Make Your Damn Bed

If you do find it to be a struggle to know what the next best choice is for your current self - channel that version of you that feels the most badass before you make a decision? If you need to create a more confident alter-ego, great! Whatever you need to do to ensure you’re making the choices that make you feel the most empowered on a regular basis. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Don’t be afraid to go after anything you want even if you’re a lil scared its not the perfect fit because who the hell cares if its a temporary gig, at the very least you’ve got a dope party story and best case scenario you get to combine all your skills into the ideal life for yourself. Open yourself up to new experiences, be brave, face the what if I hate it’s with so what if I hate it - at least I frickin’ tried. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In the book, Stumbling on Happiness, Dan Gilbert says: "Most of us do have the expectation that our lives are improving and will get better and better, but often we’re not ready to do anything to actually achieve that next level. So, we spend our days hoping for better, our evenings dreaming of better, but our time doing nothing to make anything better - which means - things probably aren’t actually improving for us. We’re just hoping and dreaming, which is fine, but if those hopes and dreams started to spill into your genuine world of expectations in any way, it can be a painful reality check to realize your fantasies are simply fantasies. Those feelings of peace, luxury, decadence, freedom, love, connection, or whatever else I am seeking through the lil imagination beach getaway of my mind, that’s what I want to create more of. I want more of the feelings, not the environments I am convinced will create those feelings.  When I realized that that’s the perk. The escapism into my head, is the perk I am looking for, and not the dream home, because the dream home downs exist. There is no such thing as the villa I created because life isn’t a fantasy.So stay optimistic AND realistic. Ask yourself what you are really seeking through your hopes and fantasies and see if you can manifest more of that, now. In your current space. Let your optimism drive you towards discovering more of it, in your life rather than allowing it to remind you of where you may be lacking it.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Save the work until you get to the work. So often, we get caught up in our heads about potential problems and our workloads that we basically double the work on our plate by basically having to go through it twice. Have you ever been driving to work and pre-writing emails, or pre-planning meetings, or predicting problems? How many times have you left a job and started planning for the next day? Or worse - deciding what you can finish when you get home? Some jobs don’t allow you to leave the work at work - but I still encourage you to schedule in adequate time to take c are of yourself so you don’t burn out. In the show abbott elementary - which I cant get enough of and think everyone should watch immediately it’s so funny and heartfelt - but in case you haven’t seen it I will butcher a beautiful moment in my retelling of an episode where the main character was trying to do everything in her power to “save the school” on her own and she kinda screws everything up in a comedy of errors and another teacher offers a beautiful monologue explaining that the more experienced teachers aren’t stepping into the line of fire because they don’t care but because they don’t want to burn out. We care so much we refuse to burn out. If we burn out who’s here for the kids?And that’s something I had to learn the hard way as a teacher. I had to learn that in order to make the difference i was so desperate to make - I had to preserve my own wellbeing first. I had to create healthy boundaries or id work myself to the bone and never be able to recover. If you take it like a staircase instead of a projectile, you’re less likely to fall straight back down to the earth.Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When being propositioned for anything, practice saying oh that sounds great can I get back to you in ____ insert appropriate time frame here. I typically tell people I will put it in your calendar and check back in closer to the date. Then immediately I will set a second calendar event for a week or a day or so prior to the event reminding me to check in about it. That way I can have time to flesh my schedule out and decide with adequate reflection if it’s something I actually do want to attend or I just felt obligated to in the heat of the moment.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today's (and tomorrow's) episode references: https://time.com/4116259/google-search-2/https://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/2019/11/02/expert-tips-for-google-search/4113013002/Duck Duck Go: Private searching browser. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Good morning sunshine!Hope today is magic for you.Today's (and tomorrow's) episode references: https://time.com/4116259/google-search-2/https://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/2019/11/02/expert-tips-for-google-search/4113013002/MEDIA BIAS CHART EXPLANATION: https://adfontesmedia.com/how-ad-fontes-ranks-news-sources/ https://www.allsides.com/media-bias/media-bias-rating-methods1. Language is important. You don’t want to write when did such and such start if you really want to know when something was founded vs. established, or published vs. written. Figure out what you REALLY, specifically are looking to find out, and choose the appropriate (but fewest possible) words to get you there. 