research Group on Twitter: https://twitter.com/bisexualscience Follow the Bisexual Research Group on IG: https://www.instagram.com/bisexualresearch/ Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman Music by Ross Mintzer We are supported by The Gotham Made on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastr You can get 30% off Zencastr for 3 months with promo code: twobiguys -- or just click this link: https://zencastr.com/pricing?coupon=twobiguys&fpr=ex42o. Start recording your own podcast or meetings today!

Interested in sponsoring this show or podcast ads for your business? Go to https://zen.ai/twobiguys0 and fill out the contact information so Zencastr can help you bring your business story to life. This week Rob sat down with Lydia Green, a bisexual Jewish organizer and Democratic party activist currently running for District Leader of NYC Assembly District 52 in Brooklyn. We chatted about her bisexual journey; the intersectin of her sexuality with her gender, Judaism, and disability; how her identity affected her interest in politics, and specifically how her bisexuality informs her campaign for District Leader and her goals if elected; how local government bureaucracy ends up benefitting incumbents, maintaining the status quo, and keeping out fresh voices and progressive ideas; why it's important to elect more queer representatives across the country; how to hold the Democratic party accountable; and much more! Two Bi Guys is produced and edited by Rob Cohen Created by Rob Cohen and Alex Boyd Logo art by Kaitlin Weinman Music by Ross Mintzer We are supported by The Gotham Made on Zencastr #MadeOnZencastr You can get 30% off Zencastr for 3 months with promo code: twobiguys -- or just click this link: https://zencastr.com/pricing?coupon=twobiguys&fpr=ex42o. Start recording your own podcast or meetings today!

This week Rob chatted with a fellow Bi+ podcaster all the way from Melbourne, Ruby Susan Mountford, and we covered... um, everything?Literally. Take the list of topics from all our other episode descriptions and re-read those, because Ruby -- co-host of the TripleBiPass podcast -- touched on all of that.But seriously, we focused on how being autistic and non-binary intersects with Ruby's bisexuality (often in joyous ways), the coming-out and community-building process among those identities, the necessity of labels while injustice exists, what it's like to host a bisexual podcast that's actually a LIVE radio show (and how doing it gave Ruby confidence in their Bi+ identity), radical progressive Bi+ politics and Shiri Eisner's influence (yes, again), Ruby's disability activism and how it relates to their Bi+ activism, addressing negative Bi+ health outcomes by (perhaps counterintuitively) talking more about bipohbia, creating maintaining queer community spaces without organizer burnout, and, as usual, MUCH MORE.