Two Bi Guys

Think it's too late for you to come out? Have you ever let regret about the past get in the way of making empowering decisions for your future? We've all been there — but it's never too late to live your life authentically and intentionally.This week, I sit down with Doug Moffitt, who began exploring his sexuality — and his authentic self — in his 80s. After a lifetime of repression, Doug followed a sudden impulse to attend a gay men’s tantra retreat… without telling his wife. What happened transformed his life, and he's so grateful he took the leap.In this episode, we talk about:– Coming out later in life (and what anxiety about being “too late” is really about)– The moment everything clicked for Doug (a spiritual calling that he thankfully listened to)– Navigating the gay world in a “second adolescence” at 84– Consent, boundaries, and learning a whole new culture– A powerful first tantric experience that opened something spiritual– Letting go through sex, psychedelics, and self-acceptance– Becoming “Doug 2.0” — bigger, freer, and more alive than ever before.This is a unique, funny, and surprisingly moving conversation about authenticity, curiosity, and what can happen when you finally let yourself be who you are — at any age.There are about 15 minutes of bonus content with Doug -- plus FULL VIDEO of this episode, where you can see his see-through black lace shirt -- on Patreon. Thank you for your support! www.Patreon.com/RobertBrooksCohenHere's the video of Doug being suspended that he mentioned at the end (content warning: hooks in skin): https://www.instagram.com/p/DI2HkUvOUyJ/Subscribe to my newsletter: https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/newsletterMy website: https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/Last chance (for real this time) for free coaching intro sessions: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/25-minute-free-intro-call(Free sessions will be reduced to 10 min discovery calls in April 2026 -- intro sessions will be paid but discounted at that time.)

Today we're talking about psychedelics and how they can intersect with queerness and the journey toward authenticity. I recently went on a new(ish) bi podcast called "This Feels Bi", where I was interviewed by co-hosts Amanda Kohr and Erin Deason about one of my favorite topics. We talked about cannabis, mushrooms, ayahuasca, LSD, and more, and I got to share how these medicines have helped me on my bi journey. Included here is a 14-minute segment -- for the full interview, check out their podcast! (Link below.)Continuing on the same theme, I'm also sharing two clips from my YouTube page about a) how psychedelics are a lot closer to therapy than a party drug, and b) why integration after a psychedelic journey is even more important than the trip itself. Finally, I share some of the insights I received on a very recent medicine experience.Stay tuned for more episodes coming soon, including a 3-part series on BFF!Subscribe to my newsletter: https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/newsletter"This Feels Bi" on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/psychedelics-feel-bi-with-rob-cohen/id1846927777?i=1000747212791"This Feels Bi "on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3OdB6atfY1y1mcqLMl57hDFollow "This Feels Bi" on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/DP4OlJJDyd8/My website: https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/Last chance for free coaching intro sessions: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/25-minute-free-intro-call

In Part 2, Dr. Joshua Gebhardt (a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in working with mixed-orientation couples) turns the lens inward and shares his own personal story — growing up in a conservative Christian environment, navigating masculinity as a college athlete, entering a mixed-orientation marriage himself, and slowly coming to terms with his gay identity. He reflects on the role of religion, shame, repression, and community expectations, and how those experiences ultimately shaped both his life and his work as a therapist. We also discussed how his own experience of coming out to his wife and ultimately divorcing informs his approach with clients. This is an honest look at untangling who you were taught to be from who you truly are — and how that journey can transform the way you help others do the same.The Gebhardt Group: https://www.thegebhardtgroup.co/homeEmail Joshua directly: josh@gebhardtgroup.coSign up for Dr. Gebhardt’s Group, “Women Navigating Marriages with Gay or Bisexual Men”: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-0jju_kpELwu9HPnwP6LA720NcnkYR7UR3lGRcdedqrWqgg/viewformSupport for people in Mixed-Orientation Marriages:HOW (Husbands Out to Wives): https://how-support.org/GAMMA: https://www.gammasupport.org/MOR (Mixed-Orientation Marriages) & More: https://www.morandmore.org/Mixed Orientation Marriage: Pathways to Success (Free E-Book): https://mixedorientation.com/AlternatePath (for women who have discovered their husbands are bi or gay): https://groups.io/g/AlternatePath(Note: these show notes previously and erroneously mentioned "OurPath", which is not my recommendation and which has been traumatic for people I've spoken to.)More from Rob & Two Bi Guys:Support Two Bi Guys on Patreon! (Bonus content, early access, and more) https://www.patreon.com/robertbrookscohenTwo Bi Guys on YouTube: youtube.com/@twobiguysSubscribe to my newsletter (for updates on group coaching and more): https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/newsletterBook a free intro call with me (re: individual coaching): https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/25-minute-free-intro-callAttend “Fluid Conversations”: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/fluid-conversationsVisit my website: https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/Follow TBG on IG (and message me for direct correspondence): https://www.instagram.com/twobiguys/