2. Don’t lead the witness. When asking a question, google for the answer don’t ask if your answer is right - you may just find other people who agreed with you confidently enough to publish a website but not enough to figure out you’re both incorrect. 3. Use quotation marks to get results with those exact key word phrases included in the results. Choosing and putting quotes around important contextual words can help get you more useful results, more efficiently. According to USA Today article, Google’s advice is to add or remove words in your query to see different results, starting out with a broad search and narrowing it down as you go.The word order matters in your searches, so try one way then the other if you’re not getting the results you want. 4. In addition to quotation marks, you can also add - minus sign to your search to remove things you don’t want to see in the results. Like if you’re looking for a new car but don’t want a certain type, you can put -convertible so you don’t have to see convertibles show up in your results. There needs to be a space before the minus sign and then not before the word you’d like to exclude. The opposite is true for the + plus sign to ensure anything you add after MUST be included in the search results. Similar to the “quotation mark” strategy but this one is more for single keywords. 5. You can also use an asterisk * if you forget a word in a quote or a common sentence that is essential for the search. 6. I am personally a huge fan of image search. I find a lot of things I need, like resume examples, quotes, scripts, etc. are created in PDF or visual form and you don’t have to scroll through all the various webpages seeing if the information you want even exists. Just scroll through images quickly to see if it’s there. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I feel the need to remind us all that truly unbiased humans don’t exist so truly unbiased news sources can’t exist either. Buuuuuut, luckily there are some resources that don’t explicitly sell out to advertisers, politicians, agendas or whatever else people get brainwashed by or choose to sell their souls for and fortunately for us - that means there are the occasional resources that opt for good journalism and with that, we have something to work with!  By now you may have seen the media bias chart by Vanessa Otero to see how 104 news outlets rank on reliability and bias. When we’re consuming content of any kind, but especially informational or educational stuff, and especially especially the news, we should not only be very conscious of the reliability of our sources but also become more selective and choosy about WHAT we’re consuming from those sources, how we’re consuming that information, how often we’re consuming it. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

sometimes when I am really missing the beach - and I can’t make it to the lake because it’s 17 degrees outside - I put on my insight timer to beach sounds, get a lil high, put the fan on full blast and the heater on my toes and I imagine that I am on the beach while I meditate. In the summer, I go to the lake and sincerely pretend it’s Florida. And I gotta say - pretending works. Plus, when you do inside beach, you don’t have the fish smell or the seagulls so I mean - there are bright sides to everything.Ever since I did the episodes on the power of imagination I have been finding ways to lean into my best life EVEN if I have to imagine it. I set up my environment as effectively as possible and I imagine it as well as I can fulfilling my wildest fantasies in the most vivid way possible. It’s helping too - it made me realize I was under optimizing my home environment, which is making me appreciate what I already have available, a lot more. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I don’t think there is any industry that people discourage more immediately and blindly than they do of anyone pursuing a life in the arts. People are happy to tell you how hard it is - but they’ve never tried. They claim safer industries and careers and condescendingly claim to admire your passion while silently offering fearful judgements and thinly veiled disappointment in you. Being someone who has chased both a “safe” and a “risky” career - I can honestly say - art is an admirable field partially because of all the doubt we face. But it’s not as impossible as people make it out to be. Sure immediate overnight success and becoming a millionaire may be a bit out of touch as far as goals go - but making a sustainable career in the arts is not only possible - but it’s commonly done. I’m not saying it’s easy - but dammit I am so tired of people pretending it’s not something that is even possible. Art is a billion dollar industry - Creativity is all around us - we’re all consuming it all the time - almost every industry needs and pays a creative of some kind and regardless - so it’s wild to me that people are so discouraging about those of us who want to pursue something creative or out of the ordinary as a career. There are thousands of actors we don’t know the names of - who are happily making a solid career doing what they love on a smaller scale. And I’m sure they feel like they aren’t successful if the relative scale is Meryl Streep but if the regular scale is real life- people who hate their cubicle jobs and make the same amount as he does - I’d say that he was actually incredible successful. Sure, art a very difficult career trajectory for a lot of reasons - but let’s not forget a lot of “safe paths” are difficult as hell to become successful in, too. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.