We're back! This week I sit down with Dr. Joshua Gebhardt — a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in mixed-orientation couples — to explore what really happens when guys come out to their wives as queer. Drawing from his doctoral research and years of clinical experience, Joshua breaks down the most common challenges couples face after disclosure, why shame and panic often dominate the early stages, and how counselors can either help or unintentionally harm these vulnerable relationships. We unpack the most common relationship outcomes (and how to know which is most likely...), the role of sexual identity (bi v. gay v. something else), how couples navigate opening up their relationship (or not), the best and worst therapy models, and what it takes to navigate authenticity, safety, and connection when everything feels at stake.Stay tuned for Part 2, coming next week, where we go deeper into Joshua's personal queer journey. You won't want to miss it.The Gebhardt Group: https://www.thegebhardtgroup.co/homeEmail Joshua directly: josh@gebhardtgroup.coSign up for Dr. Gebhardt’s Group, “Women Navigating Marriages with Gay or Bisexual Men”: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe-0jju_kpELwu9HPnwP6LA720NcnkYR7UR3lGRcdedqrWqgg/viewformSupport for people in Mixed-Orientation Marriages:HOW (Husbands Out to Wives): https://how-support.org/GAMMA: https://www.gammasupport.org/MOR (Mixed-Orientation Marriages) & More: https://www.morandmore.org/Mixed Orientation Marriage: Pathways to Success (Free E-Book): https://mixedorientation.com/AlternatePath (for women who have discovered their husbands are bi or gay): https://groups.io/g/AlternatePath(Note: these show notes previously and erroneously mentioned "OurPath", which is not my recommendation and which has been traumatic for people I've spoken to.)More from Rob & Two Bi Guys:Support Two Bi Guys on Patreon! (Bonus content, early access, and more) https://www.patreon.com/robertbrookscohenTwo Bi Guys on YouTube: youtube.com/@twobiguysSubscribe to my newsletter (for updates on group coaching and more): https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/newsletterBook a free intro call with me (re: individual coaching): https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/25-minute-free-intro-callAttend “Fluid Conversations”: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/fluid-conversationsVisit my website: https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/Follow TBG on IG (and message me for direct correspondence): https://www.instagram.com/twobiguys/

Welcome to Season 10 and the future of Two Bi Guys (By One Bi Guy)! I’m switching things up a bit, and today I’m sharing a couple of explainer videos that I recently posted to YouTube, plus important updates about the pod and my coaching practice.I will continue to interview activists, authors, artists, researchers, coaches, and others with interesting things to share about bisexuality, fluidity, gender, and the relationship spectrum on this platform, but I am also branching out and creating new types of content, and I’m experimenting with cross-pollination. Let me know what you think. If you haven’t yet checked out my YouTube page, I’d love it if you would (link below), and I hope you enjoy today’s explainers!Stay tuned for more interviews and other experiments coming soon. Thanks for being here and helping me get to season 10!Two Bi Guys on YouTube: youtube.com/@twobiguysSubscribe to my newsletter (for updates on group coaching and more): https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/newsletterBook a free intro call with me (re: individual coaching): https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/25-minute-free-intro-callAttend “Fluid Conversations”: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/fluid-conversationsVisit my website: https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/Follow TBG on IG (and message me for direct correspondence): https://www.instagram.com/twobiguys/

Welcome to the season 9 finale of Two Bi Guys (By One Bi Guy)! My guest is Wade Shepard, founder of a play party called “Bi for Bi”, which takes place quarterly in New York City. We chatted about why he started a party that caters to bisexuality (and specifically offers a venue for bi men to explore openly), what the party is like, and the kinky icebreakers that get things going (human cake anyone?) – plus one of the other parties Wade facilitates, focused on gangbangs, and how sexual fluidity plays a role. We also got into Wade’s queer journey, which he described as easier than most and without much drama, and how his sexuality and masculinity co-exist.Thanks for listening to this season of Two Bi Guys, and stay tuned for more! The cadence and focus of my work is always shifting, but I plan to continue having these conversations and sharing more stories in the very near future – stay tuned.Follow Wade on IG: https://www.instagram.com/the.slutlifeJoin Hacienda, the club that hosts “Bi for Bi”: https://wearehacienda.com/Subscribe to Rob’s newsletter: https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/newsletterCheck out Two Bi Guys on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@twobiguysFree intro call with Rob re: coaching: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/25-minute-free-intro-callShare your story with me! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSftX6JoZ2CUJ5QVNSxiy0wzMPJiq6Vp3jrWZpXtvGnLQtIHmA/viewform?usp=header

Award-winning sex and gender specialist, sex educator, and now author Laura Clarke joins me to talk about her brand-new book “Step Bi Step: The Ultimate Guide for Bisexual, Pansexual, and Queer Young People”. Written with warmth, humor, and clarity, Laura’s book fills a gap for teens just beginning to explore their sexuality — and offers parents, teachers, and anyone curious a simple, compassionate introduction to bi and other queer identities.We discuss Laura’s own “bisexual teenage montage,” how she discovered and named her attraction, and the internalized biphobia she had to unlearn. She shares why she wanted to create a resource that feels safe, inclusive, and non-patronizing — something she wished she had at 13. We also get into writing for a younger audience, balancing humor with heavy topics like biphobia and representation, and how exploring bisexuality can strengthen relationships rather than threaten them.Whether you’re a teen, a parent, or simply bi-curious at any age, this conversation offers insight, validation, and a reminder to take things one step at a time.Bonus content with Laura on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/robertbrookscohenSign up for Rob’s newsletter: https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/newsletterSign up for a free intro call with Rob re: individual coaching: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/25-minute-free-intro-callBuy “Step Bi Step”: https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/more-than-one-a-handbook-for-bi-teens-laura-clarke/7744481?ean=9781805017516Laura’s Website: https://www.mybodyandyours.com/Follow Laura on IG: https://www.instagram.com/mybodyandyoursFollow Laura on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mybodyandyours

This year marked the 25th year of BFF – and while many people do meet their best friends forever at the bi-annual event, that's not where the acronym comes from ;)  The Bi F*** Fest is a twice-a-year takeover of a resort in Palm Springs by over 250 Bi+ people, and while there IS a lot of fun, sexy playtime, it's the community, openness, and acceptance that keep people coming back. This year marked my second summer BFF, so I conducted a series of short interviews with attendees. They are fascinating. I love this episode. Enjoy!00:00 – Intro and my experience07:50 – Charles11:30 – Steve15:40 – Josh and Mark30:00 – Jenni44:00 – I describe the physical space49:20 – Don57:20 – Laura1:07:00 – B.A.1:16:15 – PeterThough there's no video of my interviewees on Patreon for this episode, there is a slideshow of photos I took at BFF that plays along with the episode, so you can get a feel for the space and vibe. Your subscription also helps support this podcast and gets you early access and full video episodes for most other episodes: https://www.patreon.com/c/robertbrookscohenSign up "Fluid Conversation", an ongoing series of guided talks and topic-based discussions: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/fluid-conversationsSign up for a free intro call with Rob re: individual coaching: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/25-minute-free-intro-callVisit Rob's Website: https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/

My guest this week is Gabby Kealoha Holt, a queer, native Hawaiian singer/songwriter with a new beautiful song out May 30 titled “May We Heal”. We chatted about her queerness and sexual fluidity growing up, how that intersected with her passion for music (as well as her passion for skateboarding), how her life and career have been affected by meditation and newfound spirituality, and then we got into her new song, how it came about, and how music can help us all heal. Stay tuned to hear the song at the end of the podcast – or go listen now at the links below!10 minutes of bonus content with Gabby on Patreon (plus early access and full video episodes): https://www.patreon.com/robertbrookscohen“May We Heal” on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/album/7LnmPfCvwv26OVQSAkxj3M?si=Q3tk8OT0SFuLWICM6kkP_g“May We Heal” on all platforms: https://distrokid.com/hyperfollow/gabbykealohaholt/may-we-heal-feat-erin-adkisson--the-sacred-sunday-song-circle-shortened-version?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAacYZvVTYHUqunXG6s_7BdugIRhONvhOLh9ktnWpxRZ5yeyETsU1O9NMp7n0eA_aem_EV94hrBXiskns6DhTwICwAGabby’s Website: https://www.gabbyholt.com/Support Gabby’s work on GoFundMe: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-gabby-kealoha-holt-bring-medicine-album-to-lifeFollow Gabby on IG: https://www.instagram.com/gabbyholt/Follow Gabby on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gabbyholtmusicSign up "Fluid Conversation", a series of guided talks and topic-based discussions: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/fluid-conversationsRob's Website: https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/Sign up for a free intro call with Rob re: individual coaching: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/25-minute-free-intro-call

**Sign up "Fluid Conversation", a series of guided talks and topic-based discussions, beginning May 27, weekly through June 25: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/fluid-conversationsWelcome back to the second half of my interview with Clark Nesselrodt! We finished up talking about his book before diving into the spiritual meditation work he facilitates, plus some talk about abundance and the reciprocity of the universe, and finally we chatted about the current political climate, how to engage with it spiritually (and when to tap out and take care of yourself), and what this period of disturbance could transform into.One of my key takeaways is that nothing is ever happening to us -- it is always happening FOR us. This shift in perspective has been so powerful for me recently, and I hope it is healing for you, as well.Stay tuned for more episodes throughout Pride month!10 minutes of bonus content with Clark (about the spirituality of AI), plus full video episodes, on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/robertbrookscohenClark's website: https://www.clarknesselrodt.com/Clark on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@keyofclarkClark on IG: https://www.instagram.com/keyofclarkClark on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@KeyofClarkRob's Website: https://www.robertbrookscohen.com/Sign up for a free intro call with Rob re: individual coaching: https://calendly.com/robertbrookscohen/25-minute-free-intro-call